Sooo late, but, if this happened at the Cape May County Zoo you are my animal spirit. The tiger ( rest in peace) was a mother-fucker.
Unfortunately no. It was Philly Zoo.
Don't tell me the pissed off tiger pissed from the 'floating walkway'? LOL. I have to run underneath it very quickly as I point and laugh has she/he pisses all over them.
To my point: Probably 15 years ago, now, our family has a shore house so we have been to this zoo a million times. My mother and I get to the tiger area. We start calling him with that ridiculous cat 'pssss,pssss.' Tiger struts his stuff with a very fine swagger. We are all like yah!! ( I hope that is the correct yeah, yah, yak ), we are waving, smiling and telling him house cute he is when the mother fucker walks up, stares us in the eyes, lifts his leg, gives us an over-the-top golden shower and very calmly walks to his area.
Don't tell me the pissed off tiger pissed from the 'floating walkway'? LOL. I have to run underneath it very quickly as I point and laugh has she/he pisses all over them.
To my point: Probably 15 years ago, now, our family has a shore house so we have been to this zoo a million times. My mother and I get to the tiger area. We start calling him with that ridiculous cat 'pssss,pssss.' Tiger struts his stuff with a very fine swagger. We are all like yah!! ( I hope that is the correct yeah, yah, yak ), we are waving, smiling and telling him house cute he is when the mother fucker walks up, stares us in the eyes, lifts his leg, gives us an over-the-top golden shower and very calmly walks to his area.
He was one smooth mother-fucker. 'm
I bet if even a little bit of that got up your nose, you would smell it for ever.
No doubt and I have memories of the smell and fucking stench, oh the stench. I mean, I have smelled cat piss to the point I had to rip out the carpet and, well, that was a very small cat. I have to give props to the tiger because they had some aim...well...and distance.
DID YOU KNOW. That if you open a frosting container....and leave it on the counter overnight....it will still taste delicious the next morning. But it will be bad. And after you eat some, you'll get the runs.
So its KINDA like a diet. The Frosting diet. Where you get to eat delicious frosting and then shit the calories out. lol
REAAAALLLLY interesting things happen if that frosting happens to be on a red velvet cake, both of which were left out for several overnights.
That shit is such artificial (delicious) crap I doubt it would really go bad. Take a look at the ingredients, pretty sure it is hydrogenated this and artificial that.
My h always says how much he hates gossip, then 10 minutes later he'll turn to me and go "sooo...is my cousin really in a cult?" Oh, so much for hating gossip. Lol.
It sucks because he won't get any gossip for me from his family, which can be a gold mine. I have to enlist his cousins and shit in my quest for knowledge.
DH and I are at a baby crossroads. I want to adopt. I feel strongly about it. We have not done IVF or anything really besides clomid, and I am not willing to. The pill makes me moody, there's just no way I am going through IVF. My mother got pregnant twice in 30 years of being married and TTC and she started trying at 25, I am 37, I ovulate sporadically, we've been actively trying for 18 months, and I just can't bring myself to even go back on clomid, so I don't see what our other options are.
DH is so on the fence about it, and I don't understand his perspective at all, I know beyond any doubt we won't have trouble bonding with an adopted child because we love our puppies like chuldren and they aren't even the same species (DONT TELL NIKA). So my first confession is that I'm probably going to pressure him into it, and I know better, but I also know HIM, and how he is with the puppies, and I know he won't regret it. And anyway, the other option is pressuring me into something I am not comfortable with, so one way or the other, one of us isn't getting what we want.
My second confession is that I now feel disgustingly like I am buying a child. Because I am pretty sure I can talk DH into adoption, but I cannot promise him thst adopting a child of another race wouldn't present obstacles that would materially affect our life,and, of course, a baby who doesn't look like us means from the very beginning everyone will know we adopted. Not being willing to take that on makes me feel gross, and then it is exacerbated because it turns out that if you're willing to pay three times as much you can have a Caucasian child whose parents are high school honors students and who have never touched drugs. With no history of mental illness. So as I checked off "no cigarettes, no meth, no history of depression, no history of diabetes," it just felt a whole like I was ordering a baby. I didn't even really want to admit that on here, but then I saw the admission by a PP thst she once set up a classmate to be gang raped, and thought "nope, this is the perfect spot to admit it."
So, I guess I'll keep you all posted. I was not going to say anything on here about it, ever, because DH wanted secrecy . . .but then he told his dad while I was at the grocery store today, so that bet is sort of off. FIL is the only one I really didn't want to tell, because believe me when I say he thinks his DNA is something blessed by God, and true to form he said something to the effect of "well, of course, my own blood,would never have to worry about money, but I can't promise the same for . . . " then he got cut off by MIL who told him not to say something he'll regret, and very appropriately said it was our decision and they'll love any grandchilen we have.
Anyway, I am not going to forge DH's signature on the form or anything, so he can still call it off, but I am ready. And sort of excited. DH said to me "just, you know,,don't come home from your next business trip with a baby."
elle good luck in this huge life event. I wouldn't judge you for any choices when it comes to children. It's such a huge life altering commitment, there's nothing wrong with knowing what you can take on and what you can't.
As far as IVF goes, obviously I don't know your reasoning behind not wanting to attempt it, but if it's for the meds, I did four cycles, five including my IUI, and I never had any negative side effects from the meds, although I never took clomid. So I think the meds for IVF are different and may not have the same bad effects you got. Could you talk to your RE about your experience with clomid, your reluctance to attempt IVF on account of the side effects, maybe the protocol they'll use for you won't be so bad.
Either way, adoption or IVF, you'll be great parents, smart loving mum and dad, with beautiful built in furry play mates.
Yes. We had an open relationship and I ended up falling in love with the other guy. Ex is happily in a new relationship and I wish him the best but the past few months have been torrid. Perhaps I'll do a AMA in the morning. Not so much as a cautionary take but as a public interest piece.
elle We were there once. I am pretty sure we started our PRIDE courses required for the adoption before MrJJ was fully on board. It's a tough spot to be. Be kind to each other. Also, don't have guilt about how you imagine your family. Adoption brings so many more choices/questions than if you were conceiving with your partner. I don't think you should feel bad for not wanting your child to "look" adopted when seen with you both. It definitely bring challenges to that person, and not all families HAVE to be comfortable being open in public.
Pressuring someone to adopt a baby sounds like a really bad decision. I've never seen that end well. Bonding with cute fuzzy animals is incredibly easy in comparison to a crying, needy baby.
elle, having a baby can be hard on a marriage, even when that baby is one that you both end up loving (and I'm sure you're right, your H will love your baby). It sounds like your H has a sense of humor about it ("don't bring a baby home from your next business trip"). That's a good sign that he's accepting of the dynamic of you pushing for it, and him catching up to you. Just be careful that he feels on board and listened to, even if unsure.
Congratulations, though, on starting the process. I think it's wonderful. Lucy is right, you are giving a home to a baby that needs one so don't feel guilty.
I might have rebound sex with this awesome guy I know. I'm judging myself for it. And then I'm not. And then more judging.
In another post you said you hated your love life. This is an opportunity for you to do something about it. You are a smart lady. This is a really fucking dumb idea. Just say no. You are hurting and think the sex will make things feel better/distract you/prove your worthiness. It won't. It will just start the cycle all over again. Please do not devalue yourself.
Sometimes I just feel like life would be easier if I didn't exist. My husband could go have the life he wants, I wouldn't have to always be the only one worrying about bills, money, our house, logical things.
I would never do anything but damn if I wish I could just give up and disappear sometimes.