Post by prettipenny on Mar 27, 2015 11:26:00 GMT -5
I'll play. My bf's xw just gave birth yesterday to a baby she had with a guy she is casually dating. She hasn't told anyone but my bf that she had the baby yet- not the dad, not her parents, etc. She want's bf to take their son to come visit at the hospital today. He's going in a few hours and I agree that he should take him, but I still feel kind of weird.
I am out of town this weekend, golfer is going to be out of town all next week for work, then its Easter, I am out of town for work the first full week of April, so the next time we can see each other is April 11th. I am really sad .
Post by jojoandleo on Mar 27, 2015 12:23:20 GMT -5
I just spouted a short version of my HS life story to counsel for a co-defendant. See, apparently we went to the same HS. BUT, I moved in the middle of high school and he graduated the year I moved here, so, we didn't know each other. Anyway, apparently his wife knows me, but I didn't remember her. So I felt the need to detail my HS life story to explain. It was awkward. I am embarrasses. My legal assistant was like, "At least you didn't tell him when you lost your virginity..." Thanks.
I'll play. My bf's xw just gave birth yesterday to a baby she had with a guy she is casually dating. She hasn't told anyone but my bf that she had the baby yet- not the dad, not her parents, etc. She want's bf to take their son to come visit at the hospital today. He's going in a few hours and I agree that he should take him, but I still feel kind of weird.
that is weird on so many levels ....
how does one hide a pg from someone they're casually seeing ?!? was it a long distance thing ?!?
I am surprised that @bk is getting so many "likes" for having a guy fly in from match that she's never met after talking to him for a month week. Just for a first date.
he's flying 700 miles for a date after talking to you for a week? Please have some mace with you or something.
And what would be the plan going forward? I've never understood starting a relationship long distance. Like, if you have a relationship and someone moves and you decide to continue it, that's one thing. But to start a relationship with a 700 mile distance? That sounds like too much work.
and to think I'm nervous about possibly going wine tasting w/ a guy who lives on the NORTHERN fringe of the wine country ....
Post by jojoandleo on Mar 27, 2015 13:44:43 GMT -5
No way in hell would I fly ANYWHERE to meet someone I had been talking to online for a week. It either seems crazy attached or just plain crazy. If some guy told me he was going to fly 700 miles to see me after talking online a WEEK, I would be all:
The guy I'm dating let me borrow his iPad because I'm at the hospital for my mom's surgery.
I just read through his text messages on the iPad :/ Not because I don't trust him 100%, but because I'm nosy as hell. He owns his own business and is in a completely different field than I'm familiar with, so it was interesting to read the interactions. I'm always asking him questions about his business so I looked at it as a way to find out the info directly Totally flammable though.
He's not staying with her or anything, right? Maybe he just has a lot of frequent flyer miles or something.
OMG no he isn't staying with me. Not sure if he's using miles, it's just a quick one hour flight. He likes the city I live in. Why not.. It's just a date, we aren't getting married.
He's not staying with her or anything, right? Maybe he just has a lot of frequent flyer miles or something.
OMG no he isn't staying with me. Not sure if he's using miles, it's just a quick one hour flight. He likes the city I live in. Why not.. It's just a date, we aren't getting married.
It's just a date. With a 700 mile commute. Yes, that is weird to me. Do you know where he is staying? Booking a last minute flight and hotel in ONE WEEK for a DATE is weird to me. If I liked the city, I would make plans to visit in a few months, not in a few DAYS.
I just couldn't imagine wanting to meet someone so bad that I spent the kind of money a last minute trip costs. It seems weirdly attached in such a short time period. PLANNING a trip in the future, not so weird if he liked the city. This? Weird.
I think few people are remembering the back story here.
Regardless - the amount of ups and downs in even recent post history makes me think this isn't a healthy stable type of date.
You're right, I don't remember. And I tried to go back and read recent posts, but all I learned was that her pubes are straight and she had the runs for 10 days (sorry Bk!). Reading post history is weird.
Due to a change in my boss's schedule earlier this week, I had about 8 hours to kill in Houston. I called up an old fuck buddy that moved there and we met for lunch and then I killed the rest of the time having amazing sex with him - in a motel room.
I think few people are remembering the back story here.
Regardless - the amount of ups and downs in even recent post history makes me think this isn't a healthy stable type of date.
You're right, I don't remember. And I tried to go back and read recent posts, but all I learned was that her pubes are straight and she had the runs for 10 days (sorry Bk!). Reading post history is weird.
lol, the runs are gone thank goodness so at least I got that going for me. I have no idea what mp is talking about backstory, but I really don't even want to know.
OMG no he isn't staying with me. Not sure if he's using miles, it's just a quick one hour flight. He likes the city I live in. Why not.. It's just a date, we aren't getting married.
It's just a date. With a 700 mile commute. Yes, that is weird to me. Do you know where he is staying? Booking a last minute flight and hotel in ONE WEEK for a DATE is weird to me. If I liked the city, I would make plans to visit in a few months, not in a few DAYS.
I just couldn't imagine wanting to meet someone so bad that I spent the kind of money a last minute trip costs. It seems weirdly attached in such a short time period. PLANNING a trip in the future, not so weird if he liked the city. This? Weird.
I can see where you are coming from, it's not a typical date for sure. He's staying in a hotel downtown, and yes he mentioned which one.
I really wish xhs mom had been in the courtroom yesterday. I wish she would've heard the Judge reprimand him. I'm sure it wouldn't have done a bit of good but I would've felt even more satisfied.
I also hope he gets depressed after the court news and goes on a huge bender this weekend. And gets arrested again.
One of my coworkers in South Africa met a guy on her last day on a safari.
They connected, exchanged contact info and then started talking for a month. After that month he bought a flight from Australia to SA so they could go on a proper date. Quite a bit longer than 700 miles!
They did the long distance thing between SA to Australia for a few years, but just moved back to the U.S. and now are happily married
I've had several friends and acquaintances with a few unconventional stories like that, so my meter for what is weird for a date is a little off.
One of my coworkers in South Africa met a guy on her last day on a safari.
They connected, exchanged contact info and then started talking for a month. After that month he bought a flight from Australia to SA so they could go on a proper date. Quite a bit longer than 700 miles!
They did the long distance thing between SA to Australia for a few years, but just moved back to the U.S. and now are happily married
I've had several friends and acquaintances with a few unconventional stories like that, so my meter for what is weird for a date is a little off.
Meeting in person before flying that far isn't weird. They knew each other before from when they met. They didn't communicate online then get off a plane and meet. Your story is more organic than that and they had a connection before distance.
One of my coworkers in South Africa met a guy on her last day on a safari.
They connected, exchanged contact info and then started talking for a month. After that month he bought a flight from Australia to SA so they could go on a proper date. Quite a bit longer than 700 miles!
They did the long distance thing between SA to Australia for a few years, but just moved back to the U.S. and now are happily married
I've had several friends and acquaintances with a few unconventional stories like that, so my meter for what is weird for a date is a little off.
Meeting in person before flying that far isn't weird. They knew each other before from when they met. They didn't communicate online then get off a plane and meet. Your story is more organic than that and they had a connection before distance.
Hmm I think it's kind of a wash between the two scenarios. Meeting someone for 1 day for a couple of hours and then spending thousands of dollars and a full day of flying isn't much different to me than not meeting someone first and flying 1 hour With the former you definitely are out a lot more money and time if things don't work out. Both are unconventional and risky, but whatever, I don't think anyone should be condemned for either scenario as long as everyone is on the same page.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Mar 27, 2015 15:05:12 GMT -5
I mean, I rarely let people know where I live so I'm weird but I just can't imagine someone flying to meet me for a first date. Especially meeting online where people can be so different from their profiles.
I mean, I rarely let people know where I live so I'm weird but I just can't imagine someone flying to meet me for a first date. Especially meeting online where people can be so different from their profiles.
This is why meeting in person FIRST is less weird to me (even if only for a day) than meeting online and him coming. People you meet online can be catfishes. Granted, meeting in person, he may still have been a serial killer, but you at least know what he actually looks like and that he is in fact a he...
I mean, I rarely let people know where I live so I'm weird but I just can't imagine someone flying to meet me for a first date. Especially meeting online where people can be so different from their profiles.
This is why meeting in person FIRST is less weird to me (even if only for a day) than meeting online and him coming. People you meet online can be catfishes. Granted, meeting in person, he may still have been a serial killer, but you at least know what he actually looks like and that he is in fact a he...
Exactly. It's very different to meet someone and have a connection than to meet online and have him fly out.
What if the date is bad?! Won't you feel bad that he flew all the way there and youre kind of stuck on it?
I'm not totally against online as I met my bf there but he lived 20 mins away so if the date sucked or he was creepy, I could have easily left and not felt anything about it. Also are you obliged to hang out all weekend since he flew there?!
Yeah I think even if you meet someone at the bar, grocery store, etc, there is still the risk that that person is a weirdo or serial killer. I think everyone should be safe and not give out personal info when first meeting regardless if it were online or drunk at the club.
I do think it's risky and unconventional to fly to meet someone but I don't think that automatically means that person has attachment issues or is a freak....which is what I thought was being implied by the mild flaming and mp's comment about a backstory. I just think some people are bigger risk takers than others and I don't think that's flammable.
This is why meeting in person FIRST is less weird to me (even if only for a day) than meeting online and him coming. People you meet online can be catfishes. Granted, meeting in person, he may still have been a serial killer, but you at least know what he actually looks like and that he is in fact a he...
Exactly. It's very different to meet someone and have a connection than to meet online and have him fly out.
What if the date is bad?! Won't you feel bad that he flew all the way there and youre kind of stuck on it?
I'm not totally against online as I met my bf there but he lived 20 mins away so if the date sucked or he was creepy, I could have easily left and not felt anything about it. Also are you obliged to hang out all weekend since he flew there?!
Those are good questions. And that's what I mean everyone is different and some people are risk takers.
I'm a risk taker. So if a guy wanted to fly out to meet me I'd just go with the flow. If it was a bad date, oh well. I wouldn't feel too terrible assuming I wasn't the one who convinced him to come.
I guess I just don't over think things like this, so I'd just make sure I was safe and long as he wasn't giving off the clinger vibes I'd be open to see what happens and wouldn't worry anymore than usual about what if the date is bad.