I think some of the "weird" responses were in response to her calling him at work. I would definitely not do that, OP. I do think that's a little over the line and would be super taken aback if someone called me while I was working to ask for my sibling's contact info (especially because I don't have a sibling lol). But you know what I mean.
I think an e-mail would be OK. And I think you should your contact info in it to pass along as well so it could go both ways.
a little weird but not crazy. I would probably send one email to the brother at work but that is it. If no response, let it go. Friends drift.
I have to say I find that someone who is not on FB, moves without sending new info and you no longer have their number (and they never contact you even here and there) is someone who probably does not want to be easily found.
I have to say I find that someone who is not on FB, moves without sending new info and you no longer have their number (and they never contact you even here and there) is someone who probably does not want to be easily found.
I don't agree. I think we're starting to tread into "making huge assumptions" land. There are people who I've lost touch with over the years and then I've moved and obviously didn't tell them. But if they were to find me and reach out- I wouldn't be upset. Yes, there are people who don't want to be easily found - I don't disagree with that. But people drift apart and lose contact and it doesn't mean anything more than that.
I moved into a new house and didn't send my address to my college roommate. It doesn't mean I'm in hiding.
This is simply not that weird. He hasn't read your facebook message. Email, don't call. Could she have called you in the last two years? Sure. But just because you fall out of touch doesn't mean you don't want to ever hear from someone again.
Wow, a lot of you people must have VERY IMPORTANT JOBS to be so zomg don't you dare call him at WORK!!
He's not a heart surgeon/teacher/judge presiding over a trial/guard at the tomb of the unknown soldier at Arlington. He's a fucking realtor. He can handle a phone call.
It's not weird at all. If an old friend emailed me looking for my brother's info I wouldn't be bothered one bit. I'd pass the message along and he could take it from there.
I lost contact with my childhood BFF for years. Neither of us is on Facebook and we just lost contact info. No one was in hiding. She called me through my Dad and I was so happy she did.
Post by schitzengiggles on Mar 31, 2015 7:56:35 GMT -5
I think slightly weird but not certainly not stalker level weird. I'd probably just email. That's not nearly as weird as a phone call on his work line, IMO.
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Yeah, it's one thing to search for him on Facebook, but if you call his work and stuff, he'll be all like "Wtf, where'd she get this number? How does she know I work here?"
Totally weird.
haven't read all the replies, but if he's a realtor he's bound to have his contact info published. it's not like he works in IT in a hole in the ground or something where you'd have to do a lot of digging to find him.
Seriously, the "stalker" comments are really throwing me off. No one on this board has ever lost touch with someone and then wanted to talk to them?
Ok, so I haven't personally, but I understand why someone would. This isn't an instance of "I went out with this guy twice in college but then he stopped calling me!! I searched for him online for HOURS and drove by his old house like 20 times. Would it be ok if I called his Mom (whose number I found because she once signed an online petition 3 years ago) to get his new cell number??"
ETA: My best friend from grade school, who I hadn't seen in nearly 10 years, looked me up online and sent a Christmas card with a picture of her children to my office address. It was super amazing and I loved it.
I'm confused by the stalker comments too. I mean she KNOWS these people
If I got an email from someone I used to know saying hey, I was trying to contact your sister about something and it looked like she wasn't on facebook? Can you pass on my info to her?
I'd contact my sister and say "hey this person called me.. she lost her phone.. here's her new details"
then, it can end if my sister is like "NOT THAT WEIRDO! DELETE". Or, "oh ya! I was wondering about her the other day..thanks"
I have a friend from high school that sometimes we go a couple years without talking. If her contact info changed but I had her brother's number (that I had also been friend with) I would not hesitate to call him.
ETA: My best friend from grade school, who I hadn't seen in nearly 10 years, looked me up online and sent a Christmas card with a picture of her children to my office address. It was super amazing and I loved it.
You've changed your identity and are leaving the country soon, right?
Yes. I mean, I moved to another city and didn't give her my address. How can she not see that means I'm terrified of her and never want to speak to her again?
Contacting him at work is a bit weird. But for some reason I think if you can find his home phone number that's less weird, especially if it's listed in the phone book.