H and I were invited to a baby shower this past Sunday. It was a co-ed baby shower, on a Sunday, NO KIDS ALLOWED.
I didn't realize kids weren't allowed at first but when I asked "are kids allowed?" and she said no. Ok then.
SO, I told her there was no way we would get babysitting on Sunday afternoon - plus we may have a baseball game so H might be out of commission and I would have DD. Can't come. She said "wellllll you could bring the kids if you really need to" and I was all..... ummmm nope. Not gonna be those people.
So on Sunday we had baseball in the morning, then we took my mom out on the boat with the kids.
A friend of H's that was at the shower texted H today that the "guy" part of the couple that the shower was thrown for was very upset that we didn't make it. That it seemed we had other priorities over coming to their co-ed, no kids allowed shower and wanted to give H a heads up for the next time we saw them. H texted his friend back that we could not find babysitting and coming was not an option. He said that "the guy noted and talked about openly the fact that my mom was on the boat with us, so why wasn't she available to babysit if she was available to go boating?"
My reaction to H telling me all of this.
WHO THE FUCK THROWS A KID FREE CO-ED BABY SHOWER ON A SUNDAY AFTERNOON? AND THEN HAS THE AUDACITY TO GET PISSED AND QUESTION MY KIDS GRANDMOTHER AS TO WHY SHE DIDN'T WANT TO GIVE UP HER SUNDAY AFTERNOON SO THAT WE COULD COME AND BRING YOU A GIFT?
H replied "None of that really matters. If I say I can't be somewhere and that we will not be attending because of a game/babysitting or any other reason, that is the end of it".
You are not. It was an invitation, not a summons. Why you couldn't go and why grandma couldn't babysit isn't anyone's business.
My mom has said no to babysit my brother's kids because she had something else/better to be doing.
It's ok if the dad to be wants to be a bit upset you weren't there, but it's super awkward that he spent what sounds like a good deal of time talking about it.
Post by pantsparty on May 22, 2015 12:03:52 GMT -5
No, he's not off base! WTF. I can't believe some people. If you didn't want to go because you decided to sit on your ass for hours, that's completely your choice. Geez!
I think it's hilarious that it was the husband taking note of who didn't come and why. My husband would hate going to a baby shower on a Sunday afternoon and would much rather be on a boat, lol.
And, those people can go fuck themselves. Are they throwing their own shower, btw? I want to know how many sins I can add to their 'etiquette does not apply to us' list.
No. I just spoke to the host and she cared not a lick that we were not there. Except she said they missed us. Of course
I think it's hilarious that it was the husband taking note of who didn't come and why.
Yes - who didn't come and what they did instead and why they didn't exhaust all opportunities to attend what he apparently thinks is the baby shower of the century. He clearly has a spreadsheet.
@lazerus24 is this guy normally an asshole, or was this out of character for him?
I think it's hilarious that it was the husband taking note of who didn't come and why. My husband would hate going to a baby shower on a Sunday afternoon and would much rather be on a boat, lol.
My lovely H replied.
"I would not even want to go to my own baby shower if someone threw it for me".