Post by shostakovich on Aug 28, 2015 7:50:05 GMT -5
Oh honey, I'm so fucking sorry.
Your point about picturing yourself in 10 years seems like it could help you focus on what's best for you - picture yourself rid of this amoeba, living life on your terms, without all of the negative baggage he laid at your feet with his deplorable behavior.
You can do this, because you deserve so much better.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Post by lovelyshoes on Aug 28, 2015 8:13:02 GMT -5
Hugs to you. Fuck him! You are wonderful and deserve so much more! It will take some time to heal, but you will be happy again and you will be strong. It will all work out because you deserve it. We are here for you.
I'm so so sorry. You should not be treated that way. I feel the same way as you. My stbxh and I have been together since we were 22 (I'm 32). I can't breathe when I realize I may never have a family =( It's so sad, but it's even sadder to think of raising children in a broken marriage. Take one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time.
Lean on your friends and family for support. If it feels right sharing, share. Hugs.
I am so sorry you are going thru this. I went thru something similar when I found out my then FI was cheating on me. It was the most horrible thing I have ever gone thru. You will find someone better, things will get better, you just have to get thru this right now. There is someone out there that will respect you and your relationship. Please take care of yourself. So many hugs.
Fuuuuucccckkkk him. What a douchcanoe. I am so sorry. You will NOT be alone forever because you are an awesome woman with so much to give to someone else. So many internet hugs!
I am so sorry. Leaving will be one of the hardest things you ever do, but believe me, a year from now you will wonder what took you so long to do it. You have so much support here, and I would guess IRL, lean on them, you are worth it.
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this! I'm praying for you to have the strength to kick him out once and for all, sometimes people change but it seems like he's proven he is not one of them. You deserve so much more!
I'm so sorry, TrickyBob. He is absolute scum. You give him a second chance, which is more than he deserves, and he betrays you again. So selfish. Such an idiot!
You are totally justified in all of your sadness and your anger. And things do get better over time. I remember being so scared that I had a plan for my life and that plan flew right out the window. I still don't have a plan for my life, but you know what... I love that! I have grown to love not having a plan. It's so freeing! Come talk to us whenever you need to. ((Hugs))
Post by captainobvious on Aug 28, 2015 9:17:43 GMT -5
Fuck. Him.
It's scary and hard, but the other side is so much better. You'll be so much happier in the long run. Plus, you've got a lot of women here that will support, encourage, listen, bury, etc. Lean on us, that's what we're here for.