MIL is afraid to drive on the highway and BIL + family live >2 hours away. That means every time something happens during the week DH has to take off work to take her there. There have been 3 so far this year and each trip costs us in the $400 range since that means DH won't be able to take vacation time to use when DS2 arrives. I just wish MIL would get over herself and drive. And I want to vent about $ but I can't to DH.
I want to buy my kid an atrocious plastic toddler bed, but all the awesome ones are boy-ish--pirate ships and race cars! Why don't they have anything cool like that for girls?
I saw one that looks like a castle! I'll try to remember where...
I am all for car seat safety, but I think laws have gone overboard. I swear that turning my kid to FF a little after 2 has really helped his speech. (He was delayed, can now look at me in the mirror, and we can talk about what we see and he can hear be better.) There's not a chance I'll RF him when we next drive through NJ, even though he's supposed to be 30 lbs before he can legally FF. I am really over it when it comes to RF. 5 pt harness? Sure, in my car it's not an issue, I'll keep him in it until he outgrows the seat. But travel? A one time trip here or there where he "can" use a booster but "should" use a 5 pt? All bets are off.
And sorry, it IS in fact more comfortable to FF than RF. Sure kids are more flexible, but give me a break. Who wants to sit in a cross legged or squat position for hours on end, day after day?
I want to buy my kid an atrocious plastic toddler bed, but all the awesome ones are boy-ish--pirate ships and race cars! Why don't they have anything cool like that for girls?
babyrn - Where did you get yours? It was fairly gender-neutral, from what I remember.
Can your MIL contribute to th costs of your DH taking her? Or can BIL come get her?
Negative - she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm sure has no idea that it costs us that much. Here is the really flameworthy part - BIL has a recently diagnosed heart issue and 2 of the 3 visits were related to him being in the hospital. So yeah, I'm an asshole. But I'm still annoyed.
Can your MIL contribute to th costs of your DH taking her? Or can BIL come get her?
Negative - she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm sure has no idea that it costs us that much. Here is the really flameworthy part - BIL has a recently diagnosed heart issue and 2 of the 3 visits were related to him being in the hospital. So yeah, I'm an asshole. But I'm still annoyed.
I think it's totally reasonable to be annoyed and your H is a good son to help his mom go to see his brother in the hospital. Maybe you can compromise and he can only take off work to take her if it's an emergency.
I want to buy my kid an atrocious plastic toddler bed, but all the awesome ones are boy-ish--pirate ships and race cars! Why don't they have anything cool like that for girls?
My dog (my husband's dog, really) is having surgery today, to the tune of $2500. He is a 10 year old, large dog, and this may or may not solve his health issues. It is a cancerous tumor, and they are unsure if it has spread, and/or if they can get it all. We have already spent $800 to diagnose.
If it were up to me, we would not be spending over $3000 on an animal, especially on a dog this size, age, and with a questionable outcome. And especially now that we are living on one income.
But, it's important to my husband, so we are doing it.
I want to buy my kid an atrocious plastic toddler bed, but all the awesome ones are boy-ish--pirate ships and race cars! Why don't they have anything cool like that for girls?
babyrn - Where did you get yours? It was fairly gender-neutral, from what I remember.
We are borrowing from my aunt, it is several years old so I don't even know if they make that one anymore and I have no idea where they got it. I think it is Graco brand though.
I swear that turning my kid to FF a little after 2 has really helped his speech. (He was delayed, can now look at me in the mirror, and we can talk about what we see and he can hear be better.)
I actually just turned DS2 around in my car yesterday. There has already been a drastic increase in his attempts to communicate with me (especially initiating) while we're in the car. He's constantly pointing out what he sees, but he never did that rear facing (which DS1 did). It was never an issue with DS1, as he never shut up...but DS2 would just sit back there quietly (or scream). As an SLP, I wouldn't use speech as a reason TO turn a child around, but it has made a difference for my child.
I am all for car seat safety, but I think laws have gone overboard. I swear that turning my kid to FF a little after 2 has really helped his speech. (He was delayed, can now look at me in the mirror, and we can talk about what we see and he can hear be better.) There's not a chance I'll RF him when we next drive through NJ, even though he's supposed to be 30 lbs before he can legally FF. I am really over it when it comes to RF. 5 pt harness? Sure, in my car it's not an issue, I'll keep him in it until he outgrows the seat. But travel? A one time trip here or there where he "can" use a booster but "should" use a 5 pt? All bets are off.
And sorry, it IS in fact more comfortable to FF than RF. Sure kids are more flexible, but give me a break. Who wants to sit in a cross legged or squat position for hours on end, day after day?
I'll sit on this bench with you. DD1 was speech delayed too, and saw HUGE gains after we turned her at 19 months. We turned DD2 much earlier (15?) because she was a MONSTER to get in. She figured out how to wedge herself between the back of the seat and her car seat and lock out her legs. I was always afraid I was going to break something on her. DD3 we turned when we took a 12 hours drive this summer to see my parents, so that she could see the DVD player. But, I've also noticed huge speech gains from her since then, as well as I can grab her hand when she's freaking out. It makes it way better all around.
And....I put my HUGE almost 4 year old on a bumble bum this summer when we were in Boston and she was driving around with my family. No more moving her car seat car to car. She's way over the height and weight limits for a booster and was awake. She knows if she moves around she'll "never" get to sit in it again. For all the things she's a holy pain in the ass about, she's great about staying in her carseat the right way.
I am all for car seat safety, but I think laws have gone overboard. I swear that turning my kid to FF a little after 2 has really helped his speech. (He was delayed, can now look at me in the mirror, and we can talk about what we see and he can hear be better.) There's not a chance I'll RF him when we next drive through NJ, even though he's supposed to be 30 lbs before he can legally FF. I am really over it when it comes to RF. 5 pt harness? Sure, in my car it's not an issue, I'll keep him in it until he outgrows the seat. But travel? A one time trip here or there where he "can" use a booster but "should" use a 5 pt? All bets are off.
And sorry, it IS in fact more comfortable to FF than RF. Sure kids are more flexible, but give me a break. Who wants to sit in a cross legged or squat position for hours on end, day after day?
DH turned J on Saturday without me knowing. We had talked about it plenty of times and he kept saying he really wanted to turn him and I just kept asking for a bit longer. J is 2 years, 2 months and tall at 37". His legs really were pretty cramped rear-facing. It's cute now that he talks a lot more to me when I am driving. "Look, mommy. Bus! Truck! Red car! Blue car!" It's like he's seeing things for the first time, lol. At first I was upset with DH, but now I'm fine.
Post by lurknomore on Sept 1, 2015 13:41:35 GMT -5
My confession: DD1 and DD2 are basically wearing the same size clothes now. I bought DD1 a bunch of super cute stuff from Boden. I bought DD2 stuff from ON and Kohls and none of it is very cute. DD2 comes home filthy every day. Many of her clothes are perma-stained from dirt and mud. If they don't have stains, they are full of holes. I've thrown away tons of stuff of hers in the last year because she's a tough kid who prefers to play with the boys. I feel guilty that her stuff isn't very cute, but I figure she doesn't know the difference (she's just 4) and I would die if I had to throw away tons of expensive clothes. Plus, I figure she can grab cute stuff from DD1's side of the closet when she wants something different!
@marshmallows you aren't a monster. She's had "medical issues" for years that she didn't seek actual help for. Maybe now that she's being treated for that she will get the other treatments she needs.
I am all for car seat safety, but I think laws have gone overboard. I swear that turning my kid to FF a little after 2 has really helped his speech. (He was delayed, can now look at me in the mirror, and we can talk about what we see and he can hear be better.) There's not a chance I'll RF him when we next drive through NJ, even though he's supposed to be 30 lbs before he can legally FF. I am really over it when it comes to RF. 5 pt harness? Sure, in my car it's not an issue, I'll keep him in it until he outgrows the seat. But travel? A one time trip here or there where he "can" use a booster but "should" use a 5 pt? All bets are off.
And sorry, it IS in fact more comfortable to FF than RF. Sure kids are more flexible, but give me a break. Who wants to sit in a cross legged or squat position for hours on end, day after day?
DH turned J on Saturday without me knowing. We had talked about it plenty of times and he kept saying he really wanted to turn him and I just kept asking for a bit longer. J is 2 years, 2 months and tall at 37". His legs really were pretty cramped rear-facing. It's cute now that he talks a lot more to me when I am driving. "Look, mommy. Bus! Truck! Red car! Blue car!" It's like he's seeing things for the first time, lol. At first I was upset with DH, but now I'm fine.
I kind of want to turn DS because it's so hard to get him in RF in my car without hitting his head but my selfish reason for not turning him is car naps.
I really don't want sex even though I'm cleared for it. I feel bad for my H, I do, but not bad enough to actually have sex with him. I'm also scared of the pain.
Not sure if this a confession, but DH and I went to Carter's the other day to use that $10 off $30 coupon. We grabbed a bunch of stuff and I took DD out to change her while he paid. When he came out we started discussing and it turned out that The total was $89 before taxes so we needed $1 more to get another $10 off. I was deciding whether or not to return it all and re-buy when he told me he paid with the Amex but never had to sign anything. He said even the cashier thought it was weird that our receipt printed immediately after swiping the card. And usually on the receipt it will say Amex or Visa but no where does it state that. But we have a receipt. I decided not to take it back and check my Amex statement. It hasn't showed up yet.
Can your MIL contribute to th costs of your DH taking her? Or can BIL come get her?
Negative - she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm sure has no idea that it costs us that much. Here is the really flameworthy part - BIL has a recently diagnosed heart issue and 2 of the 3 visits were related to him being in the hospital. So yeah, I'm an asshole. But I'm still annoyed.
Are there back roads or non highway options she could take?
I'm really annoyed by DH right now. I had my 6 week check up today and was hoping to go myself and have him watch DD (we both work at home). He for whatever reason stayed up til 4am today and has been sleeping all day, its now 2pm. He sort of woke up to watch her so I could get ready for my Appt. Sometimes he has phone calls, in which case I understand and I can take her with me. He had no calls and I still took her along.
DD is napping now but will only sleep while being held today, every time I try to transfer her she is suddenly wide awake. I asked if he can hold her and they both nap, so I can do other things. He tells me he's about to get up and do work, 2 hours ago. Still in bed. I'm stuck in bed holding DD as she's in and out of sleep. Ugh.
ETA: he stayed up unrelated to the baby, and I have also been up from 3-4, 6-7, and since 8:30. So no sympathy.
Post by humpforfree on Sept 1, 2015 14:22:16 GMT -5
I'm so freaking annoyed with my cousin. She is due a few weeks after me and keeps making comments and complaints about how big she is this time and joe much she has gained... knowing full well I've gained like twice as much as her (both this time and last time) despite me working out more, etc. Just now she sent me a picture of her in undies on her wedding day super skinny and said something about being sad & i said me too bc I've never looked like that and never will need response- well at least you didn't have as far to fall. Wtf.
My dog (my husband's dog, really) is having surgery today, to the tune of $2500. He is a 10 year old, large dog, and this may or may not solve his health issues. It is a cancerous tumor, and they are unsure if it has spread, and/or if they can get it all. We have already spent $800 to diagnose.
If it were up to me, we would not be spending over $3000 on an animal, especially on a dog this size, age, and with a questionable outcome. And especially now that we are living on one income.
But, it's important to my husband, so we are doing it.
This was us earlier this year. Right down to 10 year old large dog with cancer (prostate). We chose not to do anything because his health was great otherwise (no signs of discomfort) and they actually told us that it probably wouldn't improve his health/length of life. SO I feel you. And made the exact same confession a few months ago.
I'm finding the FF = speech theory really interesting.
We turned DD at 2y2m when she broke her leg, because of her cast. She was speech delayed and went through her first word explosion then, but we attributed it to the fact that she was watching so many movies at that point, lol.