In related news, WHY does the sausage & egg biscuit not come with cheese?! The bacon and egg biscuit? Cheese. The sausage and egg mcmuffin? Cheese. Come on, McD's!
I only need a sausage and biscuit! GTFO, egg!
Same! I always feel like the cashier is like 'wtf, why don't you want eggs?' I saw on the news that McD's is going to be switching from liquid margarine to real butter for everything too. That sausage biscuit will be even more delicious!!
My MIL doesn't drive either. Even though we only visit them or they come here a few times/year it's a royal PITA. She always offers to come here to "help", but she can't take the kids to school or pick them up, take them out anywhere, etc. But she always wants to get them out of the house to run out their energy. It's exhausting basically chauffeuring her and my kids everywhere they decide to go.
And it's the same when we visit them. She wants to take them to her beach house (2 hour drive) and the aquarium, and everywhere else. And she lives in freaking Manhattan. Everywhere she wants to take them is accessible by public transportation and she stills asks me to drive them.
Lately I've been making the kids eat outside on the patio so I don't have to sweep the kitchen for crumbs as often. It's going to suck when it gets colder out and I don't have that option anymore! Lol
Brie, with your ILs now living in town would seeing if one of them can take P to an appt if it's a day/week that's particularly horrible for you to take off work help at all? We see that quite a bit here (grandparents helping out with appts) and while it's not always the best solution sometimes it can be really helpful-we just have to have the parents fill out and sign a form saying that X person has their permission to transport Y child to and from appts and discuss their care with the specialist they're seeing.
Oh, they'd absolutely be willing and able to help, but he sees like nine different specialists. It's not like we're seeing the same PT nine different times, KWIM? Because it's our only time to see neuro/GI/rehab/whatever for the next few months, I feel like at least one of us should be there.
EI does go to his daycare half the time so that helps.
The only thing I find flameful is the bored part. When DD was in school FT and I was not working FT, there was plenty to do during the day- cooking projects, long walks, naps, catching up on my Netflix cue, books to read, grocery shopping without a kid in tow, internet message boards, closets to organize, etc etc etc.
Maybe this is flameful, but DH is a SAHD and I would be pissed if he was spending his days when DS is at school taking long walks, naps, catching up on TV, reading books, and chatting on internet message boards while I'm working to support our family.
Not flameful exactly, but I think it depends on your family/couple dynamic. If the SAHP is able to do all of the errands and chores such that all the working parent has to do is their day job, I think it's fair for the SAHP to get some down time as well. After all, if the working parent wants kid-free time, then the SAHP has to watch the kid(s) and isn't getting down time then. One thing we've noticed after seeing how differently some of our friends split kid and household duties is that for some couples, especially where both parents work full-time, "fair" is an equal split of all duties - equal chores, equal time watching the kids, etc. For other couples, "fair" is one parent working and doing chores and the other parent being on kid-duty 24/7.
The only thing I find flameful is the bored part. When DD was in school FT and I was not working FT, there was plenty to do during the day- cooking projects, long walks, naps, catching up on my Netflix cue, books to read, grocery shopping without a kid in tow, internet message boards, closets to organize, etc etc etc.
Maybe this is flameful, but DH is a SAHD and I would be pissed if he was spending his days when DS is at school taking long walks, naps, catching up on TV, reading books, and chatting on internet message boards while I'm working to support our family.
Your view of "support" is very limited, in that case. There is plenty I do and have done to "support" our family throughout our marriage, so I don't feel too bad if I happen to be underemployed here and there due to the nature of my job.
My dog (my husband's dog, really) is having surgery today, to the tune of $2500. He is a 10 year old, large dog, and this may or may not solve his health issues. It is a cancerous tumor, and they are unsure if it has spread, and/or if they can get it all. We have already spent $800 to diagnose.
If it were up to me, we would not be spending over $3000 on an animal, especially on a dog this size, age, and with a questionable outcome. And especially now that we are living on one income.
But, it's important to my husband, so we are doing it.
This was us earlier this year. Right down to 10 year old large dog with cancer (prostate). We chose not to do anything because his health was great otherwise (no signs of discomfort) and they actually told us that it probably wouldn't improve his health/length of life. SO I feel you. And made the exact same confession a few months ago.
But I hope your pup is ok
Ours has a huge, oozing tumor on his skin, so it's not really something we can just forget about.
This dog is so important to my husband, though. He goes along with all of my budget stuff and would never, ever judge my money choices, so I feel like we have to do this for him. He even offered to use all of his fun money to pay for it (which we will not do).
Here's something else strange - the dog usually goes to his parents house during the week. Long story...but the dog is terrible with kids and I'm not interested in spending every waking second making sure the dog doesn't eat my baby. My SIL's dog also lived there for the past 2 years because she couldn't have him in her apartment. Both dogs, within a year of each other, were diagnosed with the same, rare form of cancer. Weird.
I really don't want my FIL at my house after we have the baby. He annoys the shit out of me, lazing about, yawning, and complaining about being tired constantly. He also trashes my house and complains. He's a nice person but I just don't need added stress. I told my husband if he wants to stay longer than two nights he needs to go to a hotel (we'll pay). My mom thinks I am being a bitch but I don't really care.
I actually think FIL would be happy to just leave MIL here and go back to his house and pick her up a week later, so hopefully that happens.
ETA: To add to the theme MIL refuses to drive here herself even though it is only a four hour, 98% easy highway drive. That would pretty much solve all the problems.
All of our post baby visitors are staying in a hotel. I don't feel bad about it, nor do I feel like I should.
I just saw that McDonald's will start all day breakfast on October 6. I can't remember the last time I ate there, but now I'm excited.
I don't even like their breakfast that much!
That's pretty much the only thing I like.Â
In related news, WHY does the sausage & egg biscuit not come with cheese?! The bacon and egg biscuit? Cheese. The sausage and egg mcmuffin? Cheese. Come on, McD's!
I want to know if these are better than the Dunkin' Donuts breakfast sandwiches. Anyone?
In related news, WHY does the sausage & egg biscuit not come with cheese?! The bacon and egg biscuit? Cheese. The sausage and egg mcmuffin? Cheese. Come on, McD's!
I want to know if these are better than the Dunkin' Donuts breakfast sandwiches. Anyone?
But my deli favorite is bagel with chopped olive cream cheese.
Why the but? It sounds delicious. I either do egg and gouda with brown mustard or spinach artichoke cream cheese on whole wheat everything. I love bagels.
In related news, WHY does the sausage & egg biscuit not come with cheese?! The bacon and egg biscuit? Cheese. The sausage and egg mcmuffin? Cheese. Come on, McD's!
I want to know if these are better than the Dunkin' Donuts breakfast sandwiches. Anyone?
DD breakfast sandwiches are the best of the fast food options IMO. DD has an egg white with veggies option which McD's may now have. McD's does not have turkey sausage and DD does which makes a difference for me. Also DD offers those small wraps when you want a little something with egg but not an entire sandwich.
But my deli favorite is bagel with chopped olive cream cheese.
Why the but? It sounds delicious. I either do egg and gouda with brown mustard or spinach artichoke cream cheese on whole wheat everything. I love bagels.
The but is the sausage and egg part. I save the sausage and egg breakfast sandwich orders for DD.
Man, I cannot.stop.talking.about.food.on.this.board.
I'm taking a carb holiday today. As in I'm eating all the carbs. I had a giant cupcake today. My husband went back to work a month ago which is a good thing for us, but it meant my crazy commute schedule resumed and now I have no more weekday workouts so the scale is stuck. I needed something to make me feel better. I'm debating what to have for dinner. Chipotle rice bowl instead of salad? Cheesecake factory takeout? Pizza? So many options!
I turned DD at 19 months. She also started increasing her vocab soon after. Before that she barely had 5 words. Anecdote? I don't know but I'm not turning her back for the next 3 months. I have more anxiety with her rear facing now that she is in the convertible seat because I can't see her. At least with the bucket I could still see her from the side. The sides are higher in the convertible.
My MIL doesn't drive either. Even though we only visit them or they come here a few times/year it's a royal PITA. She always offers to come here to "help", but she can't take the kids to school or pick them up, take them out anywhere, etc. But she always wants to get them out of the house to run out their energy. It's exhausting basically chauffeuring her and my kids everywhere they decide to go.
And it's the same when we visit them. She wants to take them to her beach house (2 hour drive) and the aquarium, and everywhere else. And she lives in freaking Manhattan. Everywhere she wants to take them is accessible by public transportation and she stills asks me to drive them.
I was nodding along until the last part. WTH? Why do you need to take them anywhere in Manhattan in a car? No no no no no.
Why the but? It sounds delicious. I either do egg and gouda with brown mustard or spinach artichoke cream cheese on whole wheat everything. I love bagels.
The but is the sausage and egg part. I save the sausage and egg breakfast sandwich orders for DD.
Man, I cannot.stop.talking.about.food.on.this.board.
And now since MIL has decided she can't drive on highways DH has to drive her up to see BIL in the hospital on Thursday, stay until Friday night and then go back to pick her up Monday. It is a 2.5 hour trip each way and is totally screwing our weeks plans.
I don't really know how to put my foot down about this but come on. It is DS's Bday on Saturday and I'm 8+ months pregnant.
I don't really enjoy salted chocolates that much. I am more of a chocolate purist
Now THAT, my friends, is confession-worthy! Salty-sweet combos are the most amazing thing on earth- salted caramel, salted chocolate, chocolate-covered pretzels, ground-beef stuffed plantains...
I really don't want my FIL at my house after we have the baby. He annoys the shit out of me, lazing about, yawning, and complaining about being tired constantly. He also trashes my house and complains. He's a nice person but I just don't need added stress. I told my husband if he wants to stay longer than two nights he needs to go to a hotel (we'll pay). My mom thinks I am being a bitch but I don't really care.
I actually think FIL would be happy to just leave MIL here and go back to his house and pick her up a week later, so hopefully that happens.
ETA: To add to the theme MIL refuses to drive here herself even though it is only a four hour, 98% easy highway drive. That would pretty much solve all the problems.
WTF is it with MILs who refuse to drive? Seriously grow a pair.
Now THAT, my friends, is confession-worthy! Salty-sweet combos are the most amazing thing on earth- salted caramel, salted chocolate, chocolate-covered pretzels, ground-beef stuffed plantains...
Sometime when I come to NYC, you're taking me on a food tour.
Okay, but note that I still haven't found a place here that does ground-beef-stuffed plantains as perfectly as ones I've eaten in Puerto Rico.
I wish my husband got the benefits so I could go PT. They offer PT benefits but it increases the cost A LOT!
Right there with both of you!
My confession is that I recently caught myself feeling wistful about my time in the hospital following DS' birth. A few days where my only jobs are to rest and nurse/snuggle a baby and all of my meals are brought to me sounds lovely. (You know, minus the pain/interruptions/crappy newborn sleep...OK, my glasses are admittedly really rose-colored.) I'm thinking it's a sign that I'm just a little overwhelmed with life right now. I need a break.
I LOVED my time in the hospital after DS2 was born. It was like an all-inclusive vacation with a side order of snuggly baby, at least compared to if we went home where I would have had 3u3 at the time. I cherished that time with DS2 so much.
I'm side-eyeing my SIL, who is does not work, sends her two girls to daycare every day, and then posts on Facebook about how bored she is. Especially since I know they have money issues, and while they have relatively cheap daycare, the money would be far more useful in paying off debt. Not really my business, I know.
Other than the money issues, this is my dream life. I'd keep the boredom off fb though.
It's pretty sweet the job hunting part of it sucks though.
It would be nice if we could afford to live the way we like to without me working (meaning, keep shopping, send dd to daycare, travel, and not watch our spending).
Post by chickens987 on Sept 1, 2015 19:17:00 GMT -5
Perhaps my confession should be that I spent all day today on the sofa, watching the mindy project, and painting my toenails. I painted for about 10 minutes, and jumped up to clean the kitchen when I saw that H would be home in 15 minutes.
He thanked me for both the painting and the cleaning. He's a keeper.
We were late for a work dinner because a few of us decided to have our own happy hour at a different restaurant. If anybody asks, our cover is that I had to go back to the hotel and pump.
ETA: we were also late to the office this morning because I wanted to stop for Chick Fil A oatmeal and fruit.