fashionx you need to stop this H attitude now. You need to sit him down and tell him you are not the parent and he is some kind if visitor. He is not Don Draper. My h tried this for a while. Then I got to the point where I threatened divorce. He shaped up. But it isn't good to get to that point. Come to Jesus talk. Explain it rationally. Try not to yell or cry.
@envino - kids still sleep in the car seat forward facing
My kid is 47-48 lbs and is so much bigger than all the other kids her age. Heck- even the older kids. I am worried the other kids will be mean to her in school next week. They are too young for that right? Age 4. This came up because I saw these 2 older girls excluding the younger sister (1-2 yrs younger) and it was so mean.
I think male CEOs and upper-level managers with SAHM partners are a greater threat to women in the workplace than a female CEO with a 2-week maternity leave.
I think male CEOs and upper-level managers with SAHM partners are a greater threat to women in the workplace than a female CEO with a 2-week maternity leave.
Agreed. However, I also think those same CEOs and upper-level managers with SAH partners are also a threat to men in the workplace when it comes to sharing family commitments.
On a similar topic, I used to work with high-level execs, and I felt terrible for all their SAH wives for the bullshit they had to deal with. I can name at least 3 execs who regularly cheated on their wives, and didn't care because "my wife can't do anything about it. she wouldn't have anything if it wasn't for me." It was disgusting. They literally laughed at the idea of their wives leaving them over it, because they truly believed their wives simply couldn't.
Post by jeaniebueller on Sept 1, 2015 14:57:25 GMT -5
On the note of RFing, one of my friends post on FB that she turned her DD at 2, but hasn't turned her DS (he is 2.5) yet because "she knows better now." I think that making it until 2 is pretty great, so the passive aggressive shaming of others who turn at 2 is kind of ridic.
I am horrible about forgetting to get my kids to brush their teeth in the mornings. They brush them every night but we don't have a regular routine in the morning so most days it gets missed. Like I think they only brushed them once in the morning last week. I really need to work on this.
I'm finding the FF = speech theory really interesting.
We turned DD at 2y2m when she broke her leg, because of her cast. She was speech delayed and went through her first word explosion then, but we attributed it to the fact that she was watching so many movies at that point, lol.
Eh, I always thought DD was slower in language than other kids, but she had her explosion just fine, despite still being rear facing at 2.5.
I'm side-eyeing my SIL, who is does not work, sends her two girls to daycare every day, and then posts on Facebook about how bored she is. Especially since I know they have money issues, and while they have relatively cheap daycare, the money would be far more useful in paying off debt. Not really my business, I know.
The only thing I find flameful is the bored part. When DD was in school FT and I was not working FT, there was plenty to do during the day- cooking projects, long walks, naps, catching up on my Netflix cue, books to read, grocery shopping without a kid in tow, internet message boards, closets to organize, etc etc etc.
I wish H made more money so I could stay home. Or at least work PT.
I wish my husband got the benefits so I could go PT. They offer PT benefits but it increases the cost A LOT!
Right there with both of you!
My confession is that I recently caught myself feeling wistful about my time in the hospital following DS' birth. A few days where my only jobs are to rest and nurse/snuggle a baby and all of my meals are brought to me sounds lovely. (You know, minus the pain/interruptions/crappy newborn sleep...OK, my glasses are admittedly really rose-colored.) I'm thinking it's a sign that I'm just a little overwhelmed with life right now. I need a break.
Post by fortnightlily on Sept 1, 2015 15:34:00 GMT -5
DS will be 2 in a couple of weeks. We turned the carseat in my car FF last night, so when I pick him up from daycare today it will be his first time. And it's totally for *me* because I am getting really freaking sick of having 75% of pickups end up with me physically wrestling him into the carseat and then listen to him whine and cry the entire 15 minute car ride home. It frays on my nerves. As soon as we get in the car he stands on the seat facing the windshield and wants to look around. Praying FF will make him happier.
FWIW, the NJ law says a child has to be RF if they are under 2 and less than 30 lbs. If your child is 2, then they can RF or FF (even if they are under 30lbs).
I love my job, and working, but now that C is in an age where we would send him to preschool anyway, the idea of SAH with P sounds so nice. I'd be able to work on therapy with him, nap with him and catch up on the missed crappy nighttime sleep, schedule appointments whenever and not always be apologizing for leaving work early/late...sigh.
I'm pretty sure this is just a side effect of being stressed out trying to balance work and all of P's therapies and appointments.
Post by catsarecute on Sept 1, 2015 15:44:56 GMT -5
My FIL keeps complaining that he misses his granddaughter (DD) but takes no initiative to come see her. My confession is that I want to go as long as possible without offering up a get together just to see how long he can go before he is actually forced into making plans on his own. If I get another guilt ridden text from him about this, I'm going to be blunt and not polite.
Negative - she doesn't have a lot of money and I'm sure has no idea that it costs us that much. Here is the really flameworthy part - BIL has a recently diagnosed heart issue and 2 of the 3 visits were related to him being in the hospital. So yeah, I'm an asshole. But I'm still annoyed.
Are there back roads or non highway options she could take?
I'm not sure. On one hand I know that I would be happy to have that kind of relationship/dedication with my sons later on when they are adults. However, as a daughter in law I'm just annoyed.
anna7602, unfortunately not. I'm not high up enough the food chain and I'm out of FMLA. Plus, it's kind of a lifestyle thing at this point? I don't think it's ever going to calm down much--he'll always have specialist appointments and therapies.
pugz, I carry our insurance which requires me to stay full-time. H's insurance blows. Plus I owe 4 more years for student loan forgiveness.
Brie I think I would want to SAH in your shoes too. I remember all the doctor/specialist visits with DS1 being really stressful to manage and he wasn't even SN. Props to you (as usual) for managing it with grace. But also totally understand if you can make it work that SAH would be less stressful.
I'm side-eyeing my SIL, who is does not work, sends her two girls to daycare every day, and then posts on Facebook about how bored she is. Especially since I know they have money issues, and while they have relatively cheap daycare, the money would be far more useful in paying off debt. Not really my business, I know.
The only thing I find flameful is the bored part. When DD was in school FT and I was not working FT, there was plenty to do during the day- cooking projects, long walks, naps, catching up on my Netflix cue, books to read, grocery shopping without a kid in tow, internet message boards, closets to organize, etc etc etc.
Maybe this is flameful, but DH is a SAHD and I would be pissed if he was spending his days when DS is at school taking long walks, naps, catching up on TV, reading books, and chatting on internet message boards while I'm working to support our family.
I think male CEOs and upper-level managers with SAHM partners are a greater threat to women in the workplace than a female CEO with a 2-week maternity leave.
I will stand with you on this one. As long as the female CEOs are not imparting that philosophy on their culture.
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Sept 1, 2015 16:07:04 GMT -5
i have no interest in reading to my child (5months). I love to read and I did it a lot growing up.. but I will do it when she actually understands what I am saying.
I think male CEOs and upper-level managers with SAHM partners are a greater threat to women in the workplace than a female CEO with a 2-week maternity leave.
I will stand with you on this one. As long as the female CEOs are not imparting that philosophy on their culture.
Agree with you and ribollita. We complain about not having a choice in getting to have longer ML - well it is her choice to have shorter leave. She should get that choice. Also, I think being the CEO is 100% different then other employees and should entail some of the perks she will have like a nursery and full time help.
I just saw that McDonald's will start all day breakfast on October 6. I can't remember the last time I ate there, but now I'm excited.
I don't even like their breakfast that much!
That's pretty much the only thing I like.
In related news, WHY does the sausage & egg biscuit not come with cheese?! The bacon and egg biscuit? Cheese. The sausage and egg mcmuffin? Cheese. Come on, McD's!
Brie, with your ILs now living in town would seeing if one of them can take P to an appt if it's a day/week that's particularly horrible for you to take off work help at all? We see that quite a bit here (grandparents helping out with appts) and while it's not always the best solution sometimes it can be really helpful-we just have to have the parents fill out and sign a form saying that X person has their permission to transport Y child to and from appts and discuss their care with the specialist they're seeing.