There are more people that are nice to you here than people that treat you with callousness.
Many of them you respond to with unnecessary hostility.
I refuse to continue to put myself in situations where I'm called a liar and told I need to seek mental care. It's rude and it's not the kind of energy I want in my life;
Listen, that's all on you. YOU are the one who keeps putting yourself in that situation, by telling obvious lies and acting so irrationally.
So no, you don't refuse to be put in those situations. You put yourself in them. It would be much better for you if you didn't, but there's nothing any of us can do about that.
I refuse to continue to put myself in situations where I'm called a liar and told I need to seek mental care. It's rude and it's not the kind of energy I want in my life;
Listen, that's all on you. YOU are the one who keeps putting yourself in that situation, by telling obvious lies and acting so irrationally.
So no, you don't refuse to be put in those situations. You put yourself in them. It would be much better for you if you didn't, but there's nothing any of us can do about that.
Yes, I completely agree that by posting here I allow myself open to a certain level of negativity. However, it is completely unnecessary for people to attack my character, call me a liar, and suggest mental care.
And yes, I am refusing to continue to put myself in situations here.
I'm allowed to be hurt when people are constantly calling me a liar because I don't post photos of my dog, or because I didn't ask about visas, or because I lied about something 8 years ago.
If you've gotten so many positive suggestions from this board before - help with your career, defining what you want in a relationship, etc. - why assume that the suggestion of mental help is intended to insult you? You could consider that it is a valid suggestion. I've gone to a therapist and taken medications for my mental health before. It was one of the best decisions I made for my own well-being.
If you came here and said you fell and couldn't move your foot, we'd tell you to go to the hospital because your leg might be broken.
If you come here and display erratic behavior regarding your activities and finances, then we will suggest that you see a therapist because you might be having mental health struggles.
Maybe this is another suggestion that would lead to a better life for you.
But you ARE lying. If you needed a gofundme to keep your car from being repossessed, or getting it back then you can't afford to travel all over the place to run, or study, that's just a fact. And I'm sure you'll say we don't have the details, etc. Bullshit. Just be honest with yourself here. You also said you were going to work in Europe, people pointed out this is very difficult to do, and again, 'we don't know the details'. You don't HAVE any details. This is why myself, and others, are truly concerned about your mental health.
You're right. I don't have details. GBCN life is real life and nothing else matters.
So, continue to be concerned about my mental health because of what you know from a message board.
I don't even know what the right words are to describe what happens when you post on here. Drama? MUD? Pathetic? Sad? Dumb? Redundant? All of those?
-You post asking for advice on something that is lofty or far fetched or needs a lot more than what you expect it to.
-People respond telling you so but also offer advice.
-You say poster don't know all the details, and don't need them, you have it figured out.
-People ask you to share the details so they can help you succeed because things aren't adding up.
-You talk in more circles, or you get defensive and bitchy.
-People still try to find ways to help and point out obstacles but still wish you luck.
-You get more defensive about people suggesting aspects of you whatever you post that may not go the way you think it will.
-People get annoyed, laugh at you or still offer advice.
-You get super defensive, everyone is a hater trying to keep you down, or you GBCN.
Rinse and repeat.
You have mentioned a therapist before. Maybe she can suggest an IRL group of women that can help with all the things you post on here. Mentors in a way. I know they exist for women in business. Maybe look into one in SD and stay off of here?
If you've gotten so many positive suggestions from this board before - help with your career, defining what you want in a relationship, etc. - why assume that the suggestion of mental help is intended to insult you? You could consider that it is a valid suggestion. I've gone to a therapist and taken medications for my mental health before. It was one of the best decisions I made for my own well-being.
If you came here and said you fell and couldn't move your foot, we'd tell you to go to the hospital because your leg might be broken.
If you come here and display erratic behavior regarding your activities and finances, then we will suggest that you see a therapist because you might be having mental health struggles.
Maybe this is another suggestion that would lead to a better life for you.
It is insulting because it comes at the result of my withholding information. How does withholding information from people who aren't privy to it = mental help? I don't understand that. And I likely never will.
I've gone to therapy, and still go the therapy, when *I* deem necessary. Not individuals who don't know me but know the personality I protray on a message board. These individuals spewing "concern" have not attempted to befriend me in anyway, ask questions, or accept that I have resources outside of GBCN. Instead, I'm told I need to seek mental help because I didn't provide them with that they wanted to hear. And that is insulting.
What you deem as erratic behavior is incorrect because y'all see an excerpt from a chapter. Not the larger book. And I don't provide all those details because it isn't necessary to the point at hand.
I asked about travel for races and what things I should be aware of (ie weather, packet pickups, medal / no medal, etc) and it has morphed into me being a liar who needs mental help because I haven't posted about my dog, health insurance, or visa applications. Seriously? It's ridiculous.
I have a fantastic life. I'm very very very happy with my life and the direction it is going. I wish that others here could see that instead of focusing and picking at the scabs. It does no one any good.
I don't even know what the right words are to describe what happens when you post on here. Drama? MUD? Pathetic? Sad? Dumb? Redundant? All of those?
-You post asking for advice on something that is lofty or far fetched or needs a lot more than what you expect it to.
-People respond telling you so but also offer advice.
-You say poster don't know all the details, and don't need them, you have it figured out.
-People ask you to share the details so they can help you succeed because things aren't adding up.
-You talk in more circles, or you get defensive and bitchy.
-People still try to find ways to help and point out obstacles but still wish you luck.
-You get more defensive about people suggesting aspects of you whatever you post that may not go the way you think it will.
-People get annoyed, laugh at you or still offer advice.
-You get super defensive, everyone is a hater trying to keep you down, or you GBCN.
Rinse and repeat.
You have mentioned a therapist before. Maybe she can suggest an IRL group of women that can help with all the things you post on here. Mentors in a way. I know they exist for women in business. Maybe look into one in SD and stay off of here?
People always say this...but then they don't see the spreadsheet that has added new columns like 'weather", "medal or no medal", "volunteer", etc.
I get annoyed when people get off topic and ask pointless, unrelated questions.
Yes, I have an IRL group of women. As I said, I've been posting here for over a decade, it used to be a place I enjoyed. That has changed.
Bliss, whatever you are hoping to happen whether it be the board (in general) to apologize or for us to give you a second chance, it's not going to happen.
There is a reason why they say that first impressions are lasting impressions.
I truly hope that you do find your bliss, but you won't find it here. There's too much history.
I don't even know what the right words are to describe what happens when you post on here. Drama? MUD? Pathetic? Sad? Dumb? Redundant? All of those?
-You post asking for advice on something that is lofty or far fetched or needs a lot more than what you expect it to.
-People respond telling you so but also offer advice.
-You say poster don't know all the details, and don't need them, you have it figured out.
-People ask you to share the details so they can help you succeed because things aren't adding up.
-You talk in more circles, or you get defensive and bitchy.
-People still try to find ways to help and point out obstacles but still wish you luck.
-You get more defensive about people suggesting aspects of you whatever you post that may not go the way you think it will.
-People get annoyed, laugh at you or still offer advice.
-You get super defensive, everyone is a hater trying to keep you down, or you GBCN.
Rinse and repeat.
You have mentioned a therapist before. Maybe she can suggest an IRL group of women that can help with all the things you post on here. Mentors in a way. I know they exist for women in business. Maybe look into one in SD and stay off of here?
People always say this...but then they don't see the spreadsheet that has added new columns like 'weather", "medal or no medal", "volunteer", etc.
I get annoyed when people get off topic and ask pointless, unrelated questions.
Yes, I have an IRL group of women. As I said, I've been posting here for over a decade, it used to be a place I enjoyed. That has changed.
If you've gotten so many positive suggestions from this board before - help with your career, defining what you want in a relationship, etc. - why assume that the suggestion of mental help is intended to insult you? You could consider that it is a valid suggestion. I've gone to a therapist and taken medications for my mental health before. It was one of the best decisions I made for my own well-being.
If you came here and said you fell and couldn't move your foot, we'd tell you to go to the hospital because your leg might be broken.
If you come here and display erratic behavior regarding your activities and finances, then we will suggest that you see a therapist because you might be having mental health struggles.
Maybe this is another suggestion that would lead to a better life for you.
It is insulting because it comes at the result of my withholding information. How does withholding information from people who aren't privy to it = mental help? I don't understand that. And I likely never will.
I've gone to therapy, and still go the therapy, when *I* deem necessary. Not individuals who don't know me but know the personality I protray on a message board. These individuals spewing "concern" have not attempted to befriend me in anyway, ask questions, or accept that I have resources outside of GBCN. Instead, I'm told I need to seek mental help because I didn't provide them with that they wanted to hear. And that is insulting.
What you deem as erratic behavior is incorrect because y'all see an excerpt from a chapter. Not the larger book. And I don't provide all those details because it isn't necessary to the point at hand.
I asked about travel for races and what things I should be aware of (ie weather, packet pickups, medal / no medal, etc) and it has morphed into me being a liar who needs mental help because I haven't posted about my dog, health insurance, or visa applications. Seriously? It's ridiculous.
I have a fantastic life. I'm very very very happy with my life and the direction it is going. I wish that others here could see that instead of focusing and picking at the scabs. It does no one any good.
See. this right here is troll behavior. Are you aware of that? This is why no one can take you seriously. I am not interested in dealing with people who lie and "portray a personality". You've made it clear in the past that you are playing some kind of game and then get all pissed off when people call you on it. As I now clearly have my answer that you are indeed playing a game here I won't respond to any more of your posts other than to reiterate that you need help.
You're right. I don't have details. GBCN life is real life and nothing else matters.
So, continue to be concerned about my mental health because of what you know from a message board.
This is exactly what I'm talking about. You really have no self awareness of the things you say. How are you going to pay for all of this traveling when you recently had to do a gofundme? Let me guess, we don't need the details?
And this is exactly what I'm talking about. YOU don't know what you're talking about and it isn't my place to set you straight. And further more, because I refuse to set a STRANGER straight doesn't mean I lack self awareness, need meds, or am a liar. It simply means that I'm not going to provide you with the information you need because it isn't relevant to the questions at hand.
What's relevant is that I want to travel to partake in a handful of races. I'm planning out as much travel for 2016 now as possible, I'm collecting data, costs, etc and seeing what is possible and what is too lofty to achieve this year.
Bliss, whatever you are hoping to happen whether it be the board (in general) to apologize or for us to give you a second chance, it's not going to happen.
There is a reason why they say that first impressions are lasting impressions.
I truly hope that you do find your bliss, but you won't find it here. There's too much history.
I'm not asking for an apology or a 2nd chance.
I'm asking that people remember that I'm a person with feelings and calling me a liar who needs mental help because I won't share every.single.detail is rude and hateful.
OMG bliss. At the very least you are incredibly WEIRD for trying to organize travel around a hobby you hate. Why not just travel...to travel? This is an incredibly odd way of thinking, and because basically NO ONE thinks like that, the group is bullying you for pointing that out? Your incredulity over this is truly unbelievable.
People drive because they HAVE TO. They pay bills because they HAVE TO. I am not going to organize a trip to see my power company's headquarters because I hate paying my electricity bill. LOL!
Whatever, good luck on your travels and can't wait to see all those medals! <----- apparently the only acceptable response
OMG, I know. I get that, it's strange. And perhaps the strangeness is what attracts me to it. But there's so many incredible events out there that I want to try and experience it. I may travel for 2 races and decide I hate it. I might switch it up and travel for yoga retreats instead. Who knows, either way, it's something I'm itchy to try, something that my soul is telling me to attempt. If it doesn't work out, no harm no foul, if it does and I spend a year traveling for races and run half a races in new cities and score 3 medals, I'll call it a win. Point is, it doesn't have to make sense to others.
I get that NO ONE thinks that like, but that doesn't mean that I deserve to be called names. I don't deserve to be bullied because I'm thinking a different way.
If going on the internet to "portray" a personality and stir things up is ending with you in tears, you are doing trolling very, very wrong.
Oh totally. 6-8ish years ago I was in my early 20s being a drama queen and posting for entertainment. Over the last few years, I've really tried to focus on getting as much value as possible. I've not cried over this place since TIP. I was in tears because I'm frustrated that people can be so cruel and hateful all because I don't share details about when my health insurance takes affect, or post pictures of my dog, or continue to bring up the 4 minute mile.
It's just frustrating and I'm hurt. And only I can fix that and change it.
If you've gotten so many positive suggestions from this board before - help with your career, defining what you want in a relationship, etc. - why assume that the suggestion of mental help is intended to insult you? You could consider that it is a valid suggestion. I've gone to a therapist and taken medications for my mental health before. It was one of the best decisions I made for my own well-being.
If you came here and said you fell and couldn't move your foot, we'd tell you to go to the hospital because your leg might be broken.
If you come here and display erratic behavior regarding your activities and finances, then we will suggest that you see a therapist because you might be having mental health struggles.
Maybe this is another suggestion that would lead to a better life for you.
It is insulting because it comes at the result of my withholding information. How does withholding information from people who aren't privy to it = mental help? I don't understand that. And I likely never will.
I've gone to therapy, and still go the therapy, when *I* deem necessary. Not individuals who don't know me but know the personality I protray on a message board. These individuals spewing "concern" have not attempted to befriend me in anyway, ask questions, or accept that I have resources outside of GBCN. Instead, I'm told I need to seek mental help because I didn't provide them with that they wanted to hear. And that is insulting.
What you deem as erratic behavior is incorrect because y'all see an excerpt from a chapter. Not the larger book. And I don't provide all those details because it isn't necessary to the point at hand.
I asked about travel for races and what things I should be aware of (ie weather, packet pickups, medal / no medal, etc) and it has morphed into me being a liar who needs mental help because I haven't posted about my dog, health insurance, or visa applications. Seriously? It's ridiculous.
I have a fantastic life. I'm very very very happy with my life and the direction it is going. I wish that others here could see that instead of focusing and picking at the scabs. It does no one any good.
My impression is that these suggestions are not because of withheld information, but as a result of having told different stories here that don't make sense together.
I started to type a response to the rest, but it seems like it would be a circular argument where there is a justification for everything, but the most straight-forward answer is ignored. I made my attempt and I'll leave it at that.
I'm asking that people remember that I'm a person with feelings and calling me a liar who needs mental help because I won't share every.single.detail is rude and hateful.
You don't need to post every detail. Tons of people on here post about tricky situations and don't need to post every detail.
The difference is that the details you DO post directly contradict other details that you have posted. Thus, the conclusion that you're clearly lying/embellishing something.
Again, this what I mean about talking about me like I'm not here.
Here, I'll fix it for you...
ZOMBIEMUSE, LUCKYAE13, BLISSANITY, BLISSOFF, BLISS, I mean FINDYOURBLISS if YOUR car was really repo'd, it's prolly the best financial decision made for YOU. That car payment was astronomical.
If you've gotten so many positive suggestions from this board before - help with your career, defining what you want in a relationship, etc. - why assume that the suggestion of mental help is intended to insult you? You could consider that it is a valid suggestion. I've gone to a therapist and taken medications for my mental health before. It was one of the best decisions I made for my own well-being.
If you came here and said you fell and couldn't move your foot, we'd tell you to go to the hospital because your leg might be broken.
If you come here and display erratic behavior regarding your activities and finances, then we will suggest that you see a therapist because you might be having mental health struggles.
Maybe this is another suggestion that would lead to a better life for you.
Thank you! I was going to post the same thing. There's such a stigma about seeking help, when really it could be so beneficial for many.
I'm not against it. I've seen therapists multiple times since I was in high school. I was on meds for a short period last summer.
The issue is being told I need mental help because I don't share all the details with strangers.
If my friends and family were urging me to seek mental help (which has happened in the past), I'd listen. When it comes from strangers on a forum, I'm not going to listen. It has nothing to do with the stigma behind seeking help, but rather the "insult" that because I don't share something I'm a liar and basket case.
I mentioned the visa again because you were such a dick to me when I asked if you'd be working while in Europe, and you had no idea if I was going to offer help or advice.
It is insulting because it comes at the result of my withholding information. How does withholding information from people who aren't privy to it = mental help? I don't understand that. And I likely never will.
I've gone to therapy, and still go the therapy, when *I* deem necessary. Not individuals who don't know me but know the personality I protray on a message board. These individuals spewing "concern" have not attempted to befriend me in anyway, ask questions, or accept that I have resources outside of GBCN. Instead, I'm told I need to seek mental help because I didn't provide them with that they wanted to hear. And that is insulting.
What you deem as erratic behavior is incorrect because y'all see an excerpt from a chapter. Not the larger book. And I don't provide all those details because it isn't necessary to the point at hand.
I asked about travel for races and what things I should be aware of (ie weather, packet pickups, medal / no medal, etc) and it has morphed into me being a liar who needs mental help because I haven't posted about my dog, health insurance, or visa applications. Seriously? It's ridiculous.
I have a fantastic life. I'm very very very happy with my life and the direction it is going. I wish that others here could see that instead of focusing and picking at the scabs. It does no one any good.
My impression is that these suggestions are not because of withheld information, but as a result of having told different stories here that don't make sense together.
I started to type a response to the rest, but it seems like it would be a circular argument where there is a justification for everything, but the most straight-forward answer is ignored. I made my attempt and I'll leave it at that.
Different "stories" to internet strangers who pick at certain areas and expect me to respond. It's not going to happen.
My impression is that the suggestions are rude and unnecessary. You can't gauge someone's mental health by a forum.
Can I also give the unsolicited advice that I would tread VERY carefully with your spending over the next few months in light of the gofundme? If people were giving you money their hard-earned money in August to bail your car out of repo, they may not be that excited to see you frolicking on the beach in Miami the next month and chasing 5k medals or taking classes in Paris for funsies the months after that. It's one thing to burn bridges here -- quite another to burn real life bridges.
I mentioned the visa again because you were such a dick to me when I asked if you'd be working while in Europe, and you had no idea if I was going to offer help or advice.
I apologize for being a dick to you.
I appreciate you offer to help, but I've got it covered in that arena.
Can I also give the unsolicited advice that I would tread VERY carefully with your spending over the next few months in light of the gofundme? If people were giving you money their hard-earned money in August to bail your car out of repo, they may not be that excited to see you frolicking on the beach in Miami the next month and chasing 5k medals or taking classes in Paris for funsies the months after that. It's one thing to burn bridges here -- quite another to burn real life bridges.
Thank you for your unsolicited advice. I'll go with the advice that was given to me by friends and family; "do your best and people will notice."
Again, this what I mean about talking about me like I'm not here.
Here, I'll fix it for you...
ZOMBIEMUSE, LUCKYAE13, BLISSANITY, BLISSOFF, BLISS, I mean FINDYOURBLISS if YOUR car was really repo'd, it's prolly the best financial decision made for YOU. That car payment was astronomical.
Yes, in 2014 my car payment was astronomical. It is now 2015, things change.
I'm asking that people remember that I'm a person with feelings and calling me a liar who needs mental help because I won't share every.single.detail is rude and hateful.
You don't need to post every detail. Tons of people on here post about tricky situations and don't need to post every detail.
The difference is that the details you DO post directly contradict other details that you have posted. Thus, the conclusion that you're clearly lying/embellishing something.
Yes, details change and shift. Often from one year, month, or even week. Life can be such a contradiction sometimes.
Can I also give the unsolicited advice that I would tread VERY carefully with your spending over the next few months in light of the gofundme? If people were giving you money their hard-earned money in August to bail your car out of repo, they may not be that excited to see you frolicking on the beach in Miami the next month and chasing 5k medals or taking classes in Paris for funsies the months after that. It's one thing to burn bridges here -- quite another to burn real life bridges.
Thank you for your unsolicited advice. I'll go with the advice that was given to me by friends and family; "do your best and people will notice."
Screw people over and they'll notice even quicker!