How soon after #1 did you start TTC #2?

[preppy]

I have obviously lost my fucking mind with DH OOT because I am pondering #2 as I am getting my 7 week old to bed. We want 1-2 more and would prefer to have kids relatively close in age. Is it insane to start TTC before DD is one? It took us 14 months to conceive S but I'm sure if we started trying early with the next it would be faster just to mess with me.

We are moving when DD is 6 months and I'm legit thinking of wanting to try once we are settled. For the record I think DH would think I am high right now for thinking about this.

[Deleted]

I think it is insane, yes. Lol.

I could not think about it until dd1 was 2.

I am very happy with my kids' 3 year age gap.

[loskadoodle]

I was ready to try like immediately too. Then the hormones wore off. We started right after he turned one. It took like 5 months and my kids are 25m apart. I really like the age diff.

[rootbeerfloat]

DS was 2. It took us a year to conceive the first time, but we weren't ready before that. (And we were successful much quicker.)

[humpforfree]

I started to be okay with the idea of #2/get baby fever around 10-11 months. We never discussed TTC, but around that time I occasionally let it slide when we didn't use protection. I got pregnant when L was about 11 months.

[zarapipe]

I think if you guys are on the same page than go for it.

We waited till dd was 3. When dd2 was 6m she was so easy I was considering #3 a litter bit down the road. Omg now at 13m I just count down till bedtime. She is so hard!!

[cinco]

I never took birth control in between 1&2, but we weren't exactly TTC until I had my first AF post partum (@13 months). My 1st and 2nd are 22 months apart.

[Poppy]

Haven't TTC #2 yet but just wanted to say I had some baby fever around that time. TTC is now (at 11mo PP) more scary than appealing, lol. I now attribute the baby fever back then to hormones.

[boiler717]

I know my doctor prefers a year between pregnancies. Goal is to do another IVF cycle at that point assuming I've lost enough baby weight.

[dcn]

We were going to try when he was around 2.5. I ended up getting pg a few months before we had planned to try bc I had a wonky cycle. They will be three years and two months apart.

We thought we wanted them two years or closer apart and then quickly realized no. No we do not.

[betsyray]

I got pregnant when DS1 was seven months old. We weren't being super careful but we weren't TTC either. The first year was soooo hard. I find age 12 months-18 months to be the hardest and DS2 was born when my first was not quite 16 months.

Now they're two and three and things are so much easier. We've been TTC #3 for awhile but it took us awhile to make that decision after how hard the first year was with two.

[Saudade]

I wanted to deliver in May because of my school schedule. That meant either TTC when DS1 was 6 months or 18 months, or older. We did 18 months. Got pregnant first cycle.

#3 is a different story. Haven't gotten pregnant yet, cycle #3 or #4.

[booboo173]

I had the same thoughts right away. And then he stopped sleeping and nope. We did start at 13 months and it only took 3 months vs 3 years.

[pooh8402]

Like @starry, I'm thinking about it in the abstract because I've always planned on 2+, but no way in hell do I want to actually start TTC again. My RE won't see me until he's weaned anyway. We do not plan to TTC future children on our own because we have 3 frozen embryos.

That being said, I have a friend who took over a year plus clomid to conceive the first time, and she had twins. They started TTC again right after they turned a year old, and got pregnant again on their second month. That was unexpected--they told me and DH that they expected the second time to take a while too. That baby was born a month early, so they had 3u2 for a month. No thank you.

[hw77]

I am crazy for thinking about this too. I have a 7.5 month old, from what I know about babies she has been so easy, I was scared to death to be a parent and had spent almost no time with babies but had read too much and was prepared for no sleep ever etc and she has just been so easy going, happy and healthy.

Anyway I want them close together too, but am still BF and on the minipill. So I probably need to have some plan...but we just want 2 kids. I liked having her in late winter/early spring so we could get outside and I do worry about having a baby in the dead of winter in NE but know that we cant plan that much.

But having a precious child has made me realize i cant plan everything !!!

[tulips]

We intended to start TTC #2 when kiddo #1 was a year old. I got pregnant when he was 6.5 months old. (Condom misuse. Don't play just the tip. LOL)
Our kids are 14.5 months apart. This first year with our second has been a wonderful whirlwind. It's been really tough at times.

[preppy]

I'm glad to hear this could just be hormones talking and that I haven't just lost my mind.

We also had a particularly great day so that could be messing with my mind.

[mlt]

2 1/3 years. I wanted them at least three years apart.

[Velar Fricative]

I think if you want them close in age, go for it!

My second pregnancy was unplanned and I would have had the baby around DD's 2nd birthday, which was way sooner than planned but I got excited after the initial freakout. There is something to be said about getting out of the baby stage quickly (we only want two kids). The loss threw us for a loop so right now we have no idea when we will TTC, but obviously DD will be older and there will be perks to that too.

The people I know with kids close in age say it's really hard in the beginning but eventually it gets easier, as everything tends to do. And more often than not, they got pregnant much more quickly the second time around, even if they had trouble for #1.

[thejackpot]

There is a 5 yr gap between lo1 and lo2, so I guess I wasn't too interested. Lo2 and Lo3 are 22 months apart which was good because of my age but stinks because they are too close in age. I never catch my breath.

[awkwardpenguin]

TTTC definitely changed my perspective. DD is only 4.5 months and I'm likely doing an IVF cycle in early 2016. But we'll freeze all the embryos and won't transfer any until she's at least a year. I'm 35 and had some stuff come back low during fertility testing so I feel like time is not on my side.

I'll say PP hormones are intense though. DW told me at 6 weeks PP that she wanted another baby as soon as possible because DD was already so grown up. LOL forever.

[undecidedowl]

We started trying right before DS1 turned two. I had originally planned for sooner but then I learned what life with a baby/toddler was like.

[curbsideprophet]

It sure as shit was not at 7 weeks PP. I think I gave anyone who ever remotely suggested a second child evil looks at that point and for at least the first six month. More likely for the entire first year.

Before DD was born we said we would discuss it when she turned one. I was not ready to discuss it at one. I was ready to start thinking about it around 18 months.

We really discussed it right around the time she was turning two. We got pregnant the first cycle we tried so I am glad we did not start trying any earlier. I had no desire for 2u2.

[Pilsy]

I was thinking about it then, too. Then I went back to work during early onset of the 4-month wakeful and put it out of my mind.

I've been thinking about #2 again for a while now (mine is 18 months) but my H is leaning toward OAD and I have to finish PT before getting pregnant again.

[amaranth]

We tried on his 1st birthday. I got a bfp two weeks later. Lol. He took us a year to conceive so I also expected more trying and it caught me pretty off guard.

[madringal]

I have 4 years between my three girls. I needed my kids nice and far apart for my own sanity. I started trying right before my girls turned 3.

[browneyedgirl9]

Yes crazy! Lol. DS is 22 months and I still dont feel ready to TTC.

With that said, I have had friends with 2u2 and were happy with kids that close in age.

[antoniamarchette]

We were talking about it right after DS was born. We had tttc and are older so we decided to start when ds was 1. But then decided we just weren't ready and waited another 8 months.

[krystee]

I think about it sometimes. But, fortunately, my work offers a paid for mat leave every two years. If I had 2u2, it would be unpaid. So we are definitely waiting! The other reason I don't want to try sooner is that I will likely need to do IUIs again and I do NOT want to run the risk of multiples with a young baby already.

I think we'll start when he is around 2. 18 months is the very earliest we would consider it.

[bowies]

It's the hormones lol. They will fuck you right up. That urge for an immediate #2 disappeared when DS became mobile. Funny how that works.

I found the NB stage easier than the 6-12 month stage fwiw.