This is not the appropriate venue for this nonsense- you think you got unjustly flamed and want to bring it up? Fine, make your own goddamn thread and bring it up there. But don't come into a thread where a poster is seeking (and needs) support and guidance for some serious shit and use it as your soapbox to prove how mistreated you were by posters a few weeks ago. It's in incredibly poor taste. And if you've really been here since 2006 you should know that. How are you still so bad at interneting???
omfg let it go. It was spearmintleaf and it seems like it was coming at the situation from an angle of codependency. It wasn't the same as what you said and it doesn't "vindicate" you in any way. Have. A. Seat.
Now every time I post, that one post/apology situation is brought up, so don't blame me for leading with a disclaimer! Lol like a friggin signature line. You are one of the ones defining me by that one post.
Jesus Christmas. Your very first line in this thread was whining about your "unjust" flaming. YOU brought it up. YOU made this all about you. And YOU have no fucking idea what you're talking about here. BE GONE.
Post by miniroller on Mar 30, 2017 18:10:50 GMT -5
Just wanted to send you some more love, Prof. And echo others in asking that you don't hold back to keep yourself accountable to your 'next post saying that you're leaving.' We know its way easier to type out advice than to execute said advice. Please trust we're here to cheer you on, advise you further, commiserate by giving you virtual hugs & telling you what's shitty in our own lives Just please remember- You've Got This. Fake that confidence until you feel it, because it's there; we all know it; we just need you to feel it, too. It's time.
You may have been around a long time, but with 300 posts, you don't go here.
How we view people who actually interact with Prof on a regular basis is entirely different from how we view someone who has no relationship with her and zero interest in communicating beyond the occasional post.
You don't get to stroll in here with harsh opinions and expect to be treated the same way as someone who has shown much love and friendship over the years and is now sharing a little bit of tough love, especially when your message is strong on the snatch and short on the love.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Yes! This is important. YOU are getting something out of this dysfunction. What is it and why does it have a hold on you?
Because if I take care of people (my mom, my dad, sister, H) then. They'll need and like me
This was me in my early 20's. I completely understand all the what-ifs. Your manipulative husband probably dangles the possibility by showing you just enough good for you to think "what if I leave now, and he gets better, and I lose out? And so E other woman comes along and looks es a great life with him? What if he actually changes??". My then-fiancé was 28 at the time. He's now 43 and guess what? He's STILL A MESS. The only thing that's changed is the parade of 25 year old women willing to put up with it. NOTHING ELSE HAS CHANGED. I thank god every day I didn't waste my life with him.
You are to the point where you need to decide. Am I going To waste my life with this abusive prick? If so, own that and shut the fuck up about it. If not, get out, get therapy so you don't replace him with another useless asshole, and be happy. You'll look back in 15 years and wonder what the fuck you were thinking. I promise.
Just catching up, but wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you. Don't feel like you can't post when you're having issues--we have your back and just want to see you happy.
... PDQ. If you want to know anything else just ask, but if you do ask questions I'll probably answer them because to ignore them seems rude. I'm happy to do an AMA as a TBT. Enough about me, just block me already and be happier 😉 ...
OMG This is a post where op is in need of support and you respond with, "Should I do an ama? I should do an ama, shouldn't I?" Sorry not sorry to quote your PDQ but no, you do not need to do an ama.
prof, I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said. I just want to give you and your kids a big hug. They can have juice boxes but you get a double martini. I hope you and your kids find your peace soon.