If you realize that you would have made the choice to have an abortion and you think other women should have that choice, even if in 99% of cases you would not choose to have an abortion for yourself, then you are pro-choice, not pro-life.
I said "normally" pro-life....I think in certain circumstances abortion is right. The only reason I put that on my reply is because I know everyone else on here is more on the pro choice side of the spectrum and I wanted the OP to know that someone from the opposite end of the spectrum is supporting her in whatever decision she makes and what decision I would have made had I been in that situation.
And again, even if you only believe abortion is ok in 0.0000001% of cases, that is pro-choice. There’s no sometimes pro-choice, sometimes pro-life. It’s one or the other. Can’t be both.
ETA: And I’m really not trying to harp on you, but I think it’s an important distinction to make. Pro-choice is not pro-abortion. It’s the CHOICE to decide what is right in any given situation for any individual. Pro-life is no choice, ever.
I said "normally" pro-life....I think in certain circumstances abortion is right. The only reason I put that on my reply is because I know everyone else on here is more on the pro choice side of the spectrum and I wanted the OP to know that someone from the opposite end of the spectrum is supporting her in whatever decision she makes and what decision I would have made had I been in that situation.
And again, even if you only believe abortion is ok in 0.0000001% of cases, that is pro-choice. There’s no sometimes pro-choice, sometimes pro-life. It’s one or the other. Can’t be both.
ETA: And I’m really not trying to harp on you, but I think it’s an important distinction to make. Pro-choice is not pro-abortion. It’s the CHOICE to decide what is right in any given situation for any individual. Pro-life is no choice, ever.
I get what you're trying to say. My only reason on saying that I am normally pro life was to try and make the OP feel better about whatever decision she makes. It's a shitty situation to be in and I was just trying to make her feel better.
I support whatever decision you make, I know it is so hard. 5 years ago I made the decision to get divorced but I had told him like 2 weeks prior that I was pregnant. I didn’t even think to hide it. I was a few days late, took a test, and we were on a trip so he was there with me and I told him. Well a month later when I said I wanted a divorce, he wouldn’t do it. He said that would only happen if I wasn’t pregnant anymore. I wanted the baby and said he would never have to be a part of the child’s life but he wouldn’t take that offer. I got trapped for almost 3 more years, decided again to start the divorce process and was again unsuccessful because I got horribly sick out of nowhere and became disabled. It’s like the universe is making it extremely hard for me to leave this marriage because here I am, still married and now with 2.
Post by somersault72 on Sept 17, 2018 11:14:22 GMT -5
I went through this myself when exH and I got divorced (although he knew about it). It was a hard decision, but the right one. I have since remarried and had another child. You've gotten great advice here. Huge, huge hugs to you. <3
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I'll probably get flamed. But you said you have always wanted one more. This is a chance for a biological sibling for your kids. The only chance you will ever have. This could be the light in the tunnel of what you are going through right now. Also, at 15 weeks...that's pretty far along for me.
It doesn't remotely mean you have to stay with STBXH.
Biology doesn't make family you asshat. Who fucking cares if siblings are biologically related? Was my brother less my brother because we didn't share genes? Nope. Did the fact that we didn't share parent make me grieve him any less when he died? Nope. So just go sit down with this biological sibling bullshit.
((leviosa)) Your body, your choice. You do what you have to do and try to remember that any dissent is just noise. And you 1000% do not have to tell your STBXH.
You've already gotten good advice (Nicole whoever notwithstanding), but I wanted to come in and offer support for your choice and virtual hugs for being in a difficult situation.