I actually think it is responsible to talk about what items people may want from your estate and spell it out in your will. In order to do that, you have to talk to your family about what they want from your home.
I recently helped my mom/grandmother settle my great-uncle's estate. They laughed about it, but every single thing in his home was specifically willed to someone. My grandmother recently died, and her will only accounts for the big things-- home, cash. It hasn't even been a week, and I can already see that dividing up her possessions is going to be a problem. There are very few things that I would like to have (sentimental, not actually valuable), but I'm already making my peace with the fact that I'm unlikely to get them due to family politics.
There are still shelters in this country with <50% save rates for dogs, and even worse for cats. It makes me angry to hear about people buying cats in particular. So many perfect pet cats are killed in shelters, why are you so special that purchased cat's appearance or X characteristic matters more than rescue cat's life? And kittens, I've had to personally euthanize dozens of suffering kittens that ended up with us ultimately because of cat overpopulation (we do not euth for space), and had many more die despite all our best efforts. Tell me you really need to buy that cat after you've held a kitten dying of pneumonia in your hands while you're rushing to get the drugs to end its pain, or picked maggots out of a cat's eyes, or had to figure out what to do with new kittens who were covered in glue, or met the super sweet and friendly cat who was returned for peeing outside the litterbox and just needed a course of antibiotics to get back to normal. I guess they're just someone else's problem. You aren't the one having to make the hard choices and you don't care about those who do (the general "you" who buys a cat).
I'll preface by saying that all the pets I've ever had came from a shelter or off the street ( overseas) or were being re-homed by someone.
I don't understand the bolded. I know you are talking about buying animals, but it seems like you are saying people should adopt whatever is at a shelter-a kitten with pneumonia or a cat who pees outside of the box because if you really cared about animals, you would. If I want an all black cat female cat, I'm going to wait until the shelter has one to adopt. I'm not going to take home a male siamese kitten who needs insulin just because that's what is available. It doesn't mean I'm uncaring. Not everyone is able or wants to take on a cat that needs medical treatments.
The first bolded sentence is about the perfect, healthy, adoptable cats being killed in shelters - that are killed because not enough people adopt/fix their pets/support TNR/etc. And there are plenty of these in almost all areas of the U.S. There's a pretty neat tool here to see where your community stands The second bolded is about the people like me having to make euthanasia decisions and deal with the suffering of some of the animals who end up in shelters - and people buying animals make our jobs worse. I'm not saying everyone can or should adopt those specific examples - sorry if it came across that way, I'm not a very good writer . In fact one effective rescue strategy is to pull the most adoptable animals from a shelter for your own program, so the rescue & shelter can both turn over a higher volume. If more people are adopting the healthy cats, shelters & rescues can give more time and resources to the less healthy or less adoptable animals instead of having to kill them (ie the typical 90% no kill benchmark is a minimum, not the end goal).
Post by Jalapeñomel on Jul 18, 2019 20:34:05 GMT -5
My parents are scared that my SIL will go full hulk when they die, so they want to protect me. They’ve named every single thing to either me or my brother in the will, down to the tents in the garage and beer sign in the kitchen.
I actually think it is responsible to talk about what items people may want from your estate and spell it out in your will. In order to do that, you have to talk to your family about what they want from your home.
I recently helped my mom/grandmother settle my great-uncle's estate. They laughed about it, but every single thing in his home was specifically willed to someone. My grandmother recently died, and her will only accounts for the big things-- home, cash. It hasn't even been a week, and I can already see that dividing up her possessions is going to be a problem. There are very few things that I would like to have (sentimental, not actually valuable), but I'm already making my peace with the fact that I'm unlikely to get them due to family politics.
I absolutely agree. Before my grandmother passed, she asked everyone what they wanted to decrease the fighting. I think it's part of life to have a plan for your things after your own passing to ease the burden.
My parents are scared that my SIL will go full hulk when they die, so they want to protect me. They’ve named every single thing to either me or my brother in the will, down to the tents in the garage and beer sign in the kitchen.
I think this is how is should always be done. Do not leave it to your kids to figure out because you never know what will happen in the wake of that loss. i have a friend who is no longer speaking to her sister after the sister made a grab for everything of high value after their dad died. It is pretty disgusting (on the part of the sister) and just sad.
My H’s grandma had people put their names on masking tape and stuck them to whatever they wanted. Efficiency is great.
My Grandma had me do this when I was 5, I used the whole roll. Army green rotary phone, costume jewelry, scary marionette doll...
Dying at the scary marionette doll. My grandma had a pillow with a baby doll’s face sewn on the front of it. I still think about that pillow and wonder if it’s thinking about me.
My Grandma had me do this when I was 5, I used the whole roll. Army green rotary phone, costume jewelry, scary marionette doll...
Dying at the scary marionette doll. My grandma had a pillow with a baby doll’s face sewn on the front of it. I still think about that pillow and wonder if it’s thinking about me.
My yiayia has this in her house...
I don’t know why it’s naked or why it’s even a thing.
Dying at the scary marionette doll. My grandma had a pillow with a baby doll’s face sewn on the front of it. I still think about that pillow and wonder if it’s thinking about me.
My yiayia has this in her house...
I don’t know why it’s naked or why it’s even a thing.
LMAO!
My mom collects dolls, and when ever I'm visiting I surreptitiously take pictures of them and text them to my friends with captions like, "This one is definitely the most haunted."
I don’t know why it’s naked or why it’s even a thing.
LMAO!
My mom collects dolls, and when ever I'm visiting I surreptitiously take pictures of them and text them to my friends with captions like, "This one is definitely the most haunted."
I mostly just take pictures of weird stuff in her house. She also has one of those owls meant to scare other birds on top of her toilet.
Dying at the scary marionette doll. My grandma had a pillow with a baby doll’s face sewn on the front of it. I still think about that pillow and wonder if it’s thinking about me.
My yiayia has this in her house...
I don’t know why it’s naked or why it’s even a thing.
My H’s grandma had people put their names on masking tape and stuck them to whatever they wanted. Efficiency is great.
My grandmother did this. It didn't stop someone else from taking the one thing I wanted (it wasn't valuable, just sentimental to me from when I was a kid).
With my experiences this past year, I don't see why any breeders are "good" or "bad." I don't think they should exist except for true service animal situations. There are so many animals who need homes.
Oh hi! How's your dad these days?
Still bike racing in khakis...but now my daughter rides with him.
My mom collects dolls, and when ever I'm visiting I surreptitiously take pictures of them and text them to my friends with captions like, "This one is definitely the most haunted."
I mostly just take pictures of weird stuff in her house. She also has one of those owls meant to scare other birds on top of her toilet.
Among other strange things. Lol
You're reminding me of me with my mom. She was crazy compulsive about saving stuff she might need (grew up during the depression blah blah blah) and I used to take photos of stuff like her used plastic grocery bags that she folded into neat 1" cubes and tied with rubber bands which she kept sorted by color in her stationery drawer, where all the pens faced the same direction. I just got the okay from the rest of my siblings to trash her checking account ledgers from the early 1950's! The lady died in 2015. I think we're good. I def didn't get that gene because if I see a pen on the floor I'll leave it there so I know where one is when I need it!
My H’s grandma had people put their names on masking tape and stuck them to whatever they wanted. Efficiency is great.
My grandma did this too. When she passed away, they found a crystal vase with my name stuck on the bottom. I don’t remember ever seeing the vase. It’s huge. It’s also NMS at all. Yet I feel like I can’t get rid of it since she left it to me. Ugh.
God that is one of my favorite posts ever. Makes me laugh so hard every time.
I read that post to my mom after we saw a giant chicken at a store. It’s still the only thing on the internet that has ever made her laugh that hard. Lol