Post by maudefindlay on May 16, 2022 7:24:56 GMT -5
I'm chaperoning DD's field trip today. Putt Putt and pizza at the park, should be fun. Hope she is up to all the activity. Her fever broke Sat AM and she hasn't thrown up since Friday night, but is still a little puny from it all. I'm keeping a Gatorade in my purse for her.
The vent thread over on MM has tons of good points, but I just don't understand why when we do these vents we can't just all agree yes, that sucks for you and this sucks for me. Why does it always turn into jabs WM vs SAHM? There was one comment about why a SAHM would pay for FT care/summer camps/daycare etc and then suggested that they just have more money than her. I know lots of SAHM who do things other than just childcare. One friend, a former PT, volunteers 20 to 30 hours a week helping a local family whose child suffered a profound brain injury, so yes her kids will do camps while she volunteers. Another sends her son on the spectrum as that is what his therapist's recommend. That's my vent of the day. Seemed an unnecessary thing to say.
We have a vacation house where golf carts are allowed. After 10+ years of being so jealous of everyone, we finally found a beat up old one. My husband put in a back seat and new roof. We loved that thing and had a blast with it for a few seasons, and then it broke beyond repair. We are savers and ultra financially responsible. Normally. lol But we went a bought a great used golf cart this weekend. It's metallic blue, has headlights and taillights (so we can watch the sunset on the lake and be out after dark!). I have to move some stuff around, but we will have the funds when the bill comes. But putting it on a credit card felt so wild and fun. It felt good to do something like this. My husband works really hard and never wants anything for himself and I'm really happy he got something he really wants that won't just be more work for him. It has USB ports and a sound system. LOL
I can feel a cold coming on and I am not happy about it. I am going to grab some zinc and try to reduce the severity. I’ve finally realized that colds are a two-week event and I am not here for that.
DS2 has had the worst cough at night. I feel so bad for him and don’t know what else to do to help him.
DH started his new job this morning… at 6am. I am just hoping he actually woke up on time. This is going to be an adjustment for him, but hopefully a great change despite the early working hours. Edit: he was up on time and is so freaking energetic for it being 7am. This is going to be so good for him. Also, his boss didn’t realize it was 6am and said she won’t schedule anything before 7am. Lol They’re all in Israel, so it’s a big time difference.
Post by wanderingback on May 16, 2022 7:48:04 GMT -5
Truly random- There is a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in a nearby neighborhood for $195,000, which is obviously an unheard of price.
However, it’s in a income restricted building and you have to pay all cash! The income cap for a 3 person household is $48,000 and you can’t have more than $198,000 in assets. Yet you’re expected to pay all cash. I don’t get it? I wonder if you can have some gift you the $195,000, does that count?
Truly random- There is a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in a nearby neighborhood for $195,000, which is obviously an unheard of price.
However, it’s in a income restricted building and you have to pay all cash! The income cap for a 3 person household is $48,000 and you can’t have more than $198,000 in assets. Yet you’re expected to pay all cash. I don’t get it? I wonder if you can have some gift you the $195,000, does that count?
So they expect a buyer to have only $198k in assets and then pay $195k in cash?
I start my new job tomorrow! I am so excited. I will spend the day getting my office in order for tomorrow and maybe doing my nails.
We’re supposed to get some insane crazy weather later today…My neighborhood is like a freaking wind tunnel so I’m hoping for no damage/downed branches.
Truly random- There is a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in a nearby neighborhood for $195,000, which is obviously an unheard of price.
However, it’s in a income restricted building and you have to pay all cash! The income cap for a 3 person household is $48,000 and you can’t have more than $198,000 in assets. Yet you’re expected to pay all cash. I don’t get it? I wonder if you can have some gift you the $195,000, does that count?
So they expect a buyer to have only $198k in assets and then pay $195k in cash?
Post by newnamesameperson on May 16, 2022 8:05:01 GMT -5
maudefindlay, it's frustrating. I'm still salty over a poster asking me if I had a kinesiology degree when I responded to a comment. Rather than ask the poster what level/experience they had in the competitive sport I'm familiar with or whether she actually held those degrees (not that it mattered to me) I had to step back from the interaction. Now that wasn't the best approach as I could have attempted to understand her point of view further but it came off so patronizing to me I ended up asking myself why am I even trying to interact.
Also, it's easier to share these thoughts behind a keyboard with such passion when you don't know the other person nor their background. I think that element alone allows individuals to remove empathy or willingness to understand others thought processes (and even to challenge our own) in some cases. Although, I've often seen people come around on these boards so I guess it just depends.
I walked dd to the bus stop this morning- it’s maybe 1/10 of a mile from our house. Then I stood and talked to our neighbor for a bit. It is so humid out, I am dripping sweat. Ugh.
We’re supposed to get bad weather between 12 and 6. Fingers crossed it ends on time and we’re still able to get to the Orioles game tonight!
I have been lusting over a Dyson Airwrap but omg the price. I bought a Chi Spin n Curl I found on sale and played with it last night. It's neat! My hair was super dirty and sweaty and I just wanted to play around, but I think it might be good when I finally use it for real. I hope I love it like I think I will. With the current wand I have I need to straighten my hair before use or it's too frizzy but it looks like that won't be the case with this one. YAY
My H has a stomach thing and OMG please be his Celiac and not a contagious stomach bug. LOL
Our garage door won't open. It's only 7 years old. The spring broke. The quote to fix is $750. WTF?!?! According to google this is super high but I also like super do NOT have the badwidth or desire to shop around right now. Thankfully it broke when both our cars were gone which is kind of a miracle because I rarely go anywhere these days. Ha. I want my garage back. I love my garage. :::sob:::
Truly random- There is a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in a nearby neighborhood for $195,000, which is obviously an unheard of price.
However, it’s in a income restricted building and you have to pay all cash! The income cap for a 3 person household is $48,000 and you can’t have more than $198,000 in assets. Yet you’re expected to pay all cash. I don’t get it? I wonder if you can have some gift you the $195,000, does that count?
So they expect a buyer to have only $198k in assets and then pay $195k in cash?
Wait, what? This seems like it's a perfect setup for someone with parents/family with assets and then a college kid/newly entering the workforce type person. Is that their goal here for it not to be a family?
It doesn't seem conducive to a family who is making 48k w/limited assets and then having an additional $195k cash.
I'm chaperoning DD's field trip today. Putt Putt and pizza at the park, should be fun. Hope she is up to all the activity. Her fever broke Sat AM and she hasn't thrown up since Friday night, but is still a little puny from it all. I'm keeping a Gatorade in my purse for her.
The vent thread over on MM has tons of good points, but I just don't understand why when we do these vents we can't just all agree yes, that sucks for you and this sucks for me. Why does it always turn into jabs WM vs SAHM? There was one comment about why a SAHM would pay for FT care/summer camps/daycare etc and then suggested that they just have more money than her. I know lots of SAHM who do things other than just childcare. One friend, a former PT, volunteers 20 to 30 hours a week helping a local family whose child suffered a profound brain injury, so yes her kids will do camps while she volunteers. Another sends her son on the spectrum as that is what his therapist's recommend. That's my vent of the day. Seemed an unnecessary thing to say.
I think sometimes you just need to vent without taking every other person's experience under consideration. Every time I see someone talking about how hard it is and then casually mentioning there are grandparents and family members spending all summer with their kids I want to explode in a jealous rage. But I don't actually wish they had no help!
We have a vacation house where golf carts are allowed. After 10+ years of being so jealous of everyone, we finally found a beat up old one. My husband put in a back seat and new roof. We loved that thing and had a blast with it for a few seasons, and then it broke beyond repair. We are savers and ultra financially responsible. Normally. lol But we went a bought a great used golf cart this weekend. It's metallic blue, has headlights and taillights (so we can watch the sunset on the lake and be out after dark!). I have to move some stuff around, but we will have the funds when the bill comes. But putting it on a credit card felt so wild and fun. It felt good to do something like this. My husband works really hard and never wants anything for himself and I'm really happy he got something he really wants that won't just be more work for him. It has USB ports and a sound system. LOL
Aw, good for you guys. I so want a golf cart and I don't even know why.
maudefindlay, that thread was a little weird. Then again, I posted about summer camps and got the whole "CAMPS ARE OUR DAYCARE." Well, ok, but that wasn't really what I was asking, more like, if you don't need daycare, how many camps are you doing?
I guess I'm lucky that my kid will entertain herself relatively well and worse case, I'll shove her off to my parents for crafts with Mimi.
On another note - this week is the state testing and the first year for E. She is SO NERVOUS and was up so much last night. She has her tests Wed/Thurs. I feel so bad for her. She thinks if she fails she'll have to do summer school and I'm like "you won't fail, you don't have to get a perfect score, I love you, it's ok." Like, where is she getting this insane fear about this test from?
We have a vacation house where golf carts are allowed. After 10+ years of being so jealous of everyone, we finally found a beat up old one. My husband put in a back seat and new roof. We loved that thing and had a blast with it for a few seasons, and then it broke beyond repair. We are savers and ultra financially responsible. Normally. lol But we went a bought a great used golf cart this weekend. It's metallic blue, has headlights and taillights (so we can watch the sunset on the lake and be out after dark!). I have to move some stuff around, but we will have the funds when the bill comes. But putting it on a credit card felt so wild and fun. It felt good to do something like this. My husband works really hard and never wants anything for himself and I'm really happy he got something he really wants that won't just be more work for him. It has USB ports and a sound system. LOL
Aw, good for you guys. I so want a golf cart and I don't even know why.
I don't really know what it is either. There's something so casual and free about them. The back seat folds down into a shelf so we have tailgate picnics. When you're wet from swimming you don't have to get in a hot car and worry about the seats. And you feel so much closer to the wildlife. When we're riding in the cart and the baby deer are right by the road it's just amazing. It's the height of being spoiled for us!
Aw, good for you guys. I so want a golf cart and I don't even know why.
I don't really know what it is either. There's something so casual and free about them. The back seat folds down into a shelf so we have tailgate picnics. When you're wet from swimming you don't have to get in a hot car and worry about the seats. And you feel so much closer to the wildlife. When we're riding in the cart and the baby deer are right by the road it's just amazing. It's the height of being spoiled for us!
I see quite a few people being driven around, in the neighborhood, by their spouse while the passenger is drinking a cocktail or mocktail with the wind blowing in their hair...that seems like the epitome of high quality suburban mom life to me, lol.
I don't really know what it is either. There's something so casual and free about them. The back seat folds down into a shelf so we have tailgate picnics. When you're wet from swimming you don't have to get in a hot car and worry about the seats. And you feel so much closer to the wildlife. When we're riding in the cart and the baby deer are right by the road it's just amazing. It's the height of being spoiled for us!
I see quite a few people being driven around, in the neighborhood, by their spouse while the passenger is drinking a cocktail or mocktail with the wind blowing in their hair...that seems like the epitome of high quality suburban mom life to me, lol.
Ahhhhhhhhh, dreams over here.
LOL It's very telling that the front seat holds 2 people, but there are always 4 cup holders!!!!
Post by nancybotwin on May 16, 2022 8:32:01 GMT -5
DS came in my room at midnight saying he had a nightmare and needed to sleep on the recliner in my room.
One minute later DD2 came in my room and said she couldn’t sleep alone (they share a room).
So I slept in DS’s bed and was up every few hours worried about oversleeping. 🤦🏻♀️
This week is going to be rough. 2 of my direct reports are out on work-related travel, and we are managing a small COVID outbreak. And DD2 broke her elbow on Friday (falling off the monkey bars at school). We go to a specialist today. I hope she is able to do some things a bit more independently once she has the hard cast…it’s hard to dress her and wipe her butt every time she goes to the bathroom! Anyone whose kid has had a broken arm is welcome to share advice 😊
I’m not fully recovered, but I feel really good. The actual entry point (I hate the word wound, lol) is almost fully healed…It’s just a small scab now.
My back muscles get fatigued really easily, so I can’t lift or carry heavier items, but that’s also improving. I do get random pains here and there at my left shoulder blade and on my left side, but I really think it’s just that the swelling is going down finally. I drove for the first time yesterday, and that was fine as long as I keep a pillow behind me for some support.
I’m able to do light workouts on the treadmill and bike, but no lifting just yet.
For less than 3 weeks out from the shooting, I’d say I’m doing really well!
The first day back to work is always rough, but Barbados was FANTASTIC! The resort was gorgeous, and perfect weather the entire time - we had the best time and would definitely like to go back someday!
While I was away, one of the people on my team gave their notice. Mixed feelings for sure. I'm not totally upset this person is leaving - while they have a lot of knowledge and experience, they were/are a constant discipline problem (arguing with me and others, constantly pushes back when asked to do something, regularly being shitty to another colleague - both a verbal and written warning were given within that past 6 months) so part of me is happy they will be gone. My fear is I won't be able to fill the position - that's been the trend lately with my employer; that's my biggest concern. I have to keep telling myself that this will be a good thing for the long run and that this person's departure will be good for the team (from an interpersonal/interaction standpoint). I'll be glad I won't have to deal with the damage control I often had to perform as a result of this person.
We actually got back from vaca on Friday, so we had the weekend to catch up on things at home. I'm so glad we planned it that way instead of waiting to come home yesterday.
Lord yes! I told my family I was ready for work today. I have a zero interface job. I send emails to communicate. My voice needs the rest. I think I bruised my vocal cords from the concert on Friday. Then H’s party on Sat was nonstop talking. My body is still achy.
nancybotwin My kid fractured her elbow once in 1st grade and once in 4th grade. Once she had a hard cast on she could do everything on her own fine.
DD broker her elbow twice in a year. Two separate spots. Each cast went full arm length. One has more of an angle than the other. The first one she was more independent. The second her arm wasn’t in the right angle. (No pun) she couldn’t pull up her pants well. It made bathroom breaks at school interesting. She would have to go to the nurse. I think it will depend on the location of the break and how it is set to know if there will be additional help needed
Our AC is blowing hot air, so there is an HVAC guy on the way over to take a look at it. It's $99 to even walk in the door, but I hope whatever is going on otherwise is an easy fix. I am going to lose it if not. We have spent so much money on this system in the last 2 years and I'm frankly astounded that we're having yet another problem. This company has service contracts and I'm going to ask about what that means since maybe we should get one. Our entire system was supposedly replaced in 2016 (and then our compressor was replaced again last year) so this should not be happening.
We also have a handyman AND exterminator coming over on Friday. And cleaners today. I feel like a rich person having all of these workers in our house this week, lol. I wish one of them was going to do the cooking for the week while they were at it
It has been so humid here the last few days. I am not looking forward to summer. Somehow I always forget how much it sucks to be sweaty while literally just sitting around.
We finally got together with friends this weekend that we have seen twice since COVID hit. We used to see each other almost monthly and then COVID hit, we both had a newborn with an older toddler in daycare, life etc. We are finally all feeling comfortable getting everyone together. The kids had a great time and it was nice seeing everyone again.
DH has been working crazy hours and is hardly home. He has been leaving for work shortly after the kids are up in the morning and come home right before or even after the kids are down for the night. It is a long weekend here this weekend and DH is off Friday and we are going to pull DS from school so we could all do something. If the weather cooperates a trip to the local amusement park or a trip to Montreal for the weekend. Just the 4 of us. We haven't finalized any plans yet. My mom has just been assuming we would spend the entire weekend with them and was making plans for us weeks in advance, I politely told her a few times we weren't sure what our plan was and we may be out of town. I mentioned to her in passing on Saturday that we would likely be pulling DS from school on Friday and DH will be taking the off day and I got a text from her yesterday evening that she took off Friday as well. Now I feel like I do not even want to go away because they are going to expect to tag along or will be offended if we do not invite them.