My kid recently had a choking incident and they were silent. Luckily I saw their face and raced over. But even as I ran over I wasn't sure it was choking except that they didn't answer me when I asked what was wrong.
My friend (who is a doctor) was at a restaurant a year or 2 ago sitting in the back near the bathrooms. She said their table noticed a guy stumbling to the bathroom and looking ill. At first they just thought he was drunk but somehow they figured out he was choking (he wasn’t doing the choking sign.) They then started the Heimlich maneuver and then he collapsed and lost pulse so they did cpr and he recovered.
Well, Jesus! He went all the way and tried to die!
Yeah :/ Choking can definitely be/look silent.
I also had a code blue on a patient in the hospital whose family was in the room and yelled for help when he stopped responding. We didn’t know he was choking till anesthesia tried to intubate him and realized there was half a sandwich in the back of his throat.
I took a first aid course once where the instructor also worked as a paramedic. He said there were lots of cases where people are in a public space and die from choking because they get embarrassed and don't think it's that bad so they run to the washroom and lock the door.
I could see me being that person who tries to run to the bathroom out of embarrassment. I’ll try to file this story in my head so that if it ever should happen, I let someone know I’m choking.
My BIL choked on a piece of steak in a restaurant, someone did the Heimlich which was successful and then he vomited all over the table. My sister hates any kind of attention, like would die if someone brought dessert and sang happy bday in a restaurant, so the whole thing was mortifying for her. Then the restaurant wanted to comp their meal and she was like omg NO, it’s not your fault he didn’t chew properly!!
Well, Jesus! He went all the way and tried to die!
Yeah :/ Choking can definitely be/look silent.
I also had a code blue on a patient in the hospital whose family was in the room and yelled for help when he stopped responding. We didn’t know he was choking till anesthesia tried to intubate him and realized there was half a sandwich in the back of his throat.
I was once coming out of an airport bathroom stall. There was no one else there except one other lady. she turned to me and frantically signaled that she was choking. Pure panic on her face. She was still making some noises, and she ended up coughing it out THANK GOD, while I stood there staring at her and praying I wasn’t going to have to try to do the Heimlich! So she must’ve gone in the bathroom, too. I guess note to self… If choking, stay in a main public area!
I took a first aid course once where the instructor also worked as a paramedic. He said there were lots of cases where people are in a public space and die from choking because they get embarrassed and don't think it's that bad so they run to the washroom and lock the door.
This was in the last first aid course I took, that some people think they can run to the bathroom and throw it up/get it out themselves. It was more of a "hey, if you're choking making a scene" mention.
My kid recently had a choking incident and they were silent. Luckily I saw their face and raced over. But even as I ran over I wasn't sure it was choking except that they didn't answer me when I asked what was wrong.
DH learned exactly why you quarter grapes instead of just halving them when DD2 choked on a half grape around a year old. She was literally right next to him in a high chair while he was doing dishes and chatting at her, but they were both facing forward and he didn't see her struggling. It was completely silent. I walked into the room and saw her flailing silently, yanked her out of the chair and did back blows and luckily it came out immediately and I didn't have to keep going. He was like, "I didn't hear her!" Because she wasn't moving any air, dude!
I can definitely see how an adult could get disoriented and try to stagger off and people would just think that they were trying not to puke, especially if they aren't coughing first. It's a similar reaction to drowning - all of your efforts are focused on trying to save yourself, and you aren't able to think "I should ask for help".
My kid recently had a choking incident and they were silent. Luckily I saw their face and raced over. But even as I ran over I wasn't sure it was choking except that they didn't answer me when I asked what was wrong.
Oh, that's scary. Mine started pretty quiet, and like others said, I was embarrassed and thought I could clear it myself. My H was there (and several docs in the room) and I just had enough energy left to make the choking sign and stand up so he could take care of it before things started turning fuzzy. But I was gasping pretty loudly by that time - several doctor patrons were already on their feet headed over.
Holy shit choking can be silent like drowning, too?!
Also, I call bullshit on them having 2 cameras trained on the kids. That's her last ditch effort for the world not to think she's the worst mother ever.
Holy shit choking can be silent like drowning, too?!
Also, I call bullshit on them having 2 cameras trained on the kids. That's her last ditch effort for the world not to think she's the worst mother ever.
I'm with you on this. I also just am in a weird place with this story now that we know he was drinking enough to have this turn of events happen. They weren't just at dinner - they were clearly out and having a fun time. This wasn't just a pop out to grab a quick dinner.
Holy shit choking can be silent like drowning, too?!
Also, I call bullshit on them having 2 cameras trained on the kids. That's her last ditch effort for the world not to think she's the worst mother ever.
I'm with you on this. I also just am in a weird place with this story now that we know he was drinking enough to have this turn of events happen. They weren't just at dinner - they were clearly out and having a fun time. This wasn't just a pop out to grab a quick dinner.
Yeah...yikes. It just gets worse.
I had the choking talk with H and David last night because this story scared the shit out of me.
I'm with you on this. I also just am in a weird place with this story now that we know he was drinking enough to have this turn of events happen. They weren't just at dinner - they were clearly out and having a fun time. This wasn't just a pop out to grab a quick dinner.
Yeah...yikes. It just gets worse.
I had the choking talk with H and David last night because this story scared the shit out of me.
DS2 somewhat often gags on food and he’s had two true choking instances where we had to do back blows.
We will be having a conversation when I get home tomorrow about how to signal for help if he’s ever away from us. I’m super in tune to it now and will make him say something so I know whether he’s truly choking or just trying to get something down. I almost want to get him scoped to see if there’s some sort of issue with his esophagus.
Post by dancingirl21 on Feb 9, 2023 15:49:41 GMT -5
This story is beyond bizarre. Not only did they think it was okay to leave their tiny children, they were getting sloshed at the same time. What kind of common sense do you need to be missing to allow yourself this latitude with such little kids?
My story about leaving kids alone. Last summer DH was working in a different state. He was living in an apartment building on the fourth floor. The kids (9 and 6) and I went and stayed with him for a month. Our time being there had ended and while he was at work, I started packing our things and decided to load the car. The elevator was broken, so I had to go up and down 4 flights of stairs. The kids were just sitting happily playing on their iPads so I thought I could run down and up a couple of times. There was a keypad where you entered a code to the door right outside. I made my first trip in about 5 minutes, kids were still fine and hanging out. I grabbed a second load and went down and the door code wouldn’t work. I didn’t have my phone or keys. I frantically tried the code over and over. I ran around the building to another door and it didn’t work. Finally after about 15 minutes of me legit panicking, someone came out of the door and I was able to get back in. The kids had no idea I was even gone, but I was imagining the worst. I felt like the worst mom.
I am not shocked by this stupidity. My neighbor left their newborn at their house alone one night so they could go party 3 houses down.
Before covid my BFF/her H's next door neighbor friends would do that with their two kids under 3 to hang out at BFF/her H's house with them after bedtime with monitor in tow. H and I were nope forever to that. We took turns going to BFF/her H's house after our kid was asleep or we got a babysitter so we could go together.
Years ago when I was first married I would meet up with a group of women for a weekly girls night (watching reality TV). There was one girl who I didn't know very well, and at some point I found out she would leave her daughter asleep at her house and give her neighbor the baby monitor, with instructions to call her if she heard the baby wake up. It was wild. I was young and ages away from having kids of my own and I still knew that was absolutely crazy. I've never forgotten that...still terrifies me to think about.