DH keeps a list on our Amazon account that's named "Don't look in here Maude", but I do, I do look. It's gift ideas for me. I look and I try hard to telepathically send him messages to delete and not buy certain things and to keep and buy others.
You can have one account with two profiles that are completely separate. We have targeted ads turned off so we do not see what the other has been searching. This, of course, would not help him to NOT buy those special items he wants you to have
So like streaming channels, that might be a good change.
DH keeps a list on our Amazon account that's named "Don't look in here Maude", but I do, I do look. It's gift ideas for me. I look and I try hard to telepathically send him messages to delete and not buy certain things and to keep and buy others.
You can have one account with two profiles that are completely separate. We have targeted ads turned off so we do not see what the other has been searching. This, of course, would not help him to NOT buy those special items he wants you to have
My husband and I have noticed that one of us gets Facebook ads for stuff the other has searched for. Iāve picked out a few great birthday gifts for my H based on these suggestions!
lol I once dated a guy who could go for 1 HOUR, that is not including foreplay, simply PIV action. He was very proud of this and I just wanted him to fucking finish.
I never had an orgasm until I met now H. It was literally life changing for me. Weāve always had sex +/- 5 days a week and the thought of not getting it on the regular is stressing me out.
So, I have questions! For me, I had to figure it out myself before I could orgasm with a guy, have you done that? Next, how old are you? I think weāre close in age. I promise you, you will find another!!! Lastly, I hate this for you, the physically intimacy is definitely making this more difficult! It muddies the water, so to speak. Girl, no wonder he wonāt leave!!! Cut him off!
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
There is a part of me that thinks, if I had had a job several years ago, that I would have gone through with the divorce. I am not sure and it is scary to think that or say it. But I have come to realize while I am not angry at him, there is a part of me that just does not see him the same way anymore. He did the one thing he knew would be so hurtful, especially knowing the history of my mom and dad. I know we need to go back to counseling, in general, so I guess I will address it then.
All this to say, I totally understand how money, or lacking the ability to make any, influences people staying married. It is definitely one of the reasons I am finally finishing school and go after a career of my own.
I've given up dating-specifically online dating. It's time consuming, and I'd rather ride horses and bikes & spend time with my friends. Online dating is a huge time suck, and I have better things to do than swipe left or right. I'm open to dating someone I meet, but it's not a priority. I *like* living by myself.
my confession is we were in Philly and I parked in a questionable spot; half in a spot, half in a tow zone. I assumed I was fine, but my husband was really confident I would be towed. I laughed it off and we walked away to the park where we were meeting friends. Said friends told us that it is a really bad place to park and I should go move the car, so I did. What I will NEVER tell my H is that when I walked over to the car, it was literally about to be towed, they were hooking it up to the truck. They were nice and let me move my car with just a warning, but when I got back to the park, I told H it was fine, and I moved it to a closer place, so no worries. But it is a secret I will keep from him until the grave, lol.
You have clearly never watched an episode of Parking Wars in Philly. They ticket/tow everything possible. I am shocked they let you go.
I never had an orgasm until I met now H. It was literally life changing for me. Weāve always had sex +/- 5 days a week and the thought of not getting it on the regular is stressing me out.
So, I have questions! For me, I had to figure it out myself before I could orgasm with a guy, have you done that? Next, how old are you? I think weāre close in age. I promise you, you will find another!!! Lastly, I hate this for you, the physically intimacy is definitely making this more difficult! It muddies the water, so to speak. Girl, no wonder he wonāt leave!!! Cut him off!
Iām 47 and I never use to masturbate, like ever. Once I discovered how fucking amazing it felt to orgasm I started taking care of myself much more often. I still love my H. Iām not divorcing him because I donāt love him, Iām divorcing him because heās an asshole and I deserve to be happy. I think thatās why Iām having a hard time letting go of the intimacy, itās like Iām hanging on to the one piece of him that still makes me happy.
Patsy Baloney, I completely understand. I am hoping that when pot becomes officially legal here later this year I can experiment and find something that gives me the nice buzzy feeling of alcohol without the negative effects (including long term health related ones). But every time I've been high in the past it just hasn't been great. Either it's fun because I'm too high to function and that's funny, or I just want to be sober again. I am hoping it's just because I haven't done it enough/done the right type but if not I'm going to be sad.
Of course no pot is going to replace the taste of alcohol, which I also love!
Post by underwaterrhymes on Mar 24, 2023 8:53:26 GMT -5
Re: pot, I learned I cannot do the gummies because they make me too high and I feel out of control. And I donāt like the taste of the mints.
I really enjoy the Incredibles Edibles chocolate (Mile High Mint, Windy City, Black Cherry) where I have a lot more control over how much I ingest, as well as the Love and Bliss pills. (I also enjoy Midnight pills to help with sleep.)
I used to think that the whole "this strain makes you feel this way, and that strain makes you feel a different way," was bullshit, but now that I have a medical card and have access to so many different strains I'm totally a believer. Unfortunately the only way to know how something is going to make you feel is by trying it, which sucks. I also firmly believe that cannabis is not for everyone!
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 24, 2023 8:59:51 GMT -5
This is timely. I thought of a confession to start a thread the other day, but forgot of course.
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DH and I are in a weird place with sex. Part of me wants to bring up introducing toys, but we've never done that so it's weird. To be fair I've never had much luck with toys on my own, so I may talk privately to someone I know who sells toys/hosts parties for a recommendation. Along the lines of the Amazon lists, I saw a toy that I think DH wanted to, or did buy for "us" for Christmas, but never gave it to me and must have returned it. I remember him saying I could open an early gift "for me, but really for both of us", but we got distracted and it never happened. For some reason it gave me weird feelings, like should we talk about it before you bring it in to the bedroom, or should he just say "hey I bought this want to try it?" Anyway, we're desperately trying to get away for a weekend, and I hope the hotel and change of scenery can help hold us over.
Again PDQ PDQ And to be caught up with the thread, sex on pot is better for DH than me. I tend to be too numb to enjoy it. I keep falling asleep on the couch (on pot) lately too, so I might have to change (legal) strands. I don't have a lot of luck with the edibles, brownies, sodas etc. as I tend to overdo it even after waiting a long time, and have had some gnarly reactions. My 40th birthday weekend I was in bed at 9pm one night while my poor friends watched Kobra Kai.
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 24, 2023 9:02:00 GMT -5
For those who have access to legal cannabis in your state, a lot of the reps at the dispensary are really well versed (they have to be). In my state you can walk in and ask for recommendations based on what kind of high you want, your tolerance etc. I agree it's a bit of an experimentation process. The legal stuff isn't *as* potent either, so I get less of the room spins and physically standing off the ground than I did with the stuff in college. My poor parents, lol.
PDQ litskispeciality - ha, I'm kind of in the same boat in that I'd like to introduce something, but really not sure how to and don't want it to trigger H feeling inadequate which is something we're talking about in therapy (not sex related, just in general he easily feels like he's "failed")
Re: pot, I learned I cannot do the gummies because they make me too high and I feel out of control. And I donāt like the taste of the mints.
I really enjoy the Incredibles Edibles chocolate (Mile High Mint, Windy City, Black Cherry) where I have a lot more control over how much I ingest, as well as the Love and Bliss pills. (I also enjoy Midnight pills to help with sleep.)
I don't want to have to exert any effort when I'm stoned...just let me hang out and do my thing!
Post by litskispeciality on Mar 24, 2023 9:38:30 GMT -5
Hahaha JalapeƱomel, 100 as the kids say. Isn't that the point, to relax and (hopefully) melt in to the couch?
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TR, I have the same concerns. Part of our current issue is problems with finishing, and now it's making it harder to get motivated to try, or it ruins the mood because there's pressure to finish. I don't want to make him feel inadequate, but I want him to enjoy himself too. The other issue is after my surgery and getting my life back my body is like oh hey gurl let's get some, and he's not as motivated. It's so hard not to take it personally as if he doesn't want me, when it might be something nothing to do with me. I've tried sexy underwear and things, but I'm on the bigger side so it's hard to find stuff that fits in "normal" stores. Creepy post ahead - I think it was you posted about something along those lines (only better luck with finding good fits) a month or so ago. I hope that went well. You don't have to answer, it just gave me some motivation.
PDQ litskispeciality - I don't want to discourage you because I'm sure it's just my H's personality, but the Valentine's Day lingerie did not go how I wanted it to lol It didn't increase H's desire or create the sense of...urgency? I was hoping for and I felt silly, not sexy. But I will be saving any discussions on our sex life until we've had more therapy on communication about regular things.
A few weeks ago I tried edibles for the 3rd time. First 2 times I felt nothing so this time I ate a lot more. I had a terrible reaction, felt paranoid and sick and had to have a friend come babysit me. I donāt think Iāll be trying again for a long time. Iāll stick with alcohol.