Last night I tried on a favorite dress that I haven’t worn in a while, and it was too tight, which is one thing… but when I tried to pull it off I got stuck in it and had to wait for H to finish his video chat with friends so he could help me out of it. 🫣
Post by blondemoment123 on Apr 12, 2023 9:10:27 GMT -5
Oh that's the worst! I had a similar situation with a shirt the other night and my 5 year old had to help me. 🤦🏼♀️
Someones post in the randoms yesterday reminded me to get outside during the work day, so I'm out enjoying the nice weather and sunshine for a few minutes.
I'm so excited. They finally opened up a restaurant at the top of Reunion Tower (I'm in Dallas) and while I couldn't get us in for our anniversary in a few weeks, I did manage to snag a reservation a Tuesday in June at 5:15pm, lol. I'll take it! We'll get to watch the sunset, I guess.
Post by dancingirl21 on Apr 12, 2023 9:21:40 GMT -5
The weather here has been incredible this week. Mid 70's and sun, no rain in sight. We are in the Chicago suburbs, so temps this nice don't always happen this time of year. I'm ignoring the fact that it will be in the 40's and rain/snowing on Sunday. It's amazing how I feel my body waking up with this weather.
Post by starburst604 on Apr 12, 2023 9:25:56 GMT -5
PDQ. I’ll remove listing link later.
We are going to see another house tonight that just came on the market. I’m not usually a fan of raised ranches - not throwing shade, they just make me think of pretty much every home I was inside as a kid in the 80’s. But this one is nice outside with an updated kitchen. I don’t mind an open floor plan as a family of 3, if I had multiple kids I’d want more separation. It’s in a great cul de sac and has an awesome backyard. Best part is it’s well below our budget so we could go in with a nice offer. Of course it’s only .3 miles from our current home but it’s a different elementary school district. Not a dealbreaker at all, DD would be bummed but she’d do ok with the change.
starburst604, I like it! The back deck and yard are great. I used to not love raised ranches either, but they have grown on me as an adult as really functional spaces. As a teen with friends who lived in them, the downstairs always felt like a great place to hang out away from parents.
starburst604 , that house is really cute! And a huge yard! How do you feel about the pool? I always thought pools in MA were not worth it since the season is so short, but now I think they'd be awesome for the kids. Our friends bought a house with a pool that they didn't want at first, but now they love it. They just installed solar heating so that they can use it more. They have said the cost to maintain the pool is a lot though.
starburst604 raised ranches aren't my preferred style either, but that one has some great features! The kitchen is modern and has a functional layout. The deck and yard are fantastic. Good luck!
Post by wanderingback on Apr 12, 2023 9:53:01 GMT -5
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I started pumping without the bags attached. I was like what’s that wet feeling on my legs :/ I texted my friend who is a mom and breastfed/pumped and she was like nope I never did that, you must be tired. lol. Nope, not tired, the baby sleeps through the night, just a little absent minded it seems!
So at our staff meeting I had to announce to everyone that I didn’t pee myself, just had a pumping accident!
starburst604, that looks SO much like one of the floorplans in my neighborhood that was built in the late 50s/early 60s. I love the sunroom!
My supervisor has been occupied all morning so I haven't had a chance to talk to him about my potential job offer, but the fact that I'm feeling impatient to figure out how to make it work and not particularly nervous about telling him is a pretty solid sign that this is a good move for me though.
starburst604 , that house is really cute! And a huge yard! How do you feel about the pool? I always thought pools in MA were not worth it since the season is so short, but now I think they'd be awesome for the kids. Our friends bought a house with a pool that they didn't want at first, but now they love it. They just installed solar heating so that they can use it more. They have said the cost to maintain the pool is a lot though.
One of our wants is a pool - either a yard with a space to build one, or one already there. So it's a bonus for us! We both grew up with pools and while they're a pain to maintain we are ok with that. We also need yard space for our dog and the good thing when there's a pool is the yard has to be fenced, so we won't need to install that either. Fingers crossed that we like this house and can get our offer accepted!
starburst604 , that house is really cute! And a huge yard! How do you feel about the pool? I always thought pools in MA were not worth it since the season is so short, but now I think they'd be awesome for the kids. Our friends bought a house with a pool that they didn't want at first, but now they love it. They just installed solar heating so that they can use it more. They have said the cost to maintain the pool is a lot though.
One of our wants is a pool - either a yard with a space to build one, or one already there. So it's a bonus for us! We both grew up with pools and while they're a pain to maintain we are ok with that. We also need yard space for our dog and the good thing when there's a pool is the yard has to be fenced, so we won't need to install that either. Fingers crossed that we like this house and can get our offer accepted!
Post by georgeharrison on Apr 12, 2023 10:06:56 GMT -5
My kid has been gone for three days at a Skills USA competition. He competed in automotive something or rather. He thought he psyched himself out a bit when he was doing his competition and wasn't confident. He gets anxiety about tests and stuff and often will make silly errors. Anyway, he just texted me that he won! He's so excited and I'm so proud of him.
starburst604 , I like it! The back deck and yard are great. I used to not love raised ranches either, but they have grown on me as an adult as really functional spaces. As a teen with friends who lived in them, the downstairs always felt like a great place to hang out away from parents.
I like this about the house as well - we can finish the basement to our liking and it provides space away from the main level, which we are used to having with our current home. I was kind of meh about going from 2.5 bathrooms to 1.5, but in reality we never use our 2nd full bath to shower. DD likes our walk in and she showers at night, and I'm the only one who showers each morning because H's schedule isn't a traditional workday so he usually showers after me and DD leave the house. I think down the line we would update this main bath and possibly make a 2nd full bath somehow. There's plenty of room to expand this house for sure.
Another thing we like that might not appeal to everyone is the vinyl plank flooring. We redid the downstairs hardwood in our current home back in February and already there are scratches from the dog. I just don't think we are a family that can keep real hardwood looking nice!
I’m happy to report that my car is undamaged after getting stuck on a concrete block for hours yesterday!
Good thing because I’m taking a class in PA next week and need my car!
It’s only a day class but I decided to spend the night before (and after) to avoid traffic.
We are supposed to pack a lunch and bring it but I will already be nearby the day before. My hotel room is supposed to have a fridge so I guess I can bring something with me from home? I might not go directly to the hotel which gives me pause food safety-wise.
Or would it be better to get some takeout in the morning and bring that? I saw some diners and coffee shops on the map. Get something there the day I arrive and stick it in the fridge overnight? The class is in the middle of no where so leaving and picking up food isn’t an option.
I would gladly pay an extra $20 for them to just feed me there! I’d love to know what other people are doing, people fly in to go to classes here and I can’t imagine they’d have a kitchen.
starburst604 good luck! That house has so many nice qualities!
I have been in multiple situations where I was unsure of where I was going to live and it’s stressful! Right now I’m 2.5 years into actively looking since my divorce and I need to move out of my 2-bedroom rental (where I share a room with one of my kids) so badly!!!! I’m also fascinated by property taxes in other states. Wow. NY taxes are sooooo extra. Really limits the budget!
H and I are in this strange place with one another. We both acknowledge that something is missing from the marriage and that things have just not been the same since 2016. We are going to go to counseling, but honestly, I am not sure we can get back to where we were. Maybe too much happened, too much hurt, for things to work. On one hand it is relief for us to be having these honest conversations and on the other hand it is incredibly scary. While I am not sure we should be together, I also do not want to be alone for the rest of my life like my mom was.
starburst604, I think it's really nice! The kitchen is beautiful. The deck and yard would be great space.
It's interesting to me that folks call that a raised ranch - we call that style bi-level. Our last house was that style and it was nice to really have a totally separate living area that didn't feel like a basement when we wanted it. Honestly I would have loved to stay in that house for that feature when kid got older but it wasn't in a neighborhood and wasn't in the school district we wanted.
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
While I am not sure we should be together, I also do not want to be alone for the rest of my life like my mom was.
This is a false dichotomy. Why do you think those are your only two choices? A number of other options that exist including: you could find a great partner at some point in the future, you could be alone but not like your mom was - meaning, you could be alone but totally fulfilled in ways she wasn't, you could create a golden girls existence with best friends, etc. Instead of asking "what if I'm alone and end up like my mom" you instead ask "what if I find a great partner" or "what would an unpartnered future that I would be happy with look like? volunteering, active in the community, bffs, bf?"
My sister is essentially starving right now. She has a recent diagnosis of gastroparesis and hasn't been able to keep food down. She has lost over 30lbs and was thin to begin with (size small or xs). She was told 2 weeks ago that she needs a feeding tube, but no appointment for getting it put in has been made. It is so frustrating and idk what it is going to take to fix this. She still won't let any family come help her so my parents are beyond stressed and worried, so now I'm worried about them too (especially my mom who has enough health stuff herself that the extra stress isn't good for her either). My sister has an appointment tomorrow and will hopefully get some answers on next steps, but this is like the 10th time we have said this since her GI issues started in November so who knows. I haven't been that worried about her long term prognosis so far, but I am starting to wonder if she is going to just die. You can't go this long without food without your body eventually shutting down. I don't understand why her doctors aren't more urgent about a 35 year old being unable to eat or drink without vomiting for weeks on end.
She is so damn stubborn too so although I mostly feel awful for her, it is also frustrating that she won't accept any help at all. My parents would be there or she could go stay with them and she just won't. She can make her own choices but I hope they aren't to her detriment. We all feel like she needs an advocate if nothing else, but she is handling this all on her own while also working a demanding full time job.
While I am not sure we should be together, I also do not want to be alone for the rest of my life like my mom was.
This is a false dichotomy. Why do you think those are your only two choices? A number of other options that exist including: you could find a great partner at some point in the future, you could be alone but not like your mom was - meaning, you could be alone but totally fulfilled in ways she wasn't, you could create a golden girls existence with best friends, etc. Instead of asking "what if I'm alone and end up like my mom" you instead ask "what if I find a great partner" or "what would an unpartnered future that I would be happy with look like? volunteering, active in the community, bffs, bf?"
I will add "what if I spend the rest of my life married to someone I shouldn't be married to?". I honestly think that's the worst worst case scenario - it's the one with the least hope.
I’m posting this as a PSA. We have a roof rat infestation - W.T.F. I’ve never even heard of this. We had our annual termite inspection and it was discovered. We have our bug guy out 4x/year to spray, and yearly termite inspections. They are with the same company. The termite guy basically said the bug guy should have caught it sooner, in a non direct way.
This is a 14k fix!!! We occasionally heard pattering in the attic, but nothing that made me think OMG. I just thought it was a squirrel! Anyway, if you ever hear anything please call someone immediately.
I am so pissed that we have to spend that much to fix this, but also know that I’m lucky we can afford it. It’s one thing to buy a new a/c, roof, plumbing issues, etc. But this feels like some bullshit! Lol
Ok douche, go ahead and call it mud. My husband DID have halitosis. We addressed it after I talked to you girls on here and guess what? Years later, no problem. Mofongo, you're a cunt. Eat shit. ~anonnamus
wanderingback I did that once at work and was wearing jeans. I didn't notice until the milk had soaked completely through the denim and I felt it on my leg.
I also once pumped on an airplane and while trying to lean over to grab something out of my bag, dumped the entire bottle of milk all over my leg. I wrapped a sweatshirt around my waist and hoped nobody thought I peed when we deplaned...
I’m not you and I’m not in your relationship, so I definitely can’t tell you what to do or think.
But please know that those aren’t your only two options. First of all, you can never meet someone maybe you are supposed to be with if you stay in a marriage you’re not totally comfortable in.
Secondly, being alone is totally different than being lonely. There’s so many ways to live a fulfilling life without a life long partner.
While I am not sure we should be together, I also do not want to be alone for the rest of my life like my mom was.
This is a false dichotomy. Why do you think those are your only two choices? A number of other options that exist including: you could find a great partner at some point in the future, you could be alone but not like your mom was - meaning, you could be alone but totally fulfilled in ways she wasn't, you could create a golden girls existence with best friends, etc. Instead of asking "what if I'm alone and end up like my mom" you instead ask "what if I find a great partner" or "what would an unpartnered future that I would be happy with look like? volunteering, active in the community, bffs, bf?"
I think what gets in my head is my life and that of my mom's has a lot of parallels to it. A lot. And if we were to split, I would love to find a new partner in whatever form that (married, bf/gf or just being together) is, I think it is just a fear of mine. Like it is too late. I am not saying it is rational, just what I feel. And my mom had a lot of great friends, but I know, especially once she was older, she wished she had a companion in her life.
i have a lot of work to do on myself. I have not said anything to my friends IRL. I am not sure why other than after the whole affair thing, I just don't trust people like I used to or feel that I can confide in the same way. I guess I am more careful.
This is a false dichotomy. Why do you think those are your only two choices? A number of other options that exist including: you could find a great partner at some point in the future, you could be alone but not like your mom was - meaning, you could be alone but totally fulfilled in ways she wasn't, you could create a golden girls existence with best friends, etc. Instead of asking "what if I'm alone and end up like my mom" you instead ask "what if I find a great partner" or "what would an unpartnered future that I would be happy with look like? volunteering, active in the community, bffs, bf?"
I will add "what if I spend the rest of my life married to someone I shouldn't be married to?". I honestly think that's the worst worst case scenario - it's the one with the least hope.
Oh no, I am definitely already feeling this and that is why this time the talks leave me more calm than panicked. Like I know that deep down, even if this is not how i thought things would be, I know it is right. And that is hard to say because it makes it real.