Our cleaners come today. Thank god! I have a shit ton of packing and organizing to do, but I've been waiting because I didn't want to have to move my piles when the cleaners come so I waited to start. I leave for a 1 week vacation followed by 1 week of taking DS to an out of state sleepaway camp this weekend so I really need to get going.
We have a tree in our front yard that's kind of a focal point. It has a little retaining wall built around it and everything. We had a tree guy out yesterday to look at another tree that is falling down and he's like "Uhh--that tree in the front is dead". My H called me and I was like "no it's not". Sure enough I got home from work and actually looked up and...yes it is. I wonder how long it has looked that bad? And how did I not notice?
Anyway--our yard is going to look WEIRD and empty without it! Apparently it's also a bradfor pear tree which is invasive. Who knew?!?
Long, long story short... my brother has emergency custody of his kids which will likely turn permanent. Their mom was "home schooling" them and they are supposed to be at a 5th and 3rd grade level. Brother took them for testing because he knew shit wasn't right since last year (he had them take a standard test six months ago during a visit and it was not great). They are testing around Kinder in writing, first grand in math, and second grade in reading. It will be 12k in tutoring to get them up to the correct levels. We have been scrambling to find scholarships to cover this. Between lawyer fees and still paying CS to the mom, he is strapped. He will likely never see a dime from their mom ever. My sister says a gofundme would be in bad taste. idk. like I am super pissed about the whole thing because my nephews are really dealing with some shit and then to be grades behind...
I wake up with a different song in my head every morning. Monday it was The Civil Wars "Dust to Dust." Tuesday it was Fall Out Boy "Light Em Up." And today it was Lacuna Coil "Fragments of Faith."
...I have not listened to any of these in years. More than 10 years in Lacuna Coil's case. Why is my brain so weird?!
@lemonlover, any support he can get from his local school system? I cannot imagine, those poor kids.
DH took the last piece of breakfast casserole to work. I am currently taking new partner applications. I was sort of hoping he didn't notice I put the last piece in a different tupperware yesterday. I should have hid it better, lol.
I wake up with a different song in my head every morning. Monday it was The Civil Wars "Dust to Dust." Tuesday it was Fall Out Boy "Light Em Up." And today it was Lacuna Coil "Fragments of Faith."
...I have not listened to any of these in years. More than 10 years in Lacuna Coil's case. Why is my brain so weird?!
Whenever I wake up with a song in my head it's something I haven't head in years. The strangest one I can remember is the Battle Hymn of the Republic. Why do I even know that song?! (I'm pretty sure we learned to sing it in elementary school, which is a WTF in itself...
What has the local school said? Do they have summer school? Will they let the kids into summer school for this year? I saw this a lot when I was teaching and summer school can do a lot to catch kids up and get them on grade level. At any rate the school should work with him with the kids. The only option shouldn’t be expensive tutoring. It’s an unfortunate situation but not a rare one.
icedcoffee, Bradford pears are horrible trees. Marketed in the 80s as sterile, fast growing, and pretty (they are pretty in the spring). But,mit turns out they aren’t sterile, or the cross with something and make these horrible , throny, evil trees. Plus, since they grow quickly, they are brittle. Cut it down now before it falls!
I feel like my H read my posts here. He has gotten up and started doing house crap before I get up every day this week. And he’s made a couple of comments. Maybe he did? Or maybe he just finally figured out why I’ve been at my wits end. But at least for 2 days, it’s the guy I married again.
I came to a realization at fencing last night regarding what my body can and can’t do. And I told me coach I wanted to work around it because I think learning to deal with it will be faster than improving my fitness to the point I can respond as fast as needed. But then, around 1am, I realized that the problem is actually deeper than just fitness level. The problem is my left leg still has some residual weakness from my stroke (not noticeable if you see me, doesn’t even feel like an invisible disability - until now). So, it will likely never get to where is needs to be. And in my head, it feels like I’m making an excuse as to why I’m not able to do something. And it’s all in my head that o need to accept this limitation. We can work around it. And I had commented that I wanted to learn to work around it, because that will be faster than increasing my fitness and strength. But… about 1am I realized that I literally can’t get back to 100% in that leg. And that has not been how I deal with all my medical issues. It’s been my nature to just keep on keeping on, like nothing affects me. And my brain is spinning on that today.
I wake up with a different song in my head every morning. Monday it was The Civil Wars "Dust to Dust." Tuesday it was Fall Out Boy "Light Em Up." And today it was Lacuna Coil "Fragments of Faith."
...I have not listened to any of these in years. More than 10 years in Lacuna Coil's case. Why is my brain so weird?!
Whenever I wake up with a song in my head it's something I haven't head in years. The strangest one I can remember is the Battle Hymn of the Republic. Why do I even know that song?! (I'm pretty sure we learned to sing it in elementary school, which is a WTF in itself...
oh yeah... I hate it when old hymns from childhood pop up. I have to "listen" for a bit and then "change the channel" to something else so I'm not humming Abide with Me or When We All Get to Heaven all day 🙄
I never wake up with a quiet mind. It's like a radio station with its own bizarre algorithm 😒
One thing about having three dogs is that you feel like a real celebrity when you return from being away. We are now traveling as a pack. I have not been in a room alone for two days. They could power the house with the tail wagging.
My husband was here the whole time! They should not have been lonely.
Today is the last day of school for DS (leaving elementary school, 4th is the last grade here) and we leave tomorrow for a wedding an 8 hour drive away. Things are jam packed and now apparently I'm having stomach issues. Great, just great.
I feel like someone up there was looking out for us last night. My H went in a pizza place while I waited in the car with our kids, while we were sitting there a guy walked by with a glass of something (beer maybe?) and he seemed to be either under the influence of something or mentally ill. He walked on by, but then out of the corner of my eye I saw he turned around and made a beeline for our car. I locked the doors and he was looking in the car and was trying to open the door to get in.
Someone eating in the pizza place ran out and distracted him and gave him some money, apparently the guy thought I was his girlfriend. I called my oblivious husband and told him to thank the guy and pay him back, but the kids and I were a little shaken up - we had a good talk on the way home about mental illness and addiction.
This is in no way meant to be disparaging to anyone dealing with addiction or mental illness, I do not think he was being malicious and honestly thought he knew us. I am super grateful to the man in the restaurant for coming out though, and he handled it in such an amazing way.
Bradford pears are the worst - we had a huge one we had scheduled to cut down but one morning a thunderstorm took it out which was nice!
Work and laundry for me today. My DD is in another state with my parents for the week and I miss her! But it sounds like she’s having an absolute blast.
icedcoffee , Bradford pears are horrible trees. Marketed in the 80s as sterile, fast growing, and pretty (they are pretty in the spring). But,mit turns out they aren’t sterile, or the cross with something and make these horrible , throny, evil trees. Plus, since they grow quickly, they are brittle. Cut it down now before it falls!
I grew up in a newly built subdivision and we were among the first to be built/move in. The rest filled in over the period of about 5 years of so. Almost everyone got a Bradford pear and years later, we could tell who moved in when as most of the trees ended up falling/dying due to storms/etc. And they appeared to fall/dye in the order they were planted. (Oh it's been about x years, yup your tree fell during the storm)
I’ve been dealing with a lot with 16DD related to her ED and depression. She hasn’t seen her Dad in over a week and a half because he is seriously bad for her mental health. Anyway, she started with a new therapist today that her Dad set up through his EAP. He is a Narcissist and always tries to posture himself as the “good guy” with therapists and doctors, but thank goodness this new therapist saw right through it and recognized who he really is. My daughter and I both feel so validated and I think that it was really good for her to have someone other than me see him for who he really is and not force the relationship because he’s “her Dad” which is what we always get. We currently have 50/50 but she desperately wants to be here full time so we’re hoping with the support of this new therapist holding our hands through the process that we can finally make it happen.
Why do teenagers wear the same three outfits is short rotation while they simultaneously can’t fit all of their clothes in their closet and refuse to ditch any of it ??
icedcoffee , I had a similar situation this spring when a snowstorm took out a tree I had prominently in my front garden. I posted in H&G and there are some great suggestions for replacement trees.
This week, my Mom's TV remote control has been acting up. Plus, she's almost 91 and her memory is just bad, so she forgets what she should click. It's been rough, but I think we've finally figured out what she was doing and what I need to tell her, so I can handle it over the phone and avoid the 5-mile drive over there.
What has the local school said? Do they have summer school? Will they let the kids into summer school for this year? I saw this a lot when I was teaching and summer school can do a lot to catch kids up and get them on grade level. At any rate the school should work with him with the kids. The only option shouldn’t be expensive tutoring. It’s an unfortunate situation but not a rare one.
They are not enrolled in local schools and he does not have copies of their birth certificates so he has requested copies. They have also never been vaccinated so the pedi is currently catching them up to enrollment standards. He can't enroll them in school until these items are checked off. I have sent him school info. They are in a different state than their mother or where they were born so it's all a big change. No summer program will accept them either and a lot are too pricey so my brother is having to take unpaid leave to watch them on days his fiancée works out of the house.
What has the local school said? Do they have summer school? Will they let the kids into summer school for this year? I saw this a lot when I was teaching and summer school can do a lot to catch kids up and get them on grade level. At any rate the school should work with him with the kids. The only option shouldn’t be expensive tutoring. It’s an unfortunate situation but not a rare one.
They are not enrolled in local schools and he does not have copies of their birth certificates so he has requested copies. They have also never been vaccinated so the pedi is currently catching them up to enrollment standards. He can't enroll them in school until these items are checked off. I have sent him school info. They are in a different state than their mother or where they were born so it's all a big change. No summer program will accept them either and a lot are too pricey so my brother is having to take unpaid leave to watch them on days his fiancée works out of the house.
Sounds like a lot! As soon as they get in touch with the school and get them enrolled that should help a lot. Summer school normally is free and they will know about other services the kids can access.
I’m surprised they are being insistent on the children having a birth certificate before allowing them to enroll, in my experience their goal (and legal priority) is kids in school so they will let them in and then wait for the documentation. Are they aware of the situation?
This week, my Mom's TV remote control has been acting up. Plus, she's almost 91 and her memory is just bad, so she forgets what she should click. It's been rough, but I think we've finally figured out what she was doing and what I need to tell her, so I can handle it over the phone and avoid the 5-mile drive over there.
When my Grandfather was having issues figuring out his remote, we put painters tape over all of the buttons he didn’t need, basically just leaving Power, Channel up and down, and Volume up and down. It was the best thing ever.
I wake up with a different song in my head every morning. Monday it was The Civil Wars "Dust to Dust." Tuesday it was Fall Out Boy "Light Em Up." And today it was Lacuna Coil "Fragments of Faith."
...I have not listened to any of these in years. More than 10 years in Lacuna Coil's case. Why is my brain so weird?!
Light Em Up has been on repeat at our house lately ever since DS heard it on a Monster Jam video lol
This week, my Mom's TV remote control has been acting up. Plus, she's almost 91 and her memory is just bad, so she forgets what she should click. It's been rough, but I think we've finally figured out what she was doing and what I need to tell her, so I can handle it over the phone and avoid the 5-mile drive over there.
When my Grandfather was having issues figuring out his remote, we put painters tape over all of the buttons he didn’t need, basically just leaving Power, Channel up and down, and Volume up and down. It was the best thing ever.
We've done something similar. I think what we've figured out is that the button she was using to turn on the cable box is failing. A replacement remote wouldn't connect to the box, so we're falling back to the "system on," which also has issues. But at least that button hasn't been used as much and (I hope) won't be ready to crap out.
Why do teenagers wear the same three outfits is short rotation while they simultaneously can’t fit all of their clothes in their closet and refuse to ditch any of it ??
Why do teenagers wear the same three outfits is short rotation while they simultaneously can’t fit all of their clothes in their closet and refuse to ditch any of it ??
I do this, too, though. If I feel good in something I wear until I’m sick of it and then move on to something else. Repeat.
Post by charteroakstate on Jun 14, 2023 9:36:42 GMT -5
[quote author="tacokick" source="/I’m surprised they are being insistent on the children having a birth certificate before allowing them to enroll, in my experience their goal (and legal priority) is kids in school so they will let them in and then wait for the documentation. Are they aware of the situation? [/quote]
In my state, and others I know of, public schools require not only birth certificates, but proof of legal residency and mandated health/vaccination records before registering new students.
Post by wanderingback on Jun 14, 2023 9:41:12 GMT -5
Our part time nanny is also a personal trainer. I can’t believe we hit the jackpot! Her PT rates are very reasonable and she’s giving me a discount since she doesn’t have to travel separately since we’re just going to work out with me after she finishes watching the baby.
Last week we had a basic assessment and small workout, but today starts the true workouts. I’m so excited to challenge myself and get stronger! Even though we pay an arm and a leg for our apartment, so glad I can take advantage of all the amenities such as the new gym and bring in a personal trainer.