I’m heading home from my parents today. And my H is sick. Maybe just a cold? Maybe more? He’s in a panic and his hypochondria is coming out in full force. But I’m glad I took the whole day off work - I’m going to have to stop at the store to get all the meds for him. And probably me, bc I know he’s going to pass this on.
Blondmoment: maybe a hair trial for a wedding? It's early in the day for a hair appointment but maybe she had to squeeze it in before work and hadn't had a chance to show her wedding party/take pictures?
They have FINALLY changed my reporting structure! I am so happy to have a boss that does not actively hate me and denigrate everything that I try to do. Apparently my threats to quit over this had an impact!
Meanwhile, my new boss just asked me to present the tools I developed at her team meeting because she's heard they are fabulous.
This does mean that my job will change a bit, which will be stressful, but meanwhile, I'm giddy with excitement.
Blondmoment: maybe a hair trial for a wedding? It's early in the day for a hair appointment but maybe she had to squeeze it in before work and hadn't had a chance to show her wedding party/take pictures?
Or still drunk from a Monday night bachelorette party at drop-off.
A woman at drop off was wearing a wedding veil and my nosy ass is dying to know the backstory. Nothing else was out of the ordinary outfit wise.
Maybe she was playing dress up with the kids before school?
my random…our company announced that they’re asking people to take more pto around the holiday (2 more days) as well as a “forced” holiday the week of July 4th. People are PISSED. I know we just had a discussion here around forced pto a few days ago, but honestly, I’d rather take pto when the entire company takes it because I come back to almost zero emails instead of like 500! If no one is working, no one sends email. I get why some people would be upset over it, espec If they already have other time off planned, but omg, can we please focus on the fact that we’re taking time off? I couldn’t believe how many people’s responses to this announcement were along the lines of “I just don’t like taking that much time off.” I don’t understand those people…I live for not working, lol. And now I get to not work the week of July 4th?! Sign me the fuck up.
Post by mcppalmbeach on Dec 5, 2023 8:33:29 GMT -5
I’m annoyed with my H. In June we got a letter that his dentist was no longer taking our insurance. I looked on a local board near his office and found recs and then cross referenced them with our insurance. I sent them to him and reminded him that when I needed a new dentist everyone good was an 8 month waiting list for new patients so make an appt soon because he had just had an appt: he replied that his coworker had a dentist he liked. We talked about it about a month later and he said his coworker’s dentist was not taking his insurance and I again said well you should call those people I sent you because it’s hard to get in. In October he got an email from dentist saying basically “you can still use us you’ll just be out of network.” So he asked me if this meant he could still use his dentist and I said not really bc out of network benefits were substantially less and he always needs work done. And again said you’re going to have a lag in services because you haven’t called the new people yet. Lo and behold yesterday was his six month appointment with the old dentist and he went ahead and went anyway and needs two fillings done. Insurance covers at 80% of negotiated rate and out of network only covers at 60% of total cost. Our costs for everything have skyrocketed this year and if anything his income has gone down because he works in sales and it has been a slow year. I cannot believe that he can’t get it together when I did all the work for him and he had the nerve to tell me that I should have just done it for him.
arielroux, is the company forcing that to come out of your PTO bank? I can understand the grumbling if so, I don't like being told when I can take vacation.
I have an interview for the promotion I applied for on Friday I've never really interviewed for a job, I was basically recruited into this organization, all of my other moves have been lateral or I was selected based on resume/reputation. Luckily I've been on hiring panels so I know the basic process and a lot of the questions that are asked. I also think that I'm likely their most qualified candidate based on my current role and experience. Reminding myself to take that confidence into the interview....
Just two more weeks until winter break, and they're relatively easy weeks after three weeks of insanity. So ready for a long break though.
My H just texted to ask if its OK if he signs up for a conference in February which is on my birthday. My birthday is a Tuesday and we'll probably celebrate the weekend before, and its fine, but this is after him having conferences in December, January, and March also. Each one is only like 2 days and just a couple hours away so not huge inconveniences but I'm just feeling some kind of way about it all. Annoyed, I guess? Like good for you that you get to do that, my employer is a cheapass so I never get to go anywhere, plus the family and house would probably fall apart, lol. But what am I going to say, no, you can't go? He lives for learning new shit. Now that he is a curriculum director and not a principal he is no longer tied to a building and I want him to live his best work life. Still annoying, though.
An HVAC person came on Friday to take a look at our boiler because our house was overheating. He did fix a stuck valve and turned the boiler thermostat down and its functioning as normal now. However, we have two thermostats/zones in our house and for some reason, the heat in the one zone is not kicking on at all now since he left. I'm not sure if its something he may have done when he was here or just a coincidence... It's just our kitchen and downstairs bathroom which have under cabinet heaters. So its like 3-4 degrees cooler in those rooms. I swear to God, do these people come and break something on purpose so they have to come back, or do we just have the worst luck? I guess I will message them again. It's 66 in there right now which is OK, but if the temp outside gets much colder I don't know how cold it'll get in there.
Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Dec 5, 2023 9:43:22 GMT -5
I am in a funk. I love the holidays and on the surface, everything is fine. There is not a lot going on that I can't handle, yet I still feel blah. For example, we had a holiday brunch with friends this past weekend. We had a great time, good food, played games, etc. After we left, I just felt...sad? There was no reason to feel this way because it was great, so I have no idea why I felt this way. DH and I don't have kids, but the two other couples do (middle schoolers and up) but that has always been the case. Their kids are great but obviously a lot of the conversations revolve around the kids. Both of the other wives are stay at home moms basically, so they have time to make their houses all perfect and cook elaborate meals and I just can't relate because I work full time and that has never really been my forte anyway. I keep my house nice and I make meals, but I just feel like they are on a different level. They just always seem so much more put together. We have been friends for years and years and they are definitely not making me feel this way, but it is something that I'm internalizing.
My dog started voraciously barking at something at 3:30am. He was in the basement (he typically sleeps on the couch in our finished basement). It wasn't his typical grumbling bark that he does if he hears another dog, car door etc. It was a constant, angry bark that woke us up and freaked me out. I don't know what he heard (or saw). I couldn't fall back asleep after that. I need a more coffee. And a nap.
They just always seem so much more put together. We have been friends for years and years and they are definitely not making me feel this way, but it is something that I'm internalizing.
I feel this way too, and I think many of us do. In these instances I try to remember the following: - I'm comparing my unedited documentary footage to someone else's highlight reel - I have no idea what was happening in their home five minutes before I got there - If I want someone else's house or even life, I have to take EVERYTHING that comes with it (and I don't want that!)
I guarantee you that they see you entirely differently than you see you.
I have several friends with new-construction, custom-designed, very large and absolutely gorgeous homes that stand stark in comparison with my postwar 3-bedroom with a shared driveway, DIY cabinets that don't close, and no garage. I don't want their jobs, though. What am I gonna do? lol
I'm taking DD to a big swim meet outside of Boston this weekend. It actually starts on Thursday, but I have a big audit for work on Thurs/Fri so she is going up with some teammates. I'm so thankful they are letting her stay with them. I'll meet up with everyone for Saturday and Sunday.
I'm annoyed with my H right now, and I am glad he's going to be with DS doing their own thing this weekend.
I cannot believe that he can’t get it together when I did all the work for him and he had the nerve to tell me that I should have just done it for him.
This is seriously galling. Does he think you work for him?
I'm taking DD to a big swim meet outside of Boston this weekend. It actually starts on Thursday, but I have a big audit for work on Thurs/Fri so she is going up with some teammates. I'm so thankful they are letting her stay with them. I'll meet up with everyone for Saturday and Sunday.
I'm annoyed with my H right now, and I am glad he's going to be with DS doing their own thing this weekend.
Good luck at the swim meet! We have a big four-day meet the weekend after as schools are all over then. DS is super excited as some of his friends from Bahamas and Barbados are coming for it.
Ok going through the Panama Canal was so fucking cool. We’re in Gatun Lake now and then go back through to Cristobal.
There’s a little girl who is maybe 3 on board and we see her at the pool a lot. She is adorable and reminds us so much of E just loving the pool and attention.
I have been super annoyed with my H lately. I have to figure out a way to get over it.
Yesterday I found out that he ruined $75 of groceries bc I told him to put them in the basement refrigerator last week. He took them to the basement and just left them on the floor. I didn't realize it until I went to get something out of the basement fridge yesterday and it was empty. I have no idea wtf he was thinking. I can understand, I guess, being distracted or something but we talked about those groceries multiple times over the past week. You'd think at some point it would jog his memory that he never put them in the fridge? There was originally an ice pack in them so if he had caught it within the first couple days they still would have been fine.
Post by midwestmama on Dec 5, 2023 10:23:44 GMT -5
DH heard that the football coach for the team DS will be on next year is retiring, and all we've heard is that they are a graduate of the HS (I would think age 30s+). We had heard great things about the out-going coach, and now are back to having to worry about another year of "daddy ball" coaching and playing favorites.
donutsmakemegonuts, I work FT (and have 2 kids), and I understand how you feel. We have a neighbor who is a SAHM, and her home is beautiful. She has time to think through general decorations, not to mention seasonal/holiday decorations, plus make sure everyone is taken care of. I feel like I'm always behind, my decorations are outdated/not good enough, meals are thrown together, etc. But it's only me making myself feel this way, not anyone else. Just wanted to commiserate so you know you're not alone.
I am back at work after taking yesterday off. I am starting on a project I've been thinking about all weekend and yet I'm struggling to get going on it. It's needed fairly urgently. I thrive on urgent projects. WTF, self.
I want him to get better because I love him, obviously, but also because I’m tired of doing everything around the house, and taking care of him, and (DRAMATIC SIGH) making my own breakfast.
He usually makes me breakfast when I wfh and I want. that. back.
mcppalmbeach, that sounds like something my husband would do. I suspect he may have undiagnosed ADHD. But...getting him to follow-through with getting evaluated and diagnosed has been like a 3 year process.
donutsmakemegonuts if it makes you feel any better, from the other side (SAHM to olderish kids, house relatively put together, good at cooking etc.) when I am in conversation with professional women/women not in my generic McMansion suburb I feel unaccomplished, wasted (not in the drunk way), vapid and unserious. Like you, no one makes me feel this way, I'm just internalizing. I feel as though my attention to detail with making homecooked meals and the fact that I can do silly things like craft decorations etc, are proof that I have nothing better to do with my life and my generic, white bread house and suburb are conformist and basic. I think it's a combination of the grass always being greener and we as women feeling as though we aren't living up to the societal pressure to be 100% good at everything - we are either terrible homemakers, terrible mothers, wasted professional potential...it sucks.
My random is I ordered a bra in some crazy size after measuring according to this Reddit bra group and my boobs look AMAZING. Granted I haven't worn anything other than a sports bra or a wireless bralette in at least 5 years but it made me feel pretty and perky if only for a minute
Post by HRH Queen Dick I, Orphan on Dec 5, 2023 10:45:31 GMT -5
The Rapture is coming because I have a WYET, frozen vegetables cooked in microwave and then left in there overnight with no lid. 😵💫 The Internet says No.
I just went to the restroom and noticed that my stupid pants that I've had for like a week had the started unraveling a seam right on my butt! Grateful that I never tossed the little hotel sewing kit that's been lurking in my desk for years. Super fun time awkwardly standing in a bathroom stall pantless while I fixed it!
jamaicam, good luck to your son! Getting to see his buddies will be great. Swim friends are the best friends <3
My DS just started swimming again (he's 14) and he's swimming with the HS team. He's having so much fun and really likes hanging with the upperclassman. He and one other freshman came in from club teams and they are swimming with a bunch of seniors in the fastest lane. Definitely helping his ego some
scm1011, we are being asked (forced) to use PTO, but my issue is really with the people bitching that they don’t like taking time off vs the people who are saying they already have PTO allotted for other things. They did specify that if the additional PTO requirement was a “hardship” we could work it out with our managers, so no one is being forced to go into “PTO debt” over the policy, but they’re trying to make people take more time off because I guess the amount of banked time people have been accruing is getting out of control.