Wouldn't it be easier to fake a new life in a different place than faking your own death? You could just fake move to Nebraska and fake divorce and fake remarry and fake adopt a new dog.
If you're dead, will he try and contact/threaten your family?
No, I really don't think so. He doesn't really know them since we dated while away in school. In any event, I don't think he has the means to travel internationally.
You need to move either out of state or out of country. Delete all your online profiles or use a pseudonym. Get a PO box and use that for your primary address.
This may sound extreme but I would consider changing part or all of your name.
You should invite him down for a visit and then report him as a drug mule. Some time in a latin american prison should be fun.
No really, you should probably just close your email account and ignore him. 2 emails a year from a guy in another country isn't really a reason to fake your own death.
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We're in the same country now. Only about a 6-hour car ride away.
If he doesn't have the means to travel, why are you worried? Isn't he in the US while you're in a different country?
No, we are both in the same country. Sorry for not being more clear earlier. He is a native of the country where I now live. His city is about 6 hours away from mine.
Close the email account. Make whatever reports you can with your local PD. If you aren't willing to move, buy a gun or two and learn how to use them. Shoot him if be comes near you.
There has been a block option on Hotmail for over 7 years. Why have you never looked into this? Or as pp said, close the damn account.
I actually DID block him. But he'd write from different accounts.
In any event, I found it more helpful to KEEP the email account open because he'd give me useful information. Example: telling me he was traveling to my town (when I lived in the US) and that we wanted to see me. This was excellent info - I would leave town during that time period or stay with friends.
He seems to be under some illusion that I actually want to see him, and he gives me this info. So I've kept the account open to stay in the loop. Keep your enemies close and all that...
There has been a block option on Hotmail for over 7 years. Why have you never looked into this? Or as pp said, close the damn account.
I actually DID block him. But he'd write from different accounts.
In any event, I found it more helpful to KEEP the email account open because he'd give me useful information. Example: telling me he was traveling to my town (when I lived in the US) and that we wanted to see me. This was excellent info - I would leave town during that time period or stay with friends.
He seems to be under some illusion that I actually want to see him, and he gives me this info. So I've kept the account open to stay in the loop. Keep your enemies close and all that...
I feel like at this point you're keeping it open for the drama. He's using it as a means to harass you, and you want to keep it open so he can continue to do so?
You left America to move to the native country of your stalker. Huh.
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right?
i can't wrap my brain around this.
you sound kinda dumb and desperate for attention.
Thanks, but it's a BIG country. Over 100M inhabitants. That's a 1/3 of the size of the US and now you should be able to figure out the country.
Anyway, I moved to this country nearly 10 years after severing ties with him. Facebook's new Timeline made my current city public knowledge. I had no idea that this happened until it was obviously too late.
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Post by VeryViolet on Nov 29, 2012 20:03:35 GMT -5
I am still having a hard time fathoming moving to the same country as a person you are so scared of. Are these emails he sends threatening? I agree with whoever suggested going the the us embassy and asking what your options are.
I am still having a hard time fathoming moving to the same country as a person you are so scared of. Are these emails he sends threatening? I agree with whoever suggested going the the us embassy and asking what your options are.
I moved to this VERY BIG country about 10 years after severing ties with him. Except for Facebook's freaking Timeline change, he would have NO IDEA where I'm living. He'd probably still assume I'm in Europe.
Anyway, the US embassy would be no help as they don't have authority to intervene in civilian matters abroad. Plus, he's not actually breaking any laws - his emails are not threatening. He's very sweet and tries to entice me into responding to him.
I have been "hiding" from DHs birth mom for over 7 years. She contacted me through hotmail, she was blocked. Had she contacted me again through another email, I would have shut it down. I was the last known holdout on timeline and you bet your ass I read every last thing about privacy before I switched. This woman is not a threat to me and my family's safety and I have made sure she can't find me through social media. Either this is all bs or someone from your past emailed you and gave you the willies and your making way more of it than needed.
There has been a block option on Hotmail for over 7 years. Why have you never looked into this? Or as pp said, close the damn account.
I actually DID block him. But he'd write from different accounts.
In any event, I found it more helpful to KEEP the email account open because he'd give me useful information. Example: telling me he was traveling to my town (when I lived in the US) and that we wanted to see me. This was excellent info - I would leave town during that time period or stay with friends.
He seems to be under some illusion that I actually want to see him, and he gives me this info. So I've kept the account open to stay in the loop. Keep your enemies close and all that...
Assuming any of this is true, you don't understand stalkers. He didn't tell you when he'd be in town because he wanted to chat. He told you he would be in town so he could watch you leave. He manipulated your behavior. You showed him you cared. He was thrilled.
So, if this is true, your stalker is of the especially wackadoo variety and you need to suck it up and move.
I have been "hiding" from DHs birth mom for over 7 years. She contacted me through hotmail, she was blocked. Had she contacted me again through another email, I would have shut it down. I was the last known holdout on timeline and you bet your ass I read every last thing about privacy before I switched. This woman is not a threat to me and my family's safety and I have made sure she can't find me through social media. Either this is all bs or someone from your past emailed you and gave you the willies and your making way more of it than needed.
Or I just didn't read every last thing about privacy before switching to the Timeline. Stupid me. I assumed that PRIVATE pictures would remain PRIVATE even with the Timeline feature.
Post by beermathmama on Nov 29, 2012 20:13:00 GMT -5
First off all I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I have a very similar situation from my ex-abuser and I completely understand trying to keep tabs on him. It makes me feel safer to know what is going through his head. I'm sure you know how important it is to never respond. I agree with talking to the embassy and seeing if they have any suggestions for you. Also have an escape plan. If he emails that he will be in your town, maybe you can take the kids for a visit back to the US for awhile. I'm so sorry it is so shitty to have to live with this fear hanging over you.
I want to know if anyone knows of a service that can fake newspaper articles, etc. And make it look real. Not real enough to fool an insurance company to pay a claim, but real enough to convince someone that you're dead and there's no point in pursuing you.