Post by aeinneedofhelp on Nov 29, 2012 19:26:12 GMT -5
Sorry for the AE. I'm a regular, but not on this board. I chose this board because it has the most traffic. Here's my story:
I once dated someone who turned out to be psychotically jealous and dangerous. Even though I broke up with him, he was always there, wouldn't take no for an answer: threatened me, chased me in cars, may have tried to burn down my house, etc. My family isn't the greatest support system, so I was basically on my own (out of state) dealing with this. It got so bad that I actually went abroad (during college) for a year to get away from him.
It's been 12 years since I left and severed ties with him. Since then, I've graduated, married, moved to several countries, etc. But he still emails me. He's been emailing me for the last 12 years. I'VE NEVER RESPONDED, NOT EVEN ONCE. I've always ignored him.
I thought I kept a low profile on Facebook (completely private profile, had to be a friend of friend to find me, etc.)... But after the new Timeline change I guess this privacy went out the door. I had NO IDEA that the general public could now search and see "timeline pictures." Guess I should have read the terms and conditions more closely
Anyway, he wrote me again last night. But this time he had all sorts of details about me: my dog's name, the city I'd last moved to, etc. I had NO IDEA where he'd gotten this info until I took a hard look at my Facebook profile. Timeline changed everything... (I've since cancelled my Facebook profile, but the damage is done.)
So now he knows the city where I live. He knows my married last name. He is CRAZY. And this is all going on in a foreign country where the police will be NO HELP at all. He WILL come looking for me. The only solution I can think of is to die. On paper.
I KNOW this sounds crazy, but I've been running from him for 12 years. He won't give up until he finds me. I'm sorry if this sounds dramatic, but I'm honestly scared.
Does anyone know of a way to fake your death online? Fake obituary, etc. I need to live in peace.
Are you originally a US citizen? Are you in a country that has a US embassy or consulate? I would start there.
This is a good idea. What about contacting the police in the town he lives in? I don't know if they can do anything, but he's doing the harassing from there so it seems like it might be worth a shot.
You lost me at the Facebook account. I don't believe anyone who is *that* worried about a stalker that they would move to various countries would be daft enough to have a social media account.
Right? If I had some crazy stalker that I feared was going to kill me, I would put that shit on LOCK DOWN.
Post by aeinneedofhelp on Nov 29, 2012 19:41:21 GMT -5
To answer some of your questions:
We're in Latin America. That's all I want to say.
As for leaving, it's just not that easy. We own a house, a BUSINESS, our children are in school. We can't just uproot ourselves because this guy MIGHT come after me. We don't know what he knows. All I want is to throw him off my trail before he gets any closer. IF he gets any closer.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
The email address that he writes me to is an old Hotmail address. I now use it for junk mail (signing up for stuff online, etc.). He does not have my current email address (that I've been using for the last 8-10 years).
In any event, I NEVER respond to his emails. So they could be going into thin air for all he knows. But he keeps writing. The frequency is 2-12 times a year.
Wait! You said earlier that he will come after you. Now you're saying he might come after you. Which is it?
I FEEL that he'll come after me based on his actions in the past. Since we're not in contact now - I NEVER RESPOND TO HIS EMAILS - I have no idea what's going on in his mind.
The email address that he writes me to is an old Hotmail address. I now use it for junk mail (signing up for stuff online, etc.). He does not have my current email address (that I've been using for the last 8-10 years).
In any event, I NEVER respond to his emails. So they could be going into thin air for all he knows. But he keeps writing. The frequency is 2-12 times a year.