DS1 was a very very fussy baby. Screamed for hours every night etc. He grew out of it by the time he was 6 months. I hadn't heard about dairy with him so didn't make any changes. Now, at 4, he doesn't like dairy at all (he won't eat cheese or drink milk but he does like icecream!) and I wonder if he had a mild issue.
DS2 wasn't as bad, but I noticed he had bad nights whenever I had a lot of dairy (like a huge icecream and pizza). I got rid of a lot of dairy (no icecream, cheese or milk) but didn't get rid of hidden dairy, and he was an easy baby after that. Now, at 2, he loves dairy.
I do this, I don't worry about hidden dairy and still use butter at a restaurant (don't really use it much at home)
Post by starryfish on Mar 23, 2017 13:08:40 GMT -5
Yup my baby had those symptoms and seemed VERY uncomfortable at night (especially early AM), as she would really have to "work/grunt" the farts out. At the recommendation of the pedi GI specialist we saw (for her other digestive issues-pyloric stenosis/projectile vomiting), I gave up dairy. I immediately noticed an improvement in her. The GI said that I can occasionally have a bowl of ice cream or whatnot and it won't hurt her. I gave up dairy starting Feb 1 and only had my first real cheat 2 weeks ago. Try cutting back and see if you notice a difference. S sleeps better at night now bc of it, although is still fussy in the evenings.
Post by starryfish on Mar 23, 2017 13:02:33 GMT -5
You don't want to hear mine. 36+ hours but it was my first and I was induced at 36w for pre-e. All I can tell you is that the magnesium SUCKS so bad. Makes you SO tired and out of it, and they continue it for 24 hours after delivery. I barely remember her first day.
Glad to hear your little girl has adjusted to daycare starryfish ! I'm also glad to hear a few of you say you didn't cry or feel bad about bringing your LOs to daycare. Next week is my last week of ML and I'm ok with it. I like to work. I like my job. I love my baby (of course!) but I am not cut out to be a SAHM. It's hard! I feel like I'm supposed to cry, and maybe I will, but maybe I won't. Anyways, thanks for putting it out there.
Yep! I know now FOR sure that I am not cut out to be a SAHM (I am too lazy lol) plus we need my income, so I always knew I would work.
bricco, glad you are getting induced tonight! Ditto pp, and PLEASE tell the nurse if you have ANY changes, or anything gets slightly worse. For my pre-e, once I hit 160+ on the top or 110+ on the bottom of BP, I was getting induced immediately (which did happen for me).
Have you tried the pill for them? I love it, so much easier than the creams. I usually get bad ones and have to do 2 pills (2-3 days apart).
Is it OTC? I'm leaving town tomorrow afternoon and won't have time to see a dr.
No, its an RX. Name is Di.flucan. If you have been to your OB or reg Doc recently, I would call their office and ask for an RX (explain you are going out of town). At each annual with my OB I make her write me an RX for it so I dont have to worry about it whenever I get one.
Post by starryfish on Mar 22, 2017 13:46:51 GMT -5
If the appeal doesn't work, try getting a cash discount with the lab. Usually that will save you a good chunk (explain what happened)
I had an appeal with my health insurance last year and it was denied even though I think it should be covered based on the wording in my plan. But NO such luck. I tried twice to appeal it and denied both times.
Not the same but I had severe preeclampsia and had to get induced at 36+1. I was on magnesium and then ended up with a c section. I can tell you the magnesium is really rough, the initial injection of it sucks and it makes you so so tired. They kept me on it for 24hrs after delivery.
GL and I hope you don't have it! How far along are you?
I'll be 39w tomorrow. Induction is planned for Saturday right now anyway (have a clotting disorder/am on blood thinners).
Post by starryfish on Mar 22, 2017 13:12:13 GMT -5
Not the same but I had severe preeclampsia and had to get induced at 36+1. I was on magnesium and then ended up with a c section. I can tell you the magnesium is really rough, the initial injection of it sucks and it makes you so so tired. They kept me on it for 24hrs after delivery.
GL and I hope you don't have it! How far along are you?
kath16 , my kids aren't big milk drinkers -- a cup a day tops. They are big on cheese and yogurt, so I figure they are getting enough dairy, and I don't force it.
My question: What am I supposed to do with my 1-month-old when she's awake?
My other two liked the swing and bouncer, so that would keep them occupied some during awake periods. DD2 maxes out in those things at like the 5-minute mark and wants to be held again. And when I hold her, she inevitably starts rooting and wants to nurse. So, I basically get nothing done when she's awake, which is always conveniently during lunch, dinner, and bedtime for the older two. I tried the Ergo, but she's still a little small for it. Should I try a sling? Is there some apparatus I'm missing? We have a swing, bouncer, RnP, playmat, and Boppy cushion. I rotate her through them all throughout the day, but she doesn't love anything.
i Used my baby ktan carrier to wear her. What bouncer do you have? mine LOVES the FP cradle bouncer and didn't like other ones.
starryfish , I use Similac Alimentum. It's pretty expensive but if your doctor can give your baby an official MSPI diagnosis than your insurance can possibly cover it. We are in the process of getting it covered now.
thanks I have tried that on her (one bottle) and she took it. How do I even look that up in my insurance benefit PDF file? Like what do I search?
Hugs lady. I could have written your post (minus the 3yo) with my baby. That kid never slept unless I was wearing him. At night we'd be lucky to get a 3-4hr stretch and then maybe 1hr increments after that. It was miserable and it's so, so hard to endure it day in and day out.
In my case it turned out DS had silent reflux. Which seemed to be responsible for like 75% of the sleep issues. (He's 2 and still not a great sleeper or napper.) But the short naps, fussiness upon being put down, etc. all kind of were symptoms for DS. (He was never really spitty.)
What did you do for the reflux? We do gas drops and he is on zantac. I'm not convinced it does anything for him, but I'm scared to take him off. He was projectile vomiting and that seemed to stop once he was on the meds, but he still passes gas all the time and is like a fountain of spit up.
this sounds like my baby, gas drops didn't do anything. Being dairy free has helped (I heard it takes a while to get out of your system). Did you get checked for the projective vomiting? turns out my baby has pyloric stenosis (needs ultrasound or GI xray to confirm). I use the Mommys bliss probiotic drops (amazon has best price). Gerber soothe drops made her burp a LOT (and was very uncomfortable for her, she screamed until she burped).
I'm sorry. My DS will only nap for longer than 30 minutes if he is in his swing. He also has silent reflux and MSPI. He hated being put down at night and sort of moaned and groaned all night. Once we got those under control with Zantac, hypoallergenic formula, and a probiotic, his night time sleep improved drastically. It all went down hill again with the 4 month sleep regression and teething though.
What kind of formula do you use? My baby cant do dairy or soy. I cut those out of my diet and i BF, but I want to have formula as a backup.
mpc , being back at work has gone well. She had some bottle issues her first day (sent different types of bottles and nipples and she only took one, so it just took some trying on their part), but we have it figured out and she did good yesterday. I feel like I am broken bc I didn't cry and am doing well being back at work. Maybe bc SAHM has never been an option for me?
Don't feel bad. I didn't cry either. I was stressed about bottles (it took a few days for DS to figure it out), but otherwise the transition went ok for us too. I'm glad your little girl is doing better with bottles now.
Actually, when DS moved up to the 2 year old classroom is the day I went out to my car and just cried and cried. I was like, WTF is wrong with me, I didn't have this much trouble with his very first day, why now. I don't know, emotions are weird.
mpc, being back at work has gone well. She had some bottle issues her first day (sent different types of bottles and nipples and she only took one, so it just took some trying on their part), but we have it figured out and she did good yesterday. I feel like I am broken bc I didn't cry and am doing well being back at work. Maybe bc SAHM has never been an option for me?
Post by starryfish on Mar 20, 2017 11:24:19 GMT -5
It's my first day back at work from ML. I have mixed emotions but have been doing good. I know I can't be a SAHM so I'm mostly ok with it. Daycare uses an app and uploaded this pic of her.
spearmintleaf at night she gets really fussy and really knaws on her hands and screams until we put teething gel on her gums. Last night was ok, she did 2 hour stretches and one 3 hour stretch.
I don't know how to swaddle her and keep her safe in a reclined sleeping position in the RNP or bouncer. RNP she might be ok but not for long.
I will definitely make DH help more. He gets up early with her on the weekend and takes her to the living room so I can sleep.
I'm wondering....is it safe for her to be in the rock n play (strapped in) in her room alone? Maybe that way she will sleep better?
Did your pedi ok the teething gel? Mine said there are studies that show that it can be fatal. I looked it up and that does seem to be the case.
How reclined are we talking? We were able to swaddle DD and put her in the RnP. We strapped her in over the swaddle since it's loose around the legs anyway. But frankly a swaddled 3 month old isn't going anywhere so I don't know if the strap really matters unless she'll slide down without it.
I wouldn't put her in her room in the rnp, since being alone is a SIDS risk and RnP is also a SIDS risk (although we did both, just not together unless we couldn't help it). Try the loud white noise. You'll get used to it quickly; now I have trouble sleeping without it.
Ok thanks for the info.
She is in our room now and I had planned on keeping her there until 6m. She loves music and falls asleep to it, I have a sound machine I can move into our room from her nursery.
We used to swaddle her in the RNP, I will try that again.
Post by starryfish on Mar 17, 2017 19:49:08 GMT -5
spearmintleaf at night she gets really fussy and really knaws on her hands and screams until we put teething gel on her gums. Last night was ok, she did 2 hour stretches and one 3 hour stretch.
I don't know how to swaddle her and keep her safe in a reclined sleeping position in the RNP or bouncer. RNP she might be ok but not for long.
I will definitely make DH help more. He gets up early with her on the weekend and takes her to the living room so I can sleep.
I'm wondering....is it safe for her to be in the rock n play (strapped in) in her room alone? Maybe that way she will sleep better?
I think I remember you saying your DH gives a pumped bottle, which feed do you give him?
I used to give DH the 1st wake-up of the night, around 11pm, but that was when he was conking out around 8pm. I was heading to bed shortly after. So I'd usually get a good chunk of sleep between 8:30-1:00ish. Since starting daycare, DS has started falling asleep between 5:30-6pm, so that has thrown everything out of whack and I've been taking all wake-ups for a while (partly because I'm having trouble pumping enough for daycare + the night feed). Before he always fell asleep downstairs in our arms and DH would transfer him to me after feeding him at 11-ish, but now we put him up in the RNP when he falls asleep, so he wakes me up first anyway since its next to the bed (and DH is always still awake downstairs) so theres not much point. I may start giving him one of the MOTN feedings again soon because the sleep deprivation is starting to take its toll.
Yea I hear ya. I'm having a hard time delegating to DH too bc she's on my side of the bed, so she wakes me up, so I figure it's faster for me to feed her.
This is pretty much exactly my 4 month olds sleep schedule too, so I commiserate. Once in a while he'll throw me a bone and do all 3 hour stretches, but he's never slept longer than 4.5 hours in a single stretch (and that was like twice lol). My way to survive is to bed share (and kicking DH to the guest room). Its exhausting, I know. Hugs!
I think I remember you saying your DH gives a pumped bottle, which feed do you give him?
My DS was a nightmare sleeper the first 2 months. At 2 months, my pedi suggested teaching DS to fall asleep on his own since we were still rocking him to sleep at night and each wakeup. It was exhausting and making me really resentful. We moved him to his own room, said I love you, and let him cry himself to sleep. The longest it ever took was 30 minutes. We continued to do the same for MOTN feedings. By about 3 months he was having random nights where he STTN. At our 4 month appointment, pedi told us he no longer needs the MOTN feedings and "unless you want to be doing them for the long haul, I recommend you stop them now". Since his first advice worked we listened and we let him cry for MOTN feedings. Longest he ever cried was 30 minutes. He has STTN the past few nights so I think it's working (knocks on all the wood).
I know CIO is controversial at this age, but wanted to share that it worked for us. My pedi reassured me like 15 times this was not actually CIO though. Also, I am aware that this could all stop at any time. DS seems to still smile at me in the morning so I don't think I've done any long term damage.
Also, your DD may be getting too big for the RNP. DS literally takes up his whole crib. He moves around so much in his sleep. Like a sundial.
She falls asleep on her own good and die motn feeds she stays mostly asleep and goes back down easily usually.
She has to sleep in a reclined position due to her projectile reflux. Has to until 8m said the GI specialist. She's ok in her FP cradle bouncer (strapped in) and hasn't outgrown the RNP yet. Definitely in the future I will have to try the wedge in her crib when she gets bigger
This is pretty much exactly my 4 month olds sleep schedule too, so I commiserate. Once in a while he'll throw me a bone and do all 3 hour stretches, but he's never slept longer than 4.5 hours in a single stretch (and that was like twice lol). My way to survive is to bed share (and kicking DH to the guest room). Its exhausting, I know. Hugs!
Hugs to us both. I can't bed share bc she has to sleep in a reclined position
Ok thank you. I figured it was that but my mom made it seem super abnormal and every other mom has babies that sleep like 6+ hours at a time.
Likely your mom hasn't had a newborn in several decades and unfortunately, when moms & grandmas chat, only the good stories are told. Which is not to say that your baby's sleep is bad, b/c I don't think it is. Everyone wants the unicorn baby that STTN at 6 weeks. Fact is, that is the abnormal baby. Many - most? - wake multiple times a night for many months. None of my STTN until 2ish. It got much better, w/ awful phases of course.
sorry, not sure if I'm helping or hurting at this point!
Yea I figured it was like that (my mom). It makes me feel better to know I'm not alone and not doing anything "wrong"
Ok thank you. I figured it was that but my mom made it seem super abnormal and every other mom has babies that sleep like 6+ hours at a time.
my nearly 6 month old rarely does a 6 hr stretch. Sounds like new routine, teeth, or growth spurt. Both my boys sleep got really bad around 3 months and I ended up sleep training by 4 months. I vote totally normal, unfortunately.