Do what fits your family best. If he's still growing, and you're not completely off the deep end, keep doing what you're doing. Every family is different.
the get out of bed clock is a good idea. she's old enough to understand that. i do think time of year may have something to do with it...bjl keeps asking me why it's light out when we're trying to sleep. does she have black-out-blinds in her room?
self esteem pep talk. don't think of yourself as any less than anyone else. why should anyone else get first dibs before you? you are important. (heart) (heart) (heart)
Haha, no, just because I don't really have a preference for what I bring is what i meant. :0
Fine, I'll bring Salsa and Sour Cream since I have favorites of both of those. Medium salsa ok? Or should I bring 1 mild and 1 hot (and medium people can mix half and half)?
i like the idea of one mild, one hot. or you can just get two different types...like green salsa? or something. or pico.. or...anything. there's a billionty versions of salsa.
I put it on my calendar. I'll bring whatever, pick later after everyone else has 1st dibs?
self esteem pep talk. don't think of yourself as any less than anyone else. why should anyone else get first dibs before you? you are important. (heart) (heart) (heart)
this is a c&p of a spreadsheet we used at work for a taco bar. this was for about 15 adults, and we split it so that each person would be spending approx the same price, or if they were spending less, there'd be effort in cooking, etc. does this look like a good list? of course, it's flexible.
we have 5 adults that said they can go, and we have kids, too..so these numbers might be a little high.
i haven't done it after kids, but a lot of shelters have sign up lists for certain breeds, etc that you can be part of a mailing list when someone comes up that meets your needs. otherwise, just keep looking, and try not to be open minded because the dogs are so loyal once they know who their family is.
I am a toss up and will be a down to the few days before as to if I can make it We are pretty busy these last few weekends before my due date trying to get a bunch of stuff done so thats why I didn't vote. My answer would have been the same for all the days lol
What can I help you with? I'll do what it takes to get you here
How old is LO(s)? Anyone TTGKTFU? 18 mos and 38 mos...NO.
Best thing this week? i took a day off work on monday and took the kids to the zoo. bjl LOVED it, and keeps talking about it...i will need to take her more often i think.
Worst thing this week? my inlaws are out of town, so h and i, and my mother, are rotating days off to watch the kids. my mom keeps them alive and changes diapers, but that's about it. she resorts to tv after about 4 seconds of whining, and she doesn't follow any of the instructions i give. ever. she doesn't feed them what i leave for food and lets them snack all day (at least they are healthy snacks, but still).
Recent milestones? boy talks a lot..he can repeat-after-me just about most words. he says 2-3 word sentences and has started to sing a little bit too..he can sing along (although very unclearly, only a few of us can understand) to happy birthday, let it go, abc's, twinkle twinkle, old mcdonald, and wheels on the bus.
What is LO's favorite thing right now? boy - (almond) cheese, carrots, broccoli. bjl - hummus. she thinks it's ice cream..and licks it..and is so excited we let her have it.
What is mom's favorite thing right now? i was able to take a few days off with my kids! but my days off are over..just h and my mom left in the rotation.
I'm really sorry you are going though this phase. I wish I could give you advice but we are in the same age bracket and desk with these types of struggles as well. I will need to be taking the advice others have offered here. Hang in there, you're not alone.
Yeah, 1pm is naptime, but M can give or take naps on weekends... she'll be a PITA the rest of the day, though, haha. B can take an early nap (in bed at 11, usually up by 1-2).
Maybe if we move it up to 11am and do brunchy things?
we can do 11 if it's a big conflict. i just worry since south end people would have to drive far and i don't know what time their kids wake up! but 11 seems to work better.
Ohhhhh maaan. My heart aches for you. Would your H be open to adopting or fostering?
We are planning in it but not for a couple of years - we know we want to foster kids and we need DS to be old enough to explain kids coming and going to him adequately. And any errant behaviors that may come with troubled kids. I don't want to be super chooses about fostering - I truly want to be a port in a storm for kids who need it. DH may still change his mind on bio kids, I'm not giving up. But it's just so killing me how DS has his heart set on it. He's even got names picked out. And I swear I do NOT coach him. (He told DH the other day that I'm not too old but DH is too fat...I almost drove off the road laughing so hard!!).
LOL!!!!!!!!
little man can come play with us anytime he needs a baby fix <3
We don't have the 2u2 age difference, but we're paying for massive amounts of help and barely limping along. DH just got a promotion that means he'll probably have to travel for a week a month, maybe more. It's soooo tempting to quit my job and stay home to make everything work more smoothly, but I would pretty much be throwing away my career. It would be nearly impossible to step back in after a few years away from an engineering job. So for now we have preschool, a nanny, and are trying to find someone to help us with a few meals a week. And barely scraping by. I feel like the barely scraping by part is normal? Everything else each family cobbles together as best they can.
i definitely would not be able to do it if i quit my job....i used to want to be a SAHM...mad respect for those that do, now, though. because when i'm home, my kids only want to hang onto me. i literally get no break when i'm at home...only recently have we done the outdoors thing, and that was twice so far.
do you have a nanny come by after daycare? i know you used to WAH, but then something changed and you needed to commute..are you still doing that? because those are very long days..i'm sorry. i feel for you. this is hard.
OMG I'm dying at this! I hope you're hanging in there jennlin.
h and i were having a conversation a few days ago...we really have NO idea how people actually do it...survive in this world with the 2u2 age difference. we have lots of help...LOTS of help..and we barely get by. we have so much exhaustion, and we snap at each other all day long when we're not silently stewing at the other. the good news is we both know this is a phase, and just trucking on through.
i do see light at the end of the tunnel. we have been able to let the kids play in the backyard while i pull weeds, etc, and h is inside working on other things...dishes, home projects...he's still working on the ceiling lights for bjl's room!! that's a 1 year long project now instead of 2 weeks.