DH woke me up only 2 hours after going to bed with a reminder that maybe DS should eat again. Umm, I just spent the evening cluster feeding and DS is clearly zonked out. Even though he's not quite back up to his birth weight, he's gaining steadily and is a great eater - he will let us know when he's hungry. And seriously, he's giving us 3-4 hour chunks of sleep...why mess with a good thing?
I am now 100% positive that we are done at two. It was a huge relief after DS was born to know that I am finally DONE with pregnancy, birth, recovery, etc.
I am fairly useless at home these days re chores, but I still get salty about the particular chores my H chooses to prioritize. Eg unpacking and washing fancy glassware while we have 2 days worth of dirty dishes waiting to go in the dishwasher. Dude, none of us are drinking wine right now!
I mentioned a few weeks ago but my husband always prioritizes tire pressure over everything! WHY?
DH has decided that one week after having a baby would be a great time to try a complicated recipe. We are on day 2 of 4 for this marinated pork belly and I am like, WTF dude you are not Bobby Flay!
I think we could have been happy without kids, but it would be a different kind of happiness, and certainly with many different choices than what we have now (home, career, travel, etc).
It was one of those perfect autumn days - sunny but crisp and a little cool - and I spent the afternoon sitting on the patio cuddling DS and drinking hot apple cider while DH and DD raked leaves and played in the backyard. I kept looking at the three of them and thinking how this is the little family I've always dreamed of having.
There used to be a chain near me called Perkins that had really good pancakes, but I don't think any of them are around anymore.
We have Perkins all over the place here (MN). Their breakfasts are enormous and tasty; they are also a popular spot for college kids to go eat/study in the MOTN since most are open 24-hours.
DS got a pacifier within 24 hours of birth, whereas we waited almost a week with DD. He's been nursing like a champ so far. I think the nipple confusion argument is defintely over exaggerated.
Well, I feel like I am officially part of the mom-of-two-kids club. DH ran to the grocery store during naptime and DD woke up right after he left. During the next hour, DS had two blowout diapers and was nursing constantly, DD was running around yelling for a snack and trying to "help" with the baby, and I was having awful cramps and bleeding. I know it will get easier to juggle everything as time goes on, but man, I hadn't expected such a sudden rude awakening at only 3 days postpartum. Beer me!
I am not opposed to visitors at all, but the fact that people were coming over within an hour of us getting home from the hospital is the part that irks me the most. I assumed that most people would think that's intrusive, but clearly we are not all on the same wavelength. Also, MIL's excuse of calling to say "she was in the neighborhood" is irritating (and most likely a lie), but she is already BEC with me.
Were they unavailable to visit while you were in the hospital or not invited? If not invited, did your family visit?
Regardless you are technically in the right. But I can't fault your in laws for asking. I can fault your husband for not shutting it down if it was against your wishes.
The neighbors sound idiotic.
All of our parents were invited/welcome to come see us in the hospital - ILs were going to come yesterday but MIL had a migraine and didn't feel up for a visit. My parents came with DD twice.
anna7602 - they stayed almost 1/2 hour. I had dinner in the oven and was waiting for them to leave so we could eat. They are going to be first-time parents in a few months, so I think they are a little clueless about the protocol for visiting new parents.
origami - I didn't want to be rude and make it seem like I was avoiding them. I need to be better about being too nice.
We came home from the hospital this afternoon at 3:30 pm. MIL and SIL called at 4:00 pm to say they were in the neighborhood (yeah right) and could they stop by for a visit and DH said okay (I think he felt guilty that they didn't get a chance to come visit when we were in the hospital). They ended up staying for almost an hour.
Then, as soon as MIL and SIL left, our neighbors texted to say they'd like to bring a meal over. DH texted back to say it wasn't a good time and could they come instead tomorrow, but they showed up at our door a few minutes later with food.
I am trying so hard not to be ungrateful that people want to visit and bring us food/gifts, but COME ON. Isn't it pretty rude to show up immediately after new parents get home from the hospital? (particularly after someone says it's not a good time, like the neighbors did). All I wanted was to take a long hot shower, lay down for a quick nap, and get settled back home, but instead I was playing hostess to visitors. DH insists that it's not a big deal and we should just enjoy it.
My FIL has shingles and was going to come to the hospital like it was NBD to be around a newborn. Umm, fuck no. Thank goodness DH talked to his parents before they showed up.
Baby was born just before noon and DD came to visit with my parents at 4:00 pm - we all decided that it would be better to visit after her nap time, even if it meant waiting a bit.
Samuel John, born at 11:44 am, 7lbs14oz and 20.5in. My RCS went smoothly (although pushed back several hours thanks to supermoon babies) and Sam is nursing like a champ. DD came to visit this evening and I think she is in love with her little brother already!
It's my due date! I have a lunch time massage scheduled and a dr appointment this afternoon. I don't even know if I want to get checked today because 1) I'm worried I have not made progress and 2) I'm seeing the doctor with fat fingers lol.
YOU ARE HOLDING ME BACK FROM THE TOP OF THE LEADERBOARD.