It is not about me, it is about my work friend, M. I may DD later just to be safe.
Background: Her parents split when she was 1 yo, she is 39, has no siblings. Her mom and stepfather (I am not sure if they were married are not, this is Quebec after all ;-)) have been together since she was 5. Her mother passed away from colon cancer this spring. Also, M is a single mom to a 6yo little girl, the dad is not in the picture.
Creepy story time: After her mom passed, M kept having dinner once a week with her stepdad and her DD, as he was always an important figure in her and her daughter's lives. A few times, she noticed that he was getting very huggy/touchy, but brushed it off. You see where this is going, right? So she was getting annoyed at seeing him every week and him being so needy, because she is busy with work and her PhD and her DD, and her friends, you know. She called him a few weeks ago and told him. SF: Oh well, what can you do. I am pretty lonely. M: Maybe you need to try dating and finding yourself a girlfriend. SF: I thought YOU were my girlfriend? M: Um, what? NO. :::door rings::: M: Gotta go, we will talk later, bye.
So she is all creeped out and tells her friend who was coming over. They come to the conclusion that it is a misunderstanding, french is her SD's third language, so she must have misunderstood what he was trying to say. Because that is too weird, right?
They have dinner a few days later and she starts with "The conversation the other day was very awkward, I am not sure what to think"
SF: "Well, you know, you are single, I am single, we each have our own homes, we could see each other sometimes" M: "OMG, what are you saying? You are like a FATHER to me, not a boyfriend, this is weird and creepy" SF: "Why? You are almost 40 yo and still single, I am sure you are lonely too. We could go on vacation together and take it from there?" M: "Actually I am going on vacation with my dad soon" SF:"Too bad, it would be fun. How about a cruise? We could go on a cruise?" M: "Listen, I am not going on vacation with you, I am not going to date you. YOU ARE MY STEPFATHER. I've known you since I was FIVE YEARS OLD" SF: "Exactly, we know each other so well, it would make everything easier"
OMGOMGOMG
He kept going on and on, not getting the message, until she said she was going home. She said the worst part was that it seemed like he had actually sat down and thought it all through. EWWWWWW.
I asked if she told her dad and she said yes, lol, and he said she could never see that man again. Which obviously she agrees. But she is super pissed that he had to go be a creep like that and now her DD lost TWO grandparents in such a short time, and has only one left.
I am dying for her. Most awkward conversation EVER FTW. I'm also dying laughing because it is too crazy, lollollol.
Yikes! That would seriously creep me out and it would make me wonder; how long has he had his eye on his own step daughter?! FFS, there are millions of women out there, go find one you didn't help raise.
I really really really hope in a year he's completely embarrassed and that this was driven by intense grief.
That's what I said. That it is probably some kind of grief trauma thing and that he just needs to go to therapy or something. because that is not normal.
Ok, there has to be something wrong with him. Like the death of his wife/her mom triggered something weird. She never noticed anything odd growing up or after she was an adult and visited them? Like I just can't believe that a seemingly normal person would somehow come to this conclusion and really think it was ok.
I really really really hope in a year he's completely embarrassed and that this was driven by intense grief.
That's what I said. That it is probably some kind of grief trauma thing and that he just needs to go to therapy or something. because that is not normal.
Yeah and the fact that he didn't bring up anything sexual (thank GOD!) makes me wonder if this is a twisted way for him to hold onto his wife. Especially since it does seem, and your friend said she noticed, that he thought it through "logically." Like this is what makes sense.
Yikes! That would seriously creep me out and it would make me wonder; how long has he had his eye on his own step daughter?! FFS, there are millions of women out there, go find one you didn't help raise.
Creepy, yes. But grief is a crazy thing. I actually feel bad for the old chap. He'll probably realize in a few months time how horrifying his behavior was.
Also, am I missing something? Is Quebec the Alabama of Canada?