I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
i'm pretty sure that she's proud of the mother i've been to the girls.
although i know she's not a big fan of my SAHM status. she's always sending me suggestions for things she thinks i can do at home. i love her, but geez mom, cut it out.
Yes and no, I guess? They have always been proud of my accomplishments, but we've had some issues the past couple of years so they might have changed their tunes. My mom more so than my dad.
Yep. Always have been, but they have been telling me a lot lately because of how I am handling the divorce. They are more proud of me than I am of myself for sure lol
yes. but not only for the things that look best on paper (you know, standard accomplishment stuff). which makes me even happier.
back in the day, my grandparents were the proudest of me for losing 30 lbs (which, they didn't know, i'd gained when i'd had some seriously fucked up ptsd). seriously. now THAT will fuck with your head a bit. i almost started eating revenge twinkies.
Yes, now. My Mom and Dad both tell me frequently how proud they are of the way my life is shaping up. I appreciate it, but I also don't need it. They never told me they were proud of me while I was growing up - conversely, nothing was ever good enough - so I learned early on to do what makes me happy and be proud of myself. It's still nice of them, though!
Eta: H's parents, specifically Dad, have only started telling him they're proud of him within the last couple of years also. This makes me incredibly happy (I actually cried on the way home after the first time FIL said it to him, because it was the first time in H's life and, in my opinion, there's so much to be proud of about him), because I know how much it means to him to hear it and how much it hurt that FIL would never say it before.
Post by leancuisine on Jul 9, 2013 13:46:05 GMT -5
Yes. My dad especially - he tells me often when I see him. My three older siblings didn't even finish high school. I went to college and am finishing up grad school. They like my husband. I am financially independent from them. They never really set any crazy expectations, but I think they are proud of my life choices and that I have made relatively good decisions I've made to become a responsible adult. I have my shit together, and they are happy that I am happy.
yes. but not only for the things that look best on paper (you know, standard accomplishment stuff). which makes me even happier.
back in the day, my grandparents were the proudest of me for losing 30 lbs (which, they didn't know, i'd gained when i'd had some seriously fucked up ptsd). seriously. now THAT will fuck with your head a bit. i almost started eating revenge twinkies.
yeah, i know.
don't worry. i didn't eat revenge twinkies. i got all pissed off like "i GRADUATED from a great LAW SCHOOL and you're still talking about the relative size of my ASS?!?!?" and then took the generous check they'd given me for my wedding and used it for part of a down payment on a condo they'd have hated. so there. lol. they weren't all bad, they were just unnaturally focused on the superficial w/r/t me, perhaps because i didn't care as much as they thought i should (generational? who knows.).
Not at the (unemployed) moment I don't think. I also don't think my dad ever really knew how well I did at my job and what my position was. H's parents are very proud of both of us all the time and tell us so.
Nope. They say that they are, but I know better. I got married young (to a guy they hated all along) and had kids while in school. My mom is a terrible liar. I can see the disappointment in her eyes when she talks about what "could have been" if the boys hadn't come along.
Also, my boys are super active and basically the antitheses of my sister and me as kids. They think I'm a terrible parent because I don't have kids who love to sit and read books.