Are your parents proud of you?

[mrsgoontz]

Yes, both of my parents are very proud of me. Even though I am not close with my dad he still tells me on occasion. My mom tells me all the time.

[Deleted]

Yeah.

[Deleted]

I think so. I hope so.

They tell me that they are proud of me. I know that my dad has been disappointed in some of my choices in life, like getting married, but he does tell me that he's proud of me overall. My mom has always been my biggest cheerleader in life, unconditionally.

[Deleted]

What about you, @misoangry ?

[MrsStark]

Their pride is a really recent development. I used to be the awful black sheep. Then all my cousins and my brother became fuck ups and now I'm the pride and joy of the family.

Yeah, it's super messed up. I don't think about it much.

[Deleted]

I think that they are. I think they are disappointed in some of my decisions (who I decided to marry) but I think otherwise they are generally proud.

[sugarbear]

Recently, yes.
But my dad did not approve of my first job out of college and let me know, unequivocally, all the time. It sucked.
I've since left that career path, became a teacher, married, and had kids. He's proud of me now... I think.

[simplyinpenguin]

My mom hardly tells me she's proud of me, but we have a great relationship. With my dad, it's "I'm proud of you buuuut..." He's essentially proud of me for existing but he's not proud of my choices and decisions (mostly the "no kids" decision). He doesn't like having his work cronies brag about their kids, whereas he feels he has nothing special to share about me.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

My mom is, my dad can be a dick and has had a severe personality change over the years. He used to tell us he loved us and was proud of us all the time. Now, he barely smiles and is never encouraging.

I was with friends that I've had for over 25 years this weekend and was brought to tears when one friend was telling me how her mom was bragging about me to some mutual friends about the person I've become. It was nice to hear that she thought highly of me and my parenting skills. She always called me her favorite and it was a running joke all through school, but knowing she really does love me means a lot.

[azurely]

Yes, they both talk about how proud they are of me (and H) and my brother often, and how blessed they feel to have us as kids.

My parents have always been very encouraging and loved us no matter what. I hope I can be the same way as a parent someday. I think it's SO important for kids (even as adults) to know that someone is proud of them and loves them unconditionally. I tell my students all the time how proud I am of them for trying so hard, persevering through a task, showing kindness or compassion to someone else, standing up for themselves, etc. My students come from pretty rough places, and aren't used to being praised for doing good things. I have had several kids break down in tears after I tell them I'm proud of them or praise them. It breaks my heart. Every kid deserves love and praise.

[Deleted]

They are. But, I think they're more proud of my sister and what she's accomplished vs. what I've done. But, maybe I'm projecting lol

[flex]

Absolutely. Both of them are--I'm the most responsible out of the three of their daughters.

[rupertpenny]

My dad is. My mom probably is, but I also think she just expected me to not be a fuck up, so not being a fuck up isn't necessarily an achievement to be proud of.

My FIL tells me he is proud of me a lot, which gets kind of awkward.

[Deleted]

Eh, I assume so. I think mainly because they had tragically low expectations, which really worked in my favor.

Fuck yeah!

[luckyval]

Yes and they have told me as much, which I very much appreciate.

When my sister quit school, they both hung their hopes on me. Then I quit school and they both went ape shit.

Then I went back and figured myself out (for the most part, lol).

I think I surprised the hell out of them. I had a rough adolescence, I'm sure there were moments where they thought I'd go postal or be living under a bridge based on my 15-19 yo self.

[TemperanceBrennan]

My mom always told me she was proud of me (quite frequently). I know she was proud of all of us, each for different things, but for all of our accomplishments. She made sure to always tell us she loved us and that she was proud of us. Her parents didn't do that for her, so she wanted us to know/feel she loved us and was proud of us. She knew how important it was.

She also helped us learn how to be proud of ourselves. I think that is important too.

I think if she was still alive, she would be proud of all of us and tell us. My mom was pretty awesome.


I have no idea if my dad is proud of me or not. Even if he was, I am pretty sure it would be conditional. I choose not to have him in my life anymore, for many reasons, so if he is proud of me or not is irrelevant.

[Chib]

I don't know? They've never gone out of their way to tell me they are. My dad brags more about his grandchildren, nieces, and nephews more than his children but ONE, my half brother. My mother was never one to praise her children. I've gotten used it.

[Dusky]

I'm really not sure if my dad is or not, but my mother definitely is.

[sineadorebellion]

Not in the least. They're not bad people. But the worst part is when they say "Sinead, you need to talk to your sister/brother about the decisions they're making so you know... they don't make the mistakes you did." :/ Meaning, get married young, have kids, and being a SAHM. It's not particularly something they agree with.

[fuckyourcouch]

sometimes i think they are too proud. my grandpa was always brimming with pride (like, he would tear up) about me and i will miss that about him.
my parents frequently express that they are proud of me in almost every respect. it means a lot.

[jigsy]

Yes, I think so. Though I don't think they understand just how hard I've worked for where I am. They are blue collar folks, and they don't see how the work I do is all that difficult. I think they wish I'd be more family oriented.

Miso-I'll just say that one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me is when you have me props for how I was doing school and work and shit. I really appreciated that...just so you know.

[snickers]

I hope so--they tell me they are all of the time, but in comparison to my sister I look pretty good lol.

[bigang]

My dad is and tells me often. I have no idea if my mom is or not. You'd have to hold her over fire before she'd ever pay me any sort of compliment about my hair or outfit, let alone my life and accomplishments.

[wowhead]

SS? My mother just told me for the first time a few years ago that she's proud of me. My father and his family basically think I'm a piece of shit although they have no idea what has happened with me or my life in the past 20 years. When my half sister wanted to get to know me, they wouldn't give her any information and told her that it wouldn't be a good idea.

[whitemerlot]

I don't think so.

[mellimel19]

Not particularly and my mom would certainly never tell me if she was. My mom is super judgmental and has very high expectations. She also doesn't believe in being proud of a job well done or patting someone on the back. She thinks you should just do what you're supposed to in life and not expect any accolades. When I would come home with a 97 on a test, her response would be, "why isn't it 100?" She thinks I'm stuck in a dead end job (I have no idea why she thinks this and she can't articulate why she thinks this, she just does), and told me when I first started dating DH that my deceased father would be very disappointed to see that I ended up with someone who had a blue collar job. That was a really hurtful low blow, and I have no idea why she would think that because my father drove a truck for a living.

Thankfully I had a kickass older sister who made up for it by always being super supportive and telling me how proud she was of me.

[Moe]

It wasn't the question, but I'm proud of you

[stephm0188]

No.

[ijack]

Jul 9, 2013 13:41:46 GMT -5 tators said:

Miso, this is something you bring up a lot.


I just want you to know I think you are brillant, have a funny/weird sense of humor, and are  gorgeous and intelligent. I also think you really care about people and to be honest if I had a daughter like you I would be so damn proud I could burst. Sorry if this overstepped some internet boundries or something.

Ditto. I know that they seem to be more proud of your bro, but screw them. You are so successful and have made an amazing life for yourself and its really their loss for not seeing it. 

[sporky]

No. My mother believes I am wasting my intelligence and education by working the field of education. She's a firm believer in the whole "those who can, do and those who can't, teach" mentality. She has told many people that my biggest success in life has been marrying a man who can pay the bills.... but my mom is effed up anyway.