Is your husband a feminist?

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[ElizabethBennet]

Oh yes, he is.

He has become even more so since D was born. I really love it about him.

[MWOS]

I don't even have a husband yet but the one I am planning on having is a total feminist.

He asked me the other day if men were allowed to participate in Slut Walks because he'd like to support that

[MWOS]

you see what I did there, kevin arnold?

[gretchenindisguise]

Yup.

I even drive the car and am breadwinner of the family.

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[Deleted]

Yes in many ways but I agree w pp that there are some social "traps" he has trouble navigating. He is thoughtful once i point stuff out though so he isnt an asshole about it.

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[Jalapeñomel]

Yes very much so.

[meggers5]

I don't have a husband (lol) but BF is not, I'd say.

He fully supports equality for women, right to choose, sexual assault is disgusting etc, but he has no idea of issues outside of the obvious.

So I guess he kind of is a feminist lol, but would never classify himself as such or ever think in a million years to participate in a slut walk.

Given his culture he is very progressive, he just knows about issues that are the tip of the iceberg.

I don't think I explained that well at all lol. I'm tired.

[angelaa73]

hahah. no way.

[lime]

Yes, he is.

I was so anti-marriage in my teens and 20s, because I always felt that women got the short end of the stick in relationships. (Anyone that knew me during that time is absolutely stunned that I ended up getting married.)

H doesn't believe in traditional gender roles; we've gone back and forth quite a few times on who makes more, whose career is worth making sacrifices for, etc. I wouldn't have married anyone that didn't feel this way.

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Aug 7, 2013 21:20:35 GMT -5 @sbonkers said:

Well it came up when we were talking about the Nerdist podcast. I can take it or leave it generally because I don't like their interviewing style but I brought up that out of the last 50 guests they had, only 5 were female.

He was arguing that geek culture is predominantly male, so how do I expect them to equally represent females. I said that there are much higher proportions than 10% cool women to cool men in the industry.

Lets be clear though, our relationship is 100% equal and he treats all women as equals. He stumbles on some of the more 'academic' issues.



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He needs to follow John Scalzi & Wil Wheaton on Twitter and read their blogs. They're my geek equality heroes.

[joshlyman]

XH is/was, and any guy I date would have to be. I honestly don't think I would be able to be in a relationship with anyone who wasn't.

[joshlyman]

Aug 7, 2013 21:26:58 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Aug 7, 2013 21:20:35 GMT -5 @sbonkers said:

Well it came up when we were talking about the Nerdist podcast. I can take it or leave it generally because I don't like their interviewing style but I brought up that out of the last 50 guests they had, only 5 were female.

He was arguing that geek culture is predominantly male, so how do I expect them to equally represent females. I said that there are much higher proportions than 10% cool women to cool men in the industry.

Lets be clear though, our relationship is 100% equal and he treats all women as equals. He stumbles on some of the more 'academic' issues.



Edited for clarity 

He needs to follow John Scalzi & Wil Wheaton on Twitter and read their blogs. They're my geek equality heroes.

YES

[W.T.Faulkner]

Aug 7, 2013 21:12:25 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

I do t even HAVE a feminist husband.

(MWOS can't say this for much longer, so I'm stealing it!)

Me and you, Kev, me and you.

[Deleted]

My husband very much is.

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Aug 7, 2013 21:30:35 GMT -5 joshlyman said:

Aug 7, 2013 21:26:58 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

He needs to follow John Scalzi & Wil Wheaton on Twitter and read their blogs. They're my geek equality heroes.

YES

examples: whatever.scalzi.com/2013/04/13/reader-request-week-2013-9-women-and-geekdom/

thinkprogress.org/alyssa/2013/07/03/2251651/novelist-john-scalzi-says-he-wont-attend-conventions-without-strong-sexual-harassment-policies/

[Jermys]

Aug 7, 2013 21:12:31 GMT -5 MWOS said:

I don't even have a husband yet but the one I am planning on having is a total feminist.

He asked me the other day if men were allowed to participate in Slut Walks because he'd like to support that

Have I told you lately how much I love BFw/oS?  He's the fucking bomb.  I'll Slut Walk with him.  And not in a dirty way.

[Jermys]

And yes, my husband is a feminist. And if he wasn't, his four sisters would kick his ass.

[shoeless]

No, he is not. He has a line (which I disagree with)... ie: he dislikes woman broadcasting football. It has been a source of argument for us, but, he's always backed me in our male dominated field (engineering).

[jennysmitten]

For the most part. He said he identifies as a personist, lol.

[papie]

No.

[papie]

Really people being a feminist is not just not being an asshole, lol. H views women and men as equal and all that crap. But he doesn't go out of his way to make things better for women, you know? And he wouldn't want to take half the one year parental leave like one of our friends did.

[MWOS]

Aug 7, 2013 21:34:44 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Aug 7, 2013 21:12:31 GMT -5 MWOS said:

I don't even have a husband yet but the one I am planning on having is a total feminist.

He asked me the other day if men were allowed to participate in Slut Walks because he'd like to support that

Have I told you lately how much I love BFw/oS?  He's the fucking bomb.  I'll Slut Walk with him.  And not in a dirty way.

I'm sure we'll have lively discussion this weekend!

[Deleted]

No. He's all about equality among the sexes, but that also means no legs up for the previously downtrodden one.

And, he absolutely worships his mother and tells me constantly that he could never do what I do.

[game blouses]

He's a self-identified feminist. He really works hard to divide things up evenly at home, even though his job is very time consuming. I love him.

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Aug 7, 2013 22:06:37 GMT -5 toledo said:

Aug 7, 2013 21:47:33 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

No. He's all about equality among the sexes, but that also means no legs up for the previously downtrodden one.

And, he absolutely worships his mother and tells me constantly that he could never do what I do.

It's anti-feminist to worship your mother and admire your wife?

No. I was just saying he's not an asshole, despite not being a true feminist.

[MWOS]

We're watching Downton Abbey, together, as we speak

Feminist. Lulz.

[fuckyourcouch]

I wouldn't say full on feminist. He's not out rallying or anything. But he definitely supports women's rights, gets mad about the same things I do, is proud I earn more, etc.