Really people being a feminist is not just not being an asshole, lol. H views women and men as equal and all that crap. But he doesn't go out of his way to make things better for women, you know? And he wouldn't want to take half the one year parental leave like one of our friends did.
I am rolling my eyes at people getting up in arms over the meaning of the word feminist.
Believing that women should have equal rights and not subscribing to traditional gender roles go hand in hand.
IMO, someone who supports "the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes," but does nothing around the house is NOT a feminist. My economic and social equality is dependent upon H also doing things around the house.
well, duh, but simply changing diapers does not a feminist make.
Well, right. But since he hasn't marched in any parades or joined any feminist leagues, they're easier examples of supporting equal rights than simply saying, "My H believes that women can do the same things men do."
He votes for candidates that support women; he's moved to a state he didn't want to move to for my job; he supports equal pay and equal rights and is as pissed as I am that this is not the case in our country or in many other places around the globe.
Household tasks are just one area where a man can show he's a feminist and happened to be particularly on my mind because this morning's diaper was a bad one and I didn't want to do it.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Aug 8, 2013 9:40:33 GMT -5
I think if I asked my husband "Husband, are you a feminist?" He would probably respond, "Um, I'm not female?" Lol. My husband does not care who someone is, what their gender is, their ethnicity, race, etc. He cares if they are good people who put their best efforts into what they do.
Nope. DH absolutely believes in equality for women and treats me as his equal. However, he doesn't see that certain inequalities still exist. When I point things out to him, he will respond "yeah that sucks. We should do something about that" but he never would see it on his own.
Really people being a feminist is not just not being an asshole, lol. H views women and men as equal and all that crap. But he doesn't go out of his way to make things better for women, you know? And he wouldn't want to take half the one year parental leave like one of our friends did.
Do you know me? I don't actually think it is crap, lol.
My husband doesn't cook and clean and do laundry and the like because he's a feminist. He does those things because he's a grown up member of this family who lives in this house. That's kinda a given, not a tribute to all of womanhood.
He's feminist because he believes men and women are inherently equal and should be treated as such. He's not out burning bras or anything, which I think is a misguided perception of feminism that sometimes leads people to be scared to identify with it. He's just a guy who thinks his wife can and should be able to have any opportunity he does.
Doing the dishes doesn't make him anything but the guy whose turn it is to do the dishes.
I wouldn't say full on feminist. He's not out rallying or anything. But he definitely supports women's rights, gets mad about the same things I do, is proud I earn more, etc.
Sure sounds like a feminist...
well hell, maybe he is? sometimes he is a little clueless about things so i wasn't ready to fully commit the label to him. lol
I will also say that both H and I rolled our eyes at all the rapey talk about Blurred Lines.
This might be flameful but I cannot understand more than one line of that song. All I can gather is "you know you want it" and something about a good girl with some "hey hey" thrown in. I guess I could Google the lyrics if I wanted to get all angry about it though.
He's an engineer. He talks about how the female engineers he knows are just as good the male engineers, yet the ration of men to women in engineering classes is awful (in a class of 30, the average was 1-2). He blames this on society. He thinks that if girls were encouraged to go into technical fields like boys are, more would be engineers. For example, in the honors program at his high school the boys were highly encouraged to take AP calculus and AP science courses, while the girls weren't. They could if they wanted to, but there was more of a push towards English and history AP classes. That means that by the time they get to college, they were already behind the boys.
He supports equal rights and equal pay for women, and he thinks rape culture is wrong.
But at the same time, he thinks that a woman being a stay at home mom and staying home after the kids are grown is fine, but he thinks men should only be stay at home dads until the kids are in school. So definitely not equal expectations for parents. His mom is very not feminist, and some of her ideals have stuck.
Post by mirandahobbes on Aug 8, 2013 13:30:29 GMT -5
He's not trying to change the word semester to ovester, but he often is apologizing for his gender. He is supportive of women choosing what they want, whatever that may be. And he definitely does not support rape culture. I could absolutely not be with someone who would support the "boys will be boys" attitude.