I am REALLY not good at reading with LO. I know everyone says it helps his language development but he just takes the book out of my hands, shakes it a lot, puts it on the ground and smacks it a few times and then puts it in his mouth to chew on. I can't actually READ it. So I don't read to him very much. Sometimes I feel bad but the only solution I can come up with is to memorize the books and just recite it while he tries to destroy the book.
Can't you just talk to him a lot? I mean, he wouldn't know the difference if you were just randomly saying words vs reading, right?
I used to read whatever I was reading anyway out loud to DD while she played. Felt like a good mom while also entertaining myself.
Post by karmasabiotch on Aug 28, 2013 20:20:56 GMT -5
I'm crying already about Kindergarten starting next week. I'm work full time so I'll see J just as much as I always have.
I feel like my baby is gone. I know 5 is still do little but its all going do fast and since he's my only child I'm really struggling. H doesn't understand it at all. My Sister doesn't seem to either but she gets to be a room mom since she lives off alimony (yeah, I' m envious she doesn't have money worries and is in no hurry to get a job).
I know 5 years from now I'll think back and remember that 5 was so young so I should enjoy the time now.
I guess the real issue is I need to find some happiness outside of being a Mom. I'm that person who lives her life for her child. I know that isn't a good person to be.
Well this sucks. No, I did not make anything up. I can't speak to what someone has in their sig, but she did go out of her way to help. In fact, she went to the shelter to verify his condition. They wouldn't let her see him and he was put down tonight.
Also, my textbook got all defensive and EVEN THOUGH THE CONSERVATIVES THINK STUDENTS SHOULD BE FREE TO LEARN ABOUT RELIGION IN SCIENCE, I JUST BET THEY'D FLIP UPSIDE DOWN OVER A BIBLE IF TEACHERS TRIED TO TEACH ABOUT HINDUISM, and I was very uncomfortable, because YES, YES, OH GOD, YES, and also THAT'S A BIT UNPROFESSIONAL FOR A SCIENCE TEXTBOOK TO SAY.
I have arranged my thoughts and posted, and am going through some of my classmates' posts.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Also, my textbook got all defensive and EVEN THOUGH THE CONSERVATIVES THINK STUDENTS SHOULD BE FREE TO LEARN ABOUT RELIGION IN SCIENCE, I JUST BET THEY'D FLIP UPSIDE DOWN OVER A BIBLE IF TEACHERS TRIED TO TEACH ABOUT HINDUISM, and I was very uncomfortable, because YES, YES, OH GOD, YES, and also THAT'S A BIT UNPROFESSIONAL FOR A SCIENCE TEXTBOOK TO SAY.
I have arranged my thoughts and posted, and am going through some of my classmates' posts.
I give up on the Earth.
This is how I feel a good portion of the time in my online classes. Someone posted an introduction post this term and talked about how this was their last term before graduating and whatnot... And their grammar, punctuation, and spelling were all atrocious. How are you about to graduate from college while you're still unable to put together a complete sentence correctly? For goodness sake.
I want to know what sonrisa thinks is mud around here.
My guess was the dee-oh-gee thread?
eta-the one that started yesterday
toledo: I wasn't terribly subtle about it. When I pointed out her story had some holes, she deleted the OP and started today's deus ex machina post that eliminated all need for intervention or action on her part, while still allowing for plenty of sympathy for her and derision of her ex and his wife. Quite convenient. But someone is checking on the dog in person. So who knows.
I am REALLY not good at reading with LO. I know everyone says it helps his language development but he just takes the book out of my hands, shakes it a lot, puts it on the ground and smacks it a few times and then puts it in his mouth to chew on. I can't actually READ it. So I don't read to him very much. Sometimes I feel bad but the only solution I can come up with is to memorize the books and just recite it while he tries to destroy the book.
Memorization and recitation are great options. They also say hearing, then learning, songs and nursery rhymes are good for literacy. So you could sing and recite those too.
I used to talk to my kids about the Nixon Watergate hearings when they were too small to know what it was we were 'reading'. I put a lot of emphasis on certain words, like HALDEMAN, and they'd get all big eyed.
Lol. We used to talk to Matilda about the election a lot when she was a baby. H inculcated a deep dislike for Sarah Palin.
lol. My kid would answer the question "who is the president?" before she'd tell her name (she knew what it was, but wouldn't answer the question). But we'd kept her up watching election returns. She'd jump up and down at the name Elizabeth Warren for days.
I'm crying already about Kindergarten starting next week. I'm work full time so I'll see J just as much as I always have.
I feel like my baby is gone. I know 5 is still do little but its all going do fast and since he's my only child I'm really struggling. H doesn't understand it at all. My Sister doesn't seem to either but she gets to be a room mom since she lives off alimony (yeah, I' m envious she doesn't have money worries and is in no hurry to get a job).
I know 5 years from now I'll think back and remember that 5 was so young so I should enjoy the time now.
I guess the real issue is I need to find some happiness outside of being a Mom. I'm that person who lives her life for her child. I know that isn't a good person to be.
You are a really fine person, Karma, and I see you put your feelings down a lot. There's nothing wrong with living for your kid for a while; that's a perfectly fine thing to do. The fact that nobody else (meaning your sister and dh, who are not exactly shining examples) 'seems' to understand how you feel doesn't invalidate your feelings. Love your kid; wallow in that love. He's only got one mother, and you've only got the one kid. No one in the world will ever love that kid like you do, fill up his bank. This bit of "this is where I fnd happiness but it's a bad kind of happiness, omg" has to stop. You love your kid, like nothing ever; enjoy that. And don't worry. I looked at my 20 year old today, and saw my little boy for a second, looking at me out of that grown man's face. Just a flash! but he's still there. Your baby will always be your baby, even when he's an old, old man.
Thank you for understanding. That means more to me than I could ever tell you, especially coming from you who I think is the very definition of what kind of Mom I hope to be.
toledo: I wasn't terribly subtle about it. When I pointed out her story had some holes, she deleted the OP and started today's deus ex machina post that eliminated all need for intervention or action on her part, while still allowing for plenty of sympathy for her and derision of her ex and his wife. Quite convenient. But someone is checking on the dog in person. So who knows.
I deleted the original post so people would stop responding to it. I did what I could do being 4 hours away and having no involvement with this dog for the past 6 years. I don't know if you're trying to be an asshole, but you're succeeding.
If you have shared openly and honestly here, I apologize.
A four hour drive each way means committing a single day of your weekend if you were to collect the dog. Instead, you were asking internet strangers to go at pick him up (or even care for him for life). Your outrage at others and expectations of others seemed to greatly outweigh the amount of care and effort you are willing to invest now or have been willing to invest in the past.
Hell, I've driven more than that in the past three days just to ease the burden of grief on my MIL and DH's aunt. I'm not even the person providing the bulk of their comfort nor is this week one of the more difficult ones. But maybe I should have just asked fields or berbles to check in on them for me.
I'm crying already about Kindergarten starting next week. I'm work full time so I'll see J just as much as I always have.
I feel like my baby is gone. I know 5 is still do little but its all going do fast and since he's my only child I'm really struggling. H doesn't understand it at all. My Sister doesn't seem to either but she gets to be a room mom since she lives off alimony (yeah, I' m envious she doesn't have money worries and is in no hurry to get a job).
I know 5 years from now I'll think back and remember that 5 was so young so I should enjoy the time now.
I guess the real issue is I need to find some happiness outside of being a Mom. I'm that person who lives her life for her child. I know that isn't a good person to be.
You are a really fine person, Karma, and I see you put your feelings down a lot. There's nothing wrong with living for your kid for a while; that's a perfectly fine thing to do. The fact that nobody else (meaning your sister and dh, who are not exactly shining examples) 'seems' to understand how you feel doesn't invalidate your feelings. Love your kid; wallow in that love. He's only got one mother, and you've only got the one kid. No one in the world will ever love that kid like you do, fill up his bank. This bit of "this is where I fnd happiness but it's a bad kind of happiness, omg" has to stop. You love your kid, like nothing ever; enjoy that. And don't worry. I looked at my 20 year old today, and saw my little boy for a second, looking at me out of that grown man's face. Just a flash! but he's still there. Your baby will always be your baby, even when he's an old, old man.