They *could* have written that in other places. This is true, midnight. But they wrote it in the obit. THEY get to decide how to cope with THEIR abuse. Not you. Full.Fucking.Stop.
Post by jojoandleo on Sept 11, 2013 15:51:51 GMT -5
I'm just pissed that this was 7 pages and it turned out you are just kind of dumb and don't know what an obituary is. Had you had a REAL explanation for your "inappropriate" feelings, this could have been a much better thread.
Post by Captain Serious on Sept 11, 2013 16:09:56 GMT -5
I didn't read this whole thing, but I hope there's nothing wrong with anger, as I've been living with lots of it since July, when the school district started fucking with us. The only thing I can see that's bad about it is, without a constructive outlet, it can eat you up, lead to very unhealthy habits, and destroy you emotionally from the inside.
At the risk of being summarily executed, can I just say that I think it's really interesting that a discussion about anger and whether or not it's productive has devolved into four pages' worth of suppressed rage and hulk-smashing and people getting, well ... incredibly angry?
So what? A lot of people are justifiably offended by things that have been said in this thread. This comment is pretty judgmental and condescending.
No, not out of respect. The abuser does not deserve respect. However, if they are using that for a message to those that have been abused, why not just make an article about it. More people will see the article than the obit. They can also talk about it during their talks to help those who have been abused. There are better and more effective ways to release that anger rather than putting it in some person's obit.
I actually think doing it via obit vs. article will reach more people. Doing it via obit is more shocking and attention getting. A random article about another abusive parent could likely get lost in all the other stories of abuse that are out there.
Sorry, I'm responding before reading the rest of responses, but ABSOLUTELY!! Unfortunately, this is especially true (bigger obit audience than article) among the senior population, whom I think (& very much hope) may be the most affected/ hit the closest to home.
Can I just pop in and say that the asshole awful mother mandating in her will that the obituary she wrote gets to be run is making me angry?
She lived with us. It was awful. She used to line us up in the backyard as kids and belittle us. Mom would have us clean our rooms and my grandma would wander by and come into our rooms and push everything back on the floor and tell us how wrong we were doing it. She made me teach her, at 80 years old, how to use a computer and she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to do something. As a 10-14 year old, that sucked and frustrated me.
And my Mom and Dad did the best they could do provide us a buffer but my Mom took the most of it and since I was my Mom's shadow, I got a lot of it as well.
Can I just pop in and say that the asshole awful mother mandating in her will that the obituary she wrote gets to be run is making me angry?
She lived with us. It was awful. She used to line us up in the backyard as kids and belittle us. Mom would have us clean our rooms and my grandma would wander by and come into our rooms and push everything back on the floor and tell us how wrong we were doing it. She made me teach her, at 80 years old, how to use a computer and she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to do something. As a 10-14 year old, that sucked and frustrated me.
And my Mom and Dad did the best they could do provide us a buffer but my Mom took the most of it and since I was my Mom's shadow, I got a lot of it as well.
End rant. Sorry.
That is awful. I am so, so sorry you and your family had to live through that.
Can I just pop in and say that the asshole awful mother mandating in her will that the obituary she wrote gets to be run is making me angry?
She lived with us. It was awful. She used to line us up in the backyard as kids and belittle us. Mom would have us clean our rooms and my grandma would wander by and come into our rooms and push everything back on the floor and tell us how wrong we were doing it. She made me teach her, at 80 years old, how to use a computer and she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to do something. As a 10-14 year old, that sucked and frustrated me.
And my Mom and Dad did the best they could do provide us a buffer but my Mom took the most of it and since I was my Mom's shadow, I got a lot of it as well.
End rant. Sorry.
If you want to start a collection, I'll pitch in to have an accurate obit published every year on the anniversary of her death memorializing what a hosebeast she was.
Last Edit: Sept 11, 2013 17:01:13 GMT -5 by pedanticwench
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
She lived with us. It was awful. She used to line us up in the backyard as kids and belittle us. Mom would have us clean our rooms and my grandma would wander by and come into our rooms and push everything back on the floor and tell us how wrong we were doing it. She made me teach her, at 80 years old, how to use a computer and she'd yell at me when I didn't know how to do something. As a 10-14 year old, that sucked and frustrated me.
And my Mom and Dad did the best they could do provide us a buffer but my Mom took the most of it and since I was my Mom's shadow, I got a lot of it as well.
End rant. Sorry.
If you want to start a collection, I'll pitch in to have an accurate obit published every year on the anniversary of her death memorializing what a hosebeast she was.
I don't necessarily think that anger has to be divorced from all reason. The angriest moment of my life had a hell of a lot of reason.
When I was 17, I called the cops on my dad when I had had enough of the abuse. My thanks for not staying silent was a meeting with a CPS worker that proceeded to tell me that I was just having a temper tantrum and that I was a spoiled brat who was wasting her time. I had SO much fucking RAGE at this woman. But I took that rage and I'm now in social work as a therapist for maltreated children to make sure that bullshit doesn't happen to anyone in my care. Harnessing my anger is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I hate that you were abused That CPS woman was a douche and I hope...well nevermind what I hope about her I love how you channelled your "unreasonable" anger All of the children in your care are damn lucky to have you in their lives