Truly flameworthy opinions, please

[glitzy07]

Feb 20, 2014 13:46:44 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

I am trying not to use any sick or annual leave so I can stockpile it for a future maternity leave. But I have a feeling one night next week is going to turn crazy and result in me calling in sick from being hungover. Proof that maybe I'm not ready to need a maternity leave anyway. LOL.

My heaviest drinking was right before and during the time that we were TTC.  You're good.  

[wanderlustfoodie]

Feb 20, 2014 13:51:54 GMT -5 genet313 said:

This is probably more of a flameworthy confession, but I've never been on instagram (that i know of, at least.  unless somebody here posted a link or something).  

and all of these posts about anorexia and weird not-real doll babies are affirming the fact that i definitely don't need to go there.  what the actual fuck.  dolls as real babies?

Me, either. I don't even think I fully understand what it is.  Between this and not knowing most of the songs on American Idol nowadays because they are so current, I feel really out of the mainsteam loop.  I'm OK with that.

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Feb 20, 2014 13:44:48 GMT -5 sxia said:

Feb 20, 2014 11:21:11 GMT -5 gravytrain225 said:

Serious question--I have a dead baby in my signature. Does it bother anyone?

I also have a fb friend who posts pictures of her baby after he died. It makes me super uncomfortable. She posts them almost weekly.

Had he passed in any of those photos? Doesn't make me uncomfortable. (As for those people grieving, I bet they're really uncomfortable too.)
When my friend posts about his baby who died, or the picture of his headstone with a little teddy bear on it, it makes me reassess my priorities when my son is driving me insane.
My aunt/uncle have a stick figure family on their car. One of the figures is an angel for my cousin who passed when she was 15 from leukemia. I kind of get pissed off in honor of those people who lost someone. "My sorrow makes you uncomfortable? Oh, let me fix that for you."

But what about people who find those photos uncomfortable precisely because they, too, have experienced a loss? My mom had a stillborn baby. She also lost an 8 yo child to cancer. She absolutely cannot stand things like a picture of a dead baby on FB because it brings back so much pain for her. I agree that everyone should be able to grieve in their own way, but I wouldn't leap to the conclusion that those who are uncomfortable with others' grief haven't experienced loss and just don't get it. Sometimes those who are uncomfortable have also lost someone and are equally deserving of our compassion.

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Some of the people in the reborn babies hashtag have birth dates and stuff, and post pictures of them like they're real babies.

WHUT?

Another rabbit hole, thanks MM.

[msmerymac]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

Because it's boring as fuck and therefore my brain doesn't care to remember it? 

Sorry, rbp

[msmerymac]

Feb 20, 2014 12:55:14 GMT -5 heliocentric said:

Not an opinion, but a confession.

I went to IKEA on Sunday to buy shelving for the basement and curtains for the LR. I had all the curtains in one of the IKEA giant reusable bags. The bag was on top of the shelf stuff. When I was loading stuff into the car I found two extra shelf pieces under the bag. I wanted them, but I forgot about them and I think the cashier missed them because the quick math in my head didn't add up. I felt bad that I might not have paid for them, but really didn't want to go back inside. So, I never looked at my receipt to confirm. If it was confirmed I didn't pay I'd feel guilty, but without confirmation I didn't feel so bad.

I still haven't looked at the receipt. So, I might've left IKEA without paying for two shelves (~$22 total). Or not. I'm not sure.

I've left ikea twice with things I wasn't charged for. My theory is that it was on the cart, so... Also, I didn't discover it either time until after I got home. 

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 20, 2014 14:02:26 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Feb 20, 2014 13:37:18 GMT -5 undecidedowl said:

I feel like 12 pages in is a good place to put my flameful. I hate pets, especially ones with fur. I don't mind animals in general, as long as I don't have to touch them. But ugh, no pets.

I'm not a pet person either. I think it's good that I am honest about this, so I don't wind up a sub par pet owner by default. 

I don't understand people who don't want pets, but I respect that they recognize they don't want pets. Really, it's not much different from kids - it's not flammable to not want or like them, but it sure as hell is flammable to have them and not give them the love and attention they deserve.

xoxo,
Crazy Cat Lady

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Feb 20, 2014 13:59:48 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

How tough is the school you took it at in general? I thought orgo was a bitch. It was the only B I got in college, and I was a science major and took plenty of tough shit (two semesters of calc, differential equations, quantum mechanics, molecular biology, etc.). But I looked at my step-sister's orgo exam when she took it at our state flagship university, and it much, much easier than any of my orgo exams.

It is also possible that you are just an orgo genius, which is cool . Different people are good at different things.

[niq]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

No direct experience, but a classmate of mine who was double neuroscience/computer science and took all the med school prereqs said something similar. He said people approach orgo as brute force memorization, which is what makes it intense. But if you can understand the rules and apply them, it's a lot less work.

I'm sure there are other courses this applies to, but orgo seems to be the highest profile one.

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Feb 20, 2014 14:11:10 GMT -5 @beagle said:

I did really well in O-Chem, but sucked a big nut in Bio.

Hence why I am not a doctor.

I was the opposite. Also not a doctor. Let's brain splice and get that MD.

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 20, 2014 14:27:50 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Feb 20, 2014 14:08:20 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

I don't understand people who don't want pets, but I respect that they recognize they don't want pets. Really, it's not much different from kids - it's not flammable to not want or like them, but it sure as hell is flammable to have them and not give them the love and attention they deserve.

xoxo,
Crazy Cat Lady

Oh this is a given.

For me regarding not wanting pets, it's the additional responsibility for another life as I'm a truly a lazy heifer at heart. I mean, I can't even keep plants.
My kids are different, because I really love  and knew I wanted them (so it make me fight my lazy tendencies), after the infant stage they can tell me exactly what they want and need "I'm hungry. I need to go potty", and they look like Mr.Kirkette or me. 

I can keep cats, but not plants. Then again, plants don't meow if you forget to feed them.

If I forget to feed Fatty before bed, he'll let me know around 4am. JERK. God, he's so cute, though.

[vanillacourage]

Don't complain about how nobody posts anything truly flammable anymore, and then turn around and chastise people who post something you disagree with.

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Feb 20, 2014 10:46:54 GMT -5 mrshandy said:

Having kids made me crave the sit around and do nothing vacation. I used to love the go, go, go vacays and now all I want to do is sit and read a book in front of the pool and drink cocktails for hours on end.

While someone *else* watches your kids for a few hours. That's the best thing about those kinds of hotels. We just got back from Disney and I am totally exhausted.

[lpcats]

Feb 20, 2014 14:29:26 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Feb 20, 2014 14:27:50 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

Oh this is a given.

For me regarding not wanting pets, it's the additional responsibility for another life as I'm a truly a lazy heifer at heart. I mean, I can't even keep plants.
My kids are different, because I really love  and knew I wanted them (so it make me fight my lazy tendencies), after the infant stage they can tell me exactly what they want and need "I'm hungry. I need to go potty", and they look like Mr.Kirkette or me. 

I can keep cats, but not plants. Then again, plants don't meow if you forget to feed them.

If I forget to feed Fatty before bed, he'll let me know around 4am. JERK. God, he's so cute, though.

Yep.  I forgot to set an alarm last night and woke up to a cat meowing and hitting me in the face repeatedly 45 minutes after I usually feed them.  Thanks to him, I made it to work only half an hour late.

[wanderlustfoodie]

Go MM - a 13-pager!

[Mashara]

So I have an MM-related confession. I haven't updated or EVEN LOOKED AT my work 401k in over a year. Evidently it became an anxiety trigger for me, so I just ignore it. I mean, 11% (or is it 12%?) goes in there, and I don't even know where, especially since they switched to a new provider at the beginning of 2013. I'm getting a jumpy heart just thinking about it.

[msmerymac]

Wait, I can't believe people are all "ho hum" about the fact that other people sign cards with their dead child's name. That is WTF-worthy. I will absolutely give a pass to that if you, say, sent a casserole or some flowers when their child passes and they send you a thank you note. But how long does this go on? Like every Christmas for the past 5 years? The hell? When your grandmother dies you don't keep adding her name to cards. I understand when a child dies it's a life cut short, and is tragic unlike an older person dying, but I can't understand someone even thinking to send ANOTHER person a card signed by their deceased baby. That's not expressing your grief, it's pulling other people into your weird grief rabbit hole.

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Feb 20, 2014 13:31:18 GMT -5 wanderlustfoodie said:

Since we're talking about animals, I love animals and feel immense maternal attachment and warm, fuzzy feelings with respect to random animals. As I've previously mentioned, my dream would be to live on a farm in the Hudson Valley with a bunch of animals. On the flipside, I feel none of those warm, fuzzy feelings whenever I'm around my dear friends' children. That said, MH has purported to be ready for a child for over a year now and at a certain point in the not-too-distant future (thanks a lot, health complication) I'm going to have to figure out whether to acquiesce to his polite nagging and join the land of the breeders. I feel somewhat confident I would be a "good" mother, I just don't know if I want to be a mother. I have started "lurking" on the MMM boards just to see if that pushes me one way or the other but so far I'm still decidedly uncertain.

Don't worry. It's really common to only like/be interested in your own children.

[karinothing]

Feb 20, 2014 15:19:29 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Wait, I can't believe people are all "ho hum" about the fact that other people sign cards with their dead child's name. That is WTF-worthy. I will absolutely give a pass to that if you, say, sent a casserole or some flowers when their child passes and they send you a thank you note. But how long does this go on? Like every Christmas for the past 5 years? The hell? When your grandmother dies you don't keep adding her name to cards. I understand when a child dies it's a life cut short, and is tragic unlike an older person dying, but I can't understand someone even thinking to send ANOTHER person a card signed by their deceased baby. That's not expressing your grief, it's pulling other people into your weird grief rabbit hole.

Yeah, I don't get it either. Plus, I guess I don't get the point.

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Feb 20, 2014 15:19:29 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Wait, I can't believe people are all "ho hum" about the fact that other people sign cards with their dead child's name. That is WTF-worthy. I will absolutely give a pass to that if you, say, sent a casserole or some flowers when their child passes and they send you a thank you note. But how long does this go on? Like every Christmas for the past 5 years? The hell? When your grandmother dies you don't keep adding her name to cards. I understand when a child dies it's a life cut short, and is tragic unlike an older person dying, but I can't understand someone even thinking to send ANOTHER person a card signed by their deceased baby. That's not expressing your grief, it's pulling other people into your weird grief rabbit hole.

I agree, except that I don't give a pass for casserole or flowers immediately after death.  The casserole was not for the deceased and the deceased is not capable of thanking you for it.  It is for the survivors.

It is one thing to honor another's memory; quite another to pretend they aren't dead.

[karinothing]

Feb 20, 2014 15:32:14 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

I say ghetto and retard a lot IRL

I'm super ashamed of my car and really think I belong in something like an escalade or range rover

ha ha. What kind of car do you drive?

[lasagnasshole]

Farmer, don't get an Escalade. I automatically assume anyone driving one is an asshole. Because really.

[karinothing]

Feb 20, 2014 15:41:59 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:37:23 GMT -5 karinothing said:

ha ha. What kind of car do you drive?

Kia sorento. I hate it so much

ha ha, I get it. I have a 98 toyota corolla. I don't hate it but it is old and the two back door handles just broke off lol. I think to myself "why the heck do I have this, I should be driving a lexus!" ha

[karinothing]

Feb 20, 2014 15:41:59 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:37:23 GMT -5 karinothing said:

ha ha. What kind of car do you drive?

Kia sorento. I hate it so much

ha ha, I get it. I have a 98 toyota corolla. I don't hate it but it is old and the two back door handles just broke off lol. I think to myself "why the heck do I have this, I should be driving a lexus!" ha

[msmerymac]

Feb 20, 2014 15:26:44 GMT -5 v said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:19:29 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Wait, I can't believe people are all "ho hum" about the fact that other people sign cards with their dead child's name. That is WTF-worthy. I will absolutely give a pass to that if you, say, sent a casserole or some flowers when their child passes and they send you a thank you note. But how long does this go on? Like every Christmas for the past 5 years? The hell? When your grandmother dies you don't keep adding her name to cards. I understand when a child dies it's a life cut short, and is tragic unlike an older person dying, but I can't understand someone even thinking to send ANOTHER person a card signed by their deceased baby. That's not expressing your grief, it's pulling other people into your weird grief rabbit hole.

I agree, except that I don't give a pass for casserole or flowers immediately after death.  The casserole was not for the deceased and the deceased is not capable of thanking you for it.  It is for the survivors.

It is one thing to honor another's memory; quite another to pretend they aren't dead.

It sure as hell isn't something I would do, but I would assume the grief is so fresh that I would give a pass to a lot of things that close to the death. Not to mention, I'm absolutely not the kind of person who sends Christmas cards saying, "With love from Mike, Emma and baby Jones!" with pictures of us pointing to my pregnant belly (in theory, haven't had the opportunity for this yet), but I appear to be in the minority in that one. Again, the baby can't actually send a card in that case. I think I have an appropriate amount of sentimentality, but other people go overboard. 

[msmerymac]

Feb 20, 2014 15:41:59 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:37:23 GMT -5 karinothing said:

ha ha. What kind of car do you drive?

Kia sorento. I hate it so much

What do you hate about it? Because I'm thinking about getting one. But it would be a decided step up from my Saturn. 

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This is in response to @gypsy 's post but I'm too lazy to dig back through and find it to quote.

I don't think everyone on SO is crazy, but I actually have the opposite impression of them - it seems like the general push over there is to wait to date at all until you're 100% confident and have a really full life and have "worked on yourself". It seems like every time I even breathe a word about being in a relationship someone has to be all "OMG you are in a relationship too soon!". I get it, and I think the 1 year thing you mentioned is ideal, but sometimes it comes off as judgy/superior from others and it makes me a little crazy. Not to mention feeds my insecurities/fears. I guess that's my own fault for being so open about my business, but I don't see the point in participating in these forums if I can't be honest and use them to learn about things so... yeah.

Related, I guess my UO/confession is that I totally used to judge people for moving on quickly after a divorce or end of major relationship. I've known a lot of people who have jumped right into something and are all "OMG I've found the ONE!" and I always thought they were nuts/needed to learn to be alone. Now I feel like in a way I've become one of those people, and I guess I "get it". I think what it really comes down to is that everyone is different and while I still think some people I've known DID move on too soon, I get now that that doesn't apply to everyone and that some people really are ready and aren't settling for the next person who happens to cross their path.

Also related and not sure if it even fits here, but I feel some level of guilt that post divorce dating has been such a breeze for me. I know plenty of awesome single girls who have been on tons of shitty dates and not found anyone worth dating long term. I guess I can't say my dating story is "over" because who knows what will happen, but it doesn't seem fair that I went on exactly 3 dates and found someone so awesome. I mean maybe it's karma for all the really unfair bad stuff that happened to me in the past. But I still feel irrationally bad about it!

[kadams767]

Feb 20, 2014 15:40:38 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Farmer, don't get an Escalade. I automatically assume anyone driving one is an asshole. Because really.

I am really glad that I am not the only person that judges someone based on their assholemobile*.

*Not in reference to your personal vehicle, lasagnasshole.

[lasagnasshole]

I also admit that I love making fun of Kias. I have no idea why. I really don't give two shits about cars and have never driven a Kia. But it just seems like an easy car to make fun of.

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 20, 2014 15:51:29 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:40:38 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Farmer, don't get an Escalade. I automatically assume anyone driving one is an asshole. Because really.

I am really glad that I am not the only person that judges someone based on their assholemobile*.

*Not in reference to your personal vehicle, lasagnasshole.

I drive the most adorable little Honda Fit. I don't think anyone has ever judged it as an asshole car. Unless you're behind me on the highway while I try to accelerate. COME ON, HAMSTERPOWER!