Truly flameworthy opinions, please

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Feb 20, 2014 15:50:12 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

This is in response to @gypsy 's post but I'm too lazy to dig back through and find it to quote.

I don't think everyone on SO is crazy, but I actually have the opposite impression of them - it seems like the general push over there is to wait to date at all until you're 100% confident and have a really full life and have "worked on yourself". It seems like every time I even breathe a word about being in a relationship someone has to be all "OMG you are in a relationship too soon!". I get it, and I think the 1 year thing you mentioned is ideal, but sometimes it comes off as judgy/superior from others and it makes me a little crazy. Not to mention feeds my insecurities/fears. I guess that's my own fault for being so open about my business, but I don't see the point in participating in these forums if I can't be honest and use them to learn about things so... yeah.

Related, I guess my UO/confession is that I totally used to judge people for moving on quickly after a divorce or end of major relationship. I've known a lot of people who have jumped right into something and are all "OMG I've found the ONE!" and I always thought they were nuts/needed to learn to be alone. Now I feel like in a way I've become one of those people, and I guess I "get it". I think what it really comes down to is that everyone is different and while I still think some people I've known DID move on too soon, I get now that that doesn't apply to everyone and that some people really are ready and aren't settling for the next person who happens to cross their path.

Also related and not sure if it even fits here, but I feel some level of guilt that post divorce dating has been such a breeze for me. I know plenty of awesome single girls who have been on tons of shitty dates and not found anyone worth dating long term. I guess I can't say my dating story is "over" because who knows what will happen, but it doesn't seem fair that I went on exactly 3 dates and found someone so awesome. I mean maybe it's karma for all the really unfair bad stuff that happened to me in the past. But I still feel irrationally bad about it!

Stop feeling bad, Bucky!

I definitely wasn't talking about you. You are the type who is mindful about dating/the future, and thus, not a worry.

I am talking about the ones who seem to base their eveything on whether or not POF is working out.

I know you would be okay solo if it happened. You can take care of yourself. You are a smart cookie.

And don't feel bad that dating has been breezy. I only dated a couple of guys before my current thing. Sometimes it just happens.

[kadams767]

Feb 20, 2014 15:52:19 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:51:29 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

I am really glad that I am not the only person that judges someone based on their assholemobile*.

*Not in reference to your personal vehicle, lasagnasshole.

I drive the most adorable little Honda Fit. I don't think anyone has ever judged it as an asshole car. Unless you're behind me on the highway while I try to accelerate. COME ON, HAMSTERPOWER!

Oh, I know.  I just wanted to make a fun joke about your car presumably being nicknamed the Assholemobile.  You know, Lasagnasshole, Mr. Asshole, Velicorasshole...

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Feb 20, 2014 15:42:17 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:40:38 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Farmer, don't get an Escalade. I automatically assume anyone driving one is an asshole. Because really.

But I love the gangster edge to it

Get one. They are pimp.

Edit: but seriously, if there was any chance I could parallel park one, I would want one.

If I end up in the married/mom zone, I will totally get a car like this. And call it my whip. HA.

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Feb 20, 2014 15:51:29 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:40:38 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Farmer, don't get an Escalade. I automatically assume anyone driving one is an asshole. Because really.

I am really glad that I am not the only person that judges someone based on their assholemobile*.

*Not in reference to your personal vehicle, lasagnasshole.

Doesn't everybody do that?

We get judged all the time for the utter shittiness of our car.  I kind of love it for that.

[raangoli]

Why do I keep reading this thread?

[kadams767]

Feb 20, 2014 15:56:27 GMT -5 v said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:51:29 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

I am really glad that I am not the only person that judges someone based on their assholemobile*.

*Not in reference to your personal vehicle, lasagnasshole.

Doesn't everybody do that?

We get judged all the time for the utter shittiness of our car.  I kind of love it for that.

Well, I personally never judge people's shitty cars, lol.  I am truly a jerk and mostly judge people who drive Hummers, Escalades, etc.  All pretty nice, $$$$, cars. 

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Feb 20, 2014 15:56:28 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Disclaimer: I love my husband like fat kids love cake and I hope to be with him forever and ever.

That said, I haven't had sex with another man in...God, forever. If anything should ever happen, please believe I would tramp it up in pretty much no time flat. I don't care to work on myself. I've been with myself over 3 decades. I know what I'm all about. I would work on tramping it up. The slutaciousness of it all will know no bounds. And guess how many fucks I would have to give about whomever didn't like it?

If this is in reference to my SO commentary (which I don't think it is), this is a totally different scenario.

Namely, you aren't (that) crazy. Haha.

I always thought I would slut it up a little, too. It didn't work out that way.

Turns out I need a connection to really enjoy myself. Darn.

[niemand88f]

Feb 20, 2014 14:09:21 GMT -5 niq said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

No direct experience, but a classmate of mine who was double neuroscience/computer science and took all the med school prereqs said something similar. He said people approach orgo as brute force memorization, which is what makes it intense. But if you can understand the rules and apply them, it's a lot less work.

I'm sure there are other courses this applies to, but orgo seems to be the highest profile one.

That's kind of what confuses me is that I don't think it's fundamentally different from physics or gen chem, but people who did well in those classes would struggle a lot in o chem. Maybe incoming students are just terrified by everyone claiming it's so hard . There are so many different strategies you can use to study that can be tailored to almost any learning style - memorization, physical or computer models, flash cards, diagrams, practice problems...

[heygrey]

Feb 20, 2014 15:51:31 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

I also admit that I love making fun of Kias. I have no idea why. I really don't give two shits about cars and have never driven a Kia. But it just seems like an easy car to make fun of.

sil/bil bought a Kia last summer and h and i made fun of it so much. (behind their backs of course.) respectively, we drive a 10 year old base model civic and a hyundai accent. there is clearly no room in this house for car judging, just here we are...

[Chuppathingy]

Feb 20, 2014 10:02:18 GMT -5 @carmensandiego said:

Feb 20, 2014 10:00:36 GMT -5 bronxgirl said:

I didn't even realize people still did this.  I haven't seen presents opened at a kids party in over 20 yrs.

I was at one recently. It was tedious. To say the least

This is really strange to me. I've never been to a kid's party where presents weren't opened. How else does everyone get to play with them?

Sent from my SGH-T889 using proboards

[msmerymac]

I hate Hondas and Toyotas. Much like O-Chem, I think they are boring as fuck. I know they last like 18 years and 250k miles, but I'd probably want to kill myself if I was stuck with a civic for that long.

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Feb 20, 2014 15:58:42 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:56:27 GMT -5 v said:

Doesn't everybody do that?

We get judged all the time for the utter shittiness of our car.  I kind of love it for that.

Well, I personally never judge people's shitty cars, lol.  I am truly a jerk and mostly judge people who drive Hummers, Escalades, etc.  All pretty nice, $$$$, cars. 

I don't think that makes you a jerk.  I think it is not at all unusual to judge people who drive those types of cars.

[SJ]

Feb 20, 2014 15:55:44 GMT -5 swank said:

My MIL is arriving in about 10 minutes to help out this weekend. I am grateful for the help but I'm already annoyed at "losing" time with Dh & Dd because of her visit.

I am a bad person.

My IL's are arriving sometime in June and staying until sometime in August.

I KNOW they will be incredibly helpful, but I am already annoyed for so many reasons about their visit.

[ijack]

Feb 20, 2014 14:08:20 GMT -5 lasagnasshole said:

Feb 20, 2014 14:02:26 GMT -5 @kirkette said:

I'm not a pet person either. I think it's good that I am honest about this, so I don't wind up a sub par pet owner by default. 

I don't understand people who don't want pets, but I respect that they recognize they don't want pets. Really, it's not much different from kids - it's not flammable to not want or like them, but it sure as hell is flammable to have them and not give them the love and attention they deserve.

xoxo,
Crazy Cat Lady

For me it's because I can't take care of another living thing. Seriously, if I have anyone else depending on me for food or love I might just collapse.

[msmerymac]

Feb 20, 2014 15:58:42 GMT -5 kadams767 said:

Feb 20, 2014 15:56:27 GMT -5 v said:

Doesn't everybody do that?

We get judged all the time for the utter shittiness of our car.  I kind of love it for that.

Well, I personally never judge people's shitty cars, lol.  I am truly a jerk and mostly judge people who drive Hummers, Escalades, etc.  All pretty nice, $$$$, cars. 

I find those cars to be ridiculously pointless. 

I mean, get a huge 4 wheel drive SUV if you have 5 kids or you haul bales of hay for your horses or you live on top of a mountain in Vermont. But if any of those things are the case, you are sure as hell not buying an Escalade. You are only using it to tool around your neighborhood like a tool. 

[schrodinger]

Feb 20, 2014 16:00:22 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Feb 20, 2014 14:09:21 GMT -5 niq said:

No direct experience, but a classmate of mine who was double neuroscience/computer science and took all the med school prereqs said something similar. He said people approach orgo as brute force memorization, which is what makes it intense. But if you can understand the rules and apply them, it's a lot less work.

I'm sure there are other courses this applies to, but orgo seems to be the highest profile one.

That's kind of what confuses me is that I don't think it's fundamentally different from physics or gen chem, but people who did well in those classes would struggle a lot in o chem. Maybe incoming students are just terrified by everyone claiming it's so hard . There are so many different strategies you can use to study that can be tailored to almost any learning style - memorization, physical or computer models, flash cards, diagrams, practice problems...

And this is why MM gets a reputation for being boring.

[simpsongal]

Feb 20, 2014 9:44:01 GMT -5 v said:

Here's my piece about MMM -- great for pregnancy/parenting-related discussion, but it makes me sad that there are also randoms and confessions threads over there, as well as other discussions that really have nothing to do with child-having. I wish those discussions could happen over here instead.  I wish MMM was a place where people went to ask a kid-related question when they had one, like I go to Travel when I have a Travel-related question.  It isn't, and that makes me sad because I miss people (and I miss this board being really active)

Unrelated, but a confession I thought of while on my way to work: my husband and I share tissues 

Do I get bonus points for posting a birth announcement thread on MMM and then a related price-of-the-camera thread on MM?  Seriously, I'll try to make the effort to post more often on MM.  I abandoned a lot of the boards and lived on Got Pregnant for a while.

Not particularly flameworthy, but I get a little annoyed when people post non-MM topics on MM, rather than the other boards.  I realize people have their "home boards" but boards like H&G and Entertainment would have more traffic if we discussed renovations and The Mindy Project on those special boards.

[cookies]

Right now I'm borrowing my parents' junk car. It's a white 1990s Expedition. The bottom is rusting out, it gets like 8 mpg, and my dad put a neuticles (fake dog testicles) bumper sticker on it. I can't even tell you what an asshole I feel like when I roll into daycare in it.

[niemand88f]

Feb 20, 2014 16:06:35 GMT -5 schrodinger said:

Feb 20, 2014 16:00:22 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

That's kind of what confuses me is that I don't think it's fundamentally different from physics or gen chem, but people who did well in those classes would struggle a lot in o chem. Maybe incoming students are just terrified by everyone claiming it's so hard . There are so many different strategies you can use to study that can be tailored to almost any learning style - memorization, physical or computer models, flash cards, diagrams, practice problems...

And this is why MM gets a reputation for being boring.

OK thanks for your valuable feedback.

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 20, 2014 16:08:13 GMT -5 cookies said:

Right now I'm borrowing my parents' junk car. It's a white 1990s Expedition. The bottom is rusting out, it gets like 8 mpg, and my dad put a neuticles (fake dog testicles) bumper sticker on it. I can't even tell you what an asshole I feel like when I roll into daycare in it.

Worth reading the whole thread just for this.

[aspentosh]

I am so mad I read this entire post. How are there 15 pages without anything flameworthy?

[Kore]

Feb 20, 2014 15:56:28 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Disclaimer: I love my husband like fat kids love cake and I hope to be with him forever and ever.

That said, I haven't had sex with another man in...God, forever. If anything should ever happen, please believe I would tramp it up in pretty much no time flat. I don't care to work on myself. I've been with myself over 3 decades. I know what I'm all about. I would work on tramping it up. The slutaciousness of it all would know no bounds. And guess how many fucks I would have to give about whomever didn't like it?

100% agree. Lol. I would have zero problems having a fabulous life with close girlfriends & random hookups. Ahhhh.

[niemand88f]

Feb 20, 2014 11:14:27 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

I keep doing the survey on my McDonald's receipt for a free McCafe beverage with purchase. I will then go purchase something from the dollar menu and use my coupon, then get a new coupon. I think I'm on my 5th or 6th free drink.

I'm doing this at Einstein Bagels   If their system can't recognize that maybe it shouldn't print another survey when a survey code was already entered on their transaction, then that's their problem. I'm always honest and give good ratings on the surveys at least!

[Susie]

Feb 20, 2014 13:43:38 GMT -5 greencrayon said:

Heres one: I didn't know I could get my dog registered as a therapy dog through a psychologist or whatever. I'm tempted to do that now. I'd love to be able to take her places!

My older golden is a TDI-certified therapy dog, and I have to say, the places we can go is pretty limited and not that amazing.  Don't do it for that.

We can go into hospitals, but only after doing lengthy paperwork and documentation (of his health status and vaccinations, my health status and vaccinations, of our TDI certification, of insurance, etc.).  We have also gone into schools, but only after the same lengthy paperwork and documentation, plus I had to sit through all the same HR stuff as new teachers, and had to be fingerprinted by the state police and have a background check done.  Therapy dogs don't get special treatment (like service dogs do) on public transit, or any other place that I know of.  

If you want to volunteer with your dog it can be pretty cool.  We did work with kids with autism and who were on the autism spectrum, and it was fun to see them interact better with each other with him than with each other without him.  But the certification didn't really get us anything else beyond that.

[lasagnasshole]

Feb 20, 2014 16:15:29 GMT -5 @champagna said:

Feb 20, 2014 16:10:15 GMT -5 Kore said:

100% agree. Lol. I would have zero problems having a fabulous life with close girlfriends & random hookups. Ahhhh.

There are a couple guys at work who make me think, man, if I were single... Mm-hmm.

I've told you about the guys at my old job, right?

I went to these long, boring depositions with 25 different attorneys. Usually 20 of them were men. I had virtually no role at these depositions. So I used to go around the room and determine who was bangable and who wasn't. And then I'd try to figure out the style of the bangable ones. I'd do this all day long.

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Feb 20, 2014 9:18:40 GMT -5 katieb4tom said:

I hate the MMM board. I have a kid and I think its sooo boring to just talk about babies and baby related things all day. It bums me out though b/c I think the MM/MMM split really did destroy the MM board, which has gotten really dull. I think there are definitely posters sticking solely to MMM who made the MM board more interesting. Can I start a movement to rejoin the two?

My flameworthy opinion is that this MMM does not want to rejoin MM. The main board is really dull, so I just lurk her when I've read all of MMMs. I think FICO scores, talking about retirement, and loans are just about the most boring subjects imaginable.

You guys can't have it both ways. You want the randoms/confessions/UO threads here, but you (collective MM "you") bitched and complained endlessly that there were too many kid-related @ posts. You want to have your cake and eat it too.

[mpc]

Feb 20, 2014 13:10:13 GMT -5 greencrayon said:

Here's my flameful I guess: These pictures do absolutely nothing for me. All I think is ugh, they're probably going to try to jump on me and lick my face.

[rbp]

Feb 20, 2014 13:59:48 GMT -5 msmerymac said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

Because it's boring as fuck and therefore my brain doesn't care to remember it? 

Sorry, rbp

Your loss. 

[havarti]

Feb 20, 2014 16:15:42 GMT -5 @applesauce said:

Feb 20, 2014 10:41:39 GMT -5 @mrschicken said:

I've posted under 2 different AEs and gotten flamed. I don't regret taking the coward's way out at all.
(Spoiler Albert for anyone who decides to go looking--neither was about a marriage issue)

can we make Spoiler Albert a thing please?

Damnit!  I forgot I was going to comment on that before getting sucked into the rest of the thread!  YES, PLEASE!!!!

[rbp]

Feb 20, 2014 13:31:18 GMT -5 wanderlustfoodie said:

Since we're talking about animals, I love animals and feel immense maternal attachment and warm, fuzzy feelings with respect to random animals. As I've previously mentioned, my dream would be to live on a farm in the Hudson Valley with a bunch of animals. On the flipside, I feel none of those warm, fuzzy feelings whenever I'm around my dear friends' children. That said, MH has purported to be ready for a child for over a year now and at a certain point in the not-too-distant future (thanks a lot, health complication) I'm going to have to figure out whether to acquiesce to his polite nagging and join the land of the breeders. I feel somewhat confident I would be a "good" mother, I just don't know if I want to be a mother. I have started "lurking" on the MMM boards just to see if that pushes me one way or the other but so far I'm still decidedly uncertain.

I still don't know if I want to be a mom. Guess I don't have much of a choice now.  :-#