This is an amazing thread that entertained me all evening while DH was at work.
Anyway, my flameful is that I just can't understand women in a professional setting who look like a hot mess. I'm not saying you have to be a damn beauty queen, I am certainly not, but for the love of God... pull your hair back or learn to style it, buy some clothes that fit well and clean yourself up. No one is going to take you seriously if you look like hell.
My father, who was unassuming and not fancy, used to say, "The only difference between an ugly woman and a pretty woman is laziness." Truth.
I would spend the rest of my life in sweat pants and a pony tail if I could. I should be getting my PhD this year, lol. I also don't know HOW to dress nicely/wear makeup. My mother never taught me and I never learned.
This is an amazing thread that entertained me all evening while DH was at work.
Anyway, my flameful is that I just can't understand women in a professional setting who look like a hot mess. I'm not saying you have to be a damn beauty queen, I am certainly not, but for the love of God... pull your hair back or learn to style it, buy some clothes that fit well and clean yourself up. No one is going to take you seriously if you look like hell.
My father, who was unassuming and not fancy, used to say, "The only difference between an ugly woman and a pretty woman is laziness." Truth.
I would spend the rest of my life in sweat pants and a pony tail if I could. I should be getting my PhD this year, lol. I also don't know HOW to dress nicely/wear makeup. My mother never taught me and I never learned.
I swear, getting a PhD in a science will turn the cutest girl into a raging slob. LOL. I wore jeans, t-shirts, and running shoes, my hair was in a wet ponytail, and I never put on makeup. When I stopped by my old lab for a meeting after starting my new job, my advisor's administrative assistant was like "RBP! You look all grown up!" A little bit of eyeliner will do that.
To answer champagna, I'll use a tissue that he's saving for a second use.
To answer msmerymac, sometimes my snot is such that tissues are definitely one use only, but sometimes there's only a little that comes out so I'll put it in my pocket to use again. Particularly if I'm in the subway or whatever so I couldn't throw it away and I only have one tissue so I can't go to a second even if I want to.
I have really bad allergies so I blow my nose a lot.
When MH's allergies get bad, he is like a faucet. Second use tissues don't exist in his world. lol. I will sometimes save a tissue in my pocket for second use, but for myself. I can understand your using his tissues in emergency situations, though.
I leave a trail of tissues everywhere I go. Family knows when I have visited because they find them left behind places like under the bed. I am told it is endearing.
When my husband tucks me in at night (he is a night owl), part of the routine is putting a kleenex in my fist. lol.
It must depend. H's cousins both got a shady doctor to certify their dogs as emotional support animals and they've gotten all kinds of special dispensation.
Maybe there's some kind of difference between emotional support animals and certified therapy dogs.
I know many people in SF who have gotten their dogs certified as emotional support animals. Once they're certified as such, landlords have to rent to you even if they have a no pets clause, HOAs can't do anything to make you remove the dog from your condo, and you can take it into restaurants, shops, etc.
Wait, seriously?
While I hope I never have to find another place as a renter again, I would totally do this to ensure I could find a good place to rent with my dog if I needed to. Flame that, people.
I know many people in SF who have gotten their dogs certified as emotional support animals. Once they're certified as such, landlords have to rent to you even if they have a no pets clause, HOAs can't do anything to make you remove the dog from your condo, and you can take it into restaurants, shops, etc.
Wait, seriously?
While I hope I never have to find another place as a renter again, I would totally do this to ensure I could find a good place to rent with my dog if I needed to. Flame that, people.
Exactly! I had no idea it was a thing until earlier, and I would totally do it.
I'm not interested in "learning" on all my vacations. Sometimes one just likes to lay the fuck back and be brought drink after drink. (hot)
You know, years ago, I used to be all, "why would people go to an AI when you can really SEE THE WORLD?!"
But my work days have gotten incrementally longer and harder since I left college, and I just don't have the energy to think about a planning a travel-focused vacation, much less think while actually on one.
I'm not even a lay-by-the-beach-all-day person, but really, all I want to do on my vacation time now is be outside with my brain shut off.
OK with that said, I've got something for you to jump all over. While I don't judge people who go to AIs, what I don't get is why someone who is on a beautiful island with lovely ocean nearby would choose to sit by the pool. When we were in Hawaii, we got stuck talking to this random couple who basically had spent their previous 5 days on the island going to different hotel pools and then spent a good 10 minutes telling us how clean they were. I mean, WTF people. Do you not see the BLUEST, PRETTIEST PACIFIC OCEAN WATER 10 FEET AWAY?!
Pools suck. Ocean and sand FTW.
Because sand is dirty, the ocean is not heated, and the pool has a cocktail waitress who will put a new drink in your hand once the old one is half full.
In my experience.
That said, I'm totally with you on the rest. AI means I can just book it and go. Do you know how much travel I deal with? Constant logistics. Sometimes I just cannot.
This is an amazing thread that entertained me all evening while DH was at work.
Anyway, my flameful is that I just can't understand women in a professional setting who look like a hot mess. I'm not saying you have to be a damn beauty queen, I am certainly not, but for the love of God... pull your hair back or learn to style it, buy some clothes that fit well and clean yourself up. No one is going to take you seriously if you look like hell.
My father, who was unassuming and not fancy, used to say, "The only difference between an ugly woman and a pretty woman is laziness." Truth.
In my industry, the prettier you are, the less seriously you are taken. I went to a conference and dressed up all professionally with makeup and styled hair. Everyone, and I mean everyone, assumed I was with whatever man I was standing closest to. The women who were not wearing makeup and dress pants were talked to like real attendees.
While I hope I never have to find another place as a renter again, I would totally do this to ensure I could find a good place to rent with my dog if I needed to. Â Flame that, people.
Yep, seriously. Â Emotional service dogs with doctor's notes are really hard to touch. Â No one wants to get sued for discrimination/failure to follow ADA (I'm assuming those are the two issues at play). Â If our other members of our HOA had made an issue out of us adopting a dog (well within our HOA rights but they were unhappy about it), I would have 110% gone this route. Â My brother lives in WA and his HOA association was upset that his dog was 3 pounds over the weight limit and told him he had to get rid of him. Â My brother's girlfriend got a doctor's note that he was her emotional support dog and they backed off immediately. Â
It's kind of BS, I suppose, but no one wants to risk a lawsuit so no landlord ever really pushes back (from what I hear). Â I've had at least three random people in my neighborhood tell me they did this with their dogs, but I would 100% do the same thing if I was risking losing my dog. Â I understand not everyone feels this way, but my dog is my family - I would run into a burning building for him and risk my life for him without even thinking. Â Like hell I would ever give him up. Â
This happens in NY all the time. Not necessarily because they want to get into a no dog building but because they literally can't emotionally cope going anywhere without their dogs (summary from NYT article last year profiling such women).
Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?
I HATED ochem. It was my absolute worst subject. It just made absolutely no sense to me whatsoever and I almost dropped my chem major.
That said, I adored Pchem and Thermo, which is generally what makes other chemistry majors all stabby. My Pchem adviser told me there were two types of chemists: those who got pchem and those who got ochem. I was a pchemist, which makes sense, since my original major was physics, but I randomly switched to chem.
Guess what type of chemistry I do for a living....
This is an amazing thread that entertained me all evening while DH was at work.
Anyway, my flameful is that I just can't understand women in a professional setting who look like a hot mess. I'm not saying you have to be a damn beauty queen, I am certainly not, but for the love of God... pull your hair back or learn to style it, buy some clothes that fit well and clean yourself up. No one is going to take you seriously if you look like hell.
My father, who was unassuming and not fancy, used to say, "The only difference between an ugly woman and a pretty woman is laziness." Truth.
If he is only saying this about women, that feels incredibly sexist and condescending.
ftr she had already cheated. She simply hadn't had intercourse.
Glad we cleared that up.
In the end nothing happened. There are other little details that made it a drama mine I want no part of. I still see co-worker daily and we have moved on like it never happened.
I do appreciate those who sent pm with their advice and stories.
I sort of regret the ad thing though as it left me feeling like a board that was my safe place is people who would prefer to talk about me behind my back.
Thank you for the update, sincerely. I really was curious what happened. I wish you well.
I'm apparently an uptight prude, because I can't handle all the cursing and nasty sex talk on ML. I lurk there sometimes, and feel like I'm going to get herpes just from reading it.
Rather narrow minded.... MM is too dull and ML is too nasty. I guess MMM is right in the middle?
Yuppers. If I'm going to dick around online it's going to be somewhere I like. I apparently have specific needs.
We'll see how you feel in 5 months. I bet a HUNDRED MILLION DOLLARS all of a sudden you will think your kid is the most interesting thing on earth. I hope I can dig up this post when you do.
No offense to you specifically @supergreen, but "we'll see how you feel when...." has got to be one of the most fucking annoying things for new moms to hear from more experienced moms. I feel like I would think "oh will we? No, we won't. You won't see anything. These are my feelings. Fuck off." But then I tend to have problems with authority. lol.
None taken. I do find children interesting. The fact that I created a human being, who grew inside me, and now has his own personality, wants and needs. It's fascinating to me. I would love for rbp to join MMMs.
Post by curbsideprophet on Feb 20, 2014 23:23:09 GMT -5
I like MMM how it is. I see no reason to combine it with MM or put it somewhere else. I rarely create posts on either board and typically just reply to posts, sorry about that.
I feel like I was going to comment on something else but 30 pages layer I forgot what it was.
Not sure if most would consider this flameful or not, but I don't miss Lily or her avatar.
You know, years ago, I used to be all, "why would people go to an AI when you can really SEE THE WORLD?!"
But my work days have gotten incrementally longer and harder since I left college, and I just don't have the energy to think about a planning a travel-focused vacation, much less think while actually on one.
I'm not even a lay-by-the-beach-all-day person, but really, all I want to do on my vacation time now is be outside with my brain shut off.
OK with that said, I've got something for you to jump all over. While I don't judge people who go to AIs, what I don't get is why someone who is on a beautiful island with lovely ocean nearby would choose to sit by the pool. When we were in Hawaii, we got stuck talking to this random couple who basically had spent their previous 5 days on the island going to different hotel pools and then spent a good 10 minutes telling us how clean they were. I mean, WTF people. Do you not see the BLUEST, PRETTIEST PACIFIC OCEAN WATER 10 FEET AWAY?!
Pools suck. Ocean and sand FTW.
Because sand is dirty, the ocean is not heated, and the pool has a cocktail waitress who will put a new drink in your hand once the old one is half full.
In my experience.
That said, I'm totally with you on the rest. AI means I can just book it and go. Do you know how much travel I deal with? Constant logistics. Sometimes I just cannot.
See, I really love the feeling of sand between my toes. Maybe even more than mai tais.
This is an amazing thread that entertained me all evening while DH was at work.
Anyway, my flameful is that I just can't understand women in a professional setting who look like a hot mess. I'm not saying you have to be a damn beauty queen, I am certainly not, but for the love of God... pull your hair back or learn to style it, buy some clothes that fit well and clean yourself up. No one is going to take you seriously if you look like hell.
My father, who was unassuming and not fancy, used to say, "The only difference between an ugly woman and a pretty woman is laziness." Truth.
In my industry, the prettier you are, the less seriously you are taken. I went to a conference and dressed up all professionally with makeup and styled hair. Everyone, and I mean everyone, assumed I was with whatever man I was standing closest to. The women who were not wearing makeup and dress pants were talked to like real attendees.
Interesting perspective, thanks for sharing. Honestly, thanks. I am hardly in a high glam field (higher ed) but, damn, I'm sick of sitting in meetings with women who look like they rolled out of bed. While others, even those with high rankings and big educational beef, look nice. I just feel like, over and over, those who are a mess and brilliant, smart and funny are immediately written off as amateurs.
No offense to you specifically @supergreen, but "we'll see how you feel when...." has got to be one of the most fucking annoying things for new moms to hear from more experienced moms. I feel like I would think "oh will we? No, we won't. You won't see anything. These are my feelings. Fuck off." But then I tend to have problems with authority. lol.
None taken. I do find children interesting. The fact that I created a human being, who grew inside me, and now has his own personality, wants and needs. It's fascinating to me. I would love for rbp to join MMMs.
This is really strange to me. I've never been to a kid's party where presents weren't opened. How else does everyone get to play with them?
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Other people play with the birthday kid's presents? For real?
Yeah. Every one I've been to, including DD's recent birthday, presents are opened and then everyone gets to share and play together for an hour or so before going home. Some get a little whiny of course but it's whatever. This post is the first time I've ever heard of a kid's party where presents weren't opened.
Other people play with the birthday kid's presents? For real?
Yeah. Every one I've been to, including DD's recent birthday, presents are opened and then everyone gets to share and play together for an hour or so before going home. Some get a little whiny of course but it's whatever. This post is the first time I've ever heard of a kid's party where presents weren't opened.
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My nephews always open the gifts at their parties, but that just means unwrapping them. I've never ever heard of *opening* opening the gifts and playing with them. I can just imagine a new toy breaking before the birthday kid had even gotten to play with it and mayhem ensuing.
I "slutted" it up when I was separated and then moved here. It was great. I'm pretty sure my number of sexual partners tripled in that time.
I'm so good that my current boyfriend hadn't had sex with anyone in about a year since living in SA and he fell under my spell and we had sex on the 1st night Little did I know that that night was the end of my slut phase (wilted)
I was "flamed" (it was pretty gentle) after I mentioned how I annoyed I was with coworker who is overweight, constantly asked me for advice, and never took any action. My take - stop bugging me because there is only so much advice I can give you when you are not doing anything.
Well, here is my smug update: we went to lunch yesteerday and I got the full scoop - since the holidays she has been being active at least 20 minutes daily and has started my food diary.com, which was a site I have used in the past and enjoyed. Ohhhh snap, she is down nearly 35 lbs and is running a 5k in April!!!
My flameful....I wanted to come on here and tout her success for her...but also for me Calories in, calories out for the win! Am I setting myself up for my second flaming? Probably.
I was "flamed" (it was pretty gentle) after I mentioned how I annoyed I was with coworker who is overweight, constantly asked me for advice, and never took any action. My take - stop bugging me because there is only so much advice I can give you when you are not doing anything.
Well, here is my smug update: we went to lunch yesteerday and I got the full scoop - since the holidays she has been being active at least 20 minutes daily and has started my food diary.com, which was a site I have used in the past and enjoyed. Ohhhh snap, she is down nearly 35 lbs and is running a 5k in April!!!
My flameful....I wanted to come on here and tout her success for her...but also for me Calories in, calories out for the win! Am I setting myself up for my second flaming? Probably.
Yeah, I remember that flaming and it was stupid because a)you were just venting about something annoying and b)you're one of the most supportive posters here so it's clear that you were helpful and sensitive to your coworker even though later you posted your annoyance.
Stop flaming @shoegal , she's super nice and supportive!
I have a late to the game, truly flammable one: I believe we need more pedestrian and cyclist rage, not less.
Inspired by watching a man slap the hood of a car that nearly hit him in a crosswalk. He hit it so hard he probably left a dent. Go that guy. Maybe the driver won't run red lights in the future.
You mean more rage from pedestrians and cyclists, not towards them, right?
A couple weeks ago, my city had a pedestrian collision every day in a week. Drivers are terrible for not paying attention.
I have a late to the game, truly flammable one: I believe we need more pedestrian and cyclist rage, not less.
Inspired by watching a man slap the hood of a car that nearly hit him in a crosswalk. He hit it so hard he probably left a dent. Go that guy. Maybe the driver won't run red lights in the future.
A lot of people who visit the Caribbean islands do go to cultural sites. The Barbados Museum gets visitors as does the historic Garrison Savannah, our Parliament buildings are the third oldest in the Western Hemisphere. Even rum is cultural we have the oldest operational rum distillery which gives tours and is over 300 years old.
St Lucia for example was 7 times British and 7 times French. Most people there speak a Frebch patois even though English is the official language.
Just because you are unaware of a region's culture doesn't mean it is culturally lacking or that everyone who visits is also unaware if the culture.
I don't think it is being a travel snob to feel as you do. I simply think it is ignorant.
Exactly. It's one thing to not enjoy the beach/hot weather/sand/etc. But just own that, rather than denigrate an entire region of the world. We've been spending a lot of time travelling to different Caribbean islands over the last 3 years, and one of my favorite parts has been learning the history of the area and about the local & historical cultures, especially since I was previously mostly unaware of it.
I've also spent very little time just sitting around getting drinks at an AI, but if that's what floats your boat, then go for it. That just means less people out and about at the cool places I like to visit!