Here's my piece about MMM -- great for pregnancy/parenting-related discussion, but it makes me sad that there are also randoms and confessions threads over there, as well as other discussions that really have nothing to do with child-having. I wish those discussions could happen over here instead. I wish MMM was a place where people went to ask a kid-related question when they had one, like I go to Travel when I have a Travel-related question. It isn't, and that makes me sad because I miss people (and I miss this board being really active)
Unrelated, but a confession I thought of while on my way to work: my husband and I share tissues
this is because the MMM board attracts people who might not ever post on MM, so it has become a separate community on here. so posters there want to share their news, their vents, etc with others that they "know" since a lot of them dont lurk or post on MM.
Something that else that bugs me about MMM is that there seems to make me feel bad about about my laxed parenting in general. I know this is my own issue but I am the type of mom who allows my kids to watch TV, drink juice on occasion, eat special treats, love disney crap...etc. I feel like I am judged for stupid stuff that I am sure lots of people do. I think is why I like the ML board more lately because I feel like it's more realistic.
See, I just can't bring myself to feel judged. My response to the "food rules" thread was literally "I let her eat what she wants." I've said before in confessions or whatever threads that I'm not as "into" parenting as a lot of other people. I'm fine with my parenting, and I have no problems sharing it with a board that might have other opinions. Join me
I still think MMM is the best thing that could've happened to MM. The moms are happy and I'm happy. That's all that matters
I read exclusively from the "latest" screen on the app (even right now, sitting at a computer), so I no longer feel the boundaries of any of the boards. I post everywhere. Even April 2012.
I think that MMM dynamic has changed and I am not sure how to pinpoint what really bothers me about it. Maybe cause it just feels like it's baby talk all the time. Every once in a while someone will talk about preschool or school aged kids but even then it's minimal.
I go to ML for anything older-kid related. Maybe this is bad, but I just don't care any more about STTN or what-first-food-for-baby. I know I should probably contribute as others helped me when I was going through that, but I just can't get it up to bother.
Something that else that bugs me about MMM is that there seems to make me feel bad about about my laxed parenting in general. I know this is my own issue but I am the type of mom who allows my kids to watch TV, drink juice on occasion, eat special treats, love disney crap...etc. I feel like I am judged for stupid stuff that I am sure lots of people do. I think is why I like the ML board more lately because I feel like it's more realistic.
See, I just can't bring myself to feel judged. My response to the "food rules" thread was literally "I let her eat what she wants." I've said before in confessions or whatever threads that I'm not as "into" parenting than a lot of other people. I'm fine with my parenting, and I have no problems sharing it with a board that might have other opinions. Join me
I am there on occasion since some of the posters I really do like. I mean I have been following their stories for years. Some days it feels like beating though.
I sat by the pool, read my book, enjoyed temperatures from 71-82 degrees, and every time my drink got more than 1/2 empty, a cocktail waitress brought me something new she thought I would enjoy. I also introduced my husband to the joy of Irish Coffee on the balcony overlooking the ocean, because all I had to do to get a bottle of baileys and a pot of coffee brought up was press a button.
I'm sorry if I didn't get enough culture on my trip, but I still think it was fucking awesome, and very much needed given the pace of our life at other times.
I thought Pitch Perfect was lame. I don't get the love. The gratuitous vomiting was gross and stupid. They played that ace of base song one too many times.
WHY do you give it back to him after you use it and not pocket it yourself???
And, I'm sorry to bring it up again but I can't help myself (so maybe that is truly flameworthy)--the bolded is now my new toilet-paper-rolling equivalent low bar.
Sorry, the bolded is going into corn dog stick territory here. WTF cares about throwing out a used tissue?! Was there a coupon on it for a free box of tissues?
I should clarify a bit -- this was like a quick "Why did you just throw that out?" and I was like "Believe me, it was done" and then he was like "Really?" me "Um, yes. Not reusable." Not a big blown out "HOW DARE YOU?" thing.
But I'm totally not going to defend either of our actions here. I know we're weird and gross and that this is akin to TP deplying and corndog stick hoarding.
I thought Pitch Perfect was lame. I don't get the love. The gratuitous vomiting was gross and stupid. They played that ace of base song one too many times.
I lost my virginity to ace of base, and the movie was filmed outside my office window. I will always love <3
My husband and I each contribute the max to our retirement accounts. So, something like $1,400 each to our 401k's. However, we only save about $200 a month for BOTH kids college accounts. Yeah, 100 each for them, 1,400 each for us.
As a result, our 401ks are very nice in size, and the 529s suck ass. We do throw small bonuses and birthday presents in there and stuff, but nothing like we should be doing.
I now read Mr. Money mustache forums for actual financial advice bc MM sucks at it. Mostly because there isn't any actual financial discussion.
Agree that there is less of it, but disagree that there is none and particularly disagree with the bolded.
Just yesterday, someone posted a budget with questions re: buying a house and got great advice.
A lot of posters are pretty set on a strong financial path and thus don't have much to offer up as a discussion topic. But when actual questions/advice are asked, great answers often abound.
Posting an unpopular/flame worthy thread every week actually contributes to the boring-ness of the board. Most of us are relatively responsible, nice people, so there are just only so many flame worthy things for us to post with such frequency.
I agree with this. But also, I do have flameful thoughts sometimes, I just am not dumb enough to share them. I like being relatively under the radar here and don't need the entire internet to know for a fact that I'm a total asshole.
That said, we walk our dog off leash. Qualifiers: there are tons and tons of stray dogs here so I feel like my clean, trained, vaccinated dog is not really the one thing that's going to ruin someone's day, she really is trained and doesn't run up to people/will stop sniffing people if we tell her to, she used to be a street dog so learned about cars and won't even follow her ball into the street. But I'm sure plenty of you will still think that we should just avoid any potential problems and put her on a leash at all times, so this confession is my gift to you.
Post by sicilygirl on Feb 20, 2014 10:25:10 GMT -5
I think MM has swung from one end of the spectrum to the other in terms of money-related discussions (which are rare anyway). People used to get upset because "big dogs" couldn't post their budget or share their opinion on something because of all of the "must be nice" comments. Now, it seems like there are only big dogs left on the board, at least when it comes to the money questions. The post the other day about how much you save each month? People were coming in, ashamed of their $2,000/month savings (outside of retirement). I just wish there was more of a mix. I'm not pinching pennies anymore, but I also can't save $10,000/month because we don't even bring home that much per month. I wish the poors (lol), regular folks, and the big dogs would all post. The board would be a lot more helpful then, at least to me.
Sorry, the bolded is going into corn dog stick territory here. WTF cares about throwing out a used tissue?! Was there a coupon on it for a free box of tissues?
I should clarify a bit -- this was like a quick "Why did you just throw that out?" and I was like "Believe me, it was done" and then he was like "Really?" me "Um, yes. Not reusable." Not a big blown out "HOW DARE YOU?" thing.
But I'm totally not going to defend either of our actions here. I know we're weird and gross.
MH and I argued for five minutes last night over whether he could throw out a used Ziploc bag. It had leftover enchilada sauce in it and it was in the freezer so he argued that we can re-use it for more enchilada sauce in the future. I have no idea where he put it but I know it wasn't thrown away. And I don't have any more enchilada sauce in the house so it's not like we'll be re-using it in the very near future.
I partly admire him because he's so eco-conscious and doesn't want to waste things, and I'm partly annoyed that he's so cheap. Especially when I'm the one that buys the groceries and household items. AND I just bought two giant boxes of Ziplocs yesterday.
He's also been building a cat tree. Again, I'm about 75% impressed that he has the talent to do this and that he's concerned about making it nice, but 25% irritated because I wanted to buy a tree/window ledge for them a few months ago and he kept saying he'd get around to it. Which is really fun when the two of them are walking around the house and screaming because they're bored and want to go into our basement, but they can't because that's MH's workspace and he left stuff all over the floor which could harm them.
I sat by the pool, read my book, enjoyed temperatures from 71-82 degrees, and every time my drink got more than 1/2 empty, a cocktail waitress brought me something new she thought I would enjoy. I also introduced my husband to the joy of Irish Coffee on the balcony overlooking the ocean, because all I had to do to get a bottle of baileys and a pot of coffee brought up was press a button.
I'm sorry if I didn't get enough culture on my trip, but I still think it was fucking awesome, and very much needed given the pace of our life at other times.
But do you think your SATs are an accurate reflection of your intelligence?
My husband and I each contribute the max to our retirement accounts. So, something like $1,400 each to our 401k's. However, we only save about $200 a month for BOTH kids college accounts. Yeah, 100 each for them, 1,400 each for us.
As a result, our 401ks are very nice in size, and the 529s suck ass. We do throw small bonuses and birthday presents in there and stuff, but nothing like we should be doing.
Rejected from flameworthy post. Saving for retirement before college is what you're supposed to do.
H walks our dog off leash and I'm ok with it. Our dog, and many dogs, are far more aggressive on leash than off leash and this actually prevents him from running up to people. When he's on leash he still struggles, despite 3 years of on-going training, with viewing everything as a potential aggressor. He also responds to commands better when he's off leash.