H walks our dog off leash and I'm ok with it. Our dog, and many dogs, are far more aggressive on leash than off leash and this actually prevents him from running up to people. When he's on leash he still struggles, despite 3 years of on-going training, with viewing everything as a potential aggressor. He also responds to commands better when he's off leash.
This is great, except for the people out there whose dogs are afraid of other dogs, which is severely exacerbated by being on a leash while the other dog is offleash.
I have dogsat for a dog who has dog fear/aggression issues. If she sees another dog offleash, she will bolt. And she is strong. And it doesn't end well.
It also ignores the comfort of people who are afraid of dogs. It also ignores that your dog could still bolt when it sees a squirrel. And if you live within municipal limits, it's more than likely illegal.
But hey, as long as YOU think it's OK, it's all good, amiright?
My husband and I each contribute the max to our retirement accounts. So, something like $1,400 each to our 401k's. However, we only save about $200 a month for BOTH kids college accounts. Yeah, 100 each for them, 1,400 each for us.
As a result, our 401ks are very nice in size, and the 529s suck ass. We do throw small bonuses and birthday presents in there and stuff, but nothing like we should be doing.
Rejected from flameworthy post. Saving for retirement before college is what you're supposed to do.
We're not greedy assholes? I feel like a greedy asshole everytime I go "YAY" at my 401k and "oh fuck" about my kids' accounts.
I think it's lame to prefer to 'vacation' (cruises/AIs) over really travel and see the world and learn.
On that note, I'm sure reproducing is going to make me a 'vactioner' as opposed to a traveler for years to come. This makes me sad.
You people are crazy! Sometimes you just need to relax, and that is what an AI is all about. I love visiting places and seeing things. We went on an awesome vacation to Ireland. But there's nothing wrong with wanting to get away for a few days, and just chill. No schedules, no alarm clock, just chill.
I sat by the pool, read my book, enjoyed temperatures from 71-82 degrees, and every time my drink got more than 1/2 empty, a cocktail waitress brought me something new she thought I would enjoy. I also introduced my husband to the joy of Irish Coffee on the balcony overlooking the ocean, because all I had to do to get a bottle of baileys and a pot of coffee brought up was press a button.
I'm sorry if I didn't get enough culture on my trip, but I still think it was fucking awesome, and very much needed given the pace of our life at other times.
For reals. I can learn something sitting at my desk. I sure as eff cannot RELAX and RECHARGE here. Floating through the Caribbean and drinking and getting a tan? YES PLEASE. Not every vacation needs to be an opportunity to expand your horizons. Some people need a break and to unwind. Maybe I don't want to be on someone else's schedule while I am on vacation. Maybe I want to have absolutely no where to be for a solid week.
H walks our dog off leash and I'm ok with it. Our dog, and many dogs, are far more aggressive on leash than off leash and this actually prevents him from running up to people. When he's on leash he still struggles, despite 3 years of on-going training, with viewing everything as a potential aggressor. He also responds to commands better when he's off leash.
This is great, except for the people out there whose dogs are afraid of other dogs, which is severely exacerbated by being on a leash while the other dog is offleash.
I have dogsat for a dog who has dog fear/aggression issues. If she sees another dog offleash, she will bolt. And she is strong. And it doesn't end well.
It also ignores the comfort of people who are afraid of dogs. It also ignores that your dog could still bolt when it sees a squirrel. And if you live within municipal limits, it's more than likely illegal.
But hey, as long as YOU think it's OK, it's all good, amiright?
I sat by the pool, read my book, enjoyed temperatures from 71-82 degrees, and every time my drink got more than 1/2 empty, a cocktail waitress brought me something new she thought I would enjoy. I also introduced my husband to the joy of Irish Coffee on the balcony overlooking the ocean, because all I had to do to get a bottle of baileys and a pot of coffee brought up was press a button.
I'm sorry if I didn't get enough culture on my trip, but I still think it was fucking awesome, and very much needed given the pace of our life at other times.
In all seriousness, I need the name of this AI.
I realized on Tuesday that in 6+ years of marriage, our honeymoon was the last relaxing trip I took (and even that had a fair amount of walking and sightseeing). Other than that, it's been weddings, family, and music festivals. I have never taken 4 days to just be lazy somewhere away from everything.
Post by emilyinchile on Feb 20, 2014 10:39:41 GMT -5
FWIW - and I promise this isn't backpedaling, I just like to make it clear when I am and am not judging someone! - I am a new convert to the occasional "sit around and do nothing" vacation. My judgement is reserved for people who travel a bunch and only ever do that style because they just don't care about seeing anything except a beach ever, not people who can only take time off every 5 years and understandably prioritize relaxation over exploration or people who switch it up.
I've posted under 2 different AEs and gotten flamed. I don't regret taking the coward's way out at all. (Spoiler Albert for anyone who decides to go looking--neither was about a marriage issue)
I'm tired of one of my friends repeatedly posting pictures of her dead baby on Facebook.
Oh dear
Is it a photo of the baby while (s)he was still alive, or one of those Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep-style photos of the already deceased baby*?
* One of my FB friends posted one of these, and while I am so sorry for her loss I was also really creeped out. Also creeped out when she had other kids after that and they were wearing shirts embroidered with something like, "From Your Angel Brother." We've had other people give us cards that are "signed" from a child they lost several years ago ... again, I can't imagine the overwhelming pain that that involved for them and I'm not suggesting that they should just forget the deceased child, but I really wish they wouldn't do that.
This is great, except for the people out there whose dogs are afraid of other dogs, which is severely exacerbated by being on a leash while the other dog is offleash.
I have dogsat for a dog who has dog fear/aggression issues. If she sees another dog offleash, she will bolt. And she is strong. And it doesn't end well.
It also ignores the comfort of people who are afraid of dogs. It also ignores that your dog could still bolt when it sees a squirrel. And if you live within municipal limits, it's more than likely illegal.
But hey, as long as YOU think it's OK, it's all good, amiright?
Basically, some dogs will become aggressive and pissed off no matter what. I don't lose sleep over this. I also speed on occasion and that's illegal. What can I say, I live on the wild side.
Having kids made me crave the sit around and do nothing vacation. I used to love the go, go, go vacays and now all I want to do is sit and read a book in front of the pool and drink cocktails for hours on end.
H walks our dog off leash and I'm ok with it. Our dog, and many dogs, are far more aggressive on leash than off leash and this actually prevents him from running up to people. When he's on leash he still struggles, despite 3 years of on-going training, with viewing everything as a potential aggressor. He also responds to commands better when he's off leash.
As long as you can 100% keep your dog away from my leashed dog, I guess that's your risk to take on. It has been my experience that people who walk off leash can rarely guarantee this, and my dog is not friendly.
I've posted under 2 different AEs and gotten flamed. I don't regret taking the coward's way out at all. (Spoiler Albert for anyone who decides to go looking--neither was about a marriage issue)
I sat by the pool, read my book, enjoyed temperatures from 71-82 degrees, and every time my drink got more than 1/2 empty, a cocktail waitress brought me something new she thought I would enjoy. I also introduced my husband to the joy of Irish Coffee on the balcony overlooking the ocean, because all I had to do to get a bottle of baileys and a pot of coffee brought up was press a button.
I'm sorry if I didn't get enough culture on my trip, but I still think it was fucking awesome, and very much needed given the pace of our life at other times.
In all seriousness, I need the name of this AI.
I'll speak for Y4M - it's Excellence Playa Mujeres. I've been there with DH twice, it's amaaaaaazing. Stay in one of the building's that's on the lazy river (!) and get a fresh drink with every lap.
I hate the MMM board. I have a kid and I think its sooo boring to just talk about babies and baby related things all day. It bums me out though b/c I think the MM/MMM split really did destroy the MM board, which has gotten really dull. I think there are definitely posters sticking solely to MMM who made the MM board more interesting. Can I start a movement to rejoin the two?
No. The MMM board is valuable for those who need baby help/advice or whatever. Also - (a) I don't want all the baby posts in the main MM board, but (b) I also don't want the MMM people to be all "sorry, another baby post" or (c) worse, not posting becuse they don't want to crap up the board. And (d) if someone needs to find a baby-help post fast, it's handier for those post to be in a separate place.
But it does bum me out when people post non-baby stuff there, because I mean, that's what main MM is for. That shows that those people think of MMM as a wholly separate world from MM, and have no intention to ever visit or return to MM, which is the only reason a reasonable, supportive board like MMM even exists. I haven't really paid attention to who those posters are, but maybe those are the baby-crazy people who also ditch their non-kid-having friends because they no longer understaaaaand.
Agreed.
I think people need to realize that the GBCN world does not revolve around them. People bitched about baby posts on MM so then they had to be labeled @, then a board just for those posts was created and people were so happy to get them off the regular MM, now people are pissed that the posters they pushed away into MMM have stayed there, oh and they also SUPER judge the fact that the board created to contain @ posts has too many @ posts. ^o)
I would also like to point out that I 'follow the rules.' I lurked on MM for a long time, and the atmosphere of MMM was what finally made me decide to join. But, I also starting posting non baby posts here. So +1 for MMM.
Ooh, I've got one! I'm just as happy going on the safari ride at Animal Kingdom (one of the Disney parks) here in O-town as I'd be going on one in Africa.
I think I've met the MM snobbery trifecta -- Disney, travel/culture, Florida. Let me know if I missed anything.
ETA: WHERE IS MY "I REGRET NOTHING" CHICKEN GIF???
I'll speak for Y4M - it's Excellence Playa Mujeres. I've been there with DH twice, it's amaaaaaazing. Stay in one of the building's that's on the lazy river (!) and get a fresh drink with every lap.
I am kind of sad I literally never went in the lazy river. But we were on the other side of the property and our little quiet pool and kickass cocktail waitress weren't worth missing for a minute.