Truly flameworthy opinions, please

[sproutmd]

Feb 20, 2014 11:54:32 GMT -5 @champagna said:

I don't like horses. If I never saw another horse for the rest of my life, that would be okay.

I feel this way about dogs.



I love horses, though. I will now be kicked off MM. 

[flatlan]

Feb 20, 2014 10:57:21 GMT -5 havarti said:

Feb 20, 2014 9:44:01 GMT -5 v said:

Here's my piece about MMM -- great for pregnancy/parenting-related discussion, but it makes me sad that there are also randoms and confessions threads over there, as well as other discussions that really have nothing to do with child-having. I wish those discussions could happen over here instead.  I wish MMM was a place where people went to ask a kid-related question when they had one, like I go to Travel when I have a Travel-related question.  It isn't, and that makes me sad because I miss people (and I miss this board being really active)

Unrelated, but a confession I thought of while on my way to work: my husband and I share tissues 

When I post on MM I get two or three responses I assume because I'm not as well known here.  I get more feedback on MMM.  You have to give to get.  It sounds like you miss specific people, which is totally understandable, but if you (general you) aren't going to take the time to respond and develop relationships with new people, yeah, the board is going to die.

I am with you on this.  I think everyone needs to up their participation more (me included) to keep this board more active.  I felt bad for lululime getting called out for posting too many questions.  I think she was just trying to start more discussions on the board.  There are other more long time and well liked posters who ask random questions and gets tons of responses and no backlash.  We don't have the new blood coming in all the time like on the nest so lets cultivate the relationships with the people who do post.

[raangoli]

Feb 20, 2014 11:57:33 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Feb 20, 2014 11:52:04 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Yes, it's been a long time, but that is how you view it. To her, the pain is probably just as fresh as if it happened yesterday. Allowing her to grieve by only posting a picture 4 days a year (as you suggest) seems very callous and hurtful.  

Nobody's saying she can't do it. I just said I'm tired of it. I'd never say anything to her about it, so my opinion isn't hurting her.

The post title said "flameworthy", did it not?

It did, I was just trying to start a conversation about it. I found what you said to be worthy of flames (from me), so I was willing to discuss.

[SJ]

Feb 20, 2014 12:26:53 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I fell down a rabbit hole on Instagram earlier this morning gasping over #anorexia hashtags, then I felt like a creeper and stopped. But holy fuck. There are a lot of 12 and 11-year-olds posting about thigh gap on IG.

Ugh, this is so heartbreaking.

[Deleted]

Feb 20, 2014 12:26:53 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Pugs look unpleasant to me. I always think about the part in Total Recall where Douglas Quaid is sucked out into the Mars atmosphere and his eyes bug out and he's gasping for breath. That's how pugs look to me. lol. So they make my eyes water because I'm sure they're in desperate need of alien-artifact-generated oxygen.

KHC is home sick today, but I'm piling him in the car with Gatorade and hauling him out because it's like 70 degrees and I'm not wasting the day sitting around indoors.

I fell down a rabbit hole on Instagram earlier this morning gasping over #anorexia hashtags, then I felt like a creeper and stopped. But holy fuck. There are a lot of 12 and 11-year-olds posting about thigh gap on IG.

I fell down the exact same rabbit hole last week. I follow some fitness instagrammers and clicked through a comment to land on the #thinspo hashtag. Holy shit. It made me sad.

[cajunmom]

Feb 20, 2014 12:29:16 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Feb 20, 2014 11:57:33 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Nobody's saying she can't do it. I just said I'm tired of it. I'd never say anything to her about it, so my opinion isn't hurting her.

The post title said "flameworthy", did it not?

It did, I was just trying to start a conversation about it. I found what you said to be worthy of flames (from me), so I was willing to discuss.

I think my biggest issue is that she seems to allow her deceased child overshadow her living children. She posts more about him than the two that they have now.

[rubytue]

Feb 20, 2014 11:43:08 GMT -5 niq said:

My actual flameworthy: a good friend of mine once snarked that parents should be paid less because they're less productive.

I don't want to say I agree, but ... I get it.

At my first job, my office mate had a SAHW. When she got pregnant, he told me he was going to go ask for a raise because "he had a family to feed now." Not for increased work, not for more responsibly, just bc he was going to have a kid. 22 year old me WTFed that. Of course, the same guy also told me I was just biding my time until I had kids and took pride in his homer-like belches. So he was WTF all around.

My flame full, I seriously can not wrap my head around a lot of republican opinions. Particularly about health care, insurance, and tort reform. And I wish people understood how capitalism works, you either need regulations or the ability to sue for tort. The two are linked dammit!

[longtimenopost]

Feb 20, 2014 12:17:17 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:10:06 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

This is true.

I think it's important to remember that we all grieve in different ways and some people will never stop grieving. My cousin had three very early miscarriages and years later, she's still posting about it and calling them her angel babies and what not.

I've had two miscarriages and I've been TTC since 2008. Her behavior does not compute. But I think this is largely due to how different we are by nature. It used to annoy me when she constantly rehashed the details, but these days I just try to recognize that we have very different ways of coping and moving on with life.

The "difference of grief" thing is what I have to try harder to remember, too.

My dad died after suffering (pretty badly at the end) from a long illness. That's obviously apples and oranges with losing a child. I don't get comfort from displaying his photo absolutely everywhere (I'm not talking just a profile pic or having some photos at home, I mean PLASTERING the photo everywhere), posting on Facebook (a friend who lost her grandma was posting poems and collages every single day for about two weeks afterward), visiting his grave (I haven't visited since going last Father's Day and leaving as a sobbing mess), going to church (I pretty much stopped believing after he died) ... to me it feels like torturing myself with constant reminders. I'm never going to forget that he's gone, that I miss him, how terrible he looked/felt at the end. I don't find comfort in any of those things. I find comfort with happy memories and trying to find joy in my everyday regular life.

I get that people grieve differently and find comfort in things I don't. I think I have a hard time fully understanding it, though, because I'm on one extreme end of that spectrum and they're on the other, and I have a hard time grasping how they can find comfort in those things when I feel completely opposite.

The best way I can explain it is that parents with a living child protect their child. Parents who have lost a child protect their child's memory.

[urbancowgirl]

Feb 20, 2014 11:44:53 GMT -5 rikki said:

I drink the juice from jars of pickles. I have a large jar of bread and butter juice that the pickles have been gone from for quite some time. I take a big swig at least once a day. I would love to drink more, but it gives me an upset stomach if I have too much.

Every time I take a pickle from the jar, I take a sip of the juice, too.

[Deleted]

I really do feel too poor to post here.

[raangoli]

Feb 20, 2014 12:35:10 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:29:16 GMT -5 raangoli said:

It did, I was just trying to start a conversation about it. I found what you said to be worthy of flames (from me), so I was willing to discuss.

I think my biggest issue is that she seems to allow her deceased child overshadow her living children. She posts more about him than the two that they have now.

That is very sad. I hope your friend seeks grief counseling. It is one thing to honor the memory of her child, but it's another matter entirely when her other children don't rank.

[otowngirl]

Feb 20, 2014 12:03:25 GMT -5 @songforyou said:

Feb 20, 2014 11:54:32 GMT -5 @champagna said:

I don't like horses. If I never saw another horse for the rest of my life, that would be okay.

Ouch.  Now I see how things that aren't actually flameworthy can feel like a gut punch.

Boooo, @champagna.

Aww, are you a horse?

[starlily]

Feb 20, 2014 10:34:19 GMT -5 @spenjamins said:

Feb 20, 2014 10:32:08 GMT -5 sicilygirl said:

I think she was talking about lasagnasshole.  That's what it seemed like given the timing of her post...

Nope. And I still don't know who she used to be.

My guess was Tacom.

[rubytue]

Feb 20, 2014 12:35:10 GMT -5 cajunmom said:

Feb 20, 2014 12:29:16 GMT -5 raangoli said:

It did, I was just trying to start a conversation about it. I found what you said to be worthy of flames (from me), so I was willing to discuss.

I think my biggest issue is that she seems to allow her deceased child overshadow her living children. She posts more about him than the two that they have now.

That is concerning, and I'll get your back here. my SIL had two miscarriages. One at 7 weeks and one at 11 weeks. 15+ years later she still asked us to pray for her angels. She also has 2 beautiful children. My 7-year-old niece once told me she wishes she was dead like her sisters bc she wants mommy to miss her too. Niece is now a teen and not in a good place mentally.

[cookies]

Feb 20, 2014 12:39:54 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

OH you know the weirdest IG rabbit hole? CHEERLEBRITIES. Have you heard of this weirdness? They're high-school cheerleaders, who cheer competitively. They have, like, hundreds of thousands of followers. It's ... disturbing.

www.thewire.com/culture/2013/12/private-lives-cheerlebrities-instagram/356142/

Sweet jesus. Are they high school kids?  It grosses me out to think about all the creeps who are probably following them.

I used to get sucked into pro-ana blogs back in the day.  I think that's what they were called.  It was sad and disturbing, but hard to look away.

[Deleted]

Feb 20, 2014 12:26:53 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Pugs look unpleasant to me. I always think about the part in Total Recall where Douglas Quaid is sucked out into the Mars atmosphere and his eyes bug out and he's gasping for breath. That's how pugs look to me. lol. So they make my eyes water because I'm sure they're in desperate need of alien-artifact-generated oxygen.

KHC is home sick today, but I'm piling him in the car with Gatorade and hauling him out because it's like 70 degrees and I'm not wasting the day sitting around indoors.

I fell down a rabbit hole on Instagram earlier this morning gasping over #anorexia hashtags, then I felt like a creeper and stopped. But holy fuck. There are a lot of 12 and 11-year-olds posting about thigh gap on IG.

The same thing happened to me a few months ago.

[niemand88f]

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

[ssmjlm]

Well I now know where DH and I are going for our anniversary thanks to this thread.

My flameful is I have a friend who's son died shortly after birth due to defects. I'm so sorry for her loss and can't imagine what she went through. But I totally judge her for releasing balloons every year on his birthday. I always feel bad judging, but I do judge, b/c really, at least remember him in a way that doesn't affect others.

[karinothing]

@wandering - Umm he is totally hot!

[dexteroni]

Feb 20, 2014 12:39:54 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

OH you know the weirdest IG rabbit hole? CHEERLEBRITIES. Have you heard of this weirdness? They're high-school cheerleaders, who cheer competitively. They have, like, hundreds of thousands of followers. It's ... disturbing.

www.thewire.com/culture/2013/12/private-lives-cheerlebrities-instagram/356142/

What the hell? This is a world? I like the "private lives" designation as if their lives are public to everyone.

Also:

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And don't miss the "you're hair!" comment. Yes, yes she is. Almost all hair.

[otowngirl]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

My 20-21 year old self is at this.

[Deleted]

Feb 20, 2014 12:39:35 GMT -5 @bettyhomewrecker33 said:

I really do feel too poor to post here.

I promise I'm more poor than you. Like I'm literally in 6 figures worth of debt and I don't have a mortgage and have like $2,000 in the bank, if that.

People still seem to like me around here

[heliocentric]

Not an opinion, but a confession.

I went to IKEA on Sunday to buy shelving for the basement and curtains for the LR. I had all the curtains in one of the IKEA giant reusable bags. The bag was on top of the shelf stuff. When I was loading stuff into the car I found two extra shelf pieces under the bag. I wanted them, but I forgot about them and I think the cashier missed them because the quick math in my head didn't add up. I felt bad that I might not have paid for them, but really didn't want to go back inside. So, I never looked at my receipt to confirm. If it was confirmed I didn't pay I'd feel guilty, but without confirmation I didn't feel so bad.

I still haven't looked at the receipt. So, I might've left IKEA without paying for two shelves (~$22 total). Or not. I'm not sure.

[Deleted]

I'm envious of anyone whose divorce left them in a better financial picture. Of course I don't wish divorce on anyone, but since I have to go through it, I wish it would make me not poor! Another reason to marry rich.

[btay]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

 It's the remembering part. 

[dexteroni]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

Oh come on.

Think of it kind of like this post - you know how you don't understand this phenomenon? That's how some people feel about organic chem, or any other hard subject. What's so hard about just remembering that some people might have subjects that just don't sink in?

This isn't flame-worthy so much as eye-rolly.

[Kore]

I'm using my husband's birthday money to get drunk on French 75s tonight with a girlfriend.

[greencrayon]

Feb 20, 2014 12:00:59 GMT -5 hamster said:

Feb 20, 2014 11:42:26 GMT -5 dexteroni said:

Neither do I. Or French bulldogs, or Boston terriers, or pit bulls. The pit bull thing has nothing to do with the now-outdated (I hope) misconceptions about their temperaments. And I'm sure all of these breeds are awesome, affectionate pets. I just don't think any of them are even remotely cute.

Aww, I think a lot of pits are cute. The other breeds you mentioned...not so much.

GBCN has made me want a greyhound. I asked Wyatt this morning if he wanted a greyhound friend and he perked up and went to the window like there might be one out there for him. I'm pretty sure if I brought up a second dog to H he'd divorce me. 

I understand what you mean with bulldogs and boston terriers (and pugs! that may be not popular, lol), but not pits. Pit puppies are like the cutest things in the world! There's a pit/shar pei in my rescue and I cannot get enough of the wrinkles, lol.

We got this litter in a little bit ago!

[rubytue]

Feb 20, 2014 12:49:01 GMT -5 niemand88f said:

Brag-opinion: I really don't understand why organic chemistry is so hard for otherwise-intelligent people. I didn't even major in chemistry (took it because I thought I might do pre-med), and it was a total breeze for me. No, I didn't have an easy teacher - my professor told me she had to throw out my grades when curving the class scores because I got 95-100 on every test while the next highest was in the low 80's. What's so hard about just remembering & applying the rules?

I don't understand how people don't get basic math (percents, geometry, etc).

Other ppl don't get why I can't spell.

We are all different, learn differently, process differently. It's what make us unique.

Try being in a field where your job is to talk about the range of behavior. And you know what, most of those "idiots" that ppl judge for not using "common sense," where there was a very rational, foreseeable reason for that. But that's my human factors 101 lectures, I'll save for another time

[ESF]

Feb 20, 2014 13:06:21 GMT -5 Kore said:

I'm using my husband's birthday money to get drunk on French 75s tonight with a girlfriend.

mmmmm.....French 75s are my favorite cocktail.

I like to make them with grapefruit instead of lemon.

I have no flameworthy opinions to share.   I can probably count on one hand the number of flameworthy opinions/confessions posts that I've read all the way through because I just don't have the energy to read through 8 pages of "When I make fettuccine alfredo, I use penne."

I had to look up how to spell fettuccine.  That is probably because I am not really as smart as I think I am, what with my 470 verbal on my SAT and all.