Post by karmasabiotch on May 20, 2014 8:47:44 GMT -5
I don't. It doesn't have anything to do with my marriage. I was thinking back with older generations of my family and it seems like they have all been like that. I remember my Mom and Grandma and even my Dad making it sort of separate. When talking to J, I will say my side of the family or Dad's side of the family. I refer to them as Aunt or Uncle or whatever to him though.
I was wondering if I just come from an inclusive anti social family or if this is semi normal?
No. I'm fond of most of them, we have a great relationship, we get along, but they are not my family just as my family is not his family and that's okay with us.
Yes but I'm closer with his cousins than his parents/siblings. We lived in the same town as his cousins and grandparents for a few years and we became close.
I consider them my family, but not in the same way I consider my parents my family. I love them, but it's different. When we first got married, my H was disappointed that my parents and his parents didn't consider themselves family. I would find it weird it they did!
Post by indianchica on May 20, 2014 8:59:16 GMT -5
I don't consider his family mine. We haven't seen his immediate family in 6 years and they live 45 minutes away. He probably does consider my family his (bc his suck and) bc my parents watch our kids every day, we go to India, he is FB friends with my 2nd cousins, etc.
I'm not close to my family at all and when I met them and saw how close they were I thought "omg, I found my family! We'll be so close, like I have a new mom and dad sister and brothers!!" Hahahahahahahahaha. I was so fucking naive.
Post by melodramatic26 on May 20, 2014 9:04:01 GMT -5
honestly, no. I do consider them part of the kid's family but not mine.
Growing up though, we weren't close to my dad's side of the family and dh isn't close to his extended family either so there's not really been a "blended" example for us to follow.