Post by marylennox on May 28, 2014 13:37:31 GMT -5
Yes, I changed my name and I am happy with my decision.
I always intended to change my last name when I got married because I didn't really like my maiden name. Tbh I don't think my married name really "fits" with my first name, but I still like it better than my maiden name, so whatever.
I love my last name. I have decided that I'm just going to marry someone with the same last name as me. Win win!
I actually have customers who are getting married next month who have the same last name. They told me that it's ridiculous how many people make lame "Are you sure you're not related, heh heh heh" jokes. She said she usually just stares at the offending party.
My first name ends with a hard K and my maiden name starts with a hard K, and I got tired of saying it all the time, so I changed my name. I like it way better.
Did you change your name when you got married? Yes Are you happy with your decision? Yes If you didn't change your name, do you go by your husband's name socially? N/A
After divorcing ExH, and all the work it took to change it back, I swore I would never change my name again. Then DH and I decided to get married and it meant a lot to him, that I take his family name. So I did, and now I am glad that I did. It meant something to him, and a little running around didn't kill me.
Yes Yes, I went from a hard to pronounce/spell German last name to an easy to pronounce common last name that I never have to help spell or anything! Easy Peasy. n/a
I always assumed that I would change my last name, since that is the norm in my social circle, but then a month before the wedding I changed my mind. My dad doesn't have any sons to carry on our branch of the family, I don't like my H's last name much (it sounds like a very common name, but with slightly different pronounciation and it is a hassle to spell for only having 5 letters), and most importantly I didn't feel the need for an identity change.
I have a somewhat unusual situation in that I went from a hyphenated maiden name down to one married name.
My hyphenated name was very distinctive and it was always my "thing" growing up. I do get sad sometimes that I'm no longer the only person in the world with my name.
Post by CrazyLucky on May 28, 2014 14:52:57 GMT -5
I had a really hard time with this decision, and when we got married, we were not planning on having kids. I really liked the idea of having the same last name, but didn't agree that it should necessarily be ME who had to change. I thought it would be cool if both of us changed our last names to something else, but DH didn't want to change his name. He didn't care if I changed mine, but he wasn't changing his, which was fair. In the end, we compromised. I changed my middle name to my maiden name and took his last name. He changed his middle name to my maiden name. His mom wasn't happy, but tough. I'm happy with the choice. Mostly because it's just easier.
I thought it was going to be a royal headache to change my name. Plus, my husband argued vehemently against me changing my name because he doesn't think it's fair. In the end, it was one less headache to deal with around wedding-time and there are no repercussions.
Did you change your name when you got married? Yes Are you happy with your decision? Honestly, no. I liked my maiden name much better and planned on keeping it but it bothered both H and my dad so I gave in. i wish I hadn't. If you didn't change your name, do you go by your husband's name socially? N/A
Did you change your name when you got married? No.
Are you happy with your decision? Yes.
If you didn't change your name, do you go by your husband's name socially? Not on purpose, but now that we have kids I get called "Mrs. Cvillehusbandlastname" a lot. I anticipated it and don't let it bother me.
Yes and yes. I think this would have been a huge issue for H's family if I hadn't. I guess I didn't even consider not changing my name and this may just be that I actually like my married name because it is a step up from my maiden name.
Post by hopecounts on May 28, 2014 15:49:09 GMT -5
Yes Yes I changed it and I am happy with the decision. That said I was not attached to my maiden name and didn't feel like it was a big deal to change it for me and where I live it is still very much still what is done.
I got married really young and I thought it was just something I was supposed to do. Now, I regret it so much. I love my husband and I love being married, but just because I'm the female doesn't mean I should be the one to change names. I know it's culturally what we do, but I wish I would have thought about it more when we got married. And for whatever it is worth, my married name is a lot better sounding than my maiden name, but it still gets under my skin that I didn't do things differently.
Post by casarosada on May 28, 2014 16:29:29 GMT -5
Did you change your name when you got married? Yes, but not to my husband's last name. We both changed our name to a random new last name. Are you happy with your decision? Yes!
We weighed our options and realized neither of us were happy with any of the - I didn't want to take his last name, he didn't want to take mine, we wanted the same last name, neither of us wanted to hyphenate, etc. In the end, it just made sense and worked perfectly for us to choose a new last name. I could not be happier with the decision. :-)
I've been thinking a lot about this and keep going back and forth on what I want. I'm curious what other people have done and how they feel about it.
Did you change your name when you got married? Yes, I hyphenated my name, so I am Sparky Thelawyer-Mr.Sparky Are you happy with your decision?Absolutely. I did not want to give up my maiden name. I married "older" if you will, and I had been Sparky Thelawyer for too long to just walk away from it. Also, changing my middle name wasn't an option because my middle name is a family name on both sides. And really? Changing my middle name to my maiden name just did not feel like a "compromise" to me. Who goes by their middle name? Middle names get lost unless you are applying for a mortgage, a credit card or a job. I did not want my maiden name getting lost in the shuffle. My name has meaning to me, and I was not willing to throw it away just because I was getting married. However, I was aware of the fact that I was marrying the only child of only children, and the name dies with him unless we make some humans, so I understood his need to have me take on his name as well.
To me, this was the best compromise. He whines about it every now and then, I remind him that I did, in fact, take his name and he can, in fact, cram his whining up his hiney.
Oh, and changing your name is a giant pain in the ass. No part of it was amusing to me and I was still keeping my name. If I was going through all of that hassle to give up a name that mattered to me, I would have been resentful as hell.
If you didn't change your name, do you go by your husband's name socially? Socially I have no problem going as "Mrs. Mr.Sparky'slastname. Folks who know me know I hyphenate my name, but I do not need to stand on principal for Shower invites, etc. :-)
Did you change your name when you got married? Yes. Are you happy with your decision? I'm fine with it.
Growing up, my mom didn't take my dad's last name, and I always found all the questions we got to be annoying. I figured that when I got married, we would hyphenate. However, the combination of my name and H's last name is really unfortunate (like, our children's classmates would likely call them "Firstname Poop-Dick,") and he cared more about me changing it than I did about not changing it, so I just changed it to his. You're WELCOME, non-existant future children!
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