I'm here. There was a woman in the hotel room. Not surprised.
I caught him all sorts of lies. The woman is a friend of our friends. She kept trying to explain to me why she was naked in bed. I told her to STFU.
I then turned my eyes on hi. Told him he fucking disgusts me. I have put a hold on his bank cards so he can't withdraw money. The truck is in my name. I told him he had one hour to have it in the driveway, or it will be reported as stolen (not gonna do this).
He fucked with the wrong one. I honestly don't know whats going to happen from here. I'm alive.
Thanks for being there for me, you guys.
I am so so so so so very sorry. I think you handled it well. If you need to vent or talk we are here for you. I am so sorry
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
What a total dick. For the cheating, but making you worry about it all night long was a total douchetastic move! Freeze everything and see how much he likes that!
Besides the cards, can you protect the funds in any joint bank accounts?
Big hugs...
I would set up a new bank account and transfer any excess funds (other than bills) to it. Just because he doesn't have cards doesn't mean he doesn't have access.
I would actually consult a lawyer before doing any of this. I think this kind of thing can actually come back to bite you depending on the laws in your state, etc. I don't think you can legally cut off his access to his own money. However, I'm not a lawyer (just a divorced person). Please be careful not to do anything you'll regret in the long run - consulting a lawyer before doing anything major is always a good idea.
And, I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but I am outraged on your behalf. Being cheated on is the worst. You will get through this and be ok.
I would set up a new bank account and transfer any excess funds (other than bills) to it. Just because he doesn't have cards doesn't mean he doesn't have access.
I would actually consult a lawyer before doing any of this. I think this kind of thing can actually come back to bite you depending on the laws in your state, etc. I don't think you can legally cut off his access to his own money. However, I'm not a lawyer (just a divorced person). Please be careful not to do anything you'll regret in the long run - consulting a lawyer before doing anything major is always a good idea.
And, I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but I am outraged on your behalf. Being cheated on is the worst. You will get through this and be ok.
This could be entirely true and is good advice. I'm coming from a banking perspective, not a legal one. I would be concerned about him draining the account, hence my advice.
Post by hungrycaterpillar on Dec 5, 2014 11:25:43 GMT -5
As someone who was in a very similar situation, I know how much that hurts. You are doing great. Surround yourself with family. Pm me if you have any questions.
Oh, man. This sucks. On one hand, seeing the other woman naked in his bed has to remove any possible doubts...on the other? What a fucking punch in the gut. How did you manage to find out what room he was in?
Smart move, freezing the accounts-move any joint money to an account he can't touch ASAP. And follow through on the threat to report the truck stolen. No mercy.
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. - G. K. Chesterton
I would set up a new bank account and transfer any excess funds (other than bills) to it. Just because he doesn't have cards doesn't mean he doesn't have access.
I would actually consult a lawyer before doing any of this. I think this kind of thing can actually come back to bite you depending on the laws in your state, etc. I don't think you can legally cut off his access to his own money. However, I'm not a lawyer (just a divorced person). Please be careful not to do anything you'll regret in the long run - consulting a lawyer before doing anything major is always a good idea.
And, I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but I am outraged on your behalf. Being cheated on is the worst. You will get through this and be ok.
A judge will probably tell her to either put the money back or give him half. If he drains the accounts, she will be SOL. It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission in this case in my experience. She also doesn't have to empty the accounts, but it's a very good idea to protect herself financially.