Sorry, but if you've even HEARD an episode of TWD from another room, you know it's not appropriate for kids.
No one is disputing this.
Then no one should dispute that this person trusting her husband's judgment on this show when those noises are coming from the TV in the next room is dumb.
Honestly, until this thread I had no idea how graphic it was. So if my H was letting my kid watch I probably wouldn't have questioned it. And I'm a terrible mother who doesn't watch what my kids watch because it keeps them occupied so I can get shit done.
I think if you're very familiar with it it sounds very easy to assess it isn't a great thing for a kid to watch, but if you've never seen it or even seen a commercial you aren't aware of how graphic and violent it is.
I've never seen a single episode before, and yet know enough about it to know that it's graphic and nuts. AND THEY LET HER KEEP WATCHING IT. PEOPLE KEEP LEAVING THIS OUT AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY.
You're right that once she realized how violent it was she should have turned it off. I do agree on that point. I can't honestly say that the fact that it deals with zombies would have meant I wouldn't let the kid watch it since I know there are tons or movies and games about zombies right now and it seems to be a trendy theme. Again, I've never seen even a commercial and don't know anyone who watches it, so I might not assume the apparent level of violence based in just the name of the show.
You're right that once she realized how violent it was she should have turned it off. I do agree on that point. I can't honestly say that the fact that it deals with zombies would have meant I wouldn't let the kid watch it since I know there are tons or movies and games about zombies right now and it seems to be a trendy theme. Again, I've never seen even a commercial and don't know anyone who watches it, so I might not assume the apparent level of violence based in just the name of the show.
....seriously?
Yes. Given that my kids friends play games in their iPads that involve cartoon-like zombies I wouldn't automatically assume zombie=hyper violent.
No, I've said many times I've never seen it or even noticed a commercial for it.
But I don't...I mean, it's been everywhere, including all over the internet. Including this message board. How can you have had NO idea, even an inkling, about the content?? I don't understand.
It never interested me so I never read the threads? I mean, I don't do horror type stuff myself, so while I'm aware the show exists, I had no idea when it was on, what channel or the content.
Again, not saying I would let my kid watch it, just that if my H allowed it I wouldn't go back and check that it was okay. But, I also say this with kids who can't handle scary and a husband who has shown good judgement on what our kids watch.
No, I've said many times I've never seen it or even noticed a commercial for it.
Then how can you comment on it being violent or not?
I'm not saying it's not violent or that I think it's okay for kids (although I still think a 3 year old would handle it better than an older child who is starting to understand mortality), just that if my husband allowed my kids to watch it I wouldn't necessarily go back and recheck and can see how the OP allowed it. Based on what I'm hearing here once it was on I would have turned it off and ripped my husband a new one.
I think watching HeMan and G I Joe and Transformers and all that other 80s boy shit didn't leave my DH with the best grip on what is ok violence wise for kids.
this is why he no longer has total control over their TV watching
Does he regularly rule over your household shouting, "BY THE POWER OF GREYSKULL!"
Does he go around shooting people and then concludes, "and knowing is half the battle."
Or did he turn out to be a generally decent man, who you only occasionally want to murder with nerds?
Is this a bad thing? Uh oh.
GI Joe wasn't all bad. I learned a lot. Why were we so concerned about playing on old refrigerators in the 80s?
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Apr 8, 2015 11:32:09 GMT -5
Look, I traumatized my child the moment he walked in on me when I was changing a pad.
Honestly, if she likes watching the show and isn't scared of it, I don't care. My entire life revolves around picking battles and avoiding meltdowns. If Babycakes wanted in on that zombie shit I probably wouldn't fight him on it. I've always watched scary movies as long as I can remember. It was a thing my dad and I liked doing together. I'm probably not a killer.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
But I don't...I mean, it's been everywhere, including all over the internet. Including this message board. How can you have had NO idea, even an inkling, about the content?? I don't understand.
It never interested me so I never read the threads? I mean, I don't do horror type stuff myself, so while I'm aware the show exists, I had no idea when it was on, what channel or the content.
Again, not saying I would let my kid watch it, just that if my H allowed it I wouldn't go back and check that it was okay. But, I also say this with kids who can't handle scary and a husband who has shown good judgement on what our kids watch.
Okay, listen, this is silly.
So, you haven't seen the show. Cool. I haven't seen some shows either. People yammered about Breaking Bad and I haven't gotten around to it yet (I KNOW, OKAY) so I don't know if it's the drug one or the motorcycle gang one or maybe it's about a motorcycle gang that distributes drugs? Or Congress? Wait, that's House of Cards, which, FYI, far murder-ier than I'd anticipated.
But, it's called "Breaking Bad" and it's on cable ursomeshit that isn't Disney Jr., so BEFORE I ALLOWED MY THREE YEAR OLD TO WATCH IT, I'D VET IT.
Likewise, Walking Dead. A show about zombies. I'd be like "huh, cute zombie cartoon about the travails of being a zombie kid and the fact that your brain lunch doesn't fit into a cute bento box like all your friend's lunches, or potentially violent, hyper-realistic live action show about a post-apocalyptic existence. I SHOULD CHECK THIS SHIT OUT BEFORE WE CUDDLE UP FOR FAMILY HOUR."
It never interested me so I never read the threads? I mean, I don't do horror type stuff myself, so while I'm aware the show exists, I had no idea when it was on, what channel or the content.
Again, not saying I would let my kid watch it, just that if my H allowed it I wouldn't go back and check that it was okay. But, I also say this with kids who can't handle scary and a husband who has shown good judgement on what our kids watch.
Okay, listen, this is silly.
So, you haven't seen the show. Cool. I haven't seen some shows either. People yammered about Breaking Bad and I haven't gotten around to it yet (I KNOW, OKAY) so I don't know if it's the drug one or the motorcycle gang one or maybe it's about a motorcycle gang that distributes drugs? Or Congress? Wait, that's House of Cards, which, FYI, far murder-ier than I'd anticipated.
But, it's called "Breaking Bad" and it's on cable ursomeshit that isn't Disney Jr., so BEFORE I ALLOWED MY THREE YEAR OLD TO WATCH IT, I'D VET IT.
Likewise, Walking Dead. A show about zombies. I'd be like "huh, cute zombie cartoon about the travails of being a zombie kid and the fact that your brain lunch doesn't fit into a cute bento box like all your friend's lunches, or potentially violent, hyper-realistic live action show about a post-apocalyptic existence. I SHOULD CHECK THIS SHIT OUT BEFORE WE CUDDLE UP FOR FAMILY HOUR."
Really, truly, I trust my husband to make good decisions, though. When they mention wanting to watch X,Y,Z show because their friend does, then of course I check out what it is before letting them watch it. I think that's the part I'm hung up on. I wouldn't trust anyone other than H to put on an otherwise adult-oriented show for my kids, but I trust my H enough not to double check everything he does. There's no one else in the world I trust that much, but my guard would absolutely be down if H allowed it.
So, you haven't seen the show. Cool. I haven't seen some shows either. People yammered about Breaking Bad and I haven't gotten around to it yet (I KNOW, OKAY) so I don't know if it's the drug one or the motorcycle gang one or maybe it's about a motorcycle gang that distributes drugs? Or Congress? Wait, that's House of Cards, which, FYI, far murder-ier than I'd anticipated.
But, it's called "Breaking Bad" and it's on cable ursomeshit that isn't Disney Jr., so BEFORE I ALLOWED MY THREE YEAR OLD TO WATCH IT, I'D VET IT.
Likewise, Walking Dead. A show about zombies. I'd be like "huh, cute zombie cartoon about the travails of being a zombie kid and the fact that your brain lunch doesn't fit into a cute bento box like all your friend's lunches, or potentially violent, hyper-realistic live action show about a post-apocalyptic existence. I SHOULD CHECK THIS SHIT OUT BEFORE WE CUDDLE UP FOR FAMILY HOUR."
Really, truly, I trust my husband to make good decisions, though. When they mention wanting to watch X,Y,Z show because their friend does, then of course I check out what it is before letting them watch it. I think that's the part I'm hung up on. I wouldn't trust anyone other than H to put on an otherwise adult-oriented show for my kids, but I trust my H enough not to double check everything he does. There's no one else in the world I trust that much, but my guard would absolutely be down if H allowed it.
You don't say "hey, so what's that about" in casual conversation? Or, as a result, pay closer attention when the show your husband has endorsed for your child comes up in conversation?
This is how I--a person who despises video games--learned that because my 5 year old kid likes "car games" my husband planned to buy Grand Theft Auto instead of MARIO KART, LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. I was like "isn't that the one with the secret codes that allow you to kill prostitutes?" and he was like "ohshit, I feel dumb." Walla.
I'm wondering if @helenabonhamcarter's kids are the only ones who can watch cartoons with mine.
My kid can join the party too. She's probably been witness to things that are not suitable. We try not to watch that stuff around her but she's seen parts of WD and she "played" Far Cry 3 and Batman with DH on the playstation. I'm probably a bad mom.
I'm wondering if @helenabonhamcarter's kids are the only ones who can watch cartoons with mine.
My kid can join the party too. She's probably been witness to things that are not suitable. We try not to watch that stuff around her but she's seen parts of WD and she "played" Far Cry 3 and Batman with DH on the playstation. I'm probably a bad mom.
Mine likes to "play" Assassin's Creed. She likes crashing the boat into stuff.
Really, truly, I trust my husband to make good decisions, though. When they mention wanting to watch X,Y,Z show because their friend does, then of course I check out what it is before letting them watch it. I think that's the part I'm hung up on. I wouldn't trust anyone other than H to put on an otherwise adult-oriented show for my kids, but I trust my H enough not to double check everything he does. There's no one else in the world I trust that much, but my guard would absolutely be down if H allowed it.
You don't say "hey, so what's that about" in casual conversation? Or, as a result, pay closer attention when the show your husband has endorsed for your child comes up in conversation?
This is how I--a person who despises video games--learned that because my 5 year old kid likes "car games" my husband planned to buy Grand Theft Auto instead of MARIO KART, LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. I was like "isn't that the one with the secret codes that allow you to kill prostitutes?" and he was like "ohshit, I feel dumb." Walla.
Well, yes, of course it would eventually come up in conversation and once I realized it was inappropriate we would talk about it. But H leans more overprotective than I do so that certainly factors in as well.
And here I felt bad for scaring my kids with Fern Gully.
We tried watching Jumanji about a week ago and got 20 minutes in. My 7yo now has to sleep with a nightlight on, his door wide open, and the hall light on.
I remember watching Poltergeist with my brother - he was probably around 3 years old (it was the 80's and parental controls on tvs weren't invented yet) and he thought the bodies popping up in the pool was the funniest thing he'd ever seen (while I, at 8 years old was totally terrified and didn't want to swim in Grandma's pool anymore). A couple years later, he had night terrors to Die Hard.
ETA: for the record - we both grew up to be relatively normal adults. And of course, the stuff we were watching was not totally approved of by our parents. They were just...not always around.
Probably this. She just doesn't know enough to get scared by it.
I also saw poltergeist at a ridiculously young age and loved it. I've always watched scary movies, and I'm certainly no serial killer. Maybe that's why I just didn't see this as that big of a deal. I see that I am wrong.
You don't say "hey, so what's that about" in casual conversation? Or, as a result, pay closer attention when the show your husband has endorsed for your child comes up in conversation?
This is how I--a person who despises video games--learned that because my 5 year old kid likes "car games" my husband planned to buy Grand Theft Auto instead of MARIO KART, LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. I was like "isn't that the one with the secret codes that allow you to kill prostitutes?" and he was like "ohshit, I feel dumb." Walla.
Well, yes, of course it would eventually come up in conversation and once I realized it was inappropriate we would talk about it. But H leans more overprotective than I do so that certainly factors in as well.
The OP in the other thread knows her daughter has seen at least two episodes in which kids get shot.
It could have the fucking Easter Bunny in the title and I would still be Judgy McJudgerpants because she knows damn well what her kid is watching and she hasn't put a stop to it.
And re: pixy's point, it doesn't take a parent screaming at or reacting to a show for a child to grasp that it is scary or funny. The Bubble Guppies get chased by a bear or a monster truck or monkeys in every episode and my 2-year old occasionally will get anxious until it's revealed they're really nice and just trying to tell them something or play with them. Obviously I'm not carrying on myself, but it's enough that Nonny and Oona are for him to grasp that it's meant to be nerve-wracking. And he laughs or claps when other people laugh or clap, whether it's me or a character in Sesame Street.
I haven't watched TWD since the first season, but in addition to all of the blood and gore, I'm fairly certain people do scream and cry. The fear reaponse doesn't just come from actual people.
You don't say "hey, so what's that about" in casual conversation? Or, as a result, pay closer attention when the show your husband has endorsed for your child comes up in conversation?
This is how I--a person who despises video games--learned that because my 5 year old kid likes "car games" my husband planned to buy Grand Theft Auto instead of MARIO KART, LIKE A NORMAL PERSON. I was like "isn't that the one with the secret codes that allow you to kill prostitutes?" and he was like "ohshit, I feel dumb." Walla.
Man Cville, you really should just ease up.
Hey, don't drag me into your zombie fight.
I've turned my focus to side issues, arguments I find to be poorly constructed, and Clueless gifs.
It never interested me so I never read the threads? I mean, I don't do horror type stuff myself, so while I'm aware the show exists, I had no idea when it was on, what channel or the content.
Again, not saying I would let my kid watch it, just that if my H allowed it I wouldn't go back and check that it was okay. But, I also say this with kids who can't handle scary and a husband who has shown good judgement on what our kids watch.
I just think the title alone might ping something to just google.
it would be like if DH told me he let the kids watch a few episodes of Crack Whores, I might google it.
But are there kids on the show? If so, it's totally legit! Kids can relate and all that...
At 3 I would imagine she doesn't have enough concept of life and death to really understand what is going on in the show the way an adult or older child would process it. So I'm not surprised she's not scared. At some point she will begin to awaken to the reality of the finality of death and what it means and then it may scare her. At which time I presume her parents will turn it off.
A friend of my girls watches it, has been watching it with her dad for a long time and taught my girls the concept of zombies. Even my wimpy kids who are terrified of Brave handled that concept without a problem. I won't let them watch TWD because I know they can't handle it, but there are certainly kids who can and won't grow up to be murderers because of it.
I am more concerned about the lack of empathy the kid might develop.
that combined with a "we let her do whatever the fuck she wants" lead my mind to think that being a sociopath isn't out of the question
While you might like to infer that we let her do whatever she wants, we most certainly do not. Yes, I've been lax about tv. But you just cannot infer the rest of our decisions based on that.