Can we do some confessions/flamefuls?

[Deleted]

Dude, sent, you got some serious IL suck going on.

[cinco]

Our moms live 5 and 8 hours away. Here is a typical day when they visit:
AM: I get up and race or do a long run while grandma watches the kids
Afternoon: cocktails for me while I read and chill while grandma watches the kids
Evening: date night while grandma watches the kids

This is how it is supposed to be done, right? I actually try hard to do stuff so that they don't feel like I am using them, but holy hell do I appreciate the weekend off.

[kdubs923]

Oh, hey. Don't mind me. I'm just going through this thread liking posts.

And finding awkward dancing gifs.

Nothing productive to add.

[wilbs]

This seems like an appropriate time to mention that I wish my ILs would watch DS (well, the monitor since he's asleep) when they come visit. Instead we sit around watching bad cable crime dramas while FIL looks up the cheapest places to buy gas in a 20 mile radius. UGH.

[darnkatz]

I made chocolate swirl buns on Monday. I realized this morning that the muffin tin was still sitting out, and there was one lone bun sitting in sadness. So I ate it.

Not even sorry.

[curbsideprophet]

May 28, 2015 11:02:18 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

May 28, 2015 10:30:23 GMT -5 sent said:

So along the lines of dancing and the thread earlier this week about grandparents, my husband has a cousin who along with her SIL, the two of them love to get dressed up and hit up all the bars in suburbia and chronicle their adventures all across FB. They leave their kids with various grandparents. I judge the cousin hard for leaving her kids with the grandparents who drive up from 3 hours away just so she can go out dancing.  I mean I leave my kid with her grandparents, but that's so I can work and make a living and have money for my kid's future so that makes my reason better right?

That's my flameful.

My mom drives up from 3.5 hours away to babysit on weekends sometimes.  

My mom sometimes drives 8 hours to babysit ( or buys a plane ticket) #oneupper #noregrets

[Deleted]

May 28, 2015 11:57:42 GMT -5 wilbs said:

This seems like an appropriate time to mention that I wish my ILs would watch DS (well, the monitor since he's asleep) when they come visit. Instead we sit around watching bad cable crime dramas while FIL looks up the cheapest places to buy gas in a 20 mile radius. UGH.

Does my husband have a brother? </3

[rbp]

May 28, 2015 11:54:04 GMT -5 @marshmallows said:

May 28, 2015 11:38:53 GMT -5 sent said:

I mentioned that to reference that neither my husband nor I grew up with babysitters, so it's not something we automatically think of now that we are parents.  

My IL's are many levels of suck, but my husband had a lot to do with that.  It wasn't always this bad.  Obviously I don't share everything on GBCN, but the last few months of my life have been much better than the hell that was 2011 - 2015.  They are coming up this weekend because I am going to a wedding in Chicago.  My husband and DD were going to come, but after he lost his job we decided them staying home would be MMM right now.  I will be civil with them tomorrow, even if I accidentally saw the text where MIL is severely judging me for going to this wedding alone.  In her opinion, I should've stayed home since DD is staying home because she would've never done such a thing.  My husband said to ignore it because he is ok with me going, but obviously it stings to know that she thinks of me this way.  

I didn't grow up with babysitters and neither did my husband.  Yet, we use babysitters and daycare.  I really don't see the connection.

Your ILs sound like chauvinists and, if I may be so bold, from what I've see you post here, you and your husband could use some couple time.  I'd also caution you against creating some weird family-only bubble around your DD.  She's what, over 1 year old?  I don't see that as "such a small age" to learn to be around people other than blood relations.  

Yeah that separation anxiety's going to be rough when she's only ok with a handful of people in the world.

[motzie]

May 28, 2015 11:53:29 GMT -5 cinco said:

Our moms live 5 and 8 hours away. Here is a typical day when they visit:
AM: I get up and race or do a long run while grandma watches the kids
Afternoon: cocktails for me while I read and chill while grandma watches the kids
Evening: date night while grandma watches the kids

This is how it is supposed to be done, right? I actually try hard to do stuff so that they don't feel like I am using them, but holy hell do I appreciate the weekend off.

Totally. My MIL has no interest in hanging out with me or H until the kids are in bed, and even then she goes to sleep so early that we just go out to dinner at 9pm and everyone wins. 

[thebreakfastclub]

May 28, 2015 12:00:02 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

One of the main reasons I don't use grandparents as daycare is so I CAN use them when I want to go do fun shit.

Absolutely this.  My mom loves having my son over for the weekend and has him probably every 6 weeks or so. 

She asked to take him for a week in August too.  H and I are going to Montreal for a few days while he's there.

She would certainly not be interested in keeping him for a weekend if she spent 5 days a week with him.  She can barely keep up with him now that he's running around like crazy. 

[MadamePresident]

I have a friend whose kids I think are very unattractive.

[leonard131]

Velar Fricative  totally unrelated to anything going on in this thread but you win for best GIF EVER.  Of course I am little bias................GO PSU.

[curbsideprophet]

May 28, 2015 11:42:28 GMT -5 sent said:

May 28, 2015 11:34:06 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

But maybe she'll continue to freak out because she never had a chance to get used to it.

Didn't you give a daycare a try for like 2 weeks and then quit because she hated it?  It seems like you're scared of change, so you're projecting that onto your daughter and not allowing her to overcome things.

And thus ends my armchair therapist talk.

Does she have to overcome things at such a small age?  I don't remember anything my life before age 4 at best.  I sent her for a month and she was sick and crying all the time.  I stopped because I had another choice.  Obviously if I had no choice, we would've both adapted.  I am thinking about sending her again, but when she's ready.  In my mind, I don't think that's quite yet.  

What does this even mean? How exactly does a one year old get ready for daycare? If you would sooner avoid daycare and use up all you grandparent time while you work, good for you. That does not mean others are wrong/bad/whatever for using grandparents for fun things!

[Willis Jackson]

I can't imagine not doing something because my mom and/or MIL would judge me for it.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

May 28, 2015 12:55:22 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

I have a friend whose kids I think are very unattractive.

Huh. Glasses houses...

[namasteak]

May 28, 2015 13:23:25 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

May 28, 2015 12:55:22 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

I have a friend whose kids I think are very unattractive.

One of my good friends is absolutely gorgeous, her husband looks like he should be modeling $12,000 watches in GQ ... And their kids are really funny looking. I have high hopes for them as adults though.

Lately I've heard this described as "Neville Longbottomed". IE: they were not attractive children but Neville Longbottomed as adults.

It killed me everytime.

[chickens987]

May 28, 2015 12:02:53 GMT -5 curbsideprophet said:

May 28, 2015 11:02:18 GMT -5 jeaniebueller said:

My mom drives up from 3.5 hours away to babysit on weekends sometimes.  

My mom sometimes drives 8 hours to babysit ( or buys a plane ticket) #oneupper #noregrets

Yeah my MIL flew transatlantic to babysit while H and I went to aruba, sat on the beach, drank all day and posted pictures of it on facebook

[MadamePresident]

May 28, 2015 13:32:39 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

May 28, 2015 12:55:22 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

I have a friend whose kids I think are very unattractive.

Huh. Glasses houses...

I am unsure what you mean by this, unless you are trying to imply that you think my kids are unattractive. If that's the case you have every right to think so, its all an opinion anyways.

[niq]

I don't get why people avoid saying the word "died". I really dislike "passed", it feels like a euphemism.

This thread shall never die.

[bowies]

I'm jealous of those with involved grandparents.

[Willis Jackson]

May 28, 2015 14:05:52 GMT -5 niq said:

I don't get why people avoid saying the word "died". I really dislike "passed", it feels like a euphemism.

This thread shall never die.

I feel the exact same way. HATE "passed" or "passed away".

Died. Grandma died. She's dead.

[Willis Jackson]

I wonder what Laurie Metcalf's up to.

[bronxgirl]

May 28, 2015 14:17:14 GMT -5 Willis Jackson said:

I wonder what Laurie Metcalf's up to.

She does a lot of theater and is on the HBO show "Getting On".  I love her.  She's such a great actress.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

May 28, 2015 13:58:19 GMT -5 MadamePresident said:

May 28, 2015 13:32:39 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

Huh. Glasses houses...

I am unsure what you mean by this, unless you are trying to imply that you think my kids are unattractive. If that's the case you have every right to think so, its all an opinion anyways.

lol right

[anna7602]

Um, what is going on upthread?

[AmyRI]

May 28, 2015 13:30:57 GMT -5 Willis Jackson said:

I can't imagine not doing something because my mom and/or MIL would judge me for it.

I get very concerned when I start doing things that my parents or ILs would NOT judge me for. I do not want to turn into them!

[rbp]

May 28, 2015 13:26:15 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

May 28, 2015 13:23:25 GMT -5 RexManningDay said:

One of my good friends is absolutely gorgeous, her husband looks like he should be modeling $12,000 watches in GQ ... And their kids are really funny looking. I have high hopes for them as adults though.

So often I feel like the more attractive the parent the less attractive the kid, and vice versa.

I say this as half of an average looking couple with clearly above average looking children.

Ha. H and I are average looking, and M is gorgeous. Does this bode poorly for his looks as an adult?

[Velar Fricative]

Laurie Metcalf = Sheldon Cooper's mom. I'm shocked no one mentioned this yet!

[rootbeerfloat]

May 28, 2015 14:48:06 GMT -5 deej said:

May 28, 2015 14:46:59 GMT -5 @mrswindycity said:

Finally I have something for the empty space on my spreadsheet next to @this and deej.

I thought the entry already was "too fabulous for words; brilliant; funny gifs" for me at least. 

Who knows about @this.

deej = cute boys, needs sleep, likes Stars Wars, CANNOT BE TRUSTED IN TV THREADS

[cincodemayo]

Roseanne was my ML show last time even though I had seen every episode before. I'm kind of appalled at someone not having ever seen it.