I met with my nutritionist last week to go over my GD numbers and she said I was doing so well I didn't need to come back to see her. Woohoo!
In moving news, movers come to take our stuff in a few days and we'll be staying in a hotel from that point until we find a house in Germany. So we'll be living out of a hotel for the next 3 weeks at the very least. Even though its coming down to the last week before leaving, it still doesn't quite feel like this is happening. I have a feeling it won't quite sink in until we get there. I'm equal parts excited and terrified of this new adventure right now!
I'm getting ready to move, too. I'll return to Canada in 3 weeks, and we're still not sure if H is coming with me, or staying here until Christmas. All very up in the air. Luckily, I/we will be living with my parents, likely for a year or so until we get our finances and H's visa worked out, so no need to search for a place just yet. It seems so weird to be moving back. This city has been my home for almost 6 years, and I've been living abroad on and off for the last 10.
No appointments for me this week, just counting down to the A/S in 2 weeks.
I'm sure I will loira! I just need to survive the flight over and the days leading up to that. That's what is stressing me out the most right now. A house and everything else will work out and come together. H and I will be flying separately into different airports and I'm just stressed about navigating customs with pets and gathering what will feel like a million suitcases on my own (ok so its only 2 suitcases, 1 carry on and 2 pets in kennels, but it will feel like a million!). But it will all work out, it always does
Good luck with your move as well! I hope it all goes smoothly and that you get some answers soon regarding when your H will be able to come over. Making such a long move is stressful enough, let alone having unknowns like that on top of it. I hope the transition is as easy as it can be!
loira and G22 I can't believe you're both moving so soon! Good luck to both of you! Have you guys found new OBs/midwifes in your new cities?
I haven't yet, but I have narrowed down our hospital choices to 2 options. So once I get over there, I need to go to the base clinic and they will help me get set up with an OB/midwife. At least that's what I've been told by several pregnant woman over there who moved mid pregnancy like I'm doing. It was so much easier to pick out my own OB and set up an appt here before we moved, but I'm not quite sure how to do that from another country. Hopefully it's a smooth process since I'm so far long!
Post by cactuscookie on Aug 30, 2015 10:23:35 GMT -5
G22, I'm glad it sounds like there's a good support system for what you're doing. It sounds so intimidating to me!
loira, I hope you don't have to live separately from your husband for too long. I get the idea that you and your mom are close, so you'll have support there, but I'm sure your husband doesn't want to be apart from you for most of the third trimester.
Post by cactuscookie on Aug 30, 2015 10:25:16 GMT -5
My pre-appointment anxiety is ramping up. I'm so frustrated that I can't feel movement yet. Other than one day almost two weeks ago when she kept poking me on and off for an hour or two, I haven't felt anything that I can differentiate from any other stomach gurgle. It would just be so reassuring to feel something every once in a while.
My pre-appointment anxiety is ramping up. I'm so frustrated that I can't feel movement yet. Other than one day almost two weeks ago when she kept poking me on and off for an hour or two, I haven't felt anything that I can differentiate from any other stomach gurgle. It would just be so reassuring to feel something every once in a while.
Anatomy scan in 5 days, so at least there's that.
Exciting your anatomy scan is so soon! Can't wait to here how it goes!
Remind me, do you know if you have anterior placenta to where it might be hard to feel movements? Your 19-20 weeks right? Even without AP, movements were spotty still for me at that point. I know that doesn't make it any less frustrating though. Hopefully your anatomy scan will bring some much needed comfort!
My pre-appointment anxiety is ramping up. I'm so frustrated that I can't feel movement yet. Other than one day almost two weeks ago when she kept poking me on and off for an hour or two, I haven't felt anything that I can differentiate from any other stomach gurgle. It would just be so reassuring to feel something every once in a while.
Anatomy scan in 5 days, so at least there's that.
Exciting your anatomy scan is so soon! Can't wait to here how it goes!
Remind me, do you know if you have anterior placenta to where it might be hard to feel movements? Your 19-20 weeks right? Even without AP, movements were spotty still for me at that point. I know that doesn't make it any less frustrating though. Hopefully your anatomy scan will bring some much needed comfort!
Not as far as I know. My last ultrasound was 5 weeks ago, at 13w5d, and no one said anything about AP then. I'm 18w2d now. Heard the heartbeat on the doppler at 16w5d.
It's not that I'm feeling movement sporadically...it's that, other than that one random day (which was nudges/pokes, not the "fluttering" you hear about as feeling the first movement), I haven't felt anything I can confidently identify as the baby.
Exciting your anatomy scan is so soon! Can't wait to here how it goes!
Remind me, do you know if you have anterior placenta to where it might be hard to feel movements? Your 19-20 weeks right? Even without AP, movements were spotty still for me at that point. I know that doesn't make it any less frustrating though. Hopefully your anatomy scan will bring some much needed comfort!
Not as far as I know. My last ultrasound was 5 weeks ago, at 13w5d, and no one said anything about AP then. I'm 18w2d now. Heard the heartbeat on the doppler at 16w5d.
It's not that I'm feeling movement sporadically...it's that, other than that one random day (which was nudges/pokes, not the "fluttering" you hear about as feeling the first movement), I haven't felt anything I can confidently identify as the baby.
You won't like this answer, but I say that's pretty normal. I wasn't able to confidently say I was actually feeling movement until mid-19th week. I actually was surprised I was able to feel him that soon, because I'd always heard first time moms might not feel anything until after 20 weeks.
Not as far as I know. My last ultrasound was 5 weeks ago, at 13w5d, and no one said anything about AP then. I'm 18w2d now. Heard the heartbeat on the doppler at 16w5d.
It's not that I'm feeling movement sporadically...it's that, other than that one random day (which was nudges/pokes, not the "fluttering" you hear about as feeling the first movement), I haven't felt anything I can confidently identify as the baby.
You won't like this answer, but I say that's pretty normal. I wasn't able to confidently say I was actually feeling movement until mid-19th week. I actually was surprised I was able to feel him that soon, because I'd always heard first time moms might not feel anything until after 20 weeks.
Ha, I like that answer a lot better than the worst-case-scenario that I'm trying not to think about!
You won't like this answer, but I say that's pretty normal. I wasn't able to confidently say I was actually feeling movement until mid-19th week. I actually was surprised I was able to feel him that soon, because I'd always heard first time moms might not feel anything until after 20 weeks.
Ha, I like that answer a lot better than the worst-case-scenario that I'm trying not to think about!
Pregnancy is just a different type of mind game than IF.
G22, I'm glad it sounds like there's a good support system for what you're doing. It sounds so intimidating to me!
loira, I hope you don't have to live separately from your husband for too long. I get the idea that you and your mom are close, so you'll have support there, but I'm sure your husband doesn't want to be apart from you for most of the third trimester.
No, if we had our druthers we wouldn't be spending any time apart. But if he gets a one term teaching post here, it's just not financially feasible for both of us to live here right now. We're running out of our savings as it is. I'm only working freelance part time, and I'm not likely to be hired for a permanent position because I'd go on mat leave for 6 months in Feb anyway.
bcarp30, I haven't found a doctor there yet. I don't even know how the system works, to be honest. My mum is looking into it for me. The city where my parents live is pretty small (about 400K), so I think there's only the main hospital that does deliveries. I definitely want to find a doctor/practice that is used to dealing with very anxious patients. At least I've kept my Canadian healthcare active, so no worries about having to pay anything.
Post by belovedbride07 on Aug 30, 2015 14:19:13 GMT -5
So glad to hear your GD numbers are doing well, G22! And how exciting about the move so soon! I need to start using Instagram so I can follow your adventures!
loira, very exciting that you are moving soon, too! I didn't realize you had definite plans yet.
A little bit ago I felt baby girl kick really hard for the first time! I've been feeling some distinct kicks from baby boy, but this is the first time I've felt her kick so hard! (cactuscookie, I'm attributing this to the twin crowding -- it's totally normal to not be feeling movement at this point!)
No appointments this week (except the dermatologist for a routine mole check), and on Friday we fly out to visit my mom for the long weekend.
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
cactuscookie I think with DD I felt her for the first time at 15 weeks. Then I didn't really feel her until 17/18 and it was like maybe one movement. On 19 weeks exactly I felt a distinct jab 3 times in one spot, and it was 4 days before my a/s. Even at the scan she was moving like crazy and I couldn't feel it! Don't get too stressed (preaching to the choir!!) about movement yet. I think you aren't supposed to feel anything regular until 28 weeks?
And I'm a STM and keep thinking I'm feeling the baby and can't figure out if it is or not. I thought I would be able to tell by now but I guess not!
loira I hope you can find someone good! great job keeping up your Canadian healthcare too, that would have been so stressful to figure out! What a bummer you and your DH may have to be separated for so long though.
loira, reverse culture shock was very difficult for me. I wasn't away as long as you have been, but there was a wider gulf between the two cultures. I found that the first month or so, you kind of feel like you are on vacation and it's great to see people and do things you couldn't do before. Then reality hits that you are staying and blamo.
I hope you have all the support you need to make the transition as easy as possible on you.
cactuscookie I had been feeling movement pretty regularly after about 16-17w but didn't for several days leading up to my a/s, which coincided with peak anxiety. I wonder if I'm less in tune to it when I'm more anxious about appts, because as soon as the a/s was over I felt a ton, then it slowed down when I was having all those BH. I hope your scan goes well! G22 WTG on your numbers!! GL with the move. loira I need to PM you about next week!
loira, reverse culture shock was very difficult for me. I wasn't away as long as you have been, but there was a wider gulf between the two cultures. I found that the first month or so, you kind of feel like you are on vacation and it's great to see people and do things you couldn't do before. Then reality hits that you are staying and blamo.
I hope you have all the support you need to make the transition as easy as possible on you.
Yes, I don't think the reverse culture shock will be as bad coming from the UK as it was when I returned from France or Brazil. I think the difficulty will lie in the fact that we really made London our home and started to put down roots here. V's memorial garden is here, and that will be difficult to leave as well. Later on, I think I will miss things like pub dinners and my sweet, sweet 25 days of paid annual leave. Still, it's time. London is not sustainable from an immigration perspective - the current government is really restricting non-EU legal immigrants, and it's harder and harder to become a permanent resident.
cactuscookie I had been feeling movement pretty regularly after about 16-17w but didn't for several days leading up to my a/s, which coincided with peak anxiety. I wonder if I'm less in tune to it when I'm more anxious about appts, because as soon as the a/s was over I felt a ton, then it slowed down when I was having all those BH. I hope your scan goes well! G22 WTG on your numbers!! GL with the move. loira I need to PM you about next week!
Post by cactuscookie on Aug 31, 2015 8:10:44 GMT -5
Well, after all my complaining yesterday, I'm fairly confident that I felt the baby last night when I was reading in bed. I guess it could have been something else, but what I was feeling was all below my belly button, and a couple times, it wasn't a feeling I was familiar with. So that's potentially encouraging.
Well, after all my complaining yesterday, I'm fairly confident that I felt the baby last night when I was reading in bed. I guess it could have been something else, but what I was feeling was all below my belly button, and a couple times, it wasn't a feeling I was familiar with. So that's potentially encouraging.
All you need to do is voice a complaint and you'll feel something. That's how it usually goes. glad you felt something!
Well I have two days left of summer vacation?. E has her physical tomorrow and I will probably be up all night trying to finish some summer work whoops. Wednesday is dad's first day of school and I can take her for once since it is only a teacher work day for me. I am sad but both of us are ready to get our daily routine back.
We found out some sad news this weekend. My I laws are selling the lake house. It is so hard to think about. So many wonderful memories. It is for the best. Taxes are so high (it is in nh and property taxes are insane since there is no income tax) and it was just too much for my inlaws. My fil is in failing health so it has to happen but God did I bawl driving away yesterday.
In other not great news we also found out that my fil is having heart surgery Thursday. He has copd but has not been responding to meds. Well they found he has a leaking valve that is back washing about half the oxygenated blood back into the heart and not into his body. This is causing him to go into heart failure and kidney failure. It is also shredding his red blood cells making him anemic. So he is getting the valve replaced Thursday. So we can add that stress to our week. He is in such bad health it scares me to think of him not making it through the procedure. But it is becoming pretty clear that he will not last much longer in the state he is. De is handling the stress ok but she is terrified as well.
On the baby front not much going on. She finally relented and got some maternity clothes. She looks so cute. Just waiting for our 18 week appointments and scans. So as with everyone anxiety is building. Hopefully with school starting I will be distracted for the next 2 weeks.
Not as far as I know. My last ultrasound was 5 weeks ago, at 13w5d, and no one said anything about AP then. I'm 18w2d now. Heard the heartbeat on the doppler at 16w5d.
It's not that I'm feeling movement sporadically...it's that, other than that one random day (which was nudges/pokes, not the "fluttering" you hear about as feeling the first movement), I haven't felt anything I can confidently identify as the baby.
You won't like this answer, but I say that's pretty normal. I wasn't able to confidently say I was actually feeling movement until mid-19th week. I actually was surprised I was able to feel him that soon, because I'd always heard first time moms might not feel anything until after 20 weeks.
This was true for me with DS. I didn't feel anything regularly until 20-22 weeks. DH could feel him between 24-26.
I got my NT blood results today. 1:10,000 for T18 and 1:7500 for Downs. The genetic counselor said the risk was equal to a 20 year old so I'm happy about that. I have a scan at the MFM this afternoon and I *think* I'm starting to feel movement. Fingers crossed baby gives me a peek at the goods today so the tech will guess on sex.
DS started Kindy today and walked right in the room like a boss. Turned and waved saying "Bye, Mommy!" My heart...sweet boy.
ssg73 lots of good thoughts for your FIL the surgery goes okay, how scary. That's so sad they have to sell the house too. We just had to do that with my dad's house in beaver creek. It's really hard to leave the memories!
KB have you had the twice baked potatoes from whole foods prepared section? It is SO good and must weigh like 3 lbs each potato. And the best part is you just stick it in the oven and it gets all perfectly crisp and cheesey.
ssg73 lots of good thoughts for your FIL the surgery goes okay, how scary. That's so sad they have to sell the house too. We just had to do that with my dad's house in beaver creek. It's really hard to leave the memories!
KB have you had the twice baked potatoes from whole foods prepared section? It is SO good and must weigh like 3 lbs each potato. And the best part is you just stick it in the oven and it gets all perfectly crisp and cheesey.
Uh, no but now I need one. There is a new WF that just opened near my house. Oh baby....this is going to be good.