Good Morning, 8 weeks and 2 days here. I still haven't had much morning sickness and I get a little worried sometimes about it, but my mom told me she didn't have much morning sickness with me or my sister so I am trying not to sweat it. I still have 2 weeks and 3 days until my next appt and I don't know how I am going to make it. I am just anxious to see out little peanut again. My mom can't wait to tell everyone either, but I asked to to wait until after our next appt. I will be at 10 weeks and almost out of the first trimester so we should be good at that point. Any tips on how to make the wait to see the OBGYN again any easier?
DON'T GOOGLE THINGS!!! honestly though, the waiting sucks. bad. i kept telling myself that for most people, that's when they're seeing their baby for the first time. so at least i had u/s pictures on the fridge to look at and hold onto. maybe plan something fun to do on a weekend or a dinner with a friend to look forward to, so by the time that comes you'll be closer to the appt!
12w2d. I thought the all day throwing up was done but it is back today with a vengeance. I also think I'm getting a cold. 2.5 weeks until my next appointment. I am going crazy waiting. I miss the weekly ultrasounds. I will have to do my glucose test then and I'm praying I am done throwing up by then or it could be a disaster.
Add me to those who feel guilty for not enjoying pregnancy. It was the same last time, I was miserable the entire time. The only things I enjoyed were being able to feel/see the baby move and having an excuse for having a big belly besides just being fat Both of those things are a ways off still this time.
Post by dollyllama on Nov 30, 2015 14:11:40 GMT -5
That's exciting about announcing callmehales. We took our pictures at 12 weeks and I couldn't bring myself to put our announcement until almost 17 weeks. Once we did, I wrote about our journey and got really positive messages about it and a few from friends going through IF that wanted some recommendations and advice. I was so hesitant but glad I did it that way.
Hugs spearmintleaf & @ellengriswold. I made little milestones for myself and thought I would relax as I hit them. It took me until viability week to actually relax.
justwaiting, someone on here mentioned to me that they did their appointments at like 3 weeks apart during first trimester and then some to help with anxiety. I did the same and was extremely grateful I did. My doctor also told me that they would rather see me more often than to have me feeling excessively anxious because things like low birth and premature birth can be linked to anxiety. Between seeing them more often and using the doppler at home, I was able to keep my panic attacks at bay and keep a pretty good handle on the anxiety. So many hugs. It's so hard.
Post by swiftlyirun on Nov 30, 2015 14:47:55 GMT -5
Mark me in the survivors guilt and I feel bad for not loving pregnancy club. I'm THRILLED to be pregnant, but it's so hard to not be able to do 90% of the things I love. It's compounded by the fact that I work for a sporting goods company. My coworkers escape the building for the lunchtime runs I used to enjoy with them and it makes it that much harder .
Also- I vomited everywhere on the way home from TG yesterday. I really only threw up once in 1st tri, so this was odd. Now, here I am again sitting here feeling nauseous. This is odd.
ivy I don't like it either if I'm being honest. I miss alcohol, real exercise, feeling fit and well rested, feeling sexy, generally having fun and using my body for enjoyable things, having an appetite, and so on. I feel benched from pretty much every aspect of life that I enjoy. Maybe once I get to the part where morning sickness has passed and I get to feel the baby move?
It doesn't help that I can't believe this is real and I'm having a hard time connecting with the positive aspects of all this. I get a new family member! My firstborn! A kid who will be half me and half H! C'mon Spearmint, keep your head in the game. Lol.
I ran into an old friend this weekend who just had two babies in the last year and a half (the second one was a surprise, lol). She's a big drinker who works for a beer distributor (so she can basically expense all of her booze); I asked her if it was hard for her to give up drinking for that long. All chipper, she replied, "You know, I thought it would be, but once I realized that I actually got to grow another human being inside of me, it was easy for me to abstain! I wasn't even tempted!"
What does it say about me that I'm only 9w in and I miss my wine already?!?
ivy I don't like it either if I'm being honest. I miss alcohol, real exercise, feeling fit and well rested, feeling sexy, generally having fun and using my body for enjoyable things, having an appetite, and so on. I feel benched from pretty much every aspect of life that I enjoy. Maybe once I get to the part where morning sickness has passed and I get to feel the baby move?
It doesn't help that I can't believe this is real and I'm having a hard time connecting with the positive aspects of all this. I get a new family member! My firstborn! A kid who will be half me and half H! C'mon Spearmint, keep your head in the game. Lol.
I ran into an old friend this weekend who just had two babies in the last year and a half (the second one was a surprise, lol). She's a big drinker who works for a beer distributor (so she can basically expense all of her booze); I asked her if it was hard for her to give up drinking for that long. All chipper, she replied, "You know, I thought it would be, but once I realized that I actually got to grow another human being inside of me, it was easy for me to abstain! I wasn't even tempted!"
What does it say about me that I'm only 9w in and I miss my wine already?!?
i haven't missed booze much, but we went to a play saturday with friends, and the girl next to me had red wine and it smelled SO SO GOOD. i told DH by 3rd tri, i might have a glass every now and then.
Post by cactuscookie on Nov 30, 2015 15:06:19 GMT -5
I think giving up alcohol has gotten easier for me as pregnancy has gone on. Maybe I've gotten used to it. I thought Thanksgiving with my in-laws without booze would be tough, but it was NBD. I just doubled (er, more like tripled, really) up on pie.
Of course, you can take that with a grain of salt, because I haven't completely given up alcohol, just reduced it dramatically.
I not-so-secretly hate being pregnant too. Especially after a rough first (really second if you count my miscarriage) pregnancy and then it took 2 years to get pregnant this time, I had hoped to enjoy this one. There are some perks: no period and not being on a diet for a change! But I hate the weight gain, the exhaustion, the lack of working out (I am doing prenatal yoga but that's it), etc.
That's exciting about announcing callmehales . We took our pictures at 12 weeks and I couldn't bring myself to put our announcement until almost 17 weeks. Once we did, I wrote about our journey and got really positive messages about it and a few from friends going through IF that wanted some recommendations and advice. I was so hesitant but glad I did it that way.
Hugs spearmintleaf & @ellengriswold. I made little milestones for myself and thought I would relax as I hit them. It took me until viability week to actually relax.
justwaiting , someone on here mentioned to me that they did their appointments at like 3 weeks apart during first trimester and then some to help with anxiety. I did the same and was extremely grateful I did. My doctor also told me that they would rather see me more often than to have me feeling excessively anxious because things like low birth and premature birth can be linked to anxiety. Between seeing them more often and using the doppler at home, I was able to keep my panic attacks at bay and keep a pretty good handle on the anxiety. So many hugs. It's so hard.
I might see if they will do that, or maybe give me an appt at the 12 week mark also. I am hoping that I will settle down after the first trimester, but really, after 2 miscarriages, it is going to take me a little longer.
I had my 35w NST / OB appt today. My OB said he wants me to start thinking about the possibility of a scheduled c section at 39w. I'm not sure how I feel about it. On one hand, I know a month from now I am going to be DONE with sky high anxiety. I like the idea of a deadline. OTOH, I feel like I'm wimping out if I don't push through to 41w. Having a non-medicated vaginal birth was super important to me after IVF but now Im just "I want the baby here." There are a few reasons why he said to start thinking about it. First, with my endo surgical history a non-scheduled c section is a bad idea. He does not want to get into emergency c section territory and even c section during labor isn't great. So basically the more factors I have that increase my risk of a c section during labor, the stronger we need to consider scheduling one. Right now the biggest thing increasing my risk is the size of the baby. He gave all the caveats that suspected macrosomia isn't a reason alone, blah blah blah. But in his experience with our MFM group they are right within <5% even though they quote 10%. Given that I've had 4 since 20w and the baby has not just been large but HUGE and the baby is very larger via Leopold's, there is an exceptionally high chance the baby is very large. He said we will wait 38w to make any final calls on the size but start thinking that way now. I asked about induction at 39w and he said he would need me to be 3-4 cm and 80% effaced to be a good induction candidate at 39w. Plus we still have the whole chance of a c section during labor thing, which is higher during an induction than spontaneous labor. So we don't have any decisions to make until 38w but FX I go into labor before then on my own so we don't have to decide!
boiler717 that's a lot to think about! Is this the OB that you really like? What does your friend think? I would agree that the MFM is probably more accurate with their ultrasounds than the OB techs are. Has your OB started cervical checks yet? Would they strip your membranes early? Antecdote but I did that and then had sex and My water broke shortly after. I wish I had more advice for you but it sounds like they're monitoring you really well and giving you lots of good information.
I don't have an appointment until the 16th. I checked online and my 3-hr GTT results have finally been posted. I was lower than the threshold the first and third hours. Today was my last day off work so it's back at it tomorrow. I'm actually looking forward to it. The Holiday's are always a fun time at the hotel. We did make some progress on the nursery this weekend. We got the final coats on 2 of the walls. Now it's finding the time to finish the other 2 walls so we can get the furniture delivered. We can paint the closet after we get the furniture.
I can't wait until the end of December. We are taking a mini trip to Knoxville to meet up with my parents for 2 days. We weren't able to make it to my parents for Thanksgiving so the next best thing is spending New Year's Eve with them. If we didn't do that, then we wouldn't see them until they come down when I have the baby. It's already been too long since we've seen them. We'll get to see my MIL when she comes down for Christmas.
boiler717 that's a lot to think about! Is this the OB that you really like? What does your friend think? I would agree that the MFM is probably more accurate with their ultrasounds than the OB techs are. Has your OB started cervical checks yet? Would they strip your membranes early? Antecdote but I did that and then had sex and My water broke shortly after. I wish I had more advice for you but it sounds like they're monitoring you really well and giving you lots of good information.
Lol. I did that too. A few times.
Boiler, it's hard to let go of the way you wanted it to be. I agonized over it. In the end, you have to make the best decision you can with the information you have available to you.
boiler717 that's a lot to think about! Is this the OB that you really like? What does your friend think? I would agree that the MFM is probably more accurate with their ultrasounds than the OB techs are. Has your OB started cervical checks yet? Would they strip your membranes early? Antecdote but I did that and then had sex and My water broke shortly after. I wish I had more advice for you but it sounds like they're monitoring you really well and giving you lots of good information.
This was my established OB. I haven't talked to my friend but I know she thinks I need to avoid a non scheduled c section as well. He said he would start stripping membranes at 36w if I'm dilated enough but he doesn't think I will be (normally he waits until 38w for second time moms and 39w for FTM). I have my acu and chiro "inductions" starting at 37w too.
@cookiemonster03 I know it's different since you have 2, but I feel better now than I did at 32w. I cut back my working out and increased my resting. I measured 39w today (at 35w) if that helps!
Post by belovedbride07 on Nov 30, 2015 19:22:12 GMT -5
I'm 32w3d and today was my first day of maternity leave, and I am so grateful for my state/employer's policies that make this possible. I am not feeling great today...I'm constantly trying to find a position where 1) Baby Boy isn't jammed up against my ribs, 2) my reflux doesn't get worse, and 3) my back doesn't hurt. I'm losing at this game.
I was supposed to have an OB appointment this afternoon, but she had to go do an emergency c-section so they rescheduled me for Wednesday. I need to get all of my appointments into my Google calendar; I feel adrift without my work calendar!
I had a bad Braxton Hicks-y day Saturday, @cookiemonster03; I feel your pain. Thursday and Friday were so enjoyable puttering around the house finally getting stuff done, and then Saturday I just couldn't. Sunday we were at church for 4+ hours, including a lengthy choir practice (which is getting increasingly difficult for me!), and I was just exhausted after that, too. Today I managed about 1.5 hours in the kitchen and filling out my disability paperwork online. Ugh. Somehow I envisioned maternity leave days as being more productive than this! Hopefully I feel better tomorrow.
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
boiler717, I'm sorry you're having to reconsider your options. I hope you go into labour on your own before then!
I had a good talk with H today. I've been feeling quite disconnected with him lately, partly due to the distance. Just a little over 2 weeks and he'll be here, though!
I want to thank everyone who weighed in on the not enjoying pregnancy. I've been really surprised how much not be able to do the things I loved would impact me and how draining this could all be, emotionally and physically.
boiler717 even though I knew I would most likely end up scheduling a c-section before I even got pregnant it was (and still is) hard for me to give up the dream of having a med free child birth experience. I'm sorry you are faced with these decisions.
12w5d. Feeling okay, with the exception of pubic symphysis disorder. I've been seeing a Chiro and doing Accupuncture, but i think I may need to see a physical therapist. I'm worried that if it's this bad, this early, I won't be able to walk by week 30. I wish I was exaggerating.
13w checkup is tomorrow. We are "coming out" with Christmas cards later this week. Then, I'll just put a screenshot of the cards on FB. I'm still struggling with the decision about including our infertility and loss history.
shanwalk I had horrible SPD in the first tri -- I couldn't walk without crying. I am sorry you are in the same boat. Mine did improve with acu, chiro, and following all the modifications. I still cannot lay on my side for more than 10-15 without being in excruciating pain when I get up though. If there is any way for you to sleep reclined instead I highly suggest it. We have an adjustable bed which isn't a feasible suggestion for many, but if you can borrow a recliner that would be really helpful too.
12w5d. Feeling okay, with the exception of pubic symphysis disorder. I've been seeing a Chiro and doing Accupuncture, but i think I may need to see a physical therapist. I'm worried that if it's this bad, this early, I won't be able to walk by week 30. I wish I was exaggerating.
13w checkup is tomorrow. We are "coming out" with Christmas cards later this week. Then, I'll just put a screenshot of the cards on FB. I'm still struggling with the decision about including our infertility and loss history.
I has SPD at 10wks too. I took some time off running and really just took it easy physically in general (essentially pelvic rest). By 17ish weeks, I wasn't experiencing any symptoms! Hope you get to feeling better!
Post by HoneySpider on Dec 1, 2015 11:33:22 GMT -5
Hi! I'm super early (4w3d) but since I go over here now, thought I'd pop in.
My first appt is on Dec 14. I debated trying to get my doctor to squeeze me in earlier but with the last pregnancy, I had several perfect early u/s, saw/heard the heartbeat, etc and it didn't mean anything. So I think I'm ok with "ignorance is bliss" for a few weeks. I'll still be early when I see her and there's not much she can do before then anyway.
Hi! I'm super early (4w3d) but since I go over here now, thought I'd pop in.
My first appt is on Dec 14. I debated trying to get my doctor to squeeze me in earlier but with the last pregnancy, I had several perfect early u/s, saw/heard the heartbeat, etc and it didn't mean anything. So I think I'm ok with "ignorance is bliss" for a few weeks. I'll still be early when I see her and there's not much she can do before then anyway.
shanwalk I had horrible SPD in the first tri -- I couldn't walk without crying. I am sorry you are in the same boat. Mine did improve with acu, chiro, and following all the modifications. I still cannot lay on my side for more than 10-15 without being in excruciating pain when I get up though. If there is any way for you to sleep reclined instead I highly suggest it. We have an adjustable bed which isn't a feasible suggestion for many, but if you can borrow a recliner that would be really helpful too.
@boiler, thanks for this info! I will try t recline myself at night more. We don't have an adjustable bed or recliner. but I'll do just about about anything at this point.
12w5d. Feeling okay, with the exception of pubic symphysis disorder. I've been seeing a Chiro and doing Accupuncture, but i think I may need to see a physical therapist. I'm worried that if it's this bad, this early, I won't be able to walk by week 30. I wish I was exaggerating.
13w checkup is tomorrow. We are "coming out" with Christmas cards later this week. Then, I'll just put a screenshot of the cards on FB. I'm still struggling with the decision about including our infertility and loss history.
I has SPD at 10wks too. I took some time off running and really just took it easy physically in general (essentially pelvic rest). By 17ish weeks, I wasn't experiencing any symptoms! Hope you get to feeling better!
I'm definitely NOT running (omg. I can't imagine the pain). My OB gave me hope that this could get better as I truck through the second tri - so I'm hopeful. I'm glad you saw improvement.