Ummm it's practically Dec?! Aka new update post

[G22]

So my baby is 1 month tomorrow. How the hell did that happen?! It's like I blinked and missed the entire month November! He's changed even in that short amount of time, I can't believe it.

What's going on this week ladies?

[boiler717]

What?!? How is that possible!!
NSTs Monday and Friday, 35w tomorrow. OB said goal is to keep baby in until 36w then it's all good to come (although he wouldn't stop labor now either). I'm getting anxious for him or her to be here safe and sound!
We put together all the baby gear this weekend but still need to install the car seat and have it inspected. I need to finish my shower TY notes and get Christmas cards out!

[tarajane]

9w4d and I'm back to feeling crappy. I had some decent days a week ago but now I'm throwing up again. This sucks.

I'm also freaking out about having three. I only have two hands! I can't imagine the logistics of even going to Target.

[loira]

31 weeks tomorrow. I've got my hospital appointment this week with the specialist to see if there's been any change in my cervix. I'm hoping there won't have been much change so H can go to his conference in Scotland this weekend without worry.

Today I'm going over to my cousin's to sit around on HER couch and help decorate cookies she bakes. I'm excited to get out of the house, even if my cousin only lives a 5 minute drive away.

[ssg73]

We continue to purge the house. I got my wife to recycle her grad school junk. I mean her very important notes and papers. ?. I also got her to make a plan about a chair in our office that needs to go. I am slowly convincing her to transform it into a playroom for dd. when de was in grad school she took over the office and made it hers. But we need the space and a place to keep dd's small piece toys away from the baby. I shall win this battle as I slowly get rid of crap in the room. If I can make her think it was her idea in the first place I will be very proud.

I ordered Christmas cards Friday so we need are just waiting for them to come so we can get those out asap. Of course while I was making the card I fell down the rabbit hole of baby announcements. Whoops. But I did realize that if you have no name ideas it is s good place for inspiration.

I want to decorate for Christmas today but keep getting sidetracked on just picking up, de cluttering and cleaning up the apartment. Hopefully I get to the decorating today. I promised dd I would put her tree up in her room today so I need to finish cleaning in there and get that done.

Nothing on the baby front this week. 29 weeks yesterday. I feel like next week will be a big week for us with dd's birth point. It felt so strange for the mfm to talk about seeing us at 32 weeks.

[callmehales]

I think we might announce publicly this week. Which is SO scary, but I'm also kind of excited about it being out in the open. Plus my mom is barely keeping her mouth shut as it is.

I also plan on mentioning the IVF, because I think I'd have felt less upset about announcements knowing other people struggled and I wasn't alone in it. Even though being pregnant makes me feel some sort of "survivors guilt".

[bcarp30]

I feel you on the purging ssg73! I listed a ton of DD's clothes on the MMM swap board and have so many more to do. But then I get all nostalgic about selling or donating them! It'll be nice to have them out of the house and freeing up more space. Our current house we've been in less than a year and I'm determined to keep it as clutter free as possible. We increased our space by about 40% but I'm really trying not to let that be an excuse to have junk everywhere.

We decorated for Christmas yesterday and I love it! In the old house we didn't even have enough space for all the decorations so it's nice to see everything spread out.

I ordered a rug for the nursery today. If anyone is still looking for one, rugsusa dot com has a ton that are either $50 or 80% off! We got a 5x8 rug for $50 and the reviews are awesome. Hopefully it looks good in the room.

callmehales we still haven't announced with this baby yet. I was going to do it for Thanksgiving since we were in Chicago and last time we were there I got pregnant but then my dad passed and it felt silly to say. But I still would like to do something! Will you do a picture or anything fun like that?

[jessnpaul]

18w tomorrow! Having an early glucose test on Tuesday along with my OB appointment.

We finally told my brother/SIL/niece/nephew on Thanksgiving and my dad yesterday. It was the first time I've seen them since my BFP! Brother and family were excited. My dad's reaction? "Oh" Then he texted me hours later asking if we knew boy or girl (mind you I had said it was a boy already when i told him at brunch). Then he responds something about how his name is coming back in style! Still no congrats!

A couple of hours later i text him telling him that most people say congrats when someone announces their pregnancy. THEN I finally got a congrats. My dad's kind of an idiot

[jessnpaul]

Oh and we haven't put it on FB yet. I feel a little weird about posting a big announcement due to my age (41)... like people will be like "OMG at your age?!" I realize this is completely ridiculous... our admin at work is due 9 days before me and she's 44 so it's not like I'm the oldest pregnant person ever. But i still feel like people will judge.

[dellabear]

Not much going on here. I got a message on Friday from the OBs office for my first appointment on Dec 15 (been seeing my family doc since being discharged from the RE). I'm back at the same practice as with DD and I had a good experience then so I'm happy about it.

We've been telling everyone about the pregnancy now and DD is starting to come around a little about the idea of a baby sister or brother. She used to say "no, I don't want a baby" whenever it came up and now instead she randomly states that she wants a sister or she wants a brother, depending on her mood I suppose. Lol.

I haven't put anything on Facebook though and I'm not sure I will for awhile. I think I want to go through and cull my friends list first, I've been meaning to anyway, this is a good excuse.

[callmehales]

bcarp30 I think we might do a collage with a picture of when we first started  dating (the 9th anniversary of our first date is Wednesday  ), a wedding pic and an ultrasound  pic.  I try and tell myself that while I'm nervous, if we hadn't had TTTC I'd be itching to tell right away.  IF takes away so much, I don't want it to take away the fun of telling people  for me.

[shoeless]

I made/ordered our Christmas Cards and I can't wait for them to arrive this week!! Since we never did any public announcement (only told people we saw in person) I'm hoping this will be the best way to notify a few more people.

[bcarp30]

That's such a sweet idea callmehales! I know, I'm not a big poster on FB anyway but I hate thinking about the what ifs if I choose to post something or not.

[loira]

Nov 29, 2015 20:37:09 GMT -5 jessnpaul said:

A couple of hours later i text him telling him that most people say congrats when someone announces their pregnancy. THEN I finally got a congrats. My dad's kind of an idiot

I'm sorry, that stings about your dad. Mine has a hard time with big life changes, and his reaction to my very first pregnancy was "well, I hope you know what you're doing. Good luck affording a baby in London." I had to leave the room to cry. He felt like the world's biggest jerk when H called my parents 4 days later to tell them I was in emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. Now that I'm on my 5th pregnancy, he's finally excited about it.

I don't know about where you live, but in London nobody would think twice about you being 41. My boss had her first at 40 and her second at 42.

[jessnpaul]

Nov 29, 2015 22:38:31 GMT -5 loira said:

Nov 29, 2015 20:37:09 GMT -5 jessnpaul said:

A couple of hours later i text him telling him that most people say congrats when someone announces their pregnancy. THEN I finally got a congrats. My dad's kind of an idiot

I'm sorry, that stings about your dad. Mine has a hard time with big life changes, and his reaction to my very first pregnancy was "well, I hope you know what you're doing. Good luck affording a baby in London." I had to leave the room to cry. He felt like the world's biggest jerk when H called my parents 4 days later to tell them I was in emergency surgery for an ectopic pregnancy. Now that I'm on my 5th pregnancy, he's finally excited about it.

I don't know about where you live, but in London nobody would think twice about you being 41. My boss had her first at 40 and her second at 42.

North Jersey... its not rare here to not start having kids until 35+. I'm like 99% sure the age thing is all in my head...

[G22]

jessnpaul, don't let your age keep you from being excited. My mom had my youngest brother at 41. No shame girl, this baby is something to celebrate! I'm sorry your dad didn't react right though.

[G22]

Nov 29, 2015 22:01:42 GMT -5 shoeless said:

I made/ordered our Christmas Cards and I can't wait for them to arrive this week!! Since we never did any public announcement (only told people we saw in person) I'm hoping this will be the best way to notify a few more people.

Adorable!

[G22]

Nov 29, 2015 21:32:38 GMT -5 callmehales said:

bcarp30 I think we might do a collage with a picture of when we first started  dating (the 9th anniversary of our first date is Wednesday  ), a wedding pic and an ultrasound  pic.  I try and tell myself that while I'm nervous, if we hadn't had TTTC I'd be itching to tell right away.  IF takes away so much, I don't want it to take away the fun of telling people  for me.

Do it and soak in the congrats from everyone! You absolutely deserve that feeling of sharing this news with your family and friends. I was an open book about our IF struggles before I got pregnant, but then I finally announced our pregnancy I had a few people PM with similar stories. Including a former teacher I had in high school.

[whodey]

jessnpaul – whenever I’d comment to my RE that I was so old, he’d always tell me that I’m in my prime – lol

[whodey]

Hi ladies – 8wks this week :)I need to call my GYN/OB to schedule my first appointment, but I think I’m going to wait until after Wednesday when I have my RE appointment (hopefully my last – assuming everything still looks good). I’m so sad that I’ll have to switch from my current OB since she is no longer in network – I think I’m in denial – she was so awesome during my PG with DS, I just can’t imagine anyone else being as kind and supportive, but I’m also not paying out of pocket to continue care with her when I can go in-network and only pay $1,000 (my deductible). Anyway, I’m going to go to her once and then have her recommend someone else – wahhhh.

In other news, morning sickness has set in with a vengeance – on one hand I’m miserable, but on the other hand I’m thankful for it because I hope that means things are progressing well. Ofcourse I wasn’t very thankful when I threw up in the parking lot this morning the minute I stepped out of the car. I’m kind of reluctant to take anything prescription, but isn't there a combination of unisom and VitB that is supposed to help?

I’m starting to feel more optimistic about this pregnancy and that makes me happy

[sophie223]

Your cards are so cute, shoeless!

I'm excited for you to "go public," callmehales! I know it's nerve-wracking, but I'm sure you'll get a ton of love ands support coming at you from every direction.

Add me to the list of morning sickness sufferers. I've only been throwing up like every other day, though, so I guess it could be worse. We did end up telling my parents the big news the night before Thankgiving, and predictably, my mom was beside herself with emotion. She told me last night, "You're making it hard for me--I really want to tell everyone the news!" Uh, mom, if I can keep my mouth shut for 2 months, you can keep it to yourself for three weeks! I drank alcohol-free merlot at Thanksgiving, so as far as I know, nobody else has a clue.

[ouokie]

I feel like I haven't posted on here in a long time. I was back home for the last week to help my mom get ready for our big Thanksgiving. We had her whole family in town this year to celebrate my granmother's 87th birthday. She's going down hill really fast so this might be her last but I hope not. We had 40 people and thankfully we all survived.

I have offically entered my 2nd trimester but it hasn't made my anxiety any less. I go tomorrow for a screening. It's at the high risk OB but only because they have the high def ultrasound.

We offically announced on FB last week and I feel much better about it. I know my mom was excited to be able to tell everyone that she's getting another grandbaby.

[tarajane]

Nov 30, 2015 9:27:34 GMT -5 spearmintleaf said:

I feel the same way as you guys. I'm 7 weeks, I've seen the heartbeat, and I have raging morning sickness. I have no history of a loss after seeing a heartbeat. I.e., I have no reason to feel like this is going to be taken from me. But still, when the couple of people who know act excited I shush them and say "not yet!" It IS like survivor's guilt.

Speaking of raging morning sickness, I am in misery. I feel like such a jerk- this was all I wanted and now I have it and I'm complaining. It's so bad that I've cried to DH twice. Just all day every day can't keep food down on the verge of puking, simultaneously hungry but rejecting everything I try to eat. It's torture. I'm going to ask the doc about unisom + b12. She said to ask if things got bad.
ETA- whodey, jinx!

It's b6. Definitely ask! It's totally safe. I feel the same way about morning sickness!

[EllenGriswold]

Morning guys! 9w5d here! Add me to the "survivor's guilt" club. I'm nervous to tell people because things are going so well now I don't want to rock the boat. I think I'm not quite ready to act too excited, so I don't want to tell people and they think it's weird that I'm not more excited, if that makes sense?

I'm also feeling miserable pretty constantly. First starving and sick feeling, but nothing sounds good to eat, and then I finally eat something and three bites in I'm over-full and sick feeling. And the exhaustion is kicking in.

I do have my first OB appointment this week on Thursday, if everything looks good at that point we may tell a couple more people.

[KB]

28 weeks this week. How did this happen? I ordered some burp cloths and a blanket on etsy this weekend. I also made a list Boiler-style of everything we still need to get for this little girl. The holidays are a good distraction for me. It makes me panic less if I have something else to focus on.

[FastHands]

Nov 30, 2015 9:27:34 GMT -5 spearmintleaf said:

I feel the same way as you guys. I'm 7 weeks, I've seen the heartbeat, and I have raging morning sickness. I have no history of a loss after seeing a heartbeat. I.e., I have no reason to feel like this is going to be taken from me. But still, when the couple of people who know act excited I shush them and say "not yet!" It IS like survivor's guilt.

Speaking of raging morning sickness, I am in misery. I feel like such a jerk- this was all I wanted and now I have it and I'm complaining. It's so bad that I've cried to DH twice. Just all day every day can't keep food down on the verge of puking, simultaneously hungry but rejecting everything I try to eat. It's torture. I'm going to ask the doc about unisom + b12. She said to ask if things got bad.
ETA- whodey , jinx!

You can be glad you have morning sickness and still not enjoy it.

[ginkgoleaf]

31 weeks as of yesterday. Had quite a few Braxton-hicks over the weekend, prob from standing too long while cooking. I'm also just exhausted from not sleeping well. My hips hurt, I have to pee, then I'm wide awake and can't go back to sleep for a long time.

Next appointment is a week from today, ultrasound and my first NST.

[callmehales]

Nov 30, 2015 9:39:23 GMT -5 sophie223 said:

Your cards are so cute, shoeless !

I'm excited for you to "go public," callmehales ! I know it's nerve-wracking, but I'm sure you'll get a ton of love ands support coming at you from every direction.

Add me to the list of morning sickness sufferers. I've only been throwing up like every other day, though, so I guess it could be worse. We did end up telling my parents the big news the night before Thankgiving, and predictably, my mom was beside herself with emotion. She told me last night, "You're making it hard for me--I really want to tell everyone the news!" Uh, mom, if I can keep my mouth shut for 2 months, you can keep it to yourself for three weeks! I drank alcohol-free merlot at Thanksgiving, so as far as I know, nobody else has a clue.

lol, my mom is the same way! except we told her at like 6 weeks...so she's been DYING to tell everyone.  i told her once WE go public, she can. except she forgot that little tidbit, and we're standing in line at jc penney black Friday and she's chatting with some lady behind us.  my sister and my niece were with us, so my mom was all "this is my grandbaby, and this one has one on the way!". OMG MOTHER, DO NOT TELL STRANGERS IN LINE ABOUT MY BABY.

[ivy]

32 weeks tomorrow, and I'm finally starting to feel a tiny bit prepared. I spent all weekend working on the nursery, organizing, figuring out what we still need, etc. We got a BOB stroller and dslr on black friday among other baby related things, so it feels good to get some of those big purchases out of the way.

We have our birth class on Saturday. We hired a doula and she does classes in your home. We'll see how it goes - I don't even know what questions I would ask at this point. I know nothing (not really, but it feels close to nothing).

Speaking of survivor's guilt, I used to carry a lot of guilt for hating pregnancy so much. There is very little about it I've enjoyed, and I've been so physically uncomfortable lately that I'm just over it. The intense pelvic and back pain are going to put me over the edge. Add a very low baby, and it just hurts to move. I'm disappointed I'm not enjoying this more, but accepting that I probably just have a below average experience with it. It doesn't make me any less appreciative of being here.

[justwaiting]

Good Morning,
8 weeks and 2 days here. I still haven't had much morning sickness and I get a little worried sometimes about it, but my mom told me she didn't have much morning sickness with me or my sister so I am trying not to sweat it. I still have 2 weeks and 3 days until my next appt and I don't know how I am going to make it. I am just anxious to see out little peanut again. My mom can't wait to tell everyone either, but I asked to to wait until after our next appt. I will be at 10 weeks and almost out of the first trimester so we should be good at that point. Any tips on how to make the wait to see the OBGYN again any easier?