When it's time to say goodbye.

[NitaX]

Jan 30, 2016 20:59:32 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Jan 30, 2016 20:55:03 GMT -5 NitaX said:

No, I agree. You don't use slurs at all. I don't care who it is. I'll call you a raggedy heifer or a bitch, but I do draw the line at slurs against anyone. I just don't do that.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is any white pejorative is nowhere near the same league as the n-word or say, chink (shit typing that was painful). I don't know. This is hard but I'm really trying so if I'm off that's fine. I'm committed to doing better.

This is me, but I believe if I'm to rail against the N-word, I absolutely cannot use slurs against anyone. It's hurtful. It's wrong and to me it's hypocritical.

Again, that won't stop me from cursing you out, but you won't hear any slur cross my lips. I don't think saying others feelings don't matter here. It's fine to say 'yo, wait, don't say that.' I'm cool with that. The goal is to make people feel comfortable but also enlightened when we say things that are hurtful.

[stephm0188]

Jan 30, 2016 21:01:43 GMT -5 sandsonik1 said:

Jan 30, 2016 19:51:09 GMT -5 @kittensandkazoozles said:

I don't think anything was 'hacked.' As far as I remember, addresses weren't put on pb, anyway, when registering, but I could be wrong. This is just some racist bigoted bitch that is too much of a pussy to come out and needed something to hide behind. This is just pure ridiculous hatred directed at someone on here that they didn't like. 

You might be right, I can't remember. But then how would someone from GBCN know her name and address? She would have to tell them her name for them to come up with an address. Either they are not from GBCN at all or it should be really easy to figure out who they are.


Sent from my SM-G900T using proboards

You act like everyone here are virtual strangers. The reality is that many of us have been on these boards for years, and real friendships form that cross over into real life and social media. I wouldn't say I'm exactly well known here, but I can think of at least a dozen members who know my name and are connected with me outside GBCN in various ways. It can easily spiral from there.

ETA that I'm not making this about me, just saying that if I have people outside GBCN, then surely others who are more active here than I am do as well. 

[ringstrue]

Oh no! I'm so sorry and I'm sad to see you go. I just can imagine you being singled out of all people who wander in and out of GBCN and say the things they say. Hugs.

[leeba25]

I am so sorry that happened. I can't imagine how hurtful that must have been.

[omgzombies]

Smo, I'm so angry for you, and so sorry this happened. I haven't been around that long, but I lurked a long time before that. I've always admired your style, your confidence, and your strength. I will say this as non creepily as I can, but I've always thought you are absolutely gorgeous, and you have reminded me to take pride in my appearance and fashion even when I've been feeling down and frumpy. So I want to take a moment and thank you for all of that.

Such a violation is beyond comprehension, I'm so sorry.

[NewOrleans]

Jan 30, 2016 21:01:43 GMT -5 sandsonik1 said:

Jan 30, 2016 19:51:09 GMT -5 @kittensandkazoozles said:

I don't think anything was 'hacked.' As far as I remember, addresses weren't put on pb, anyway, when registering, but I could be wrong. This is just some racist bigoted bitch that is too much of a pussy to come out and needed something to hide behind. This is just pure ridiculous hatred directed at someone on here that they didn't like. 

You might be right, I can't remember. But then how would someone from GBCN know her name and address? She would have to tell them her name for them to come up with an address. Either they are not from GBCN at all or it should be really easy to figure out who they are.


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[thatgirl2478]

WTF? That is the most screwed up thing I can imagine anyone doing. I'm sorry that this happened to you, I would hope that it would never happen to anyone again, but I know how the board horde works.

[notsocreepylurker]

I am gob smacked that anyone would do this. Smo - please know most of us will miss you.

Not that my opinion means anything but I immediately thought V sent it.

[partiallysunny]

I don't know you personally Smo, but I'm sorry this happened to you. This situation is incredibly fucked up and I hope they find who did it.

[Deleted]

I have always found smo to be such a great poster. She posts amazing articles and always has amazing insight.
I don't know her at all but I just imagine her having this fabulous life trading smart ideas at salon style parties with great clothes and style.

I don't read all her posts and I never go to ML,but I have never read any rude or snark in her posts. She just seems so elegant to me.
This just seems like the last thing that should ever happen to her

However, as many have said, even if she was a first class Bitch -
Nobody deserves to be treated this way.

[scottyderp]

Jan 30, 2016 20:33:52 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

Jan 30, 2016 20:21:04 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

I disagree. If someone knows that these are slurs and are using them, it's not kind. The emphasis here is to be respectful of people. Mutual respect. Above, this is not the case, the person wasn't aware. And she took the information well, and was patient, instead of getting upset with me, which is awesome. I am not taking away from the essence of what has happened, based on my post. This is a minor detail.

I just don't feel like white feelings have any place here right now. Especially after the way we, collectively, have behaved this week.

Human feelings, regarding the human condition of desiring respect and understanding in a conversation? No one is saying anything out of line or having "white feelings". Again, minor detail in the grand scheme, and well-received. I am not here to tell anyone to can their feelings. I'd appreciate it if you'd not tell me to keep a lid on my valid, not unkind feelings.

[wawa]

I've been totally in the dark over here and just catching up. I just want to say now before I am caught up that I'm mad as hell.

[Michelle]

Jan 30, 2016 22:02:20 GMT -5 wawa said:

I've been totally in the dark over here and just catching up. I just want to say now before I am caught up that I'm mad as hell.

Me too. Didn't want to read through 13 pages before expressing this.

It is this kind of bullshit that makes me shy away from in person get togethers, or being on the GBCN Facebook page or FB friends with anyone.

Smo, I am going to miss you. I am so sad this happened to you.

[jene]

Smo, I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Deleted]

Jan 30, 2016 22:02:10 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

Jan 30, 2016 20:33:52 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

I just don't feel like white feelings have any place here right now. Especially after the way we, collectively, have behaved this week.

Human feelings, regarding the human condition of desiring respect and understanding in a conversation? No one is saying anything out of line or having "white feelings". Again, minor detail in the grand scheme, and well-received. I am not here to tell anyone to can their feelings. I'd appreciate it if you'd not tell me to keep a lid on my valid, not unkind feelings.

Do whatever the hell you want. I never said you shouldn't, only that I disagreed.

[KB]

What the actual fuck? What an unbelievable, disgusting, racist violation. Whoever did this will be found out and Lord help you when it happens. I hope you get everything that's coming to you.

Smo, you will be missed here for sure. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

[josieposy]

This actually makes me want to make an effort to get together with some people. Probably a hundred times I thought to myself that I should ask about a local GTG just to say hello, have coffee, eat food (definitely food), etc. I've always had a hundred reasons to think "I'll get to it later." Only I never do. School, exams, kids, work, I have a hundred excuses.

So in that spirit, I'll offer that I will be totally happy to GTG with any locals this year. We'll make it happen if anyone is interested. I'm actually a damn nice person!

And if my reaching out results in an obscene package at my door, then good luck to you. You'll need it.

[epphd]

Random but I want to point out that I keep seeing the words sorry that "this happened". Earthquakes happen. Accidents happen. "This" didn't "happen" - someONE, or some PEOPLE who engage on these boards with enough frequency and regularity to target Smo CHOSE to take time from their lives, select a means to harass her anonymously, purchased a service to do so, and sat back to watch it blow up. There was nothing passive about it - maybe it's a small thing but I for one would like to reference this vile act using a very ACTIVE voice. Some fucker went too.fucking.far. Some racist shitbag violated one of our most liked and valued community members. Someone DID THIS.

[Queen Mamadala]

Oh, @smo, I'm so, so sorry this happened to you. Just... wow. To take it to this level goes beyond the pale.

[teflepi]

Jan 30, 2016 22:41:45 GMT -5 epphd said:

Random but I want to point out that I keep seeing the words sorry that "this happened". Earthquakes happen. Accidents happen. "This" didn't "happen" - someONE, or some PEOPLE who engage on these boards with enough frequency and regularity to target Smo CHOSE to take time from their lives, select a means to harass her anonymously, purchased a service to do so, and sat back to watch it blow it. There was nothing passive about it - maybe it's a small thing but I for one would like to reference this vile act using a very ACTIVE voice. Some fucker went too.fucking.far. Some racist shitbag violated one of our most liked and valued community members. Someone DID THIS.

I think this is what is making me most mad.  And, someone knows something.  Someone (and what is the word Quick Tags things?)  Hell no, someone knows.

[gpw]

Jan 30, 2016 22:43:39 GMT -5 teflepi said:

Jan 30, 2016 22:41:45 GMT -5 epphd said:

Random but I want to point out that I keep seeing the words sorry that "this happened". Earthquakes happen. Accidents happen. "This" didn't "happen" - someONE, or some PEOPLE who engage on these boards with enough frequency and regularity to target Smo CHOSE to take time from their lives, select a means to harass her anonymously, purchased a service to do so, and sat back to watch it blow it. There was nothing passive about it - maybe it's a small thing but I for one would like to reference this vile act using a very ACTIVE voice. Some fucker went too.fucking.far. Some racist shitbag violated one of our most liked and valued community members. Someone DID THIS.

I think this is what is making me most mad.  And, someone knows something.  Someone (and what is the word Quick Tags things?)  Hell no, someone knows.

Yes.  Colluders and concealers are just as guilty to me. 

[NewOrleans]

Jan 30, 2016 22:43:39 GMT -5 teflepi said:

Jan 30, 2016 22:41:45 GMT -5 epphd said:

Random but I want to point out that I keep seeing the words sorry that "this happened". Earthquakes happen. Accidents happen. "This" didn't "happen" - someONE, or some PEOPLE who engage on these boards with enough frequency and regularity to target Smo CHOSE to take time from their lives, select a means to harass her anonymously, purchased a service to do so, and sat back to watch it blow it. There was nothing passive about it - maybe it's a small thing but I for one would like to reference this vile act using a very ACTIVE voice. Some fucker went too.fucking.far. Some racist shitbag violated one of our most liked and valued community members. Someone DID THIS.

I think this is what is making me most mad.  And, someone knows something.  Someone (and what is the word Quick Tags things?)  Hell no, someone knows.

For sure. Come clean, crazy heifers

[MrsAxilla]

Jan 30, 2016 21:49:57 GMT -5 @hannymaren said:

I have always found smo to be such a great poster. She posts amazing articles and always has amazing insight.
I don't know her at all but I just imagine her having this fabulous life trading smart ideas at salon style parties with great clothes and style.

I don't read all her posts and I never go to ML,but I have never read any rude or snark in her posts. She just seems so elegant to me.
This just seems like the last thing that should ever happen to her

However, as many have said, even if she was a first class Bitch -
Nobody deserves to be treated this way.

What the hell happened here?

[niemand88f]

Jan 30, 2016 23:02:11 GMT -5 MrsAxilla said:

Jan 30, 2016 21:49:57 GMT -5 @hannymaren said:

I have always found smo to be such a great poster. She posts amazing articles and always has amazing insight.
I don't know her at all but I just imagine her having this fabulous life trading smart ideas at salon style parties with great clothes and style.

I don't read all her posts and I never go to ML,but I have never read any rude or snark in her posts. She just seems so elegant to me.
This just seems like the last thing that should ever happen to her

However, as many have said, even if she was a first class Bitch -
Nobody deserves to be treated this way.

What the hell happened here?

unrelated to this situation apparently

[lauralala]

Holy hell. I've been offline all day, and this is the first thread I saw when I got home. Smo, I am so sorry that someone did this to you. I really hope that the person or people behind this act are found and punished. This is horrifying.

[gretchenindisguise]

Jan 30, 2016 22:41:45 GMT -5 epphd said:

Random but I want to point out that I keep seeing the words sorry that "this happened". Earthquakes happen. Accidents happen. "This" didn't "happen" - someONE, or some PEOPLE who engage on these boards with enough frequency and regularity to target Smo CHOSE to take time from their lives, select a means to harass her anonymously, purchased a service to do so, and sat back to watch it blow up. There was nothing passive about it - maybe it's a small thing but I for one would like to reference this vile act using a very ACTIVE voice. Some fucker went too.fucking.far. Some racist shitbag violated one of our most liked and valued community members. Someone DID THIS.

I didn't even realize I did this. Thank you.

[pescalita]

It's taken me a long time to catch up on everything that's gone down, but fuck, guys. Fuck.

[tuck]

How awful. I'm so sorry that someone was so shitty to you.

[pixy0stix]

omg sands. I just can't with you.

[cbwm1]

I'm so sorry, smo. I'm so, so sorry.