I'm so sorry miso The uncertainty is really difficult I know things are going to be okay, but I wish I could tell you exactly when that will be.
My sad: I went to a specialized yoga class on Friday for people in similar circumstances as me and at the end I couldn't stop crying and then the instructor gave me a hug and it just made me cry more.
We missed our trip to London 2 weeks ago because everyone but me had the flu.
H was diagnosed with pneumonia last week, left today for a 6 day work trip, and now Jack has a fever and a constant cough.
The boys turn 4 on Wednesday. H will be away. I'm just crossing my fingers everyone is healthy for their party next weekend.
BUT its my favorite day of the year- Marathon Monday. The boys and I spent the day cheering for all the runners including our nanny. IT was a gorgeous day here!
Yep, I'm in this boat too. I am not sure how much longer I can deal with a job where I am treated like a total moron. It's not just me--everyone gets talked to the same way--but it is utterly demoralizing. I know I have a lot to offer but I'm starting to believe I suck as badly as I'm treated. I'm starting to believe I can't find anything better and that's the scariest thing.
I'm on my second stint of unemployment in 12 months. I had worked at my old company for 10 years, promoted 3 times...and then my boss and I were unceremoniously sacked.
It took 4 months to get a new job, at a company that quickly went down hill. I got laid off a month ago. That one was not a surprise at least.
The shame is real. We will be moving for better opportunities, and I hate doing that to my H. I feel like the scarlet F is going to follow me forever.
Some days I think I should've taken the Boston job.
I should also add that this time around I didn't apply for unemployment even though I was, in theory, eligible. I just couldn't handle the stress of being required to apply for the 3-4 shitty jobs a week that I know I didn't want.
But before I had my full time job I used to do contracting work, where I'd work for a year, then be required to take a 100 "break in service" before I could go back to contracting at the same company. I did always apply for unemployment then, and I liked my pittance check, but at that time I wasn't burned out and didn't really care one way or another if I got a job (sometimes I got a shorty contract at another company, sometimes I didn't).
Ugh. What proof of job hunting do I need to submit?
And, in the meantime, I'm fixing up my condo to rent, so that should bring in $2500-$2900 a month.
Maybe I can even afford to get a less stressful, lower paying job.
I think this is a positive way to look at it. I know the reason why you're fixing up the condo is because of the crappy situation, but hey, you've had potential rental income sitting there you can now use.
Job hunting is the pits. I know something good will come up for you. You are the funniest, smartest person I know. And I'm not saying that just because we're friends.
I should also add that this time around I didn't apply for unemployment even though I was, in theory, eligible. I just couldn't handle the stress of being required to apply for the 3-4 shitty jobs a week that I know I didn't want.
But before I had my full time job I used to do contracting work, where I'd work for a year, then be required to take a 100 "break in service" before I could go back to contracting at the same company. I did always apply for unemployment then, and I liked my pittance check, but at that time I wasn't burned out and didn't really care one way or another if I got a job (sometimes I got a shorty contract at another company, sometimes I didn't).
Ugh. What proof of job hunting do I need to submit?
Every week?
What?
It's 5 "job hunting activities" a week. You keep a log, actual networking, time spent on various job search websites, and resume writing can also be tracked. I never had to turn mine in.
Speaking of entry jobs in a totally different field, when I was between jobs years ago I went to work as a cashier for a healthy food store/yoga studio. I was there for several months and surprisingly enjoyed it very much, partly b/c it was just the right amount of social interaction for me. Then the manager promoted me to handle accounting duties (a big step up in his mind) and I hated it--working in a windowless basement away from other people was not good. Luckily I got a new job by then. Anyway, I was grateful for that interlude; it kept me sane.
My friend who voluntarily left our old company over a year ago said she was going to write and maybe be a barista.
I haven't talked to her in awhile, but we're having lunch on Thursday.
I'm still bummed about the baby's health. I know her BP is being treated and all but I'm constantly worrying. If she exerts too much or gets startled I'm so scared her heart is under strain.
Two of the people who gave birth around the same time I did are pregnant again. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're one and done but I feel so bad that my baby will be all alone. Especially since we also took her 10,000 miles from the rest of her family I feel so guilty.
My ILs are here. It's so obvious how much older they are than the last time. I know H worries about them a lot and I do too, both about them and my own parents. It would be awesome to move closer to them but with the baby's health and H's job, I don't think it's possible.
My brother applied to some schools in the US but has been rejected. He has pretty bad scores in school but his gre and toefl was awesome. So I had some hope but I feel bad that he didn't get in anywhere. he is in a limbo in his current job and I can tell that waiting to re-apply while working there is going to upset him.
That sounds so horrible to be pregnant again so soon. Just my opinion. You're better off!
Re your bro -- could he take some classes at a local community college, ace them, and raise his GPA that way? When I was applying to law school, all the stupid classes I took in high school at two local colleges factored into my GPA (and made it higher).
I should also add that this time around I didn't apply for unemployment even though I was, in theory, eligible. I just couldn't handle the stress of being required to apply for the 3-4 shitty jobs a week that I know I didn't want.
But before I had my full time job I used to do contracting work, where I'd work for a year, then be required to take a 100 "break in service" before I could go back to contracting at the same company. I did always apply for unemployment then, and I liked my pittance check, but at that time I wasn't burned out and didn't really care one way or another if I got a job (sometimes I got a shorty contract at another company, sometimes I didn't).
Ugh. What proof of job hunting do I need to submit?
Every week?
What?
They should have told you when you applied what the requirements are, but I'm sure each state has their own.
In Washington you have to keep a log of the jobs you applied for, what date, and who you submitted to (which is asinine when most applications are online). It's mostly on the honor system, because when you go through the weekly claim process you check a box that says you did your required job search, or not, but they can audit you.
I actually got audited once, which is why I didn't want to risk it. I had to bring all my logs in to the employment office and sit there in a classroom with all the other schmoe's being audited getting a lecture on remedial job hunting (like, you should dress appropriately for an interview and not show up stinky or drunk) and they passed around a list of jobs like tree trimmer and night janitor that we might want to apply for. Then we got called one by one to have an employment office person look over our logs for a given week to make sure we weren't lying.
Our week was for the week of Thanksgiving, so of course >50% of the people hadn't job searched that week (myself included). But the logs were just on paper, and I watched multiple people just fill in random shit for the week - either copying over jobs from other weeks to be that weeks, changing the date of their log, or flat out making things up. When it was my turn to have my logs checked I was just like look, it was a holiday week, I know that everyone in my industry isn't around, and I didn't bother; here is the week before, here is the week after, and oh btw, I start a new job in 3 weeks anyway. She gave me some other form to fill out so I could stop job searching for those 3 weeks (that wasn't available online) and signed off on me.
((Miso)) it took me quite awhile to shake off the shame of being fired. But now that I have momentum in a new direction I'm SO glad it happened, even if leaving wasn't on my terms.
I'm super stressed right now. I'm leaving for my summer research two weeks before the quarter ends, and I'm having trouble setting boundaries with my time, especially when it comes to my advisor. I'm overwelmed and missing deadlines which I RARELY do.
I'm on the hook to travel with the engineering club Thursday/Friday of this week and although it sounds really fun I feel like I shouldn't miss even more class. But I hate letting people down. Blugh
It's so annoying that we have that shame. I honestly don't think I deserved to be fired. At all. It's so unfair. I'm sure you didn't either.
I'm so sorry miso The uncertainty is really difficult I know things are going to be okay, but I wish I could tell you exactly when that will be.
My sad: I went to a specialized yoga class on Friday for people in similar circumstances as me and at the end I couldn't stop crying and then the instructor gave me a hug and it just made me cry more.
OMG, I am tearing up just reading this. The hug. The hug did me in.
I (heart) you. I wish we were neighbors. Seriously.
I'm bummed because I had a miscarriage last week. After 4 years of trying you would think that finally it was our turn but nope. Literally everyone I know is pregnant or just had a baby. IT'S MY TURN DAMMIT!
My mom's blood work is not great. Her PCP is sending her to her oncologist for a PET scan and more blood work. She has said in the past, if it comes back she will not get treatment. She's had four different cancers. Luckily, two were at the same time.
All of this is going on while I'm sitting at Allie's follow-up for her lymph node issue. Today, we find out what specialist she needs to see. I'm afraid it's going to be oncology too.
Just send liquor, please.
Sending you thoughts and prayers. Hope everything turns out OK.
I'm bummed because I had a miscarriage last week. After 4 years of trying you would think that finally it was our turn but nope. Literally everyone I know is pregnant or just had a baby. IT'S MY TURN DAMMIT!
Speaking of entry jobs in a totally different field, when I was between jobs years ago I went to work as a cashier for a healthy food store/yoga studio. I was there for several months and surprisingly enjoyed it very much, partly b/c it was just the right amount of social interaction for me. Then the manager promoted me to handle accounting duties (a big step up in his mind) and I hated it--working in a windowless basement away from other people was not good. Luckily I got a new job by then. Anyway, I was grateful for that interlude; it kept me sane.
My friend who voluntarily left our old company over a year ago said she was going to write and maybe be a barista.
I haven't talked to her in awhile, but we're having lunch on Thursday.
I don't know if she actually became a barista!
Some days this sounds amazing and other days sounds like hell. People can be such assholes to service industry workers.
I hope you land a few interviews soon, including one that leads to an offer you would take. I'm sorry that its hasn't happened yet miso.
I'm so sorry miso The uncertainty is really difficult I know things are going to be okay, but I wish I could tell you exactly when that will be.
My sad: I went to a specialized yoga class on Friday for people in similar circumstances as me and at the end I couldn't stop crying and then the instructor gave me a hug and it just made me cry more.
I'm so sorry. Job hunting and being laid off sucks. Sometimes it's super fun but most of the time it has you questioning your self worth.
I will just add my depressing issues. DH has to have another surgery (we have had one major one a year for the last 4 years, hello medical debt!). It won't be a big one but he will still have recovery time. I know he is in pain. I know he doesn't feel good. Living with someone that is on heavy pain meds 90% of the time, raising a child and working full time have turned me into a haggard bitch. DH is finally contributing more around the house but I have to do all the heavy cleaning, grocery shopping oh and holding down a job with good benefits. Plus it doesn't help that there is major BS going on at work that requires me to be on airplanes every week which makes all of the above a nightmare. I am so jealous that DH gets to spend all his time with DS and I have to work my ass off and then come and be cinderella on the weekends and then hop back on planes. Bitter party of one over here.
I should also add that this time around I didn't apply for unemployment even though I was, in theory, eligible. I just couldn't handle the stress of being required to apply for the 3-4 shitty jobs a week that I know I didn't want.
But before I had my full time job I used to do contracting work, where I'd work for a year, then be required to take a 100 "break in service" before I could go back to contracting at the same company. I did always apply for unemployment then, and I liked my pittance check, but at that time I wasn't burned out and didn't really care one way or another if I got a job (sometimes I got a shorty contract at another company, sometimes I didn't).
Ugh. What proof of job hunting do I need to submit?
Every week?
What?
MH went through unemployment twice. He never had to submit anything, but did have to check some box on the weekly statement EDD sent to him.
He'd do regular searches on Indeed and Careerbuilder and called his contact at a temp agency. That seemed to suffice.
Post by Wonderwall on Apr 18, 2016 18:04:59 GMT -5
Hey miso,I was totally out of the loop and just catching up. Sorry about the gig, friend. That SUCKS.
Hang in there- you are so bright, capable and all around awesome - THE job for you is coming, I just know it.
You're allowed to mope though- you're human.
I have a friend that would say that she would allow herself 1-2 hours to mope it out and then she'd feel better having moped and could go on with her life in a better space.
I'm glad you're enjoying your time with miso-tiny though..
P.S if you have no idea who this is... it's Yahpee.
I'm so sorry, milosh. That hurts so much. Big hugs. I hope things work out for you soon.
Big. big hugs to you miso. I'm sorry you're in this situation. You are such an awesome person and deserve better. You are right that you're crazy-ass boss should be ashamed, not you.
As for what's bumming me out right now, the biggest thing is my dad's cancer. he's going through treatment right now (chemo and radiation) and is expected to make a full recovery, but the treatment has been rough on them both. I'm going to visit in a few days and I'm a little nervous. My other issues that I'm bummed about are the same things I always talk about. DH hates his job, but can't find a better one so can he can be kind of miserable at times and I'll always be sad about not having another baby, especially when it seems that everyone around me is either pregnant or has multiple children.
Post by killercupcake on Apr 18, 2016 18:40:57 GMT -5
sequins - don't feel bad! I'm an only and all my family is across the county (I know it's not the same as across the world, but I really only saw them MAYBE once a year) and I'm perfectly happy with that. I'm a little more introverted and it's sometimes hard to be around H's family because theres a million of them and they're always in one another's business, lol, but I'm good.
miso- I'm sorry. Job hunting is the worst. I did it last summer and I'm watching my dad go through it right now. It's rough. I'm sure something will come along soon.
I'm so sorry miso The uncertainty is really difficult I know things are going to be okay, but I wish I could tell you exactly when that will be.
My sad: I went to a specialized yoga class on Friday for people in similar circumstances as me and at the end I couldn't stop crying and then the instructor gave me a hug and it just made me cry more.
Hugs, insom. My H has fibromyalgia and started taking yoga in January. He is taking a "therapeutic yoga" class that is designed for people with health conditions. It has been really helpful. I hope you find yours just as helpful.
miso, you absolutely will find something better. One day soon, you will look back on this time as a blip on your journey. Hugs.