Mildly depressing thread

[miso]

So I just finished filing for unemployment. Yes, yes, I am a couple weeks late, but I was SAD, ok?

I'm not getting any bites for possible jobs.

And I have jury duty next week.

Booooooooooooooooooooooooo.

What things are bumming you out right now? How are you turning your frown upside-down?

[miso]

No way. I'm going to do my damnedest not to get on a jury.

I have to be available for my non-existent interviews, you know.

[Nonny]

Being on unemployment and job searching is a huge mind fuck. Sorry my friend.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Apr 18, 2016 14:38:20 GMT -5 miso said:

No way. I'm going to do my damnedest not to get on a jury.

I have to be available for my non-existent interviews, you know.

If you DO get selected for a jury, like I did in February, I hope you have an extremely interesting case like I did!

The other jurors and I are having a reunion happy hour next week, lol. It was actually a very positive experience (aside from the fact that it lasted 2 weeks and fucked up my entire life at work.)

[cuddlyevil]

Someone who was appearing to be returning to normal is not acting normal. It's bumming me out because I thought we were friends, but now it looks like we're indifferent co-workers at best. I'm putting a brave face on it and being my usual awesome self though--I'll be damned if I let anyone know how much the stupid shit is getting to me.

OH and I was the only person out of the Wednesday lunch group that wasn't invited to a wedding shower last week. This goes right along with the Tuesday happy hours they have.

[luckyval]

Jury duty could give you a small ego boost - well, at least I'm not this guy right here going to jail for shop lifting Freddie Got Fingered from the $5 bin at Wal-Mart.

I really love my job, but rarely do I get a bone thrown at me with regards to people prepping me for what's expected. I know it comes with the territory, but I went to a meeting this afternoon and was unprepared for one aspect of it. I hate that feeling.

[lilac05]

I hope something good comes along for you soon.

I'm getting really frustrated by my slow recovery from surgery. I thought I'd be off of my crutches by now, but that seems to be nowhere in sight. I've got PT 3x's a week for at least another month...likely much longer. And it kicks my butt every single time.

I'm eating my weight in chocolate & other junk food...which is making me gain weight, which makes me unhappy. I'm dying to go for a walk!

A healthier way to make myself smile is to take time to enjoy my kids, watching Spring arrive outside, and keep life in perspective. I may be slow & slightly broken, but I'm healthy...and that's more than a lot of people can say!

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:39:19 GMT -5 Nonny said:

Being on unemployment and job searching is a huge mind fuck. Sorry my friend.

When did you decide to stop working entirely?

Did you search for awhile first?

I realize I've only really been officially unemployed for two weeks now, but I feel so embarrassed when I have to explain to people why I'm not working.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:40:16 GMT -5 W.T.Faulkner said:

Apr 18, 2016 14:38:20 GMT -5 miso said:

No way. I'm going to do my damnedest not to get on a jury.

I have to be available for my non-existent interviews, you know.

If you DO get selected for a jury, like I did in February, I hope you have an extremely interesting case like I did!

The other jurors and I are having a reunion happy hour next week, lol. It was actually a very positive experience (aside from the fact that it lasted 2 weeks and fucked up my entire life at work.)

I don't ever want jury duty.

I don't do law for free. LOL.

[papie]

I drink. I think you should open a bottle of wine.  I'm sorry, an amazing job will come.  It's normal that it takes a while, it's not like entry level jobs where there are millions of them.  But you will find something soon enough.  (((Hugs)))

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:42:37 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Someone who was appearing to be returning to normal is not acting normal. It's bumming me out because I thought we were friends, but now it looks like we're indifferent co-workers at best. I'm putting a brave face on it and being my usual awesome self though--I'll be damned if I let anyone know how much the stupid shit is getting to me.

OH and I was the only person out of the Wednesday lunch group that wasn't invited to a wedding shower last week. This goes right along with the Tuesday happy hours they have.

I don't think this is stupid shit. Stuff like this can be legitimately very upsetting.

[vicky]

I haven't heard back from yet another restaurant. One of the owners told me I'd hear back by Saturday. It's Monday. I feel discouraged.

I'm dragging Toby to the dog beach at Coronado to cheer myself up and get out of the house.

Hugs.

[sparkythelawyer]

I have never felt as sucky as the day I filed for unemployment. That night involved copious amounts of really, really cheap vodka.

[ginap]

I'm so sorry. Job searching is so soul crushing.

[cuddlyevil]

Apr 18, 2016 14:51:05 GMT -5 miso said:

Apr 18, 2016 14:42:37 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Someone who was appearing to be returning to normal is not acting normal. It's bumming me out because I thought we were friends, but now it looks like we're indifferent co-workers at best. I'm putting a brave face on it and being my usual awesome self though--I'll be damned if I let anyone know how much the stupid shit is getting to me.

OH and I was the only person out of the Wednesday lunch group that wasn't invited to a wedding shower last week. This goes right along with the Tuesday happy hours they have.

I don't think this is stupid shit. Stuff like this can be legitimately very upsetting.

Thanks. I know it sucks right now, but I'm trying to keep it all in check and that's hard.

The right job for you will come soon. I'm sorry things are the suck right now. 

[underwaterrhymes]

Job hunting is depressing.

I looked for nine months and applied for over 270 positions and went on over 40 interviews to get the job I have now.

I drank a lot.

[Deleted]

Apr 18, 2016 14:49:28 GMT -5 miso said:

Apr 18, 2016 14:39:19 GMT -5 Nonny said:

Being on unemployment and job searching is a huge mind fuck. Sorry my friend.

When did you decide to stop working entirely?

Did you search for awhile first?

I realize I've only really been officially unemployed for two weeks now, but I feel so embarrassed when I have to explain to people why I'm not working.

I feel your pain.

I went with "it was a poor fit, the job wasn't what they represented and I couldn't continue working there"

Which is technically true.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:45:57 GMT -5 luckyval said:

Jury duty could give you a small ego boost - well, at least I'm not this guy right here going to jail for shop lifting Freddie Got Fingered from the $5 bin at Wal-Mart

LOL. I suppose there's that.

[scottyderp]

I'm sorry, miso.

I hope that things move in your favor, and soon.

I am currently job-seeking, and I am generally feeling out of sorts, daily. I have failure feelings.

Back to you.

You are wonderful, job or not, and I only "know" you in text form.

Also, I speak like people speak (I would probably go full Madonna in England) and I'm totally "speaking" like you right now, in short sentences.  

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:46:18 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

I hope something good comes along for you soon.

I'm getting really frustrated by my slow recovery from surgery. I thought I'd be off of my crutches by now, but that seems to be nowhere in sight. I've got PT 3x's a week for at least another month...likely much longer. And it kicks my butt every single time.

I'm eating my weight in chocolate & other junk food...which is making me gain weight, which makes me unhappy. I'm dying to go for a walk!

A healthier way to make myself smile is to take time to enjoy my kids, watching Spring arrive outside, and keep life in perspective. I may be slow & slightly broken, but I'm healthy...and that's more than a lot of people can say!

Sorry to hear about your frustrating recovery.

I can't eat chocolate and junk food, but I am certainly loving my time with my kid.

[papie]

Oh and everything is bothering me these days. I feel like shit is spinning out of control like crazy and I am just watching and helpless. I am so overwhelmed. So I started back therapy. Welp, my therapist emailed me today at 12:15: "We had an appointment at 12, are you on your way?". I got there at 12:25 and we spent the appointment talking about how overwhelmed I was because how do I manage to not even make it to therapy? Ugh.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:50:43 GMT -5 papie said:

I drink. I think you should open a bottle of wine.  I'm sorry, an amazing job will come.  It's normal that it takes a while, it's not like entry level jobs where there are millions of them.  But you will find something soon enough.  (((Hugs)))

You have a great point here.

Although, if I were brave, I could take a leap and do an entry-level job in a completely different field.

[knx9211]

I'm sorry miso


My pity party is that I don't think we're going to get another cycle of IVF in before the lab does their bi-annual closure/clean/quality control, which means we're on hold until July. We had a lot of fun with H's family this weekend, including their kids. But then the kids left and the big house we bought to start our family was quiet and empty again. And everything is terrible. My beta still isn't even negative yet. I found out that I miscarried in FEBRUARY.

How do I cheer myself up? I don't. I just pretend that I'm not on the verge of crying 24/7.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:51:29 GMT -5 vicky said:

I haven't heard back from yet another restaurant. One of the owners told me I'd hear back by Saturday. It's Monday. I feel discouraged.

I'm dragging Toby to the dog beach at Coronado to cheer myself up and get out of the house.

Hugs.

Boo. People are missing out on your greatness. Boo boo boo.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:52:25 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I have never felt as sucky as the day I filed for unemployment. That night involved copious amounts of really, really cheap vodka.

Isn't it weird? Why does it feel so terrible? I mean, really, I just gave myself the opportunity to collect $450 a week.

But I feel like shit.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:53:29 GMT -5 underwaterrhymes said:

Job hunting is depressing.

I looked for nine months and applied for over 270 positions and went on over 40 interviews to get the job I have now.

I drank a lot.

OMG.

THE PROCESS IS REALLY JUST STARTING FOR ME.

(wilted) :drink:

[FormerlyRR]

I delayed my unemployment claim too back when I had a company shut down. I was embarrassed, and when I found out that A. I could do it online and never have to see anyone about it, and B. the benefits were pain on an ordinary looking Chase debit card, I got my ass in gear and enjoyed my $300 a week.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

As an adjunct, I don't qualify for unemployment. That is the scum

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:53:34 GMT -5 @randomcdn said:

Apr 18, 2016 14:49:28 GMT -5 miso said:

When did you decide to stop working entirely?

Did you search for awhile first?

I realize I've only really been officially unemployed for two weeks now, but I feel so embarrassed when I have to explain to people why I'm not working.

I feel your pain.

I went with "it was a poor fit, the job wasn't what they represented and I couldn't continue working there"

Which is technically true.

I've actually been exceedingly honest with people, and their reaction has all been shock.

BECAUSE HOW DOES ANYBODY FIRE ME?!

But, even though everyone is on my side, it's still an oddly shame-laden admission.

[miso]

Apr 18, 2016 14:55:36 GMT -5 scottyderp said:

I'm sorry, miso.

I hope that things move in your favor, and soon.

I am currently job-seeking, and I am generally feeling out of sorts, daily. I have failure feelings.

Back to you.

You are wonderful, job or not, and I only "know" you in text form.

Also, I speak like people speak (I would probably go full Madonna in England) and I'm totally "speaking" like you right now, in short sentences.  

It's funny that I'm generally abrupt and staccato online.

But I'm kind of ridiculously effusive in person.

I really have to reign in my excessive gesticulating.