New name, feeling terrible

[mrssandro]

I voted no because the poll is stupid and AW.

I think if MittenState keeps her real name she can come back. Own up to the mistake and stop trying to hide behind a SN that is weird.

[raangoli]

Just...no. Go back and read your own words that Vicmo quoted. And then go read all the other threads and articles that explain why what you're doing is not OK.

[cjeanette]

Sept 2, 2016 9:55:36 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

Sept 2, 2016 9:46:53 GMT -5 noodleskooze said:

Based on precedent, I don't have to be the OP to request thread deletion, right? Get out of here with this mess. No one even wants to see it.

Leave it. People need to see who she really is.

But man am I tempted to lock the poll.  Why are people voting at all.  Stop playing her game.

[Deleted]

The victimhood of the name alone is gross.

[CloudBee]

We've been out of town all week without wifi (in a residential home!) and spotty cell reception. I didn't know to open the original post until someone told me on FB to check it out.

This post crosses the line of constructive learning and dialogue. It's not up to anyone else. If you want to stay, buck up and keep your original SN. Be honest. Live through the backlash and realize it. Soak in what you've learned and start to live it. That's the only way you can grow. Wallowing and changing your SN only holds you back and further victimizes the WOC on this board by minimizing the issue.

[longtimenopost]

Listen, I fucked up in that thread too, big time. But you are making it worse. It is not on these women to forgive or forget, or give me a hug and tell me it's all going to be okay. Would I like it? Yes. Do I expect or deserve it? HELL NO. All I can do is apologize sincerely, be better, and show that I bring more to this community than my white fragility. You're doing none of the above.

[rootbeerfloat]

This name choice is inappropriate.

[countthestars]

Dude.wtf. No.

[kdubs923]

I voted No before I read the thread.

Now my vote is Fuck No.

[emoflamingo]

[callalily]

Are you for real? Kamehameha? Seriously?

Evaluate yourself. Fucking evaluate yourself.

[aspentosh]

Really really really think about this- if someone came waltzing in here trying to make light of how you felt after being wronged, wouldn't you want to cuss them out and throw shit? I don't think you'd feel all warm and fuzzy towards them and using "nice words" and being patient.

Now multiply that times a million because the shit POC have had to deal with is that much worse than what you're dealing with here.

You showed your ass and are embarrassed. You did the wrong doing and are wanting forgiveness instead of showing that you're sorry.

Come the fuck on.

[dancingirl21]

Ugh, just no. Go away with all this.

[mrssandro]

Wish there was a way to see who the 40 people are that voted yes.

30% of the group is a damn shame

[rex]

are you kidding me with this shit? no you do not get another chance, and no you don't get to act like the victim and make this about you. unreal.

[mrssandro]

Sept 2, 2016 16:12:28 GMT -5 mrssandro said:

Wish there was a way to see who the 40 people are that voted yes.

30% of the group is a damn shame

and lol that two people removed their vote. Making it 38 people.

[TamiTaylor]

OP, can't even come back and make changes in this thread.

[TamiTaylor]

Also, MittenState, fuck you for deleting all your posts. Like we're going to forget.

[residentdj]

I voted no. I haven't been a member for very long but it seems that OP has a long history of these kinds of remarks, so at this point it's bye Felicia time.

[emoflamingo]

Sept 2, 2016 16:29:54 GMT -5 residentdj said:

I voted no. I haven't been a member for very long but it seems that OP has a long history of these kinds of remarks, so at this point it's bye Felicia time.

I'm new to hanging on this board, but not new (in general). It's not that she has a long history of the remarks. It's the making the comment, doubling down, making some dramatic exit, coming back and playing the victim that is the problem. In this case, it's like 4 wrongs don't make a right.

[docholly]

Go and don't let the metaphorical door hit you in the ass... Or better yet, do.

[darnkatz]

I'm not voting because this is fucking stupid. Get the fuck out of here.

[chedifuen]

Not welcome after that temper tantrum and double not welcome after this gross poll and name change.

[noodleskooze]

Ironic.

[cjeanette]

Sept 2, 2016 18:20:43 GMT -5 @callmefia said:

I didn't vote originally because this post is fucking asinine.
However I want to see the percentage of non-assholes on this board rise above those who think this person deserves a yes.

What? I don't think this post is helpful.

[Susie]

Sept 2, 2016 19:05:03 GMT -5 @callmefia said:

Sept 2, 2016 19:00:14 GMT -5 cjeanette said:

What? I don't think this post is helpful.

People on other threads are saying 30% of our members are saying this person should be allowed back. I'm saying that if I don't vote no, I'm almost complicit. I don't want to think that 30% of our board is full of people who think wise owl should be here.

Originally I just wasn't going to vote because I think wise owls post was awful.


I'm trying to be supportive but apparently I'm sucking at verbalizing it.

None of us want to think that 30% of MMMers think wiseowl should be welcomed back.  But telling ourselves "no, we're being trolled by other boards!"  "no, it's just an ugly-high % because a large portion of the regs declined to vote on principle!" is a view that is so pollyanna as to be willfully obtuse.  It is a failure to own that maybe, whether we want to admit it or not, we are part of a community where 30% of of people cannot even identify their white privilege in order to check it.  

[shelbyann]

Has anyone admitted to voting yes?

[Susie]

Sept 2, 2016 19:36:24 GMT -5 shelbyann said:

Has anyone admitted to voting yes?

Nope.

[moopoint17]

I saw this post earlier back when it was on page 1 and totally thought it was MUD, because really ... who's that dense? Then I exited without bothering to vote.

To say that the OP lacks self-awareness is an understatement.

[yellowbrkrd]

I'm late to this and am on Tapatalk so I couldn't see, but a fucking POLL? Ridiculous.