Randoms- week of Sept 12

[kicks]

My black card was taken away once again this weekend....

My boyfriend is out of town working but coming back today for 2 days. And of course he has to cook for me So he was talking about making chicken soup from a rotisserie chicken he roasted a few days ago.

We're on FaceTime...
Him: I'm going to make the chicken soup
Me: with a milk shake on the side! (And I start dancing in the camera)
Him: (with a confused look) what the hell are you talking about?!
Me: you know, that song....chicken soup with a milk shake on the side (continuing to dance)
Him: OMG, you mean chicken noodle soup with a soda on the side?! You are crazy...a milk shake? Those are your people (he's British), you should know that.
Me: oops (followed by laughter)

Hangs head in shame.

[brandnewday]

kicks - Milkshake brings all the boys... Better luck next time love.   

I need to figure out what to wear for our family photos this year. Just H and me in the shoot, but I kind of want it to be edgier. Not so traditional. Any thoughts?

[dreamcrisp1]

I love watching my sisters highlight wedding video. I'm such a weirdo but man it's good. That's why I'm hiring the same guy.

I am struggling today. Sooo tired. I even got a coffee today. Well half of one.

[raangoli]

dreamcrisp1 , is this videographer the same one that was a PITA to get in touch with? I hope not!

My random is that my anxiety is at an all time high - BB is getting over a cough/cold and is on abx and a nebulizer. Her cough is now gone, but she sometimes has a higher respiration rate and still ever the slightest wheeze, but not all the time. I wake up often to just go check to make sure she is breathing. I cried dropping her off at daycare and I will walk over there later to check on her. I feel like a fool crying. I am a grown woman with a baby, crying in front of other grown women. I need to find a new therapist. 

Sorry for that, I had to get that out of my system. 

[dreamcrisp1]

raangoli, he was but he was busy and it's wedding season. He's soooo soooo good and he's giving me an amazing deal. Package would be $3164 and I'm getting for $2400. If you saw this highlight, you'd know why. I should PM it haha.

[dreamcrisp1]

Also! raangoli I don't have kids but I think that's normal especially with what you went through with her being so early. So many hugs.

[borinquen57]

I'm headed out to my 2nd bariatric pre-op class in a bit! It seems like I have a class and/or appointment scheduled every two weeks until November which is making the time fly by. I'm taking the bus and train in so I hope I can make a dent in my book (The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks). They're due back at the library on the 21st, so I need to finish that one and The Girl With All The Gifts before the 21st. I really like TILOHL but I'm dragging on reading it for some reason.


ETA: I'm so sorry raangoli!  It's really tough sometimes and it's really ok to cry and let it out.  

[raangoli]

Thanks @natariru and dreamcrisp1 . I know it's normal to cry, but I grew up in a household where crying was seen as a weakness and it's ingrained me to suck it up. That was hard bc I am essentially a cry baby lol.

Also, @natariru I am so used to eating lukewarm or cold food now, it feels weird to eat things hot. And I eat at record speeds. It's a wonder I don't choke LOL Enjoy starfishing the bed

[sfy]

Sept 12, 2016 9:36:58 GMT -5 raangoli said:

dreamcrisp1 , is this videographer the same one that was a PITA to get in touch with? I hope not!

My random is that my anxiety is at an all time high - BB is getting over a cough/cold and is on abx and a nebulizer. Her cough is now gone, but she sometimes has a higher respiration rate and still ever the slightest wheeze, but not all the time. I wake up often to just go check to make sure she is breathing. I cried dropping her off at daycare and I will walk over there later to check on her. I feel like a fool crying. I am a grown woman with a baby, crying in front of other grown women. I need to find a new therapist. 

Sorry for that, I had to get that out of my system. 

It's okay!  You're a first time mom.  Plus, our amazing little BB hasn't had the easiest ride--it's natural to be upset and to cry, let it out.  I'm glad her cough is gone.   *hugs*
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[pandora89]

dreamcrisp1 - I want to see this video!

My aunt (my dad's brother's wife) was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks. Apparently, it was much more aggressive than they thought and has spread. She is doing chemo and they will find out next week if the first round did anything. My dad wasn't in speaking terms with this brother (money issues, dad lent this brother a large sum of money, brother coasted, never paid him back) and hasn't spoken to this brother in years except to tell him I was getting married but he finally spoke to him last night. This uncle also has 1 daughter who I have kept in touch with because I cant be bothered with family politics and I am just heart broken for her. They don't think she's going to make it very long and so cousin and her BF decided to get married and are doing so ASAP. Weddings are a huge deal and I guess they want mom to be there for her only child's wedding.

Man, cancer sucks.

[dreamcrisp1]

pandora89, I am so sorry. Cancer really sucks. I am so sad for your cousin. I hope she's able to watch her daughter get married. I really do.

Also, I'll text you the link!

[borinquen57]

@natariru, everyone I know who's read it loves it, so I'm excited to get started. Enjoy your hot meals this week!

[raangoli]

Thanks borinquen57 ! I hope your class goes well. I really enjoyed TILOHL, but I work in a tangential field, so that may have played a part.

pandora89 , I am so sorry to hear about your aunt. I hope that the first round of therapy helps even the slightest bit.

dreamcrisp1 - that's very MM of you and a great deal! I'm glad he finally got back to you. Seems like you've gotten a lot planned and booked already, go you!

Thanks sfy!  (heart)

[dreamcrisp1]

borinquen57, is that book a good plane read (girl with the gifts one)? I'm gonna download it to my iPad.

[dreamcrisp1]

raangoli, most things are done. I have 5 close friends getting married next year so I presume I'll be busy from March with other wedding stuff and parties that go along with it.

Oh! I'm technically going to be an aunt in March. My future sister in law is pregnant.

[sfy]

pandora89, I'm sorry. I hope the chemo has already started to help. I have a coworker in the same boat and she's only had two treatments so far, but her tumor is nearly gone. Fingers crossed for your aunt.

[skwcm80]

Hugs to everyone who needs them.

[bimbi284]

H and I went to a big art fair thing yesterday and saw the dude that plays Steven on Stranger Things. It was one of those moments where I recognized him, and almost went to say hi because I thought he was like maybe an old student or part of the org I'm in, and then stopped because I realized it was actually a famous person and I would look insane.

At this art fair, I spotted some beautiful photos clearly taken in Puerto Rico, so I stopped and chatted a bit with the photographer. He told me a little about his work, and I bought a photograph.

[thejackpot]

Hugs to those in need of good energy. Cancer sucks!
@tooshort time sure flies with the kiddos. You are handling it like a pro!

[itsme]

Hugs all around.

kicks that was funny.  Wrong milkshake song. 

[orangeblossom]

Hugs to all who need them.

[raangoli]

Sept 13, 2016 1:49:09 GMT -5 @246baje said:

Sept 12, 2016 9:53:05 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Thanks @natariru and dreamcrisp1 . I know it's normal to cry, but I grew up in a household where crying was seen as a weakness and it's ingrained me to suck it up. That was hard bc I am essentially a cry baby lol.

Also, @natariru I am so used to eating lukewarm or cold food now, it feels weird to eat things hot. And I eat at record speeds. It's a wonder I don't choke LOL Enjoy starfishing the bed

Awww hugs. Those daycare ladies have seen it all. One lady hugged me on the first day with DS and let me cry.

It's so hard when they're so little and sick and BB has had her challenges. You're doing so well.

I was also raised not to cry and so I try to be patient with DS who is as sensitive as I used to be but stubborn to boot. All that to say I know how you feel and the struggle to say "crying is good and normal".

Thank you for helping me feel normal. One of the ladies did hug me yesterday and they both told me stories about their own hardships with becoming mothers. They are truly wonderful caregivers and never have an issue with me walking over to visit.

I guess I just had to let it out and it just happened to be there. Here's hoping today is a better day

[DesertMoon]

(((((Hugs)))))

My sister is in town, she and her (first) BF broke up and she's devestated. She's 21 and kind of behind in the dating game so she's being really depressed and moping around in a robe.

I've been on a serious hunt for throw pillows for theh couch and I'm not getting lucky. off to bed bath and beyond today...and no lol I don't have a coupon:(

[DesertMoon]

Sept 12, 2016 9:53:05 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Thanks @natariru and dreamcrisp1 . I know it's normal to cry, but I grew up in a household where crying was seen as a weakness and it's ingrained me to suck it up. That was hard bc I am essentially a cry baby lol.

Also, @natariru I am so used to eating lukewarm or cold food now, it feels weird to eat things hot. And I eat at record speeds. It's a wonder I don't choke LOL Enjoy starfishing the bed

Nothing makes a person stronger than feeling emotions, weak is taking the easy way and feeling nothing. especially when your child is having a hard time totally understandable. Love to you and baby

[DesertMoon]

Sept 12, 2016 9:58:36 GMT -5 pandora89 said:

dreamcrisp1 - I want to see this video!

My aunt (my dad's brother's wife) was diagnosed with cancer a few weeks. Apparently, it was much more aggressive than they thought and has spread. She is doing chemo and they will find out next week if the first round did anything. My dad wasn't in speaking terms with this brother (money issues, dad lent this brother a large sum of money, brother coasted, never paid him back) and hasn't spoken to this brother in years except to tell him I was getting married but he finally spoke to him last night. This uncle also has 1 daughter who I have kept in touch with because I cant be bothered with family politics and I am just heart broken for her. They don't think she's going to make it very long and so cousin and her BF decided to get married and are doing so ASAP. Weddings are a huge deal and I guess they want mom to be there for her only child's wedding.

Man, cancer sucks.

I'm so sorry. Love to yall

[dr.girlfriend]

Sept 12, 2016 9:36:58 GMT -5 raangoli said:

dreamcrisp1 , is this videographer the same one that was a PITA to get in touch with? I hope not!

My random is that my anxiety is at an all time high - BB is getting over a cough/cold and is on abx and a nebulizer. Her cough is now gone, but she sometimes has a higher respiration rate and still ever the slightest wheeze, but not all the time. I wake up often to just go check to make sure she is breathing. I cried dropping her off at daycare and I will walk over there later to check on her. I feel like a fool crying. I am a grown woman with a baby, crying in front of other grown women. I need to find a new therapist. 

Sorry for that, I had to get that out of my system. 

Hugs...that's totally understandable.  Respiratory illnesses are so scary when they're little...DS had a really bad cold, bordering on pneumonia, when he was one year old and I'm still not fully over it, lol. He hated the nebulizer mask, though -- we had to put the "Single Ladies" video on so he'd stay transfixed watching it while he got the treatment.

[dr.girlfriend]

DS had a playdate last weekend and two of the boys went upstairs to his room and broke all the glass animals he got for his birthday last year (they were toppers on his cake, and really cool -- spiders and scorpions and stuff).  They were up on a high cabinet so they deliberately got them down and were careless with them.  I know they knew what they did, too, because at one point they were like "Lock the door!" and I was half-listening in and just told them to keep the door open.  I thought they just wanted to throw things at each other like they did earlier in the playdate which I also had to put the lid on.

And then they just snuck off, leaving all the broken pieces on the ground, for us to find after they left.  I was really uncertain what to do, but I ended up emailing both of their moms to let them know and to suggest that they apologize to DS.  Luckily the moms were very cool about it.  I feel especially bad because one of the boys' fathers died very suddenly in his sleep back in May, so I kind of want to cut him and his mom all the slack, but I also want the kids to stay friends and DS was really upset about it, and I didn't think it was right to tell one mom and not the other.

As another aside, I am SO DAMN INSISTENT with my son that as soon as someone says "No" or "Stop" he stops what he's doing RIGHT THAT DAMN SECOND.  It makes me crazy when I see other kids not following that.  I had to tell the one kid at least five times during the playdate, "If someone says they want you to stop doing something, YOU NEED TO STOP IT.  That's a rule of this house."  I can imagine it's much harder to enforce a rule like that with siblings, but especially with tickling and wrestling and stuff like that, that whole "No doesn't count if they seem to be enjoying it" thing makes me crazy.

[raangoli]

DesertMoon thank you! And I hope your sister is ok. I was late to the dating game too and my first break up sucked but then in met MH

[raangoli]

Sept 13, 2016 9:03:55 GMT -5 dr.girlfriend said:

Sept 12, 2016 9:36:58 GMT -5 raangoli said:

dreamcrisp1 , is this videographer the same one that was a PITA to get in touch with? I hope not!

My random is that my anxiety is at an all time high - BB is getting over a cough/cold and is on abx and a nebulizer. Her cough is now gone, but she sometimes has a higher respiration rate and still ever the slightest wheeze, but not all the time. I wake up often to just go check to make sure she is breathing. I cried dropping her off at daycare and I will walk over there later to check on her. I feel like a fool crying. I am a grown woman with a baby, crying in front of other grown women. I need to find a new therapist. 

Sorry for that, I had to get that out of my system. 

Hugs...that's totally understandable.  Respiratory illnesses are so scary when they're little...DS had a really bad cold, bordering on pneumonia, when he was one year old and I'm still not fully over it, lol. He hated the nebulizer mask, though -- we had to put the "Single Ladies" video on so he'd stay transfixed watching it while he got the treatment.

Lol! We let her watch tv and its mesmerizing to her. The mask is a definite no go. Hopefully she won't need it past today.

[DesertMoon]

Sept 13, 2016 10:13:38 GMT -5 raangoli said:

DesertMoon thank you! And I hope your sister is ok. I was late to the dating game too and my first break up sucked but then in met MH

Thanks! She let go of her V card and is taking it really hard. Arabs think pretty much if you're not a virgin no one will marry you, I'm trying to help her get past those things we've been raised with, but the guilt is so strong.